Dear Romancelanders,
Please advice this young lady below...

"I lost my husband last year, finally found a man to marry but wants my children to bare his name instead of my late husband

Am so happy, at last i finally found someone who accepts I and my children, he is richer and provides I and my kids every need and also shows me so much love even more than my late husband did, the truth is, I feel more comfortable with this man. He even open up a supermarket for me..

He asked to marry me in which I have accepted, the problem now is, am disturbed on the fact that he has asked to marry me on the condition that we remove my late husband's name from my children's names and replace it with his own name..

I have tried talking to him to wait so that, I consult my people first because my late husband had fully paid my dowry. But, he insist we shouldn't inform them and that he has people in the government who can quickly switch the names without any delays or complications. Actually, I don't know what else to do because am afraid to loose him. I'm a 33year-old woman with 3kids. Age 4 a girl and 2year-old twin boys. I fear i might not find another man to marry me. I'm still a young woman whom also deserves a sweet love life. I also see that, changing the names is of no big deal since we are getting married to make one big family.

Pls kindly advice me on this.
She wrote..
From ChiChi's Blo....

If she is not OK with it, which I know even if she is, the late husband do have relatives who won't agree with such... let her move if the man won't accept otherwise. The good thing is that it is coming early enough.

Not even up to a year she lost her husband, she has already jumped to the next prick, already saying how sweet and richer the other man is.. Hmmmmmmm!!!!

Enticed by supermarket, cash and big prick, this woman will sell her kids true identity on the alter of money.

The question is, if you have a late brother whose wife's is in the same condition, will you allow your sister inlaw to allow your late brothers children to stop bearing his name?



*****************************************


You lost your husband last year and you have found another lover this year.
Hmmmmm!
Your 'new' lover is insisting on taking over your late husband's kids?
Are you sure that man died a natural death? Fear WOMAN.

There's a hidden story behind this

Name change request by the new man could his condition for taking care of the kids.

However, she can negotiate adding the new man’s name to the children’s name as an addendum.

Eg Femi Fani Kayode-Johnson or Peter Obi-Adichie

That's asking for too much

She wants to sell her children for marriage


After they will say " marriage na scam

I need a DNA apparatus!!!! I wan run test on those kids first!!! Maybe nor be d deadman get those kids sef.


I suspect those kids belong to the new Loverman.......Someone pass me the DNA kit na!!!!

Cos inside this life, carzy things are really happening.

gasparpisciotta:
Name change request by the new man could his condition for taking care of the kids.

However, she can negotiate adding the new man’s name to the children’s name as an addendum.

Eg Femi Fani Kayode-Johnson or Peter Obi-Adichie

@the bolded,
Still doesn't make sense.....

What I don't understand is, why would a man marry a 9ja girl of this days considering who they are and what they are, not to talk of an over used one(3children).

Madam, leave that man alone and face your front before you destroy his life.

The kids can use both their biological and stepfather's surnames.

For example, Kelly-Smith.

Samantha124:
The kids can use both their biological and stepfather's surnames.

For example, Kelly-Smith.

Is that how they do in South Africa?

May her destiny be as blurry as that picture.

something fishy in this story....whats the rush?

This is not about SA, I'm only trying to advise the op.

IrawoKross:
Is that how they do in South Africa?

😳

don't...

Samantha124:
This is not about SA, I'm only trying to advise the op.

Not a good advice.
Would you as a child accept that?

What's wrong with it?

IrawoKross:
Not a good advice.
Would you as a child accept that?

If you know how quickly the living forget the dead you
Will stop living to pleased people. So this woman wants to marry just one year after her husband death?


Anyways to the topic, he has no right to want your children to carry his surname, it’s the audacity for me. That’s another man kids they are not his. He must think you are desperate since you could not even grieve your husband properly and now you are jumping into another relationship smh.

he has right over the woman if she agrees to marry him not the children.

Samantha124:
What's wrong with it?

She has no right to change or mix her kids surname with another.
That's gross wickedness

Is there a section within the Nigerian constitution that states that it's gross wickedness?

IrawoKross:
She has no right to change or mix her kids surname with another.
That's gross wickedness

Samantha124:
Is there a section within the Nigerian constitution that states that it's gross wickedness?

Wena, Are we talking constitution here?

Rokiat:
If you know how quickly the living forget the dead you
Will stop living to pleased people. So this woman wants to marry just one year after her husband death?


Anyways to the topic, he has no right to want your children to carry his surname, it’s the audacity for me. That’s another man kids they are not his. He must think you are desperate since you could not even grieve your husband properly and now you are jumping into another relationship smh.

he has right over the woman if she agrees to marry him not the children.

If he is officially adopting the kids then the issue is settled. Why would he raise kids that will bear another man's name? The man is correct here.
If she is not comfortable,she can shift. Another woman would jump on the chance. This life is short

Hope say tomorrow the man won't say "take the kids to their father, I can't train my kids and train someone else's kids"

But under a year prick don sure, nawa

So you couldn't even mourn you late husband in one full year you don sharperly get another man, continue

You are a shameful woman and an harlot who marries because of money, you are even insensitive for comparing your new man with your late husband, that is lack of respect, the demise of your husband is not even to a year and you are already fuckiing and sucking another dick, how long did you mourn him? If we investigate you might even have an hand in the death of your late husband. You can remarry but you can't change the name of your kid to another man.

I can bet my two balls this woman is an igbo woman. Igbo women and money are 5 and 6

Odiriance4all:
I can bet my two balls this woman is an igbo woman. Igbo women and money are 5 and 6

Don't let tribalism damage your brain cells. Please.