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Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Didi2d(m): 4:48pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Samantha124: I still don't know her reason for not paying and not even telling me. Because we haven't spoken since that day( last Monday) I got home from work I didn't say anything and she always kept quiet till today We haven't spoken in case you want to ask |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by 77up(m): 4:50pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Someone already told you what to do. He said something about getting second wife if you can't divorce her. I will always prefer that option than making my children a product of single parenting, it affect child alot. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Tundex911: 4:52pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
When una dey courtship, you no see the redflag? |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by teehay45(m): 4:53pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
You saw the signs before you got married to her, but you decided to ignore. Try Marriage counselling. You might get some luck with that. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Nobody: 5:01pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
I'm sorry to say you're married to a fire breathing dragon.. Didi2d: 1 Like |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by chigoziri2403(m): 5:14pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Samantha124:While depression kills him, then she takes the kid to another man 1 Like |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by pevo: 5:22pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
naice: Just agree to whatever she says. She will soon realise that are right later 1 Like |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by sterlingD(m): 5:24pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
jaafree: You have said something here |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Didi2d(m): 5:26pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Samantha124: Smiles.. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 6:17pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
You write very well. Well-punctuated and paragraphed sentences. I have no advice for you BTW. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by akintunde63: 6:30pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
naice: there’s no way you didn’t know this, or experienced some flashes of this trait , before your marriage. But you decided to proceed hoping she’d change, or probably married her out of pity that she was an orphan. Unfortunately now , she has refused to change, just as I’d expect. Fortunately, it’s not yet a lost cause. Have a real and serious conversation with her, tell her exactly how you feel, then hope she’d change |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by yusluvad(m): 7:01pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
This is a very critical situation in marriage!😩😩 |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by nathyx(m): 7:06pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Maybe you don't talk hard enough to her especially cos women like to win every conversation and will gladly accept your petty humble defeat which feels like gaining power to them |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Ovieemmanuel: 7:17pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Didi2d:see let me tell you bluntly. If you dont start making exit plans from that suffer you called marriage. You would die young if you are lucky. If you are not you would get old get high BP then stroke. And start peeing on your body. Just close your eyes and imagine it. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by royalfly(m): 7:58pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Purvan: Just shhhhh |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Didi2d(m): 8:01pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Ovieemmanuel: 😂😂😂 I believe you are a prophet. Na my fears you just mention up there. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Slime7: 8:10pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by kwasoly(m): 8:16pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
[quote author=naice post=124070940]I find myself facing a difficult situation in my marriage and would greatly appreciate your insights and advice. The issue at hand revolves around my wife's unwillingness to listen to me. I'm at a loss as to why she behaves this way, and it's starting to take a toll on our relationship. To provide some context, my wife has a strong-headed personality, which often leads to conflicts between us. No matter how gently I communicate my concerns or requests, she seems to disregard them and even does the opposite. This behavior frustrates me and leaves me questioning our compatibility. One possible explanation I've considered is her background as an orphan. She lost her parents at a young age and had to take on the responsibility of caring for herself and her siblings. While I understand the challenges she faced, it seems like her self-reliance has translated into a resistance to accepting input or guidance from others, including me. At this point, I have contemplated divorce, but there's a significant factor holding me back: our children. I love them deeply and cannot bear the thought of being separated from them. As much as her strong-headedness affects me, I firmly believe that domestic violence is never an option. I'm reaching out to this community for reasonable opinions and advice on how to navigate this situation. Have any of you experienced a similar dynamic in your relationships? How did you cope with a spouse who doesn't listen? Are there effective strategies to foster better communication and understanding in such circumstances? Thank you in advance for your support and guidance. Your insights will be invaluable in helping me make an informed decision about the future of my marriage."[/quotle] Was she like that before you married her? If yes I wish you the best because you failed to either correct it or leave her. If No then you need to lay your hand on her head while sleeping to cast out any demon manipulating her. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by yrhuhfy113: 8:21pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
drimzsmoke: Bro, relax o. I am not on redpill or blackpill. MONEY makes the difference. The rich men who experience such stuff made the gross mistake of picking ladies who match their class. DATE FAR LOWER and she will look up to you forever. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by yrhuhfy113: 8:21pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
lexy2014: BAD EXPERIENCE PUSHED ME TO FIND GREAT MENTORS AND THEY TAUGHT ME BITTER TRUTHS. 1 Like |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by lexy2014: 9:01pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113: How do you know that your "great mentors" taught u the truth? Who are these your "great mentors" and how did they arrive at the following... NO WOMAN RESPECTS AND FOLLOWED THE INSTRUCTIONS OF A POOR WISE MAN You need MONEY sir. That's all. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by drimzsmoke(m): 9:23pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113: This is not true either....familiarity will make her talk to you the way she talks to her friend, just give it time....our father do say when a woman stays in her husband house for too long, she becomes a witch(this is a proverb, I can't remember the exact words), why is that My younger brother's wife used to call him Mr lagbaja when they got married. We used to laugh at her in my house and said she is too local, behind her back in ooo. Now, after 2 kids, it is babe or his name, Mr Ko, Mrs ni!!! |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by FairAdvocate(m): 9:58pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
I can relate well to your story... I have similar issues with my mum now, she lost her husband/my father a long time ago and she had to raise the 5 of us alone, she was in her 30s then. She had to make all decision all by herself for over 30years now and she seems to be used to not waiting for/ seeking anyone's counsel before she does her things. However, right now being the last child and the only son, it's a tough time getting her to do my bidings or agreeing to things. Bro my advice is simple... you have to choose in which area you want to exercise you authority with ego and let her have more areas where she is in control. In those area you choose to be the boss, bro let your no be no and let yes remain yes. If not, that woman will take over authority from you. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by ojimuf(m): 11:02pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
I guess we are in the same boat. My will never listen to u except u accept what she is saying. She will just end the conversation with an anger tone and that's it |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Olumaeme: 11:07pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
You have to understand that, every adult has their lives to live. They also have their decisions to make regardless of their marital status. You do not have the power to control your wife, you can only advice and if you think that you do not like the way things are going, you can easily quit the marriage and find your type. Please do not resort to demestic violence, you may not like the outcome and its very risky. If you beat her and she dies or something goes wrong and let's say people Video and put it on the internet, what are you going to say? If you go to jail, how will the children you are protecting cope? Do you think they won't live their lives? My dear, you have the power to call it quit. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by 1Sharon(f): 1:04am On Jul 10, 2023 |
So you want to divorce your wife because she doesn't 'listen' ? What was so grave that she didn't heed to, that now warrants a divorce ? |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Realme111: 1:36am On Jul 10, 2023 |
Reminderz:you're right bro,the same thing in facing,my woman didn't respect me ,despite all my trying and been responsible |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Moneyyman: 4:06am On Jul 10, 2023 |
Went will destroy themselves first before they learn. Most ladies raised by single mothers or who were orphans and didn't grow up in a proper family face these issues. They grow up making major decisions that a father or first son should make and therefore develop masculine energy. She now sees herself as the male figure and can't take advice from a other male. You'll need to be patient, prayerful, and tactical with her. She only needs to regain her femininity and you'll see the best of her. As to what you can do, consider these: 1. Never surrender your position as the man. The day you do, you become a slave in that marriage. I'm not saying you should fight, hit, or insult her, but stand your ground firmly. Don't hate her, but be firm. 2. Shower her more love. This is still the best and fastest way to make women regain their femininity. Drown her in love and she'll come around sometime. 3. Look for an older married female that she respects to talk to her. If there's none, start drawing close to one as a couple. 4. Try to get her to read books. You, too, should read books. 1 Like |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Efna55: 6:28am On Jul 10, 2023 |
You're a wise man! One beer for your head. Tzar: |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by calebsolaunice(m): 7:32am On Jul 10, 2023 |
You have to sit her down and have constructive communication with her,tell her your concern from your conversations you will hear her own side of challenges and fear.If at the end of the day there is no changes of attitude from her you must reach out to the people you knew she respect so much and tell them your challenges if at the end of the day no change.You must take the bul by the horn and do the needful because of your mental health. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by ChybuzzDD(m): 7:54am On Jul 10, 2023 |
Purvan post=124308382[b: This is nonsensical If she's not happy in the marriage, then she should simply get out No one should waste his/her precious time forcing anyone to be in a union s/he doesn't want to be in. |
Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by ChybuzzDD(m): 8:01am On Jul 10, 2023 |
saphiere: After making all these silly assumptions with nothing to justify them from the OP's write-up, you still want us to get you a job What would you be doing at the job?? Make hasty, thoughtless conclusions and decisions, fight your boss and run down the company?? 2 Likes |
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