chris51:
Very sad though. Anything to do with dead is a very serious matter. You should have alerted her people or take the trouble to see her.

Phone talk and one and one talk are not the same

Vinnie2000:
OP, how did she die?

She took Sniper or what? 🤔

Zonefree:
Life is like Owambe, when you're drunk and tired you go home.

Samantha124:
Another toxic family has taken the life of an innocent young woman.

Guys if you're from a toxic family, find a way to leave that house and cut ties with them.

helinues:
You are not an attentive bf. I am not blaming you for her death, but you could have pay more attention.

Sorry for the lose

Elizkid:


I was attentive and kept asking. She wouldn’t spill, so I got angry and asked my friend to talk to her.

I didn’t know it’d get to this

helinues:
You are not an attentive bf. I am not blaming you for her death, but you could have pay more attention.

Sorry for the lose

Elizkid:
My Fiancé called last night and said she wanted to die. She wouldn’t tell me what the problem was.


I got angry and told her to get off the phone if she couldn’t say what her problem was. She said she’s in trouble and would kill herself.

Her sister broke the news to me morning. I’m so down. I should have calmed her down. I should have been patient and listened to her.

But I was just angry because she didn’t say anything on time. My friend even spoke to her on phone and told her to tell him what the issue was and that she’s causing unrest for everyone. I feel so guilty. I’m down

You didn’t have to take your own life, babe.

I heard it has to do with an issue she has with her family. I need words to calm me down right now. I’ve not been myself.

Elizkid:


She took something but it’s not sniper. I don’t know what it is.

I’ve only spoken with the mum and sister today. I’ve not been able to touch down there myself.

Elizkid:
My Fiancé called last night and said she wanted to die. She wouldn’t tell me what the problem was.


I got angry and told her to get off the phone if she couldn’t say what her problem was. She said she’s in trouble and would kill herself.

Her sister broke the news to me morning. I’m so down. I should have calmed her down. I should have been patient and listened to her.

But I was just angry because she didn’t say anything on time. My friend even spoke to her on phone and told her to tell him what the issue was and that she’s causing unrest for everyone. I feel so guilty. I’m down

You didn’t have to take your own life, babe.

I heard it has to do with an issue she has with her family. I need words to calm me down right now. I’ve not been myself.

owiko:
I don't judge suicide victims, that's not to say I'm an advocate of same. Not everyone's heart is big enough to accommodate too many burdens. May God forgive her shortcomings, and find pleasure in her soul.

Rubbiish:

You can't just conclude her family is toxic
What the op presented is not enough to reach such a conclusion. Her problem could be from friends influence or anyone.

eaglez:
sorry for your loss and no need to mince words, I will blame you completely, when a woman is in love, her closest confidant is no longer her parents or siblings but the one she loves, her final place to get succour was in you but because you were not patient you blew it off, quite unfortunate you learned the extreme way, let this change your attitude of being hasty. Do accept my condolence.

Elizkid:


It's the bolded. Happened many years ago before we met, but I can't go into the details.

Samantha124:
The root of depression starts from home.

Our lives are determined by the kind of families we're from.

Sucre6:


He's a friend and he know I have always helped out, if he had told me, I would have contacted mutual friends to help sort the bill, believe me we are a group of friends who look after each other, he knows it something we could sort, it's just that he is someone who has really touched real cash even while we where in school, he's already driving then, so temptation came then and he went bankrupt so he felt telling people would make it look like a burden, when he was told we paid the loan, he began to cry tears of joy,

He knows I got him, he is someone that helped me paid two session school fees while in the university, he's from a rich home, I owe him everything

Elizkid:


I was attentive and kept asking. She wouldn’t spill, so I got angry and asked my friend to talk to her.

I didn’t know it’d get to this

Rubbiish:

This is not true, it is a two way thing
Depression can also emanate from our type of lifestyle. A person cannot live a reckless life & expect family to erase it overnight when the consequences of such lifestyle starts setting in.

seunmohmoh:
Even tho the thoughts occurs, I don't think I can ever end my own life.

Sucre6:
You claim she is your girlfriend yet u weren't sensitive enough, if truly she's your girlfriend u should have noticed that from the way she spoke that something was definitely up, so u calm her down and get to know what the issue was, any small thing u don vex, u could have averted her death u know, yes I want u to really blame your self, u bleeped up.

Not even talking about my girlfriend, a friend of mine called me one day and was sounding funny, the dude told me that he's done, he's leaving this night, I didn't quite understand what he meant at first but I decided to equire more, he was withholding information, I had to call people around to go check on him, they rushed and saw the guy, laying lifeless on the tiles inside his room, he took snipper already, they force two bottle of red oil down his throat and rushed him to the hospital, thank God he was saved,

Turns out dude was owing plenty lapo and online loans, we gathered money and cleared the bill even before he is discharged from the hospital, dude is happily married now and doing very well financially, thats what friends should be all about, you should be sensitive and observant, it very important

Sucre6:
You claim she is your girlfriend yet u weren't sensitive enough, if truly she's your girlfriend u should have noticed that from the way she spoke that something was definitely up, so u calm her down and get to know what the issue was, any small thing u don vex, u could have averted her death u know, yes I want u to really blame your self, u bleeped up.

Not even talking about my girlfriend, a friend of mine called me one day and was sounding funny, the dude told me that he's done, he's leaving this night, I didn't quite understand what he meant at first but I decided to equire more, he was withholding information, I had to call people around to go check on him, they rushed and saw the guy, laying lifeless on the tiles inside his room, he took snipper already, they force two bottle of red oil down his throat and rushed him to the hospital, thank God he was saved,

Turns out dude was owing plenty lapo and online loans, we gathered money and cleared the bill even before he is discharged from the hospital, dude is happily married now and doing very well financially, thats what friends should be all about, you should be sensitive and observant, it very important

logicalhumour:
Congrats to her. She had the guts to do the very thing nearly all humans pusșy away from. Mad respect to anyone who can take their own life! Overcoming that fear of the unknown isn't easy.

The reality is that even the one who loved her the most would move on and someday (very soon) start laughing with friends again. Na so life be. We just come to Eat, Grow, born pikin, and Die. We do not even know why we do this... We are useless containers.

"Only the living receive pain."
She was smart enough to understand that phrase in a deeper level.

logicalhumour:
Congrats to her. She had the guts to do the very thing nearly all humans pusșy away from. Mad respect to anyone who can take their own life! Overcoming that fear of the unknown isn't easy.

The reality is that even the one who loved her the most would move on and someday (very soon) start laughing with friends again. Na so life be. We just come to Eat, Grow, born pikin, and Die. We do not even know why we do this... We are useless containers.

"Only the living receive pain."
She was smart enough to understand that phrase in a deeper level.