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Cold feet or "warm feet" you will surely have to manage a lot of uncertainties in marriage and life. Some you could not have predicted. Not even in your wildest dreams! Nothing is as unpredictable as a living human. What you have had so far is pretty much marriage. Good days, bad days, sacrifices and challenges yet you have forged ahead and even so you are unsure. This is life brother .
Marriage is not for the hubristic or faint-of-heart. It will surely be a road to discovery on a journey with no end, no matter who you choose.
To expect that there will be a perfect match for you is intrinsically flawed. What you require are the preconditions for rationality, self control, hearts taught to love and sacrifice especially in the dimension of moral restraint. As long as you can both have these, add a FEW more desires to satisfy your hedonistic inclinations and off you go.

I have been in it for 10 years and my wife has been a blessing yet and I am still discovering not only my wife and our kids but most surprisingly myself! There is no model for predictions or theories for response to consult. You will be left awe-stricken by and yet perilously desirous of companionship until you discover that the only thing you cannot control is control itself.

This chick or another chick, decide how you take life! For all that you worry about your wife today, remember you will have no influence over the kids you get. I mean that however they come, you will have to love them and nurture them. I have been fortunate with wife and kids; the 3 most fantastic people in my life. We all have our flaws but I choose to see the angels in them, helped by faith and a strong belief!

The explanation is called "the demographic-economic paradox" and is sadly a universal phenomenon.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographic-economic_paradox

It is possible for anyone to achieve almost anything.
Dream big and strive hard!

Are there signs to alert highway users that a speed breaker now exists there?
RIP to the precious life lost. So sad.

In 10 years Eko Atlantic will knock Banana Island off the league.
Orange island is coming up too.
Lagos will really look different in 2025!

Godwin Emefiele

ARKdiscloser7:
No Igbo name?
Out of 33 citizens of a country they make us believe we are one?

It is obvious and loud as that, that Buhari's govt is a clear war against the Igbos as earlier feared.

Why wont they allow the Igbos to leave then? Why!

Whatever you choose to write in that essay, it would help to keep in mind that Access will be on the lookout for those who show potential for pulling in funds. Should they not show it, still do not be deceived as your first real test is going to dwell on how much you rake in within a stipulated time. Miss that and miss out. Access focuses first on cash drive before job/career quality.

Damn!!!

It's easier to shut the f**k up than change name!

What could his daughter have done that could equate his records?

During my NYSC days in 2002, I visited Aba for the first time as a grown up and told my fiancee that there are places in Aba where it would be tough to pick up a 100 dollar bill from the ground. She laughed it off. When she visited Aba in 2006 during her NYSC days in Port-Harcourt, she corrected my statement by replacing the dollar bill with a bundle.
If you are easily irritated, do not visit that town in the rainy season.
It's an irony how people who live there allow their leaders live.

Why is this news?

The house is on a notorious road in VGC. I assessed that street when I was offered a house in 2010. Merely looking as the street exposes the flaw. I turned down the house with an excellent offer and told the agent that the street would flood. He swore on his ancestors graves. i just walked away. That road is basically the Achilles heel in the construction of that estate.
There is a local depression in that area of the estate which allows run off water to gather while draining slowly. The solution would require a large underground re-channeling from the VGC entrance roundabout to the lagoon behind the estate. This will accommodate the increased volume of flood caused in part by the road reconstruction activities and ongoing nearby construction projects
While I completely agree that the VGCPORA association has not done enough, prospective developers/home owners need to learn from this and incorporate future regional development estimates into their project's long term feasibility plans.

The Lakeview estate opposite Ikota shopping complex would be in the same situation within 4 to 5 years or when 60% inhabited; whichever comes first. I once told the developer that the canal behind that estate which is trapezoidal in shape and only about 1m by 2m cross section looked too small to handle the future volume of run off water. He simply smiled.

Lagos state ministry of environment needs to wake up. They have been asleep for too long. Most developed parts of Lagos flood when it rains just like gridlocks when people move, flood control needs the same solution; more and better planned passage roads for people and drainage systems for rain & flood.

Where is the price above?

Just when one thinks the worst has been told, yet comes another insane Nigerian.
When the Indonesian government lines up the next 5 of my brothers in front of the hot barrel we would wonder why they still uphold the death penalty.
Nigerians are not the only underprivileged but we do make up a substantial proportion of the most insanely desperate.

East or West, Home is Best.

Hold your peace...there will be a time, place and opportunity for defense.

Worst performing governor in the south.
Well, he took after Ibori, what would one expect?

Rest in peace dear.
Condolences to your family.

Excellent pieces.
I would like a painting for my kids if we can reach an agreement.

You have a great skill which if well managed, will establish you for life.
Congrats.

While I can relate with the exemplary life he is trying to showcase but yet do not agree with his approach to divulging personal issues, I do not have challenges believing the case. I have lived in East Africa for about 3 years and can boldly say that their value system is still reasonably healthier than ours. when compared to Nigerians, East African ladies are more appreciative of little gifts and do not see them as entitlements. They are way easier to deal with and love.

He just wasted his life.
They will drill holes through him until they get others and by then, he would plead for death.
Hope some learn from this.

Dangerous hobby.

Forever Together.
RIP.

I wonder what would happen when you find one of your numerous wives with such chats on their phone.

What parallel govt? There was a momentum towards this vote for change.
The bigger the object, the more the momentum and the more the resistance required to slow it down.
The current government stands in our path to change. We can't wait for May 29th 2015!!!

Pricewater Cooper's NNPC forensic audit has joined the list of morphing situations awaiting a new executive review from May 30th. #Ican'twait

So much rot that needs to be fixed.
You guys are making business gains out of our national inefficiency.
Developing nations focus on capacity building, cutting inefficient systems and adopting or inventing solutions to such issues.
256B Naira outstanding! How is this accounting even done?

Well, Buhari has a lot cut out for him.
From day 1 I would invite interested foreign and local partners to build 3 new mega refineries and have then running in 4 years. The government does not have to spend on this, we just need to create the environment for business to thrive. Each refinery with an estimated 300,000 bpd capacity would cost around 4 Billion USD. This would readily generate about 14% returns per year and can be scaled as a hybrid refinery and gas-powered electricity plant in a mega complex. It would pay out itself and create new mega industrial cities and decongest our current poorly planned cities.

Your days are numbered.

http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2014-11-17/dangote-says-nigeria-lagos-refinery-to-start-by-mid-2018
http://canadianfuels.ca/userfiles/file/Economics%20fundamentals%20of%20Refining%20Dec%2012%202013-final.pdf

My goodness! what an idea in a country where corruption has run rife and at a time when petroleum resource value sits in a dip.
Mr Emefiele, go ask nations like Qatar, Algeria, Kuwait, UAE how they got it right in the management of their natural wealth.
I would prefer to believe this was misconstrued and not his actual suggestions as a confirmation of this would entrench my doubt for his knowledge of societal wealth management.
The current joint operating body (JOB) sharing formula in Nigeria is the worst I have seen in about 12 countries I know of as an oil professional.
Take Algeria as a case study. No individual owns petroleum assets and multinationals only come in for technical partnership with a sharing formula that allows for investments over a timed development period. This arrangement forces efficiency as you would only get a share of your achieved profitability. Algeria has more than 190 Billion US Dollars foreign reserves and a growing proven petroleum reserves.

Emefiele means "do no wrong". Please stand by your name sir.

Gosh!!!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_foreign-exchange_reserves

At such positions of power, the simple values are sometimes most of what is needed to serve well.

"To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society." - Theodore Roosevelt

My intrepid, kickass Naija niggas.

Wow!

What a nasty act for the wedding ceremony flash when the real journey is in the marriage.
A shame to her greed, a desire for unearned class and sheer misplacement of priorities.
Hope the marriage still works on this terrible foundation.