I and my wife is as as i married her because I have miss two other before her, but I thank God our son is also as

Nonywendy:

What is wonderful about chemist she is learning? First she is 18yrs and the love he and peace he thinks he is experiencing now might be temporary, secondly why not she gain admission and study pharmacy instead of learning chemist work.

I meant the sailing path please

What will happen if you abort the first and second, and the third is still thesame?

Discountsempai:


If I understand the guy, they would probably do IVF, and the fetus would be tested before implantation. If it is SS, it won't be implanted.

(Of course, there is the issue that IVF does not always work first time out, but that is another story)

..lol....do u realize the fusion of the egg and the sperm has to be placed back into the woman maximum 3 days......u are talking of advance genetic testing ....its fvcking expensive and i doubt its in nigeria...ivf alone is over 2M not to metion the genetic testing of feotus....

The one they do in nigeria is testing a feotus that has significantly developed in the womb and its not advisable poking a growing feotus at that stage

My hand no dey oooo...

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

Forget all rubbish you'll hear here because, 99% will advise you to end the relationship, BUT WE'RE NO LONGER IN STONE AGE. THERE ARE MANY OPTIONS YOU COUPLE CAN EXPLORE IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT.

PRENATAL DIAGNOSIS
IVF
BONE-MARROW TRANSPLANT
LASTLY, ADOPTION.
THIS PRICE COULD RANGE FROM 400K TO 5M.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS, IS YOUR GIRL WORTH THE EFFORT, ENERGY AND SACRIFICE?
DO YOU TRUST HER?
IS SHE LOYAL?
CAN SHE SWEAR THAT SINCE BOTH OF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING, SHE HAS NOT SLEPT WITH ANY OTHER MAN

DMerciful:
1/4=25%, it doesn't mean 1 out of 4 children but a probability of 1 out of 4 possible outcomes. You really need the calibration

Lol......na me make mistake they respond to you

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

Secondly, you said she's 18 and learning "Chemist". Please let her concentrate on her studies for now. If she start University education by 20 (considering WAEC and JAMB) she can graduate by 25 which is still a good age to start life. You can't say what tomorrow holds, being a medicine vendor without quality education is not the best way to face the future.

Just my 1 Cent.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

Kindly end that rship and be on the lookout you will still find good girl who is AA.

Stories like this annoys me to my bone

It is easy for men to damn consequences because they will not be the one to carry the whole burden so I have no words for you, it is your fiancee I have words for,

Does she know what it entails to get pregnant, keep it for 4 to 5 months, before testing to see if it is SS or not? Or you think the test will be done at one month? Does she know what it means to abort a growing child? The pains? How long will she keep doing that before AS or AA clicks? Does she know how it is to keep getting pregnant every year, the stress of her womb, uterus, and "something lining wall" due to constant evacuation?

Both of you are not matured enough to get married, love with your head, let your heart be secondary.

MuslimIgbo:

For all rubbish you'll hear here because, 99% will advise you to end the relationship, BUT WE'RE NO LONGER IN STONE AGE. THERE ARE MANY OPTIONS YOU COUPLE CAN EXPLORE IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT.

PRENATAL DIAGNOSIS
IVF
BONE-MARROW TRANSPLANT
LASTLY, ADOPTION.
THIS PRICE COULD RANGE FROM 400K TO 5M.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS, IS YOUR GIRL WORTH THE EFFORT, ENERGY AND SACRIFICE?
DO YOU TRUST HER?
IS SHE LOYAL?
CAN SHE SWEAR THAT SINCE BOTH OF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING, SHE HAS NOT SLEPT WITH ANY OTHER MAN

exactly. No be anyhow girl them Dey make this effort for. If she’s loyal, I can do this if she’s willing. If na girl wey her head no Dey one place, I can’t make d sacrifice

My brother and his wife are both AS and they got married despite all the advice given to them. Now they both had a beautiful daughter AA and the other one is 6months AS a boy. Is God not wonderful? They are done for now.

OP what works for A may not work for B. I will advice don't do it no matter the love you both share. Let go of her another suitable one will come. If your faith can carry you, good for you.

Vitalist:

This is a foolish comment. Termination of pregnancy for medical reasons is allowed worldwide. Its saves the unborn child from life long health challenges and low quality of life. The mother and father are also saved from the emotional and financial challenges of bringing a child to hospital every other day.
Somebody's daughter will not be doing abortion by her self. It will be done by specialist doctors and it is very safe.

O gbadun rárá..... defining generally what abortion is one thing....Expecting a woman to be going through it until they will get an AA or AS is a different ball game...
Do u know how many abortions she will have to do before they get the genotype they wants

Don't take pride in ignorance, accept correction and move on.

advanceDNA:



Lol......na me make mistake they respond to you

Biglittlelois:
Stories like this annoys me to my bone

It is easy for men to damn consequences because they will not be the one to carry the whole burden so I have no words for you, it is your fiancee I have words for,

Does she know what it entails to get pregnant, keep it for 4 to 5 months, before testing to see if it is SS or not? Or you think the test will be done at one month? Does she know what it means to abort a growing child? The pains? How long will she keep doing that before AS or AA clicks? Does she know how it is to keep getting pregnant every year, the stress of her womb, uterus, and "something lining wall" due to constant evacuation?

Both of you are not matured enough to get married, love with your head, let your heart be secondary.

its 8-10 weeks actually for cvs

This is not a plead, it is a command
[/b]TERMINATE THAT RELATIONSHIP WITH IMMEDIATE EFFECT[b]
If only you have been with a sickle cell patient, you won't dare talk about love in this kind of situation. You both foolishness is about to bring pain, agony and sorrow to an innocent life who will grow up laying causes on you and your so called girlfriend the mother.
Few years back a young boy not up to 22 years old died due to this same sickle cell you think is a child's play, that boy had dreams and aspirations but the foolishness of the father and mother led to his suffering and anguish while alive before he finally gave up the ghost.
My friend put an end to that rubbish you call a relationship and save your future children from life of sorrow and pains.
[/b]YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED[b]

Hello dear, I understand how love can be but I would appreciate you send me an email on zicomacd87@yahoo.com. I am a witness to this process and would want to let you it entails. It can help you make informed decisions. Thanks

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

why not save yourself the stress and end the relationship

You need to put a stop to what you are about to do!!!!

Maybe visiting the pediatric section of a hospital will motivate you to quickly put a stop to it.

I think there are talks about pushing for a bill to prevent such marriages in the future except the couple to be commits to some conditions.

Please don't do it!!!!!!!! Leave God out of this matter and don't stress our health system. It's NOT love especially in this part of the world.

Don't do it. No love is ever worth the pain and suffering of a sickle cell child. How many fetus can you actually test and terminate? Are you willing to keep killing your baby (pregnancy) if they don't test right? If so, how many pregnancies are you willing to terminate for love?

Just don't do it. I dont think God will (or should) ever forgive you for knowingly bringing a sickle cell child into this world

DMerciful:
Don't take pride in ignorance, accept correction and move on.

What exatly did u correct me on??

....u mentioned 1/4 saying u calibrate me without making any point per se... i responded to you explaining the implication of 25% emphasizing the risk whether its 25% for AA amd SS or 50 for AS......yet u said u corrected me....on what did u correct me on exactly??

Lmao.. I hope you know it is all on you?

Because that same lady will blame you for everything..

Zeal0000007:
thanks my dear for your advice

For me don't marry her. Foetus testing will lead to more dangers of abortions or if there was a mistake in the test result where an SS foetus is assigned AS or AA? Later it would be terrible. Look for an AA to marry

Whatever anyone tells you, whatever love you have now, whatever you do, never do what you know would become a nightmare to you if by mistake it happens. Op, marry someone else.

If it is SS you determate? What is determate? Fancy word for abort? Will you and you gf be able to face the psychological effect of ending a life(lives) ? What if happens 2 or 3 or times and it's SS. Why leave everything to chance when you can make the decision now, it is unfortunate but the best thing is to go your seperate ways and next time,knowing your genotype, don't get too deep without getting to know that of the next girl
Life is real and not a fancy.

Zeal0000007:
well spoken but with a good pay one can sustain it. If u target 3 to 4 kids when ever she's pregnant u go for it , I feel I can do it, my woman has brought peace of mind to me ever I met her after terrible 7yrs in my previous toxic relationship, I see my new gal as a God sent exactly what any man could look for in a woman. Though the money is not yet there , I'm in early stage of my career no money yet, but I know it will come. I don't want to loose this gal she's a peace of mind, first time I'm feeling loved in a very long while .

You are the desperate person here in all of this, and not the lady. All because you had a toxic relationship prior to now. How a sane man would be thinking of aborting an unwanted foetus is hard to believe. Every child has a right to life. It seems that you are not a Christian or believe in God. Marriages come with heavy pressures later in life that will push you to do what is unimaginable. It may look good as you are seeking for people's sanction for you to go ahead now, but I bet you, you are going to regret it should you both marry. My little piece.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

With this your God God God, do you really think you can be okay with abortion?

That's nonsense love, so you didn't examine your Genotypes before falling in love



Better don't try the silly things you're planning together thereby suffering an innocent child that would later die.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

Na abortion you dey call technological advancements?

Don't try it abeg. This love you're feeling, you can find similar in future that won't put kids through termination or constant hospital visits.

Zeal0000007:
thanks dear for your encouragement, I'm currently chasing my license hoping to get it before the year runs out, as soon as I do that there will be inflow of cash.

She at the other end is a 18yrs gal, but thinks and behave like a 30yrs old woman very mature , humble and homy knowing what to do at all time, u might even doubt her age because of her maturity. she has really been a piece of mind to me, I really suffer in my previous relationship.

Also for career , she has been learning chemist before she had misunderstanding with the woman she was staying with so had to relocate to my area where I met her at the market, so I have made an arrangements with a family friend so she could go over there and continue building herself in chemist , as soon as I'm balanced I intend setting up somewhere for her (chemist), that will be after our marriage.

Hmmmmnn, I said it in earlier response that you are the one who is the desperate person. Imagine she is an 18 year old girl, a teenager who can barely know what life is. I guess you are doing the thinking for her here as you are more advanced in age.

I see that you are taking a very risky approach to your happiness tomorrow. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

why are we human being are like this So one told you that it is 100 % sure Is better you don't do it now or both of you should go your different way now do not do what will b taking your money every time God bless will be on you

God bless will be on you for this good advice to him

Confirm4real:
That's nonsense love, so you didn't examine your Genotypes before falling in love



Better don't try the silly things you're planning together thereby suffering an innocent child that would later die.