Persephone1:
Example 1

They can't keep healthy intelligent conversations

MyAmericandream:


You guys always act like you’re perfect, once they bring up any issue about men you all will want tear the thread down.

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

yrhuhfy113:


wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.


I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.

SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.

THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....


Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.

Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.

Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever.

ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.

Goodlady:
To butress the op, Nigerian men lacked empathy. Empathy ll place them in the position of not questioning a lady that they are dating or married about finances, gifts, sex etc.
They don't realise that relationship is responsibility. They ll say what your father can't give you, you dey ask from me.
Why you come toast me (woo)?
As I come gree, am I not entitled to your resources?
They also lacked empathy of hurting their wives or female partners deliberately with cheating. They don't put themselves in women's shoe that how ll I feel if she's the one cheating?
Abeg make I no tok talk in order not to be misquoted. 😂 😂 😂😂😂😂😂💕💕😘😘😘😘😂
The violence is needed for cleansing of the minds of the reprobate dirty boys here that can't feed themselves but talk anyhow here against females.

Magnoliaa:


Welcome back. You can pick up from where you left off.

Use these as a booster.

Farfalla:
This thread is proof that men aren't synonymous with logic.

A majority of you cannot even respond to the points articulated by the OP, or even get curious as to why she raised those points.

All I see are just the usual ad hominem responses from the same people who claim to be logical.

TheFinesseKid:
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Persephone1:
After all said on this thread I have reached the following conclusions:

1) The average Nigerian do not read to comprehend. Two key words a bright mind will note are " May" and "Opinion" . Most of the comments are in response are angry barks rather than sensible rebuttals.

2) The average Nigerian man is insecure. Just an opinion from one out of hundreds of female users gave several out of million male users high blood pressure. A simple criticism had most of men bringing out vapours from from all holes in their bodies.

3) Most Nigerian men if not all are hypocritical and can't take what they dish out to women. I can't count numbers of derogatory words used against Nigerian women on Nl but here they are like bulls on colo fighting unseen spirit because a thread called out their bullshit.

4) Nigerian men are just as emotional as they want you to believe their women are. They call themselves the logical being but lack emotional intelligence to handle criticism. They would rather go tantrum way that counter an opinion "logically"

In all I maintain my stance " I may not marry a Nigerian Man" if you feel entitled in anyway go hang yourself.

Thank you for your time.

Magnoliaa:


Here, right here. 🪣 🪣 🪣

TheFinesseKid:
😂🤣🤣🤣 don't you ever get tired?

Magnoliaa:


🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣

TheFinesseKid:
KK. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Magnoliaa:


🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣

TheFinesseKid:
have you suddenly become mute? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Those buckets are for your tears right? Oh wait.. you need me to bring you a couple more, these are filled to the brim?😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Jeon:


I see your bitterness. Do try and send me an email again .You can't tell if I might accept it this time.

Nonsense. I don't do Johnny Bravo body shape.

Magnoliaa:


You're doing well 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣.

Magnoliaa:


You're doing well 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣.

NNEVERAGAINN:
Gift?

TheFinesseKid:
na my fellow men wey dey make big deal out of nothing I dey blame. As for me, I couldn't give a flying Bleep, Deer

TheFinesseKid:
Seeing you close to bursting into tears is me doing well? I'm gonna take it as a compliment then. 😭😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣

NNEVERAGAINN:
I'm not bitter Jeon, and when did I send you an email🤔??

Persephone1:
You couldn't give a hoot yet you have the most posts on this thread flying here and there like featherless fowl.

Abeg gettaout!

TheFinesseKid:
🤣🤣🤣🤣 cherre. I made my point like you did. Is it your turn to cry now? 🤣

Magnoliaa:


Good job. You're making a very good use of them 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣.

Persephone1:
Get out!

TheFinesseKid:
😂😂😂 now we're definitely in a loop. For the umpteenth time, I'm not crying... Im happy af. How can I be crying when you're making my day?😂😂😂

Jeon:


If you are not bitter you won't come on my mention saying trashs because of my options.

Magnoliaa:


You have an amazing workrate
🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣. Keep going.