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Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Sholaf(f): 4:46pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
There is absolutely nothing wrong in marrying a white lady, my husband is from Scotland and we are enjoying the best of both worlds. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by justwise(m): 4:58pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
UgoBabe:I can't understand how a black woman would want to live in her colonial masters's country. Is she not a loser? |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Sholaf(f): 5:06pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Shola (f): justwise: Jealous!. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Nobody: 5:08pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
@22 the last thing you need to be worried about is marriage. By the way, many [people before you have married people from other races, culture, country, etc |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by N101: 5:09pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Tarzan2009: Everyone's experience is different and for those of us who have travelled, we have options. I know a Nigerian man who married a Caribbean woman but never dated one - all of his relationships were with white women and, as far as he was concerned, his life was peaceful and black women were too much wahala. It's only when he came across this particular woman that he realised all black women weren't the same. You just have to shine your eyes and know who you're dealing with. Character and compatibility are far more important than colour. El Guapo: |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by UgoBabe(f): 5:11pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
justwise: come on now, that is just dumb , no basis for comparison |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by justwise(m): 5:14pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
UgoBabe: No its not dumb, you should be living in Nigeria and stay away from anything that has to do with your 'colonial' masters. Why would you want to live with them with the amount of hatred you have for them? With your primitive view the last place you should step your foot into is USA. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by justwise(m): 5:16pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Shola (f): |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by arekwhite: 5:25pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
I also thinks there is nothing wrong to marry with lady, if you loves her then you can marry with her, |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Ranoscky(m): 6:53pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
andyanders:Nothing but the RAW and UNDILUTED truth !!! UgoBabe:As I was abouto reply your comment, I had something in mind but decided to confirm it b4 typing. . . .I looked at your username and behold, I WAS RIGHT (Ibo girl)!!! Now I see where you'r coming from, so therefor, I comment my reserve! |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Lacoolmley: 7:03pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
@Poster: With time spent, emotion grows. I’m sure while in Nigeria, you felt same way about your girlfriend or someone you really fancied. Life in a foreign land is quite different and you will tend to see her companionship and the intimacy as extra special. Truth is that it is all the same. But in the case of marriage, you have to look at the long term. Love will make her initially agree to moving back home to Africa with you but is that really possible considering the cultural differences, etc. What will happen when she starts talking about spending money on a holiday while you are yet to embark on a project back home? Oyibo love dey off O, e dey get expiry date. I’m sure you truly love her else you won’t be bothered about asking people on Nairaland, but marriage isn’t only about love. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Galaxy7: 7:21pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
great amount of love and mutual understanding that's all. black or white makes no deference |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by UgoBabe(f): 8:12pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Lacoolmley: sorry to divert this thread to raise this point, but what u and some other africans do really annoy me, you know he is referring to nigeria so y do you call it afrcia instead of nigeriawhen you use africa in the place of the actual country - it makes africa seem to be a country instead of the wide diverse continent it is, i get annoyed when non- africans refer to africa as if it a country- and most times they r ignorant and do not know otherwise so it really pisses me off that we africans are equally as dumb for doing the same thing, instead of saying i went to ghana you will see someone saying i went to africa?? isnt that dumb africa is a continent but it is these stoopid behaviours that makes stoopid people think so, no one says i went to europe when they tell you i went to jand, or i went to paris, etc etc, biko, lets correct this type of behaviour |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Lax75(m): 8:24pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
UgoBabe: I totally understand your feeling on this matter!! Wow! Thought I was the only one. It really gets under my skin. Let the non-Africans do it, but when Africans do it, it feeds ignorance. But from what I've noticed, those that usually do this are the ones who have totally lost their identities, and that's why they end up looking at Africa the same way non-Africans do . . . as a country |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by darkwarp: 8:31pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
It depends on you and what God gives you. I've always imagined myself with foreign ladies. I have dated series of foreign ladies: good bad and the ugly just like I think we have in our girls as well. I'm now four years in Marriage with the love of my life who happens to be white. We have a three and half years gorgeous baby girl. though I've known her for about six years, we were just dating then, though she knows my immigration status as I had already overstayed my Visa at that point and was working illegally. I got caught at some point and got removed back to Naija, at this point we lost contact as she works abroad most of the time. I found my way back into the country and told her about what had gone on. she reckoned that I shouldn't work again so as not to get my self into more trouble. Things started getting stronger between us. She suggested that we get married and I was so surprised and asked why she said that. She said we should just go ahead and get married now, that i shouldn't be worried that she wasn't trying to coerce me into the marriage, that it's just to make sure that I'm OK and legal in the country. We did, and turned out to be the best decision of my life, and not just because of my gorgeous girl but it also turned my whole life around for good. This is a girl that understands my culture and understands most of my conversation as that's the language I speak to my daughter at home. Though it's not that we don't have our ups and downs as any couple would anywhere in the world. Though i doubted the marriage when we started, but can't believe that I'm thanking my lucky star right now even though I'm not subject to any immigration control currently. So guys go for what God give you and you will have an everlasting marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by UgoBabe(f): 8:39pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Lax75: thank u, am glad am not alone on this |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by FEMARY(m): 8:44pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
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Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by tinkinfela(m): 8:55pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Thanks everyone for your input to the thread. It's true, true love does not know race. Of course, there can be added difficulties due to cultural differences that can make marriage harder than it already is; but, if there is love, there is no difficulty that cannot be overcome. For those saying I should concentrate on my studies and ignore this distraction for now, I'm sure if you're in a relationship with someone for 2.5 years, regardless of race, at one point, you would start to think about your future together. You would talk about it at some point in the relationship , what the future holds for you etc, that's the point where I am now. What makes this relationship exceptional is that we've been living together about a year since she started studying at the same University… not for anything else, but because we both think we can save money and share the rent. I thought it would be hell at first, but I have never had any problem with her , she pushes me to keep my grades up, there is mutual respect etc. So waking up beside her every morning, I'm constantly thinking, "could she be the one I'm going spend my life with?". I've been with several girls before I met her, back home and here. I've never had anything as special as this. If I do end up marrying her in the future, which is very likely I just pray God gives me the courage not be bothered by people like UgoBabe and their ignorant thoughts. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
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Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by OkparaIgbo: 9:12pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Ranoscky: In as much as i was infuriated by the stupid comment from Ugobabe, but how dare you lay prejudice on her because she is Igbo who out of all honesty produce the best wives in terms of morals, cultures and ability to entertain guests as well as the man with both food and greetings and good behaviour. This cant be said of Yoruba girls because i have being with a lot and each time they get on my nerves with their loud and stinky mouth. Not to mention how they manage to always stink of poo every gad damn time, Jheezzz. Dont even dare in your life lay a critic to my igbo sisters without a thorough investigation to your tribe Yoruba, !! |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by UgoBabe(f): 9:16pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
tinkinfela: YAWN, categorize my thoughts however you like, but in all u described a nigerian woman or blk african can do the same and more, y do you have to pitch your tent amongst oyibo?? |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Nobody: 9:38pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
marry who u want 2marry.U don't owe anybody.me sef get no missing rib. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by tinkinfela(m): 9:40pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
why does it matter? it's the 21st century!! Moreover, if you read my earlier post, i pointed out that this wasn't my initial plan. It just happened and maybe because i see past the skin color. I don't think i will ever be happy marrying someone because of race, ethnical or cultural ties or any other reason. Surely, you're not suggesting I break up with her and tell her "sorry, I can't be in this relationship because you're not from my race " or lead her on and opt out later. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by OkparaIgbo: 9:45pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
tinkinfela:Bros like a lot of people have said, dont be in a RUSH. Take a step at a time and if after your studies you still feel the same love and affection for her, then i would recommend the both of you take a trip down naija for at least a month for her to get a gribs of what she is about to work into. If after that and no qualms then hand over the relationship to God because na marriage material be that. Ignore the stereotyping and egocentric view from Ugobabe.!! |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by medinatl: 10:43pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
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Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by MrsChima1(f): 10:47pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
Oh my! |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by tissot84: 11:09pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
for real my normal advice for peeps like u in Nigeria who are still in school is to wait for their nysc year when the government throw them apart to face different temptation but for u i think u should wait, graduate and have like 3 years working experience before u can said u are in love. if both of u are still together after then u can say u found ur wife to bi. and please always love wit ur head not heart because the marriage last longer wen u love wit ur head. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by ikeyman00(m): 11:59pm On Oct 03, 2011 |
@@@@@@@@@@ can she spend the rest of her life in naija if bla blah then what?? if not then what anyway what is ikeyman talking about |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by tpia5: 12:02am On Oct 04, 2011 |
i think only an i.diot would need the approval of faceless strangers on the web before they can make up their mind about a relationship? where do they breed these people. is nl going to help you live with your partners? |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by moremi2008(m): 12:09am On Oct 04, 2011 |
I would only advice that you think about the long-term as you evaluate your choices. Many older men in my family and in the families of my friends married white women. In all the cases I know, there is one striking pattern: once the children are grown, their white wives dumped them for another man and left with the house. Imagine living bachelor life in your 50s & 60s! Just be careful oh! What looks fantastic and rosy now might not hold-up in the long-run, especially if most of your family is back in Nigeria. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by MrsChima1(f): 12:22am On Oct 04, 2011 |
tpia@: Good questions and some people get mad when you tell them the truth. SMH. |
Re: Is It Okay To Marry Someone From A Different Race? by Nobody: 2:24am On Oct 04, 2011 |
Tom28: Like i said earlier, it all depends on the kinda Whitey lady u wanna marry. Tom u dont underscore the whiteys easily forgetting that ur so cherished Nigerian ladies has got tons of flaws, i can tell u a Real man can handle a lousy n dirty White Lady but then how easy would he handle a Cheating, Money/fashion craving, naive Black Wife? Bro i grew up to be with Whiteys, i tell u few African Ladies {maybe few} can be more devoted n committed in a marriage than them - [Dunno what my wife would say if she sees this am typing o ] |
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