armyofone:
■ Make everyone keep p.r.i c.k for inside pant. OYO if you bring pricking instrument out.

It's not even that. I mean one can still have all the sex one wants without worrying so long as one uses protection. In this day and age, this is common knowledge. These people refuse to use protection, but then many have the audacity to blame the government for ruining the country. OP is here crying out that the problem he consciously created by his own irresponsibility is killing him completely as if it is about him when there are 5 innocent souls who have probably had their lives made miserable by his blatant disregard for human life.

Op, now, you need to be thinking about the way forward. No allow overthinking or depression kpai you.

Get your wife something to do if she's doing nothing at the moment.

Hustle hard. Use your free time to learn any skill in your area of interest.

That your in-law too, needs to be something doing to assist the family. If he/she has none at the moment, get him/her or ask him/her to get him/herself one. He/she needs to be productive and not be an extra burden on you.

When next you want to meet your wife, pls use something. By now, you guys should be on family planning.

Be prayerful. This is the time for you to draw closer to God like never before. Cry out to God for help. He's the only One that can truly help you.

Your children for now, should be in public school until things improve and get better for you, which I know they will.

So don't give up!

Others

I must also commend you op, you try. That means you probably got married early, which most nlanders have failed to point out. You try joor! But pls, take caution, and don't bring another child into this world again. The ones you have are okay.

I pray the Lord send you help from Zion shortly. It is well.

Shalom!

Mozino007:
You suppose to die by hanging for constituting nuisance to the society!

What are you calling nuisance?
You well at all?
People that are mortgaging your future you don't see, you don't criticize
You turn your eyes away because of the left over You are picking to survive.
Nonsense.
Nuisance kill you there
Monkey

armyofone:


Make everyone keep p.r.i c.k for inside pant.

OYO if you bring pricking instrument out.

hmmm! It's well oh.
Konji go kill man pikin be dat.

Microwhy:

Its more easier for a comfortable family to think about family planning than for a poor or struggling couple to think about such....
Its what its and can't blame him too much..
Subconsciously, the poor or struggling couple equate children to money/wealth. That's why its easy to see a struggling man having more children than a comfortable man.

please, explain more on the bolded.

Tonytonex:
please, explain more on the bolded.

It means he believes poor folks are imbe-ciles that should not be expected to properly reason their existence by themselves hence the reason why he keeps thinking they aren't to be held responsible for even this kind of wickedness.

Gerrard59:


Having children is not a mistake. That is an unintelligent lie you have made. So, he and the wife FVCKED and delivered FIVE CHILDREN?! How is that a mistake? Do people mistakenly have sex? How come he did not mistakenly buy condoms? How come he mistakenly did not do abortion?

You people like condoning irresponsibility!

Whatever it is, its now in the past, with no solution.. Whether we blame or beat him... Doesn't in anyway change the situation be found himself now... That's what I'm saying

ConfusePoint:
Ranting. Ranting. Ranting.

I have decided to rant out my predicaments on this forum today.

What is the way out of poverty for me?

One inlaw is even living with us, making it 8 in number, all in one room.

This thing don come big pass me.

I know most of you here would blame me for impregnating a woman to give birth to that number of children but then, life is life. It happens like that sometimes.

They say a poor man's prayer is "e go better" but instead of things to get better in Nigeria, everyday things get worse.

Truth is, except I drive myself out of this mess to a better life for me and my children, this poverty that is so stricken will likely be extended to my children, which I really don't want.

No two ways about it except ...

But like a car without tyres, can it move even if it has fuel? Definitely no.

For 4 days now, I sleep outside in an abandoned car because of financial war at home. I can't go back home and I even feel like never to go back there but should I abandon them like that and run away? To where?

When I went to the market the other day with 5k to buy food items for the house, I was crying and talking to myself on my way back because I came back with almost nothing.

Nigeria have succeed to plug life out of poor Nigerians. The poor cannot breathe again. Let's die and go.

Advice: never give birth when you are not financially strong. Unfortunately, I've learned my lesson the hard way.

Life happens.

How do I help this family better than I am trying?

Wishing you the best in all you do.

First of all, blame yourself for your family current predicament. You brought it all upon yourself and family all because you fail to plan, and now you're blaming the government, is it the government that told you to be giving birth without planning for your children?? We all know things are hand now, but you have to be sensitive and plan ahead. How do you expect 48k to cater for the wellbeing of 8 individuals? Is not possible.

One of the major principles of success is to take 100% responsibility of your actions. So if you want to move forward stop the blame game, strategise and plan with your wife on how to change your financial situation around, if is for you to start saving no matter how little do it. If is to start a side hustle aside your salary work, do it. This is the time to put your brain to work and stop blaming Tinubu because he will not help you. And Dont ever think of running away from your family.


Goodluck sir.

teekay213:
how do I send a DM?

Just sent you one. Please reply.

abba190:
u guys are always against having kids the west has succeeded on brainwashing u

Shebi he has decided not to listen to the 'West' and has many children.

And he has opened a lamentations thread for himself.

I know there is no point engaging you; your posts on this thread has shown you are not capable to think properly on this topic.

Tonytonex:
hmmm! It's well oh.
Konji go kill man pikin be dat.

Konji doesn't kill. Just when the thought of konji comes to mind, kill it by switching the thoughts to empty bank account, no food to eat, no money for travel and vacations, zero job, hopping on motorcycle instead of driving your own car etc

The fear of feeling the skin is the beginning of wisdom.

armyofone:


Konji doesn't kill. Just when the thought of konji comes to mind, kill it by switching the thoughts to empty bank account, no food to eat, no money for travel and vacations, zero job, hopping on motorcycle instead of driving your own car etc

The fear of feeling the skin is the beginning of wisdom.

you are very correct.
It's like you're a reader.

Though, I don't understand the bolded.

Tonytonex:
you are very correct.
It's like you're a reader.

Though, I don't understand the bolded.

Lol ! Abeg o don't let GloriousGbola catch me talking

Kobojunkie:
It's not even that. I mean one can still have all the sex one wants without worrying so long as one uses protection. In this day and age, this is common knowledge. These people refuse to use protection, but then many have the audacity to blame the government for ruining the country. OP is here crying out that the problem he consciously created by his own irresponsibility is killing him completely as if it is about him when there are 5 innocent souls who have probably had their lives made miserable by his blatant disregard for human life.

The fear of skin to skin is the beginning of wisdom
There should be platforms for condom distribution.

armyofone:


Lol ! Abeg o don't let GloriousGbola catch me talking

who is that?
And why

MichaelSokoto:

wanna knw how?

You're yet to explain

Mozino007:
You suppose to die by hanging for constituting nuisance to the society!

Truth is bitter
Na you go die