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Some parts of my family do the courting thing, as in the old age courting thing. I don't like labels or boxes, never have. So when someone says are you dating, i say no. . .we see each other. Just as i call him a man i'm involved with. Used to drive him nuts I don't think i have the patience or maybe disposition for courtship.

lol @ "we see each other"

it's all a matter of choice as i can see

I love that Book!!! "Boys Meets Girl" is a must read 4 christian youths, and yes I concur with d poster I love d concept of courting so I only date with courting in mind and I always say it 4rm day 1.

Most of the so called dating in naija na wetin dem dey call chop chop dating.Hunger wan kill the naija babe na im go make am dey husltle and beg a bobo make im carry her go mister biggs

Jenifa_:

we have lost respect for the traditional way and this is why divorce rates are going UP. courting prepares you for marriage. dating prepares you for break-up

Not true. . . .

When you look at the divorce rate in present day marriages, i don't think it's to be blamed on westernisation (in this case, "dating". Who in the past generation would talk about divorce? They don't because the primitive society then attaches so much punishment to leaving one's husband or wife. It was a "taboo".Then, people marry who their society chooses for them, or they just make proposal or accept proposal just for the sake of procreation, which they most times confuse with marriage.
A mother in those days will tell her son,  " I want to have a grandchild". . . the next day, the son goes seeking for a "child manufacturer".
That is why some marriages of our father's have no passion or emotion. You hardly see them holding hands, exchanging affectionate glances or doing anything romantic. it's just "blank". 

My point here is that, the view of marriage then was twisted. . . and there was hardly any way out of marriage, except if the person (especially the woman) wants to be labelled a "public disgrace" or a "product of a failed marriage"! And most people weren't even bothered to opt out (divorce) and the reason for this was because the marriage was built on tolerance and procreation, not love ( the man can beat the woman up to the point of death but the woman will still stick around, silently wait for her next beating) . . . if you don't marry for love, then what exactly will you be "divorcing" from? They just tolerate the person, have kids and that was all marriage was about in those days.

So for me, whether courtship ooo, or dating, i still think the way "most" people do it in present times is way better. I had rather fall in love with someone, marry the person, and maybe have kids, but when ever the marriage fails (lacks love), i quit. Better to have one day of happiness with someone you love and it ends there, than spend the rest of your life making babies with someone you don't love
Marriage is not a do or die affair!

from dating it could lead to courting, that is when you start hearing He is my Fiance or She is my Fiance. at the end maybe Marriage or that will bethe end of the story if there is any mis-understanding.

I really like the first exchanges, when the guy really wants you and is gentleman

Sure, that is cool. likewise the female

dating is what you do first, "courting" is when the relationship becomes more serious. We explain tons more like this at www.askwomendatingadvice.com

I still prefer the traditional way. I only get into a relationship to see if it can lead to marriage. I don't get the point of casual dating. This is why I prefer older men in their 30's as most likely they would be thinking of settling down rather than younger guys who still want to have their fun. I would hate to see our traditional values die out.