Loyalty is very possible if your marriage is built on the word of God..
Remember, don't be unequally yoked.

Is love an Illusion?

Kobojunkie:
God no send anyone loyalty in marriage. Let's leave His mention out of these discussions abeg!

GOD controls everything even how people treat you or feel about you. when a mans ways are pleasing to the LORD his enemies are at peace with him

Curiouscity:
Please, I need everyone in the family section to give their view on this. There seems to be a trend in modern day marriages, where everything is about "what makes me happy ". I have a few questions
1. What is loyalty in a committed relationship like marriage?
2. Is loyalty expected in modern day marriage?
3. Can there be love without loyalty?

There is a couple going through a rough patch in their marriage. The major issue is that one of them regards outsiders' opinion more the partner's. They can discuss and sometimes agree to do something a certain way, but one person will do it the opposite way. When investigated, it will be discovered that the brothers/parent of the defaulting partner countered the couple's decisions. Yet the other partner wasn't informed.

More explicitly, the guy may tell his wife, let's do so and so. The wife will oppose it. But if another person, sometimes the husband's friend, make same suggestion, the wife will jump on that same idea, and pester the guy to do it. The couple can have a discussion that is supposed to be private, sometimes just mere couples gossip, but one way or the other, that discussion will get to the wife's family. Yet the wife keep "singing" how she loves her husband.

The examples above can be reverse, where the guy is the disloyal spouse.

4. How do you handle disloyalty between couples?

The wife is a girl not yet a woman, age notwithstanding. She will grow up with some bitter lessons.

sukkot:
GOD controls everything even how people treat you or feel about you. when a mans ways are pleasing to the LORD his enemies are at peace with him

How many people you know are holy and righteous then?

Again, leave God and His mention out of these things.

Kobojunkie:
How many people you know are holy and righteous then?

Again, leave God and His mention out of these things.

they are out there

When it comes to the issue of Loyalty, women should not make their life hard. The bible should be our standard and those who follow it has everlasting peace. A woman strength is to be in God's place where God place you. That place is a very beautiful place.

The secret of a woman happiness in any marriage is obedience. Obedience and respect to her husband. A wise woman will always be a positive influence to her husband. If you listen to your husband and please him, you will be happy in your marriage.

Let me tell you one secret about men. A man loves the one he serves which is God, the one who serve him which is his wife and fight the one at the same level with him which is a rebellious wife. Happiness in your home is the easiest thing in the world. Listen to your husband and do what please him.

Every woman should do proper diligence before picking a husband. She should ask herself " Can I live under this man authority".

Curiouscity:
Please, I need everyone in the family section to give their view on this. There seems to be a trend in modern day marriages, where everything is about "what makes me happy ". I have a few questions
1. What is loyalty in a committed relationship like marriage?
2. Is loyalty expected in modern day marriage?
3. Can there be love without loyalty?

There is a couple going through a rough patch in their marriage. The major issue is that one of them regards outsiders' opinion more the partner's. They can discuss and sometimes agree to do something a certain way, but one person will do it the opposite way. When investigated, it will be discovered that the brothers/parent of the defaulting partner countered the couple's decisions. Yet the other partner wasn't informed.

More explicitly, the guy may tell his wife, let's do so and so. The wife will oppose it. But if another person, sometimes the husband's friend, make same suggestion, the wife will jump on that same idea, and pester the guy to do it. The couple can have a discussion that is supposed to be private, sometimes just mere couples gossip, but one way or the other, that discussion will get to the wife's family. Yet the wife keep "singing" how she loves her husband.

The examples above can be reverse, where the guy is the disloyal spouse.

4. How do you handle disloyalty between couples?

Abeg, is marriage all about happiness or sacrifice? Because me I am not understanding what is going on in our society again.

Married men and women should be answer this my question.

sukkot:
they are out there

Well, unless you are discussing with that particular breed, leave God and His mention out of this.

Curiouscity:
Please, I need everyone in the family section to give their view on this. There seems to be a trend in modern day marriages, where everything is about "what makes me happy ". I have a few questions
1. What is loyalty in a committed relationship like marriage?
2. Is loyalty expected in modern day marriage?
3. Can there be love without loyalty?

There is a couple going through a rough patch in their marriage. The major issue is that one of them regards outsiders' opinion more the partner's. They can discuss and sometimes agree to do something a certain way, but one person will do it the opposite way. When investigated, it will be discovered that the brothers/parent of the defaulting partner countered the couple's decisions. Yet the other partner wasn't informed.

More explicitly, the guy may tell his wife, let's do so and so. The wife will oppose it. But if another person, sometimes the husband's friend, make same suggestion, the wife will jump on that same idea, and pester the guy to do it. The couple can have a discussion that is supposed to be private, sometimes just mere couples gossip, but one way or the other, that discussion will get to the wife's family. Yet the wife keep "singing" how she loves her husband.

The examples above can be reverse, where the guy is the disloyal spouse.

4. How do you handle disloyalty between couples?

Those are the challenges men are facing in marriage.

A woman loyalty depends on what she gains from you, Which is all fine and well. The problem is, when a bigger offer presents itself.
She will be off like Mary Poppins. Gone with the wind.

OluwaEbuka1:
■ Abeg, is marriage all about happiness or sacrifice? Because me I am not understanding what is going on in our society again.

Married men and women should be answer this my question.

1. Why should marriage be about sacrifice abeg ?

Kobojunkie:
Well, unless you are discussing with that particular breed, leave God and His mention out of this.

the point here is that if God is standing with you, you will command respect from people as well as your spouse. It's facts. It's the God in you they are respecting

sukkot:
the point here is that if God is standing with you, you will command respect from people as well as your spouse. It's facts. It's the God in you they are respecting

Abeg stop propagating this nonsense

Kobojunkie:
Abeg stop propagating this nonsense

wisdom is nonsense to the unenlightened

sukkot:
wisdom is nonsense to the unenlightened

And far from you, apparently!

Curiouscity:
Please, I need everyone in the family section to give their view on this. There seems to be a trend in modern day marriages, where everything is about "what makes me happy ". I have a few questions
1. What is loyalty in a committed relationship like marriage?
2. Is loyalty expected in modern day marriage?
3. Can there be love without loyalty?

There is a couple going through a rough patch in their marriage. The major issue is that one of them regards outsiders' opinion more the partner's. They can discuss and sometimes agree to do something a certain way, but one person will do it the opposite way. When investigated, it will be discovered that the brothers/parent of the defaulting partner countered the couple's decisions. Yet the other partner wasn't informed.

More explicitly, the guy may tell his wife, let's do so and so. The wife will oppose it. But if another person, sometimes the husband's friend, make same suggestion, the wife will jump on that same idea, and pester the guy to do it. The couple can have a discussion that is supposed to be private, sometimes just mere couples gossip, but one way or the other, that discussion will get to the wife's family. Yet the wife keep "singing" how she loves her husband.

The examples above can be reverse, where the guy is the disloyal spouse.

4. How do you handle disloyalty between couples?

point your guy to the Redpill thread so he will learn a thing or two . Secondly any woman that resists you whether in words or in actions is not for you And will never be loyal to you, it’s not stubborn head it’s lack of respect

Just get money ur wife must dey loyal 2 u that is just the truth.

Curiouscity:
Please, I need everyone in the family section to give their view on this. There seems to be a trend in modern day marriages, where everything is about "what makes me happy ". I have a few questions
1. What is loyalty in a committed relationship like marriage?
2. Is loyalty expected in modern day marriage?
3. Can there be love without loyalty?

There is a couple going through a rough patch in their marriage. The major issue is that one of them regards outsiders' opinion more the partner's. They can discuss and sometimes agree to do something a certain way, but one person will do it the opposite way. When investigated, it will be discovered that the brothers/parent of the defaulting partner countered the couple's decisions. Yet the other partner wasn't informed.

More explicitly, the guy may tell his wife, let's do so and so. The wife will oppose it. But if another person, sometimes the husband's friend, make same suggestion, the wife will jump on that same idea, and pester the guy to do it. The couple can have a discussion that is supposed to be private, sometimes just mere couples gossip, but one way or the other, that discussion will get to the wife's family. Yet the wife keep "singing" how she loves her husband.

The examples above can be reverse, where the guy is the disloyal spouse.

4. How do you handle disloyalty between couples?

Let me be real and straight. 50% or more of the problems in Marriage is Money. Once money no dey, there will be all sorts of problems in the marriage....disloyalty, disrespectful, infidelity etc.

Maynman:


What if he doesn’t turn out to be another arsehole?
Why you so negative and unhappy everytime?

I am beginning to suspect that moniker is an NPC controlled from far away Jupiter.

You said all. Let me add this, the OP seem to use loyalty in the place of trust. She has trust issues about the husband. She doesn't trust her man's opinion (maybe because he has misdirected at some point) or the husband appear to be a bossy person, so she's resisting, again, a professional marriage counselor is encouraged here. She needs to be properly groomed in what is called information management in the home. It's somehow to easily divulge what the partner seem to consider their gist. @OP I can recommend a professional marriage counselor if you need one.

Kobojunkie:
1. What exactly do you mean by loyalty in marriage? Do you mean the traditional idea of the woman always doing the bidding of the man because he is head of household and believes it always has to be his way? Or do you mean two partners together reaching an agreement as far as that which benefits them both in the relationship and sticking to the terms of the agreement reached in this case?

2. There you have your problem. In the case, that a different approach has been suggested, the couple must then come back to the table again in order to renegotiate and reach a new agreement in that case.

3. The husband and wife aren't operating as an effective team in that case. To bring them both back to the same page may I suggest professional marriage counseling because they obviously don't operate as a team should.

4. A marriage is meant as an agreement between a man and a woman. When they don't both agree, they can't both work effectively for the health of the relationship. Again, I suggest professional marriage counseling.

Kobojunkie:
Abeg stop propagating this nonsense

You are an epitome of sadness.

Lol.
Is there any book that says marriage is about what makes me happy?

Modern marriage is all about money and alleviating ones status, they may get joined in the church but really do they know the God in whose name they are joined.

They read, husband love your wife as Christ loved the church but do they even understand what that means? they also read wives
submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord, and how are they doing?

We just want to be happy and seek selfish love in the marriage, everyone do their own thing as he/she pleases.
Roles of the husbands and wives inside the trashbag and you tell me it will not crash(by this I don't only mean divorce).

What works for A may not necessarily work for B. Marriage counseling works, like you said it's not a silver bullet. We have a few trained marriage counselor in Nigeria that are not religiously biased because I am one. If both partners are open to counselors, it may change their perception and decision to work things out. Sometimes, what is lacking is right information on which they can act right and that sometimes may be provided by a trained, professional counselor.

Curiouscity:


You seem to suggest marriage counseling for almost every marital challenges. These services though good, they don't work as silver bullets. If the partners are not willing to work things out, counseling is useless. In my opinion, a counselor serves as a guide to people willingly seeking solutions. If one person believes nothing is wrong,then there is nothing a counselor can do.
Secondly, how many professionally trained counselors do we have in Nigeria. The few we have are tainted with religious biases.

Chaos Vawulence everywhere. Societal and institutional collapse

Solomath01:
Just get money ur wife must dey loyal 2 u that is just the truth.

What should the wife do to get loyalty from her husband? Or is loyalty from the man automatic or not expected?

Loyalty is a self conscious, self decision and self discipline thing....
It has to do with you.

IyaTola:
To a large extent with women loyalty is made not found.

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Your analysis is superb, I'm impressed.

Kobojunkie:
1. What exactly do you mean by loyalty in marriage? Do you mean the traditional idea of the woman always doing the bidding of the man because he is head of household and believes it always has to be his way? Or do you mean two partners together reaching an agreement as far as that which benefits them both in the relationship and sticking to the terms of the agreement reached in this case?

2. There you have your problem. In the case, that a different approach has been suggested, the couple must then come back to the table again in order to renegotiate and reach a new agreement in that case.

3. The husband and wife aren't operating as an effective team in that case. To bring them both back to the same page may I suggest professional marriage counseling because they obviously don't operate as a team should.

4. A marriage is meant as an agreement between a man and a woman. When they don't both agree, they can't both work effectively for the health of the relationship. Again, I suggest professional marriage counseling.

You see this right here is the reason modern marriage don't work.........

Marriage is supposed to be like a train....

A train has many part working harmoniously to achieve forward movement, but when that train decides to have another engine at the tail of the train......that is.... The last coach, then no movement is achieved. The sole purpose is defeated

Kobojunkie:
1. What exactly do you mean by loyalty in marriage? Do you mean the traditional idea of the woman always doing the bidding of the man because he is head of household and believes it always has to be his way? Or do you mean two partners together reaching an agreement as far as that which benefits them both in the relationship and sticking to the terms of the agreement reached in this case?

2. There you have your problem. In the case, that a different approach has been suggested, the couple must then come back to the table again in order to renegotiate and reach a new agreement in that case.

3. The husband and wife aren't operating as an effective team in that case. To bring them both back to the same page may I suggest professional marriage counseling because they obviously don't operate as a team should.

4. A marriage is meant as an agreement between a man and a woman. When they don't both agree, they can't both work effectively for the health of the relationship. Again, I suggest professional marriage counseling.

I am not sure you were patient enough to read the little piece the OP wrote there because if you did, you wouldn't have asked these questions and making the suggestions.

OP's opinion is clear and straight to the point.