Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

milky3:
■ Seeking the face of God does not mean that the husband or the wife will not misbehave...., She needs to talk to him about how displeased she is with d whole thing and if there is anything they should both reach a conclusion as per Couple they are.

OChimex:


Quote me anywhere dude, most times, if you treat women so well, they give you so much and contribute I. Your life so much, it might not be financially, it those things can save you a lot more money. Although a few bad eggs here and there.

Caleycash:
Nigerian women!?? 😆 🤣 😂 😹, epitome of stinginess, selfishness and narcissists, Bros no go there 😆 🤣 😂

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Toscarel:
Marry him, you divorce later atleast you would have kids and no one would say you didnt marry.

Fineman2:
I will advice her to be submissive

Kobojunkie:
Interesting assertion! If the husband and wife will misbehave in much the same way as those who never sought the face of God would, then what was the point of "seeking the face of God" ritual, to begin with?

Toscarel:
Marry him, you divorce later atleast you would have kids and no one would say you didnt marry.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

milky3:
■ My point still remains that seeking the face of God does not Connotes Romeo and Juliet relationship, even people that receive direct confirmation to their marriages without applying wisdom will not end well

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

shineeye1:
■ These are just the white flags(not red) of losing your self governance. In marriage, as a lady, you forfeit your self governance and surrender it to your new boss - the husband. If that seems too difficult to contemplate or comply with, you have no business marrying! Marriage is not a union of two equals. It is an institution of hierarchy in which the husband is the head of organization. He receives all advice but to him belongs the inalienable privilege and prerogative of decisions by which the organization(home) must operate. You hypocrite feminists find it convenient to comply with this natural order in your cooperate or work places because without compliance your salaries are gone but when you get home , you bloody hypocrite cannot follow same routine because God is your mate and His orders are not for you since it does not guarantee your salary. Hypocrites!!!

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

shineeye1:



These are just the white flags(not red) of losing your self governance. In marriage, as a lady, you forfeit your self governance and surrender it to your new boss - the husband. If that seems too difficult to contemplate or comply with, you have no business marrying! Marriage is not a union of two equals. It is an institution of hierarchy in which the husband is the head of organization. He receives all advice but to him belongs the inalienable privilege and prerogative of decisions by which the organization(home) must operate. You hypocrite feminists find it convenient to comply with this natural order in your cooperate or work places because without compliance your salaries are gone but when you get home , you bloody hypocrite cannot follow same routine because God is your mate and His orders are not for you since it does not guarantee your salary. Hypocrites!!!

adetunrayo:
Did you seek the face of God before getting this far? It is never to late to ask God before you tie the knot.

Let God direct your choice not your age. Marriage without seeking God's direction before proceeding is baba ijebu.

God is the foundation of marriage. Seek His face before it's too late.

EmyGod:
■ God will only intervene when they do not have sex with each other but they have then she has no business with God.

adelafe2019:
Pls. Think we'll. Or else the Marriage may end within a year:
The man does not see you as a wife but as a subordinate that should not be involved in any decision making process.
He is not matured enough to get married. Every activity at home will be controlled by him and his immediate family members.
If you think you can change him later, then you are deceiving yourself.Such men never change their character.
I cannot advise my own sister to marry such man.
So if both of you contribute money to buy a propertysuch as a land or a house he will write his name on the document instead of including your own FULL NAME. FOR more legal and moral advice contact me through my WhatsApp no 090769768sixtytwo.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.
I just have this feeling I know who this annoymous person is 🤔

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Originalsly:
At 35 ... you see the path to marriage lined with red flags ... UT you don't know if to go ahead. He is 40 ... and his senior citizen 20th century mom is making 21st cent decisions for him. Really.... I believe you two would make a fine couple.... you deserve each h other.