Onionstew:
■ Prayers work wonders... Dedicate a time regularly, weekly to fast and pray to God committing her into His able hands.. Tell God the changes you wish to see in her and use her as a point of contact to widows facing same plite all over the world especially those of the house hold of fairh... Remember to use bible references in your prayers.. God bless

Originalsly:
■ First option .... grandchildren ... burden her with them. Option Two... send her on a vacation ... if possible with a friend of her choosing... abroad will be best with a different environment ... different culture and different people. Option Three ... there are also males in her age group that have lost someone dear to them ... and are in the same state of loneliness .... connect her with anyone you think is compatible ... connect to be friends ... marriage should be off limits since she may be thinking it will be like adultery if she marries another man. Bottom line ... open a new world for her.

simple87:
■ Depression is a functional mental health condition and and could lead to suicide or suicidal ideation. Demise of a love one is a known trigger. Unfortunately, in Nigeria mental health is not a priority in our society.Primarily, she would benefit from antidepressant drug but needs to be reviewed by a psychiatrist who can make the prescription. Equally, cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) from a clinical psychologist, and positive activity engagement are important adjunct therapy for depression. This is the standard of care in the NHS (UK) as I work in this setting, please be proactive in getting her a mental assessment.

Kobojunkie:


So people with grandchildren don't commit suicide or die of what we like to call "heartache" in Nigeria?

Originalsly:
■ Did anyone say or suggest people don't?

Kobojunkie:


Just wondering how having babies one is likely not ready for or even able to afford is perceived as some sort of cure for depression in the first place. Why not instead insist the woman go volunteer her time at an orphanage if children have that sort of power over mental illness? That to me is a cheaper alternative.

Originalsly:
From your comment you either did not read the entire post... or you didn't understand what was read.

Originalsly:
First option .... grandchildren ... burden her with them.
Option Two... send her on a vacation ... if possible with a friend of her choosing... abroad will be best with a different environment ... different culture and different people.
Option Three ... there are also males in her age group that have lost someone dear to them ... and are in the same state of loneliness .... connect her with anyone you think is compatible ... connect to be friends ... marriage should be off limits since she may be thinking it will be like adultery if she marries another man. Bottom line ... open a new world for her.

MRDEE01:
It is grand children that can only make them happy at this stage.

If you or any of your siblings are married and have kids,kindly bring her over so the children can put smiles on her face.


Abeg I dey find car to drive on bolt/uber platform abuja.
I deliver without stories.
N.B- I am experienced

MRDEE01:
It is grand children that can only make them happy at this stage.
If you or any of your siblings are married and have kids,kindly bring her over so the children can put smiles on her face.
Abeg I dey find car to drive on bolt/uber platform abuja.
I deliver without stories.
N.B- I am experienced

Blackazuma99:
Good day to everyone in this forum, please I am in desperate need of your advice.

Early 2014 she lost her dad, 2016 she lost her only brother (my uncle) and then the worst happened in 2021,i lost my father which is her husband, and since then God has been faithful, I graduated same year, my elder sister got a good job same year, we got our first family house same with other benefits.

But the problem has been my mum, she's always depressed and always thinking, thinking of my late dad, we have tried our best as the children to make her happy, especially me the first son. Please i need advice on what to do, I really don't want my mother to die of depression 😞.

Kobojunkie:


Here again is your submission After examining them all, I decided to pick for clarification the first option which not only suggests children have the power to cure depression but also assumes it is safe to have a depressed individual burdened with their care. So, yeah, I did read your post.

Originalsly:
■ The aim is to not give her down time to reminisce about her husband. Grandparents are usually very fond of their grandchildren. Her mind will have no rest with grandchildren .... she will be focused on them .... and by the time she puts them to sleep ... she will also be too tired and sleepy to reminisce. Hopefully in time ... she will ease out of the depression.

Kobojunkie:


That same assumption was made when my friend's father fell in to depression after his first wife's death. The kids rallied around bringing the grandkids around regularly to play with him but all that didn't stop the poor man from passing on less than a year after that. This happened back in the early 90s. Had they known then they would have opted for grief counselor in order to save their dad. They were devastated for many many years after the Loss of both their mum and dad in just a span of less than a year.

Depression is not that easily resolved and burdening children with the task of getting someone out of depression, I don't at all think if wise to do given that kids are abound to figure that the depressed individuals remains unhappy even around them and that might potentially scar them.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to yourself at least! God said He does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous; the prayers, pleas, praises, offerings, good works, etc., of the unrighteous, are tainted by their sins and as such an abomination to God who in turn does not answer them. How can prayers said in unrighteousness work these wonders which you claim? By what power do they do this?

Abeg, make una stop to dey postulate these yeye solutions to problems that instead require practical solutions. OP's mother is depressed. Go to your churches to see many of those there are racked by depression, some of them since they were young, your churches don cure all those ones finish with your many rituals and prescriptions? If you OP wake up tomorrow to hear say him mama don die of heartache, na the same una go tell am then say God's plan is beyond all.

Onionstew:
Before you go dey wag your tongue upandan, why not add to the advice given... Of course he has to seek forgiveness from God and live a repentant life..

Blackazuma99:
Good day to everyone in this forum, please I am in desperate need of your advice.

Early 2014 she lost her dad, 2016 she lost her only brother (my uncle) and then the worst happened in 2021,i lost my father which is her husband, and since then God has been faithful, I graduated same year, my elder sister got a good job same year, we got our first family house same with other benefits.

But the problem has been my mum, she's always depressed and always thinking, thinking of my late dad, we have tried our best as the children to make her happy, especially me the first son. Please i need advice on what to do, I really don't want my mother to die of depression 😞.

Kobojunkie:
Seek forgiveness? Lol... not even close. Before he can go to God, He has to become born-again and then begin to properly seek first the Kingdom of God(Holiness) followed by God's Righteousness, in order that all these things -- the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(including answers to prayers) --- can be added onto him. We are talking here of years of diligence. Does that sound to you like a viable solution to this here problem which he has?

RussellRutherfo:
■ This above moniker specializes in typing nonsense all day.

Dpaulie:
Still wan drive bolt for this period (You'll have to convince me oo) Where's your location Message me

Kobojunkie:
Seek forgiveness? Lol... not even close. Before he can go to God, He has to become born-again and then begin to properly seek first the Kingdom of God(Holiness) followed by God's Righteousness, in order that all these things -- the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(including answers to prayers) --- can be added onto him. We are talking here of years of diligence. Does that sound to you like a viable solution to this here problem which he has?

Onionstew:
■ You need couching... If God waited years to answer your prayer after you asked for forgiveness will your kind recognise him as tour God..
■ Take this home for free, forgivenes goes with giving your life o Jesus

Kobojunkie:
You don't seem to be paying God at all. He said He does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous — not even their pleas for forgiveness are answered by Him —because the sins of the unrighteous stand between them and God, and as such when an unrighteous asks God for even forgiveness, God does not grant it because the request is an abomination to God. He is the same God of Abraham, David, and even Jesus Christ, so why not? They all had to first become righteous before God then answered their prayers, even their pleas for forgiveness, so what makes you think God changed His mind where you are?

2. Jesus Christ never said any of what you claim at all. So your knowledge of Him — Jesus Christ— is seriously flawed, I am afraid.

Onionstew:
■ No one can pay God ooo. Im done with you b4 you will let me sin against God.

Blackazuma99:
Good day to everyone in this forum, please I am in desperate need of your advice.

Early 2014 she lost her dad, 2016 she lost her only brother (my uncle) and then the worst happened in 2021,i lost my father which is her husband, and since then God has been faithful, I graduated same year, my elder sister got a good job same year, we got our first family house same with other benefits.

But the problem has been my mum, she's always depressed and always thinking, thinking of my late dad, we have tried our best as the children to make her happy, especially me the first son. Please i need advice on what to do, I really don't want my mother to die of depression 😞.

Bring a little child to live with you guys so she can get busy taking care of the child. A child of like 2yrs, that will take her mind off the worries