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Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Kelechi009: 6:23pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
I don't think anyone can stop men from cheating in Nigeria, It is a more bigger problem than just cheating. It is basically a supply & demand problem. Nigeria is the only place where young women feel like dating married men is more lucrative & young men are broke have nothing to offer & sincerely they are right about that one because honestly young guys are mostly broke. Young women: Single young guys have nothing to offer, I prefer older men(married), they are more mature. I have a lot of bills to sort and these married men can sort it. Older married men: I have a lot of sexual urge to quench and there are a lot of young women willing to start a dating or relationship on the side. All i need to provide is money & I have plenty of it in abundance. So Demand & Supply OR Supply & Demand. Same thing. Both of the industries need each other. My advice to married women is vet your Fiancee very well, try visiting him many times. Check his phone, his laptop, his email, his Instagram, His sister's house, mother's house. His secretary, His Female church sisters. Report him to his parents, guardian or use police to threaten him. May God deliver us all. 3 Likes |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by RightToReject(m): 6:33pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
You again, this sententious, frustrated, and chauvinistic haggard lady. Anyway, it is only bumpkins that would not be able to see through you and your shenanigans. 3 Likes |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Nobody: 6:39pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Kelechi009: A wise economist once said: Morality is the way we think the world works, Economics defines the way the world really works. People have wants and they are willing to do whatever it takes to satisfy those wants. As for cheating, whatever people do, they should always guard their health, good health can't be bought in the marketplace, it can't be bought in the hospital or pharmacy. I think one of the reasons people keep craving for something, even if they have something similar is due to dissatisfaction and a lack of appreciation for what one has. People should learn to appreciate what they have and should stop trying to run after the next hot thing(shiny object syndrome). Shiny object syndrome (SOS) is a continual state of distraction brought on by an ongoing belief that there is something new worth pursuing. It often comes at the expense of what's already planned or underway. It's rooted in that childhood phenomenon of always wanting a new toy, even if your current toy is just fine. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 6:48pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Exodus15v11: Amen. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 6:50pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
id4sho: I'm telling you!!! People should learn to ask questions before rushing themselves to bed. That's all I'm trying to warn the public about. It is well. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by id4sho(m): 6:53pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
EriMma1: Forget those attacking the message, thy won't read between the lines. They think it's a class quiz that words win 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 7:07pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
id4sho: Im not bothered about them cos it's obvious they are guilty from their argument in defence of the shameful act. Trying to erase it as a probable cause of the woman's predicament. They are highly excused from this post. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by vastolord4(m): 7:13pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
EriMma1: It is you who says so |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 10:02pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
vastolord4: It's not me who says so. It's a known fact. Men cheat like it's nothing and are not ready to throw in the towel going by their arguments anytime this issue is raised. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by anthonyuncle(m): 1:29am On Mar 29, 2023 |
your supposed level of education should eliminate your act of assumption and gender biased judgment. the advice should be that couples should remain faithful to each other. 1 Like |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by sisisioge: 2:02am On Mar 29, 2023 |
OP did not ascertain the actual issue with the colleague but just assumed its Aids. Meanwhile, the likelihood of her issue being aids is very slim as she would have known after her husband's demise and started taking the retroviral drugs to stay healthy. Madam could be afflicted with any other health challenge fa. May God help us all. This is how stigmatization starts at the workplace, please dont assume, if you're so curious simply ask her. She might not mind sharing. It is really well. 5 Likes |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by franchasofficia: 3:53am On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1:Very touching story. But let me tell you something you may not be aware of before now. Science and real life experiences have revealed that men hardly contract HIV through normal sex with a woman. A man can only contract HIV through vaginal sex if the man have wound or sore on his penis, if not, its very difficult for a man to contract HIV from vaginal penetrative sex. Though it happens but very slim and its mostly when the man has other STIs that leads to him having rashes, open wound or boil that then exposes him to HIV infection. Most men that contract HIV contract it through; 1.) Gay practice because they engage in anal sex which easily ruptures their anal walls and when their HIV infected partner ejaculates inside, it is over or during the process their HIV positive partner's penis might get bruised and from there both exchanges fluids and that's it. That's why gays easily contract HIV 2.) Local pedicure and manicure aka Aboki nail cutters. This is a very dangerous practice especially when the Aboki is careless and cutting nails for plenty men at same spot like car wash outlet, football viewing center, drink joint, marketplace, etc. If the Aboki mistakenly injures one of them who happens to be positive and mistakenly injures the next person, then there is disaster 3.) Berber place; many believe this is not possible but its actually very possible if you don't have your own clipper. Guys try have your own clipper, you can save a little to get one to protect yourself, sighs 4.) MouthAction; guys avoid this rubbish at all cost. Don't give any girl head, be it your wife, girlfriend or mistress, avoid giving head at all cost, the demerits far outweigh the merits. MouthAction exposes men to all sorts of infections than any other kind of sex practice. In conclusion, Erimma, even though your message is very important and should be taken serious by all men (married and single), I think women (married and single) should be more careful with sex because women are generally more exposed to HIV and other sexually transmitted infections than men. Women's body is open as in very open. No woman can have sex with a HIV positive man and not get infected, but I have heard several real life stories of men that had sex with HIV positive ladies and still ended up negative, and the reason is because men hardly contract HIV through vaginal penetration sex. If not, many men will be walking corpses because a lot of both married and single guys have unknowingly slept with different HIV positive ladies without knowing and they are still negative simply because it is very difficult and rare for a man to contract HIV through vaginal penetration sex, unless the man have an injury or rash or bruises on his penis or groins. This is why it is advisable for men to avoid having sex whenever they sense rashes, injury, bruises or wound around their genital area because it will expose you to all manner of infections including HIV. So Erimma, its possible the lady secretly infected her husband who didn't know he has been infected and start ARV on time which led to him falling sick earlier before his wife, while his wife that brought the infection was secretly using her ARV that prolonged her own sickness from being visible. Take it from me, its mostly women that infect their husbands or boyfriends who are careless in giving them head, doing oral anyhow, fvcking their so called faithful girlfriends and wives even when they have bruises or injury or rashes around their genital area. As a man, you must take care of your health, if you must dive any woman, avoid unprotected sex, buy quality condom, and avoid sex whenever you have rashes, bruises, injuries, etc around your body, especially your genital area and avoid kissing anyhow too. Don't give any woman head, tell her its a taboo in your culture, men stop giving head even to your wife don't do it. And to the ladies, whether you are married or single, you are at high risk of contracting HIV and other STIs anytime you are having sex, have this at the back of your mind cos your whole body is just open and prone to all manner of infections. Ladies avoid unprotected sex. Insist the man use condom oh and always help him put on the condom and don't accept doggy if he isn't your husband or close boyfriend cos he can pull off the condom in the middle of the sex and you won't know and that will be opari for you As a married lady, avoid cheating at all cost, a cheating woman stands to lose more than she stands to gain. Forget the stupid reasoning that your husband maybe cheating or is cheating, don't cheat because of that, instead if you suspect your husband is cheating, stop all forms of sex with him until thorough medical screening is done to protect yourself. A cheating married woman is a ticking time bomb more than a cheating married man, sorry if I sound misogynist but thats the saddest truth about life. As a man avoid gay practice, it exposes you to HIV infection more than any other thing. Avoid brothel girls. Stop fvcking raw, use condom, I mean quality condom that doesn't tear easily oh, 1500 should be able to get you quality condom in Nigeria, avoid Gold cycle na scam. You can still enjoy sex with condom stop saying you don't enjoy it, it's because you have made up your mind that you won't enjoy sex with condom which is fallacy. Even with your wife, if you guys aren't working to make baby, use condom, it also helps you in proper family planning, withdrawal method doesn't work na scam, stop deceiving yourself. As a man too, if you de cheat, protect your wife by insisting on condoms always until you undergo screening for like 6months or 8months to ensure you are completely free of any infection. Erimma please also make a thread to forewarn married ladies to avoid cheating cos most times na them de infect their husbands cos women contract HIV more easily than men because of the open nature of women's body, peace and well done with your amazing thread 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by 1Sharon(f): 4:37am On Mar 29, 2023 |
You're just making assumptions. Did she tell you how her husband died? And how do you know she has AIDS? It could be another terminal condition like Cancer. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by 1Sharon(f): 4:41am On Mar 29, 2023 |
Nebes: You're lying or she did. If she was taking her medication and became undetectable. She can't have passed on the virus. Even if she wasn't on any retrovirals, it's difficult for a man to get HIV from a woman. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Nebes: 7:21am On Mar 29, 2023 |
1Sharon: Are you saying that all the men that live with HIV got it from their fellow men? The woman in my comment could have transmitted the virus prior to commencing the antiretrovirals. Lastly, are you a doctor? |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Blitzking: 8:11am On Mar 29, 2023 |
To women who tell their men no sex before marriage...especially to a guy who you know doesn't sleep around..the day konji enter am e go go outside lash pusssyyy wey go last for a lifetime in one month and God help you the outside own con sabi give am different styles..u go just become endangered specie 1 Like |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Gloriagee(f): 8:16am On Mar 29, 2023 |
Sounds like cancer.... 1 Like |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by jimmychang: 9:40am On Mar 29, 2023 |
Women as usual.... Always making stupid assumptions Blames men for what happens Wants to be the victims all the time Blame another man for whatever happens to his wife even when he is dead already(the guy go dey cry for grave) Instead of believing most women,just watch how they act. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Fahvvy: 10:21am On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1: And who did the men get it from? ... |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Fahvvy: 10:37am On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1: You're the one who is sounding VERY LAME and making ERRONEOUS ASSUMPTIONS ... First of... What are those "signs and symptoms" you observed that made you conclude that she has AIDS? ... Secondly... Are you aware that an array of signs and symptoms can surface in different illnesses? That is to say different illnesses can have the same "signs and symptoms" and only a medical test can point out for certainty which is which ... Thirdly... How are you certain that her husband ACTUALLY died of AIDS, did you carry out his autopsy yourself or do you have access to his autopsy results or is that what you were told? ... Fourthly... How are you sure that he transmitted the disease to her, abi is that what she told you? ... ONE THING I KNOW FOR CERTAIN IS THAT YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE YO ANSWER ANY OF THE ABOVE QUESTIONS ... And the fact that you can make this kind of erroneous thread is proof of YOUR IGNORANCE ... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 10:57am On Mar 29, 2023 |
Nebes: You don't need to argue such dumb reasoning. Imagine saying it is rare for a man to get HIV from a woman. Can you beat that? Ignore them. 1 Like |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 11:02am On Mar 29, 2023 |
Gloriagee: You think so? I wish you saw this person. I know cancer patients emanciate and it's as a result of the chemotherapy they undergo but even at that, they dont enmanciate so badly to the extent of looking like bones and tendons only. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Nobody: 12:57pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1:U are not making any sense and people are correcting ur stupidity yet ur being adamant. Is promiscuity gender based? Are u even certain of anything u typed in the original post? Why are u foolishly assuming only men cheat and infect their partners with wtv diseases? Drop assumptions and state facts so u don't appear foolishly bias like u have ulterior motives with ur thread 3 Likes |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Bolubaba(m): 2:26pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
There are so many HIV positive individuals out there. Many already on ART while some are still in "denial state" that is the they can't believe they are positive due to the fact that they are not promiscuous. We have toddlers, aged, fat, slim, dark skinned, light skinned, ugly, beautiful, rich, poor, and religious and political leaders which include pastors, imams and traditionalists. The spread of HIV will remain difficult to eradicate because 1- Poverty is the first which is why we have more female positive than male. Most female (not all) find it hard to earn legitimately and so depend on living promiscuous lifestyle to make ends meet. Not judging them anyway. 2- A few positive individuals with the mindset that someone infected them, they too would get others infected. 3- careless mothers who fail to adhere guidelines of means to avoid mother to child transmission. Ending up raising children who are positive. 4- Anal sex especially in homosexual males having unprotected sex 5- stopping ART medications by already confirmed client after feeling they are no longer feel and look sick and the return to the lifestyle that got them exposed initially. 6- promiscuity is the king of all. But can be avoided if we accept our culture isn't seen as barbaric. Which includes sex before marriage( practically difficult in most cases). Polygamy and polyandry. Depending on the one your culture recognize. The moment you understand that we have HIV positive individuals all around us the better. We have HIV positive career officers, food vendors, family members, colleagues,students from kindergarten to tertiary and religious leaders too whom we associate with on a daily basis and we are not positive. So stopping discrimination might help a lot. I've seen things in my line of work. 1 Like |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by 1Sharon(f): 2:46pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Nebes: Why do you think gay men have the disease more?? For a straight man to get HIV, there needs to be so many other factors involved. Its not that simple. No dey talk "could have" be certain of what you're saying. Not a Dr but a student |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Jman06(m): 3:00pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1:How did you come to the conclusion that her husband infected her with the HIV? It could have been the other way round. The husband could have died because he was more prone to opportunistic infections than the wife due to weaker immune system 2 Likes |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 3:48pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Jman06: There some things that require common sense to decipher. Anyways, I just connected the dots judging from how he died first to get to that conclusion.. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 3:55pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Bolubaba: Good points. The problem with most people is that instead of working on themselves and lead a decent life, they'll argue baselessly on how it's not possible to get it through promiscuity or the opposite sex. This they do so they can continue to indulge in the act. They don't like to hear the bitter truth. Anyways, I've made my points clear. It's left for whoever is concerned to take it or ignore as usual. 1 Like |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by olamilekan9(m): 4:04pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
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Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by Jman06(m): 4:04pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1:As far as HIV AIDS is concerned, you can't always tell who infected who based on information about who died first. |
Re: MEN, PLEASE STOP DOING THIS!!!. MY HEART IS BROKEN. SEE WHY by EriMma1: 4:12pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Jman06: A case where they both are not aware of their status, it's the one who infects the other that starts manifesting first and may even die before the partner. Except if they were both infected almost the same time. |
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