Kobojunkie:
Leave God out of all this abeg! God washed His hands off marriage back in Genesis 3 vs 16 so you are supposed to use your brain for your own self when picking a partner. Look around you, even your pastors don't get spouses from God who said your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Kaido:
Call off the wedding, and hunt for a man who is less controlling.

Who knows you might find one in few weeks time or even when you clock 48 years old.

Good luck!

Chibuzoc:
Is he the only one doing the expenses? At 35 u should be able to to contribute in order to have a stake.

Seems like you want aj wedding and not marriage

vickydevoka:

Have you heard from the man. Don't believe anything from a woman

Okimski:
This is the comment of the day, the best comment. He is just trying to dodge spending too much by not making her have her choice which might be more expensive.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Kobojunkie:
There you go. Yes!

Kajaard:


Who says a woman cannot live without being married? Why is the Nigerian society so toxic towards single women?

Look if you have noticed these signs before marriage, just know that it will continue after marriage as well. If you are really saying the truth about him being very controling and domineering, as well as always listening to his family and you having no say in any decision making, then lady you have a serious decision to make. Cheers.

Kobojunkie:
Where is his stats you speak of from abeg?

Cromagnon:
■ Center for disease control
Depression medication increase prescription for women Good enough for you?

UyaiIncomparabl:
I can’t tell you what or what not to do. But, you could really use my bad advice urgently. It may sound harsh but it should work.

Use him to your advantage. That is, play along till the wedding has been done. After the wedding, stand your ground and be rigid about it. No one can trespass into your territory. Not even his territorial mother. If she does otherwise, boot her out.

Also, try to get pregnant ASAP. Use him to be a legal donor for your child/dren. That's if you are lucky to have twins or can be patient to have two kids with him whilst tolerating his bad attitude. After you must have had your child/dren in your arms, you have your rights in glory. Dump his sorry ass after everything. Thankfully, he’s useless already. You only needed him for the child/dren after all. But, you should make sure you are financially capable to be a single mother should in case he decides to be irresponsible. If he can not be tamed, serve him the divorce papers while it’s hot. One useless man down after all.

OR

Go get a sperm donor. Cost-effective and drama free. And stay single as well. Marriage will be going extinct in few years to come. Don’t even bother going into it. It’s not worth it. My golden advice.

Raalsalghul:

Kobojunkie:
provide reference as what you posted makes no sense.

Cromagnon:
giggle really is your friend
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db377.htm

Kobojunkie:
You lied!

Cromagnon:
Proof Cos everyone can see I backed mine up But don't worry Keep severing the foolish ones Young men will need sex alacrity to practice with

Kobojunkie:
You backed it up when the reference you provided says absolutely nothing of any of what you claimed.