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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by BabaIbo: 2:12pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Marriage matters too deep... I am currently on one self, they are prepping to question and do findings for me about the lady(and her family line). 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by hammerT: 2:17pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
pansophist: ALREADY TOLD YOU, BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT PREPARED TO LEARN. I SAID THAT EXACT THING NUMERIOUS TIMES ON THIS PLATFORM. I WANTED YOU TO HEAR IT FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY IN AFRICA. |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by niri(m): 2:22pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Macphenson:I thought all the kings in Igbo land came together some years ago to abolish the OSU cast system 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Syphax(m): 2:23pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Blaze14k: Your mother doesn't know anything because the Osu or caste system isn't practiced in Ohafia and other part of old Bende. Ohafia people don't even know what Osu is. She doesn't want you to marry the girl ao she's using that as an excuse 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Ewedegubbler: 2:24pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
I’m from Anambra. Nothing like Osu in our place. If u try am u go see pepper |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by hammerT: 2:26pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Ewedegubbler: JUST SAY YOUR GENERATION DONT KNOW. IF YOU LIKE GO AND ASK YOUR PARENTS AND YOU WILL FIND OUT. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by niri(m): 2:26pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
As history may have it, the Osu Caste System has been abolished on 28 December 2018 in a ceremony conducted in Nri, the acclaimed ancestral home of the Igbo nation, in Anaocha local government area of Anambra State. The title of the abolition ceremony was “Nigeria: Osu Caste System in Igboland Ends Today.”[13] Also on 7 April 2021, another abolition ceremony took place in Nsukka, Enugu as 119 villages in the nine autonomous communities in Nsukka town, Nsukka Local Government Area of Enugu State, gathered to eradicate the Osu Caste System in their communities.[14] Blaze14k: 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by hammerT: 2:31pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
niri: THEY NEED A PUBLIC HOLIDAY TO DRIVE HOME THE MESSAGE. A SPECIAL DAY RESERVED ALL THE COMMUNITIES EZE MUST REPLICATE EZE NRI. |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by ArsenWinner: 2:33pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Mum knows better |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Alonso91(m): 2:42pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Persephone1: So,you be Yoruba? 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by TheBillyonaire: 2:47pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
In essence, according to your Igbo culture, all human beings were not created equal. Interesting read. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by coputa(m): 2:50pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Blaze14k:Don't be smarter than your shadow.Take their advice,in most cases those older than you see farther especially your parents 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by charlsecy(m): 2:57pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Jman06:I think your description is very, very off point. OSU, to the best of my knowledge, were offenders who were found guilty of great abominations and cast away so as to avoid the anger of the earth Deity and to prevent the spread of abomination among the citizens of the state. @azraeljaheel 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by chris51(f): 2:57pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
In this 2023, how can anyone be talking about OSI? Nonsense. If they have something against the girl, fine but her being from a certain area is not good enough reason to reject her. It's not fair. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by chris51(f): 2:57pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Yankiss(m): 3:01pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Blaze14k:Don't be naive. Everyone in a given place cannot be osu. It's not the Igbo concept. That the late dad belonged to Eze's cabinet is another pointer to the fact that they are not osu, unless the said community has discarded osu system entirely. My part of Igbo land doesnt know or practice osu and diala system. It's archaic and outdated. If you truly love that girl and you know she is your chosen and u are cool with her, go ahead and marry her. I am a traditional ruler. 7 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Jman06(m): 3:02pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Skankamola:Well, in the locality I'm familiar with, it's more about migration and local politics. Some people who still hold on to the practice are political opportunists who think that the practice would confer some kind of political advantage on them. But with modernity, many people are becoming wiser and politics in democratic settings does not really go by such practices because nothing is black or white in politics. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by stevups(m): 3:03pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Don't fight alone |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Brandiebird: 3:03pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
chris51: Why do you ALWAYS quote your own comments? |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by NigerianAngelo(m): 3:06pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Blaze14k: 1. Pray Our Father three times everyday for 30 days for guidance. If you are a Catholic, you could pray the Litany to the Sacred Heart everyday for thirty days. God will lead you to the better. That is the main point you should gather from the "No". |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Jman06(m): 3:07pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
deltateam:I explained it the way it relates to my locality and I believe that same reasons contribute largely if not the sole driving force for the practice in other Igbo states. It is just about some people trying to take political advantage of others! Greediness and selfishness of humans! 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Jman06(m): 3:12pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
charlsecy:That is not the case! The whole thing is the greediness of humans at play! |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by fineberry(m): 3:13pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Matters of the heart To get a good girl to marry, wahala To have her people accept you whole heartedly wahala To have your people accept her in return as you .(Like Op people) ....wahala For the society to accept both of you base on your capacity to do wedding ceremony as your power Reach...wahala To meet church standard nd engagement right...wahala To cope after wedding with someone you thought you new ...wahala To carry marriage responsibility in this kind of country like 9ja...wahala To satisfy her/him in bed base on sexual experience nd know-how...wahala. To carry your spouse family responsibilities (Viz-a-viz).....wahala Wahala no dey finish. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by SLOVFO(m): 3:16pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Ikennaford: Stop gloating in your ignorance. What do you know about Arochukwu LGA, Arochukwu and the Aros? You ignorant folks from Imo state, that have not travelled outside Owerri will keep saying what you know not . Your ancestors travelled far to Arochukwu to seek counsel from the oracle and the elders...your ancestors did everything to identify with the Aros. Go and ask your people that bear the name Nwachukwu how the came about the name. Who are you in the olden days to stand shoulder to shoulder with an Aro man? If not for modernization you would have been sold into slavery by your people for this rubbish you have just said. Pardon me if you feel belittle or insulted by my response...but there is need for you to be corrected before you pass your ignorance and bias to your children. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by SLOVFO(m): 3:34pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Blaze14k: I suspect that the OP must be from the Orlu zone of Imo state. Imo state people are generally obsessed with this Osu thing. Una carry am for head like gala. I have had such an experience first hand. It always starts with the OSU thing...the simple truth is that your mother doesn't want you to marry that lady for reasons best known to her. Your mum may not like (and accept) the culture of Ohafia people. And of course, their culture differs from that of the place where you are coming from. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by CashVessel(m): 3:35pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Please did you speak to any elderly MALE relative about this matter? If you haven't, please find one or two and ask for advice. Women are generally sold out to a general opinion. Once they believe or.are told something by someone they trust, they just swallow it hook line and sinker. If she's from the Eze in Council family, shes not.likely to be Osu. My greatest advice to you will be to seek God's face in all these. If.God says she's yours, nothing anyone fit do for.the matter. Take some time out to fast and pray, and He will answer you.[1quote author=talented321 post=125235531]Your mama and the elders see more than u see'' you are in love why they are not'' you want to please ur girl why they are not'' Don't play with it whenever ur parents bring up issues like this'' many of them are talking from experience''[/quote] |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by phemmyfour: 3:47pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Blaze14k:It's one of those mumu traditions that should have been abolished in igboland by now. If you marry her, heaven will not fall |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by talented321: 4:06pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Normal'' everything has good and bad because some times even ur own parents are also fighting against u'' Solsix: |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Blaze14k: 4:21pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
SLOVFO: You are very much accurate with ur write up. Funny thing is she want me to marry someone that studied medicine. And it should be her choice which I strongly reject as well. So right now it's a deadlock between us 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Karnice600: 4:23pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Blaze14k:At least Western colonization did us great good in this regard. For the foolish guys who “know their history” and trade blames like goods and services. |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Ed12(m): 4:39pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Listen to your mum |
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Ed12(m): 4:41pm On Aug 21, 2023 |
Listen to your mum |
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