Abbeytoy:
We started talking again after about 15 years apart when she contacted me for assistance, which I am happy to offer. After that, I noticed she wanted to use me to get to her cheating husband, which I tried to resist at all costs.
 
I like her and still want to communicate with her as a friend or sister, but I don't want to get involved in her marital issues.
 
She always talks to me anytime they start having problems, just to prove a point that she can as well move on.
 
I have offered to speak to her husband, as I believe they are just being immature.

Note: I do not see her as someone who wants to cheat on her husband, but I see that the guy wants to take another wife but doesn't know how to go about it and wants my ex to misbehave so he can capitalize on it.
 
I want to help her get her man back.

Should I talk to the guy?

garriAndsugar:
You better cut that rope that shes using to draw you closer

Zonefree:
Find means to discard that lady.

Don't be a good or gentlman for Nigerian ladies. She'll use you and settle with her husband.

vincenteger:
Please flew away from that woman.

Satan is really using you.
And learn to mind your business, so they don't use you to settle scores.

Abbeytoy:


Hmmm, make I no just respond to her again or not help her financially?

Zonefree:

Why must you help her?

You don't work for MTN and expects Airtel to pay you.

PocketNeverDry:
Run and dnt look back.
Run as if dog dey pursue u.

Coolsat:
What are you doing between married couples all in the name of ex? It's even more dangerous you are an ex and medling in their affairs. Mr man please borrow sense and take your generosity elsewhere before you break that marriage indirectly. You'll have yourself to blame when that manipulative woman is through with you. Would you be comfortable if your own wife is chatting and discussing your marital affairs with her ex? You'll understand better when it gets messier. Train yourself to leave people's wife alone, stop communicating with a married ex as it may not end well.

Abbeytoy:



Hmm, thanks.

I don't chat her up as I have nothing to do with her, I just don't want her to feel rejected.

I will not respond to her chat again

advanceDNA:
Your so called being nice and a good friend is becoming inappropriate, boundariless, and irritating....

u want to make an unsolicited call to another woman's husband that doesnt have any guy-man relationship with you to talk to him on how to run things with his wife...

Sò yá wèrèy niii ?? Be like u wan make dem run you street

Abbeytoy:
But why do women avoid this topic?

Abbeytoy:
We started talking again after about 15 years apart when she contacted me for assistance, which I am happy to offer. After that, I noticed she wanted to use me to get to her cheating husband, which I tried to resist at all costs.
 
I like her and still want to communicate with her as a friend or sister, but I don't want to get involved in her marital issues.
 
She always talks to me anytime they start having problems, just to prove a point that she can as well move on.
 
I have offered to speak to her husband, as I believe they are just being immature.

Note: I do not see her as someone who wants to cheat on her husband, but I see that the guy wants to take another wife but doesn't know how to go about it and wants my ex to misbehave so he can capitalize on it.
 
I want to help her get her man back.

Should I talk to the guy?

Abbeytoy:
We started talking again after about 15 years apart when she contacted me for assistance, which I am happy to offer. After that, I noticed she wanted to use me to get to her cheating husband, which I tried to resist at all costs.
 
I like her and still want to communicate with her as a friend or sister, but I don't want to get involved in her marital issues.
 
She always talks to me anytime they start having problems, just to prove a point that she can as well move on.
 
I have offered to speak to her husband, as I believe they are just being immature.

Note: I do not see her as someone who wants to cheat on her husband, but I see that the guy wants to take another wife but doesn't know how to go about it and wants my ex to misbehave so he can capitalize on it.
 
I want to help her get her man back.

Should I talk to the guy?

Juliearth:






I hope you know that you are the third party that is highly preached against? Leave your ex and her husband to fix their mess. Besides, what makes you think the story she is telling you is true? What if she is trying to lead you on/give you the green light so as to milk you further? In all, don't get enmeshed in this brouhaha.

13sense:


You fool, stay away from another man's wife. Foolish men like you disgust me.

Abbeytoy:


This is not necessary, I am only trying to help and don't know it's not right and that's why I seek for advice.

garriAndsugar:
You better cut that rope that shes using to draw you closer