oldienavie:

Thanks for taking time to respond, but sup with the bolded.
I am confused ?
Why would she kill me, we are good friends more like confidant. I don't trust her 100% but I trust her 90%.
Also, by letting her know I haven't forgotten her cheating, am I still going to be knacking her ?
She is an incredibly beautiful lady, its going to be difficult not to sleep with her atleast 2ce but its not impossible.

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

BRATISLAVA:
If you have read any of his previous threads, it is easy to see that the need for constant validation from himself and strangers alike thrums in his blood and pulses in his veins. When you read his previous posts— arrogantly healthily bragging and bloating his value as a man to epic proportions—it is no surprise that he is still making a post on the same topic and cannot seem to see why. Perhaps it is his raison, or perhaps he is truly red pilled and lost to the reality of what he wants or needs.


His approach to relationships is the reason he still claims to be searching. If he were a woman searching at his age, he wouldn't let her live it down. But he's not, so we will let that slip in this episode of his unending hunt-a-wife saga.

Fahvvy:
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@oldienavie you see the emotional blackmail card that @Foodqueen talked about earlier ba @bolded ...

Madam favvy fyi...
The OP didn't make her lose anything, SHE DECIDED TO THROW AWAY WHAT SHE HAD...

And she did that by cheating on the OP whilst they were dating and by cheating with the OP whilst she was in another relationship ...

What y'all ladies don't understand is that sleeping around and/or cheating in the long run will hurt you ...

The guy you cheated on won't want to have anything to do with you and the guy you cheated with, will reconsider his decision to building something long lasting with you (just as it is with the OP) ...

So play all these emotional card BS, it won't change anything!!! ...

And if you're still wondering @italics, then it's either you didn't take time to read and comprehend the write up of the OP or you don't see anything wrong with cheating and sleeping around ...

Either ways, it tells a lot about your kind of person ...

@OP...
I won't suggest you marry her (unless God Himself tells you to)...

Cause if she can cheat on (and with) you in the past, what makes you think she can't do it again now? What's the assurance?

And besides that, are you aware of the baggage(s) that single mothers go around with? Has she dealt with them? Or can you handle them without complaining?

Thus...
If you know you don't intend to marry her, then don't even bother sleeping with her, cause if you do, she will DEFINITELY play the emotional card, just as the fellow I'm quoting is doing right now ...

Go somewhere and find yourself a wife...
But if you intend to marry her (which I don't advice), then go ahead and make things official ...

pocohantas:


There is another one. They are always so high valued that women are somehow not falling at their feet. I am sure he expected babes to break down the walls of his DM at the mention of America. E better to dey Ogbomoso get peace of mind, than migrate to America to marry a narcissist demon.

Toks is way better than him biko. Toks is approachable and has his sweet days.

BRATISLAVA:
He reminds us of Toks the tokunbo (Magno liaa that's the word right?)

oldienavie:

We both know I cannot get married to her, so I do not think I am wasting her time as she is aware we cannot get married.

We both like each other, my concern is how easy it will be for her to move on if I start sleeping with her again and I find someone else.

@the bolded, she cheated on me in the past and she is now a single mother, thats a lot of baggage in my opinion. I think our history is just too messed up to make a good family despite that we love each other.

Seems its best we both start afresh.

Ishilove:

Believe the op at your own peril. I'm sure he is one of these idle boys writing stories upandan to denigrate women for their own entertainment.

ojietu:
Mr Man keep deceiving yourself, this your story will end in tears mark my words. If as a man you can't control your third leg then be ready for anything your eyes would see.
The best you can help yourself with at the moment is to completely disconnect from her. Or you think you can play with fire and not be hurt. Let me tell you that lady is just playing along with you and waiting for you to get back, the way she will mess you up ehn you will regret ever crossing her path, unless you have the intention of marrying her. Whether she cheated on you or not Oga you've messed her up already and she is coming for you.

pocohantas:


Na everyday e dey find wife. Few months back, I am sure he was here to ask us the best possible/safest route to his fiancee’s village.

Abi no be him?

Ishilove:

One minute, he's single and searching, the next he is married, the next he is engaged to a virgin girlfriend in Ondo state, and when we look away and look back, he is back to single and searching.

Nairaland is truly an alternate reality for many where they act out their fantasies

Klass99:


Read the first 2 pages only to laugh and unwind. You will enjoy it.

BRATISLAVA:
If you have read any of his previous threads, it is easy to see that the need for constant validation from himself and strangers alike thrums in his blood and pulses in his veins. When you read his previous posts— arrogantly healthily bragging and bloating his value as a man to epic proportions—it is no surprise that he is still making a post on the same topic and cannot seem to see why. Perhaps it is his raison, or perhaps he is truly red pilled and lost to the reality of what he wants or needs.

The last time we stumbled across his thread, he was closer to 40, living in America and looking for persons to run through and marry on a trip to his village at Christmas. Understandably, he's the Benjamin Button of the decade, now that he's in his early thirties. It was always odd that a man of his then age would be a red piller, but we are readers of his flights of fancy, and not EPL age detectors. Then he was quite confident that ladies would fall at his feet, after all, there must be a truckload of value in a guy who believes so much about himself, especially one who constantly touts being an America resident, right? Right. Self esteem and delusions are a fine line. Some time after that, when asked about his strung up ideals, he alleged he was in a relationship with someone. Of course, if you observe his posts, it's always something like that, yet it really isn't. He was so self-assured when he told us that he was getting what he wanted. Alas, this thread!


His approach to relationships is the reason he still claims to be searching. If he were a woman searching at his age, he wouldn't let her live it down. But he's not, so we will let that slip in this episode of his unending hunt-a-wife saga.

He's not some unlucky in love good guy toxic chronic bachelor. The problem lies with him, but his issue is that he does not wish to change. He wants to continue writing fables while trying to bend the will of others to his games.

He reminds us of Toks the tokunbo (Magnoliaa that's the word right?), another aging male writer of fable and the impossible desire genre. But of course, let him write and delude younger men. That is permitted.

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

123papas:
Eeyah, we fired all the available girls. No wife for you here 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

pocohantas:


There is another one. They are always so high valued that women are somehow not falling at their feet. I am sure he expected babes to break down the walls of his DM at the mention of America. [b] E better to dey Ogbomoso get peace of mind, than migrate to America to marry a narcissist demon.

Toks is way better than him biko. Toks is approachable and has his sweet days.

BRATISLAVA:
If you have read any of his previous threads, it is easy to see that the need for constant validation from himself and strangers alike thrums in his blood and pulses in his veins. When you read his previous posts— arrogantly healthily bragging and bloating his value as a man to epic proportions—it is no surprise that he is still making a post on the same topic and cannot seem to see why. Perhaps it is his raison, or perhaps he is truly red pilled and lost to the reality of what he wants or needs.

The last time we stumbled across his thread, he was closer to 40, living in America and looking for persons to run through and marry on a trip to his village at Christmas. Understandably, he's the Benjamin Button of the decade, now that he's in his early thirties. It was always odd that a man of his then age would be a red piller, but we are readers of his flights of fancy, and not EPL age detectors. Then he was quite confident that ladies would fall at his feet, after all, there must be a truckload of value in a guy who believes so much about himself, especially one who constantly touts being an America resident, right? Right. Self esteem and delusions are a fine line. Some time after that, when asked about his strung up ideals, he alleged he was in a relationship with someone. Of course, if you observe his posts, it's always something like that, yet it really isn't. He was so self-assured when he told us that he was getting what he wanted. Alas, this thread!


His approach to relationships is the reason he still claims to be searching. If he were a woman searching at his age, he wouldn't let her live it down. But he's not, so we will let that slip in this episode of his unending hunt-a-wife saga.

He's not some unlucky in love good guy
toxic chronic bachelor. The problem lies with him, but his issue is that he does not wish to change. He wants to continue writing fables while trying to bend the will of others to his games.

He reminds us of Toks the tokunbo (Magnoliaa that's the word right?), another aging male writer of fable and the impossible desire genre. But of course, let him write and delude younger men. That is permitted.

oldienavie:

Thanks for taking time to respond, but sup with the bolded.
I am confused ?
Why would she kill me, we are good friends more like confidant. I don't trust her 100% but I trust her 90%.
Also, by letting her know I haven't forgotten her cheating, am I still going to be knacking her ?
She is an incredibly beautiful lady, its going to be difficult not to sleep with her atleast 2ce but its not impossible.

LilMissFavvy:
The OP might be a troll, but if he's for real, then he needs psychological evaluation and spiritual help fast. I checked through his threads, baba is not okay,. something isn't right. Which good man would reach 40yrs without finding a wife when he has the resources? A lady in one of the comments said OP was in 3 different relationships, That alone tells the type of man he is. bleeping around, yet thinks God can bring a decent wife to him?

Hopefully he is truly rich, so that he will finally end as a sugar daddy who delivers a girl's family out of poverty, because at last he will end up with a woman who goes for his money, after all, he doesn't value the women who love him genuinely as seen in his threads. The banker woman is not wise, she allows OP play with her life. Female bankers usually have plenty admirers, the day she cuts off from OP, she will find a husband. For now she's not ready.