deal_ordea:

I have noticed this throughout my entire life, and I have always wondered why, and I believe I have finally come to some answers. What I have always found interesting, and this is true of almost every male friend of mine, and every male family member, but I find it interesting that more times than not, it is usually the female who breaks up with the male, and it is almost ALWAYS the male who goes into a deep sense of depression for months to even years after a break up, while the female usually just goes on her merry way like all is well.

I really think this is because of two reasons. One, a female, no matter how ugly, can usually find a date or a mate in a day if they want to. I mean there is no shortage or males out there trying to get with them. And two!a male, no matter how miserable he is, will have a very hard time ever breaking up with a female. He would rather stay with her and be miserable, or cheat and stay with her, than break up. I really think this has to do with evolution and the fact that the male species of almost every animal has a "herding" instinct. That is to get as many females as possible, to breed with them, and he will often fight to the death to keep her from mating with another male.

I also might add another reason, many females I have talked to about this say it takes A LOT for them to break up with their mate, but once they make that decision to do so, they are very good at sticking to that decision and moving on. It's like they finally hit a point where they have had enough, and no matter what the male does from then on, her decision is final. Males tend to waffle a lot more when it comes to this and be more willing to take her back, again the herding instinct.

M M M:

do people still fall in love or lust ?

pendo89:



I only agree with the last paragraph & because you used the word 'many'. Some women behave like lot's wife.
A lady may take in lots of crap with hopes that things would get better[b] but there's a breaking point in every woman.The point of no return.
you get out lot's style.Never looking back. [/b]

odiaero:

There is no breaking point when it comes to Nigeria women

martyns303:

Its funny each time i see sumtin like this. first it depends on the individuality of the individuals involved and the factors surrounding the breakup. However, generally its more difficult for a guy. when my GF of 3yrs dumped me (without me sexing her, cos she was a virgin at the time) i tot i would go crazy. i was reporting it to every one that knew about us, i wanted to shout it at the top of the world, i even opened a topic here on NL about it. For 2yrs i was trying to get over her, am still not completely over her after 4yrs. Better status means playing big, u use em, u dump em, but if u really Love her and she dumps u, YOU WILL BE SCREWED FOR LIFE. You MAY find some one better, but never like her.

martyns303:

Its funny each time i see sumtin like this. first it depends on the individuality of the individuals involved and the factors surrounding the breakup. However, generally its more difficult for a guy. when my GF of 3yrs dumped me (without me sexing her, cos she was a virgin at the time) i tot i would go crazy. i was reporting it to every one that knew about us, i wanted to shout it at the top of the world, i even opened a topic here on NL about it. For 2yrs i was trying to get over her, am still not completely over her after 4yrs. Better status means playing big, u use em, u dump em, but if u really Love her and she dumps u, YOU WILL BE SCREWED FOR LIFE. You MAY find some one better, but never like her.

Goldieluks:

@OP Says who?

could you believe am still nursing a heartbreak of God knows when? Me think men handle it better.

Swift SMS:

deal_ordea are you sure we handle break-ups better?

Like someone said we are emotional creatures and I don't remember handling any of my break-ups well (especially if s. e. x. was involved) but then I really don't know how my ex's handled things they may have been better off or worse off than I was.

Hell, no one ever wants to admit how they truly feel in the event of a break up. We all try to put on a brave face for family & friends, act like it's not a big deal, we pretend we are okay, we are moving on or we have moved on then try to act all cool, calm and collected when we run into that ex in public meanwhile our hearts are breaking up into a thousand pieces within us.

Can't help but remember those days, well now am all grown and done with pretences in my life If I am sad, happy, angry or hurt etc I let myself go through those emotions without denying them.

pro01:

But as long as you prefer to love a girl deeply rather than face the more meaningful task of making money, you would grieve deeply sooner or later.

Mc Stoic:

Real men prepare 4 the worst 4rm d outset,

deal_ordea:

This is so true^

My girlfriend would immediately have 5 options if we broke up. I would have 0.

A week after the breakup she would have 20 options, I would have maybe 5.

Its constantly an uphill battle to show higher value to women,
You better agree. I have always used this analogy when talking to women. If you are an average to hot girl, you could walk into any a bar and approach 100 men and say "Hi, my name is seun, I want to sleep with you, so lets go". And 97% of the men would say "game on!". If a man did that to a woman at a bar? Unless you were a ten or a well known celebrity, your % MAY BE 1-2% or so, and maybe 10-15% for the celebrity. It really is night and day comparing the males and females.