Tenrack:
this one just like argument. I pity who dey indulge you

Kelechi009:


Whatever you wrote here & also in your initial post completely ignores the fact that Nigeria is highly traditional and those roles which are defined and expected of us in the 80s and are still expected of us today in 2023. We can all summersault 100 times and It won't change anything for both genders. In Nigeria. Do you what is funny? This same type of analog love is what people in Western countries miss & they always cry about how they miss Lagos men & how Lagos men take care of them the most, I suggest you should invest more time in watching British black women podcasts. Watch programmes that explore more of black women outside Nigeria. Go on Instagram, see what women are saying about Lagos men. You'll be shocked.

Nairaland is a bubble dear, big bubble.

joseph1832:
A round of applause to you for making hasty generations. 👍

Persephone1:
A round of applause to you for modifying the spelling of "generalization"👍

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

jeromestarks:

Yes ooo.
Bitter, lonely women who have missed their chance for a happy married life ahbi?
My dear, you're with Persephone1 and her likes.

Birdbyrde440:


The kind of men you all meet, you lack spiritual understanding, western educated are made compulsory blind spiritually.

You want a selfless man, are you selfless?

You had male friends early on in life, you fornicated excessively and you thought there will be no consequences because Jesus died for you? I don't have any pity for you and your likes...

Any woman that has had more than 3 sexual partners before marriage has a higher likelihood of not last long in marriage. This doesn't apply to men because men where created different.

You need soul searching.

Persephone1:
Thank you Oga Francis.

Sorry about the generalization, can I say 99.9% men?

NNEVERAGAINN:
Jeon you're unmarried, don't call men names. Not every men are like your ex’s. You have so many body count already, yet you still join the feminist gang to call men all sought of names🤦🏼‍♂️...

Persephone1:
Their hypocrisy stinks to high heavens. Same men that said they don't benefit from Marriage or Nigerian women are useless. They can't take half of what they dish out. Now Nigerian woman don help them solve their mystery they are wailing

The few intelligent ones have developed ways to balance their lives and enjoy their partners while the unthinking typical ones are busy crying on Nl.

Dougad:
I came here thinking it would be in a ten reasons list like this nigga tosyne2much used to do.

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

cooooooks:
■ Nigerian men must do better, have higher standards for themselves, regardless of what they have been conditioned to take as normal.

Use this same energy with all posts on NL Mrs. Kobo.

deltateam:
■ You know women even have more advantages in the labour market than men so don't even call it a competition.

Persephone1:
Example 2

They are too lazy to read, once it is not erotica magazine

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

Divoc19:
I can't speak for them, cant be bragging without proves. What I know for sure is, all my exes want me back. But I can't stay in one place for too long. I always leave first before it gets soar so that the good times memoir remains

Persephone1:
Example 1

They can't keep healthy intelligent conversations

Nyascobar1414:
Evening Newspapers and Nigerian men be like oil and water...

Goodlady:
To butress the op, Nigerian men lacked empathy. Empathy ll place them in the position of not questioning a lady that they are dating or married about finances, gifts, sex etc.
They don't realise that relationship is responsibility. They ll say what your father can't give you, you dey ask from me.
Why you come toast me (woo)?
As I come gree, am I not entitled to your resources?
They also lacked empathy of hurting their wives or female partners deliberately with cheating. They don't put themselves in women's shoe that how ll I feel if she's the one cheating?
Abeg make I no tok talk in order not to be misquoted. 😂 😂 😂😂😂😂😂💕💕😘😘😘😘😂
The violence is needed for cleansing of the minds of the reprobate dirty boys here that can't feed themselves but talk anyhow here against females.

Jeon:
😀😀😀

So I am not alone.

peter0071:
Nations and other countries are running for Nigerian men... and you are saying these about the Nigerian men?? anyway, this is your opinion which i will respect....
enjoy your opinion... Cotonou men dey available sha. Make i link you?

Persephone1:


Mexican Men all the way ✈️✈️

Magnoliaa:


Yes. Let those beautiful, delicious tears flow. Let it all out.

TheFinesseKid:
Are you done crying your eyes out? Small girlie 🥴😂

MyAmericandream:


Mexican Men? Make I no talk

Goodlady:
To butress the op, Nigerian men lacked empathy. Empathy ll place them in the position of not questioning a lady that they are dating or married about finances, gifts, sex etc.
They don't realise that relationship is responsibility. They ll say what your father can't give you, you dey ask from me.
Why you come toast me (woo)?
As I come gree, am I not entitled to your resources?
They also lacked empathy of hurting their wives or female partners deliberately with cheating. They don't put themselves in women's shoe that how ll I feel if she's the one cheating?
Abeg make I no tok talk in order not to be misquoted. 😂 😂 😂😂😂😂😂💕💕😘😘😘😘😂
The violence is needed for cleansing of the minds of the reprobate dirty boys here that can't feed themselves but talk anyhow here against females.

MyAmericandream:


Mexican Men? Make I no talk

HellVictorinho6:


Was the topic even necessary