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Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by omooba969(m): 8:02pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
okoroemeka: The only way to overcome your trauma is to have more smelly pussies in your life. |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by omooba969(m): 8:04pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
CandidAdmin: It's normal breh, you only need to work on your confidence...daz all. 4 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by 6ixT8: 8:12pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
The trauma of growing up and seeing pregnancy as a social taboo, no thanks to the neighborhood where my mom had talk with disgust about the prevalence of baby mamas and wedlock pregnancy... All these made me fear sex and h@ve a dividend though on seeing a celebrated pregnancies. 3 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Faithy04: 8:22pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
Almost the same case but difference is I choose not to be making by myself as a personal decision 1 Like |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Bluezy13(m): 8:30pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Hmmm... |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Johel(m): 8:48pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
Dimaya: Hmmm...bro..many matters o...but I thank God for where I am now, still moving. |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by t2luv1: 8:52pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
Well, my wife of 25 yrs, here in the USA yeap 25 years !!! always says I don't know how to be romantic. My answer has always been the same. I am a product of my environment my late Dad was married to four women at the same time. and not once did I ever see him being romantic. I am an Ijebu man being romantic is something I was never taught. I was taught how to be a man, take care of my family, my children, and be responsible. What could be more romantic than that !!! 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by LivingSage: 8:53pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
We're thesame. It helps in shaping our life, though sometimes I feel sad of being an introvert Aaaaarghmed: |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by FRANKOSKI(m): 8:56pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
Aaaaarghmed: NNAA WE ARE SAME OOOO ! U need to see the goosebumps as I'm reading this |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:56pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
Bluezy13: Hmmmm? |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by liamjakes247: 9:03pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
My dad a deeper life man that’ll beat me to pulp for watching tv or letting my younger brother watch tV in the neighbors house. He wouldn’t listen to me one bit, always reporting my stubbornness to youth leader. That till date makes me hate deeperlife 4 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by annayawchee: 9:16pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
I wish I never had those traumas... I can't keep relationship for too long.. I either zone out of it or put an end to it. I can't express love. I'm just cold and rigid to the word Love. To me love is just a mirage. 9 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by uuzba(m): 9:18pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
ideamonster:In a very short period, Nigeria has turned from what we thought it would be into whatever shit is happening now. People are confused and demoralised. 4 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Zxcvbnmghtr: 9:19pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
"Am traumatized" Said Mmesoma the fraudulent JAMB girl. Lol 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by uuzba(m): 9:23pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
CandidAdmin:You don't have much money and you a good job. You're unable to promise the girl heaven and earth. And you feel she will look down on you when she finds this out. This is why you are shy. You have to work on yourself. Live truthfully and stop trying to impress anybody. The girl that is normal headed will fall for you. 2 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by okoroemeka(m): 9:28pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
omooba969:however sarcastic your comment sounds but honestly it is the truth |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by uuzba(m): 9:31pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
sunsweet33:Unfortunately I never experience this. Neither did any of my friends all through my childhood. So are we normal Africans? I won't pretend that I don't know parents used to beat children. But that was never in my environment, here in all the places I lived in Nigeria. I guess it's just a different lifestyle. What I experienced, was being beaten by sadistic senior boys in boarding house in school. I never understood why they did this. But after so many years pondering, I guess they either copied each other, or some of them were children of police or soldiers who came from barracks and were regularly beaten at home by their frustrated military parents. So they carried the violence over to school. 6 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by QueenDima47(f): 9:33pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
My childhood trauma affected me negatively. My parents never cared to know what I wanted And how they will help me. I talk to myself all the time. Thinking all the time. I have no confidence in my self. But God is my helper. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by WantsandMore: 9:34pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
BigDawsNet:E be like you and Elon Musk dey on thesame page 2 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by paix(m): 9:46pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
No trauma, but rather shy. I was a handsome boy and girls always flung themselves on me, even those that senior me. As a result I grew up to be a shy person. That has affected me seriously, I started isolating myself from people. As it is, I don't know if am an introvert or just shy. 3 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Offpointng: 9:54pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
Emmaomotob: This is deep bro. Very deep 2 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Bluezy13(m): 10:02pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl: What can I say ? You said you are: (1) Unemotional, never fun seeking which I have observed in a little while that sometimes you try too, but undefined insecurities will not allow you to. (2) Melancholic, always sad and rigid but I do not know if anything has changed over the years. Also you sought to know: (1) what "submission" in marriage means exactly. (2) marriage advice one would give one's younger self. In addition, you advised: (1) Men to stop setting unnecessary standards that they will never meet. (2) That simps make better husbands. I quote _"In my few years of being in the dating pool, I have realised that SIMPS are the best species of men to date and as well, get married to."_ You recently added that you are looking for a young, dark skinned wealthy Igbo man for marriage. This came after you previously indicated that you would be deactivating your account soon. The above put together made me wonder the real personality behind your name while maintaining my distance. Now, I guess your comment in this post about having Daddy issues while growing up sums everything up. Although I wish to add a view, yet in order to not start an inferno I may not be disposed to quench, I simply displayed "Hmmm..." Hope we are good. |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by TradingGod: 10:10pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
CuriousStudent: Well said I had this mindset growing up but thanks be to God, I have overcome it When growing up, my elders wanted me to be like how they wanted me to be, so now I'm grown up I want others to be as I want them to be and if they are not like how I want them to be, I will become angry and frustrated 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:28pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
Bluezy13: Lol. You are so delusional. |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by OKOSISIBF: 11:12pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
CuriousStudent:brother I don't know you but you deserve one best alcohol drink 4 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by purples25(f): 11:17pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
CuriousStudent: Your post is just perfect. Said so many things I can relate to. 2 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by purples25(f): 11:32pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
otherway: So sorry about what you're going through. You should see a psychologist. You need to heal. 2 Likes |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by GabrielYulaw(m): 12:32am On Jul 29, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl: And there I was daydreaming about you calling me "zaddy" and tugging on my beard like it's attached to a pinata |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by GabrielYulaw(m): 12:34am On Jul 29, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl: The abandonment trauma thing scares me. Far as I can see, the only way to deal with it is to stop caring and feeling. But once you do that, you risk permanently turning into an unfeeling robot. And I am undecided if that's such a bad thing or not. |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by GabrielYulaw(m): 12:48am On Jul 29, 2023 |
CuriousStudent: There are lots of mentally ill people in this country and the vast majority do not even know how sick they are and how it fdvks them up so much. Everything in this country is fked and it all began with our parents and possibly their grandparents too. Lots of Nigerians have been physically, emotionally and sexually abused as kids and young adults by people in their family and that kind of thing can mess up so many things. The problem is that this kind of thing is recognized in the Western world and people are encouraged to visit therapists to resolve issues and heal. Here though, everyone insists they turned out fine regardless of how much they were abused as kids and then turn around to perform the same abuse they were victims of on their own kids. Damn! Growing up, my dad was mostly okay. But he had severe anger issues. From him I learned it was okay to shout, throw things and be violent when angry. That a22hat punched me in the eye once because he saw me reading in front of a TV and had repeatedly told me that would damage my eyesight. Apparently, for him it was better to punch the 12-year old me in the eye and risk rupturing the eyeball than to let me read in front of a TV and risk my getting myopia I have nothing to do with my old man these days and we don't speak. I have also learned self control and think of anger as a sign of weakness. It takes a lot to anger me these days. But I still have anger issues and because of that I probably will not have kids. And that's the fundamental way I am different from my old man who probably got beaten to bits by his old man. Sure, I could easily marry and start having kids, but what if I start needlessly beating and abusing them like my old man did? That would be so fcked up. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Bluezy13(m): 12:49am On Jul 29, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Perhaps. |
Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by Tundex911: 12:52am On Jul 29, 2023 |
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