@ dammytex

If you are a guy I would truly like to hear what you think about this whole issue of falling for someone who is already involved or in my case someone who is contemplating the possibility of getting back with an ex but still wants to maintain what's going on between us.

Women tend to be very emotional thus losing their ability to think things through clearly, so be good and holla back from a mature male perspective.

Cork Sweeeery,

I wear boxer shorts not thongs will that help?

You are such a j-a-c-k-a-s-s  just when a person thinks you are becoming lucid,

You turn around and fall your hand again.

^^^It’s difficult, but I think you should let him go now. If you wait to enjoy the moment as you said, it’ll be much more difficult when he finally leaves - the lonely/sleepless nights wondering what he's up to.

If his feelings were as strong as yours, he wouldn’t be thinking of getting back with his Ex. I feel he is keeping his options open and you are his consolation prize if they don’t get back together.

hmm, seems like a ladies only thread

Mr, Cork:

“Sweeeery Remember:      To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, but to be loved by the one you love is everything” 

Now that is something.

Swift I wish I could offer the perfect solution but I got none so I will just try.
Its sad he's put you on standby and that is not the best place to be in a relationship esp 4 a lady.He has his life covered well by having plan A (ex) and B(you) while you remain the vulnerable one here.
At times I like bringing this thing called the 'competitive advantage' into a relationship when faced with such a situation.
There's something he saw in you which was far better than what his ex could offer.Well it still remains. Or maybe he used you as rebound. sad
Keep being yourself but do not be played. He's already made his intentions clear now softly release him and remain friends if you can. I know its painful but you got to do it or else you stand to lose.
This I say becz love is a strong emotion and u feel it for him.
Be frank sit him down and share what you feel. Just let him know that you are giving him space to discover what/who is really best for him because you deserve the best too. not stringing along. Then keep your mind pre occupied before you go mad.
Don't even be nasty/emotional trying to show him u r indispensable, cz u r not. If he comes back running let destiny decide.

I just love it when you show an undecided guy that you deserve the best.It comes out of self worth you know.

cheers and good luck

Nothing worse than a woman being a standby chick.

Swift, it's easier for us (guys) to get over issues like this than you ladies. The only reasonable thing to do is to leave him. Leaving him now gives him the impression that you hold yourself in high esteem and you know what you want. Since he's not yet decided, give him space.

If he really wants you, he'll race back - that's if you're not taken by another man . I already said it was not going to be easy.

.NET

Dat sm1 is n r/shp doesnt mean d person is hapi there,fallin n love wit sm1 n a r/shp means nothin.if d so calld peson can return ur love ,then he/she has no choice dan 2 break d former.dat is y alot people cheat,marriages are broken.becos alot of ppl are nt hapy where they are.

@ Long One and .NET

Tell me about it guys, thanks for keeping it real.

I truly appreciate your feedback, it's sound counsel.

I only hope I have enough sense to follow through on it, Lord help me.

Can I holla @ you guys on this forum for advice, whenever I'm having man issues? I hope so

Cheers

@ pendo89
WORD. Thanks girl

[size=28pt]It is often childish and foolish to fall in lust with someone who is already in a relationship.

It is not different from saying you are falling in love with someone who is already married.

IT IS THE SIN OF COVETOUSNESS.

What many people mistake for love is nothing but LUST.
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Av been there b4 & she eventually left the other guy to be wt me.
The best thing is to sit him/her down and explain how u feel.
The response will determine ur nxt line of action.

to be sincere i always lose interest immediately i find out the person is in a relationship

sijo01 re u in luv with me already

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