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Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by brainycaleb(m): 11:47pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Retract your offer, go for someone you've never known before . She will F**k you up! Big time bro... its just a matter of time like under 6 years. |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Nonywendy(m): 11:48pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
beekind:U r arrogant, pompous, and proud. See on the ground level soon 4 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Nonywendy(m): 11:50pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
beekind:Emotion Kee u there 4 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by cowmanager2000: 12:09am On Aug 30, 2023 |
beekind: Unfortunately your emphasis of being a 'dual citizen' will ends you up in the hands of 'wrong woman's If really you looking for good wife, you don't 'dance a carrot' before her.you allow her to live you for whom you are* of course 'your cv' you put up will not earn you a 'good' wife [sorry for telling you the hard truth] * You perspectives about others on a scale of 10 is a reflection of yourself' * You have a very wrong notion about Nigeria girls maybe you stay too long with social media Not all ladies dance for indomie [that's not to say] * You need a good wife? You keep your 'dual citizenship' to urself' a lady that will love you don't care.. she will just love you for who you are. *Apply to a 'good' restaurant as a cleaner/cook or whatever or wherever [maybe] in a well located area of your city [you are on mission] * then open your eyes and pray .. the rest will be history [I hope you read] 3 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by chocboi78(m): 12:15am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Persephone1:kuvukiland gat me rolling on the floor๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ 2 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by NEZON(m): 12:22am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Goods girls are many n I have many as free ok |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Beey(f): 12:58am On Aug 30, 2023 |
beekind:With all due respect, you are wicked. So you want children but donโt want commitment? Use & dump seems to be your modus operandi. I wonder how youโd feel if someone gave your daughter such options. So because of some citizenship, you now want to treat people like shit because Nigerian girls are immoral. Bullsh!t !!! You are a pervert. Anyone who can sit & plot that kind of evil against someoneโs daughter, has all the hallmarks of a perv and is to be avoided at all cost. So sheโs good enough to give birth for you, but not good enough to marry? Such write ups give me chest pains. To hell with your 1st class BS. 1st world is not heaven. The disrespect! The nerve! Stop treating women like objects. They deserve some respect! Absolute Rubbish!! Shame on you! 6 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Lessel: 2:10am On Aug 30, 2023 |
AllenSpencer:You are a genius. |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by bdon123(m): 3:05am On Aug 30, 2023 |
beekind:Yes if my sistet is a single mother n someone gives her this condition, i will advice her to take it.At least hes been honest,instead of promising marriage knowing full well he doesnt plan to do it. |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Brandiebird: 3:37am On Aug 30, 2023 |
This is a clear example of: The oppressed are most likely to oppress. People like op is everything wrong with humanity. ๐คฎ๐คฎ๐คฎ 6 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Microwhy: 4:39am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Sangoamadioha1:Don't mind the idiot and the mod that bring that rubbish to front page 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by bauer09(m): 4:42am On Aug 30, 2023 |
[quote author=beekind post=125432833]I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country. I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children. Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed. I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery. People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process. What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform. Solution: I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother. So I gave her a choice. Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future. Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future. She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer. If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?[/too much pride] 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by gabbytabby: 5:29am On Aug 30, 2023 |
You are already in your predicament taking on 2 peoples job to raise a child by yourself so let me come into your life, compound your problems in an horseshit deal which only lets you know how much of a narcissist and an ao I am. You no dey fear this is an invitation to be poisoned or got rid of at some point. Thank your mother and your chi you brought this here if at all true as you really are full of it. For your mothers sake please distance yourself from that ex as she done see you finish. Help her with whatever you can and keep it moving. You really should not be thinking like this or else you are a danger to yourself. Come off your high horse. how beekind: 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by kkins25(m): 6:01am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Kriss216:๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by kkins25(m): 6:06am On Aug 30, 2023 |
It surprises that women and men follow bash you oh.. ๐.. Is Nairaland changing for the better? it's in the west they have surrogate mothers, so i dont understand why they want to cut your head. Men and women often come home to marry, go tiktok and see people queuing for Nigerian love.. so, i know the market is tuff for you guys.. ehyaa๐คฃ. Men that don't allow thier wives achieve anything follow bash u.. ๐ ๐๐ ๐ ๐... the funniest part.. |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by amorprincesa: 6:37am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Ego playing out... I am quite surprised that nairaland men did not support your statement. Wow! Just wow! Could this be changing times You say Nigerians are currently worse than the west sexually. I hear you! With all those perverted lifestyle. The evil in the world today is not secluded to a particular continent. If the western world is better like you said, why not pick your baby mama from their mist? Or you scared of child support billing? So you decided to come to Nigeria to see if you can get a gullible woman to feed your narcissist behaviour. If the lady decides to accept this trash of a proposal, I pity her! Pride might be your downfall... And please change that your moniker to bee-evil! 6 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by WonderMan76: 7:21am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Beosten: You are now a what? 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by DIntegrity: 7:54am On Aug 30, 2023 |
beekind: Bro, there's no excuse There are virtuous ladies out there . It depends on where you're looking! Also, it's also possible that your lust (bias) may have been the major reason you haven't found the right person. Don't make it seem like you don't have any other options. Who you marry is greatly dependent on your level of understanding and perception.. it's solely your responsibility In other words, the fact that you can't find anyone good enough to marry says a whole lot about your person! 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Beosten(m): 8:02am On Aug 30, 2023 |
WonderMan76: You heard me right. I'm somewhat popular too. |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by KATERINA80: 8:23am On Aug 30, 2023 |
This is Naija ooo, anything fit happen because the girl fit agree to that your deal but later lock you down, the only language you may understand is marriage and relocation, the choice is yours sha because he who goes to equity must go with clean hand or he who want equity must do equity (bros your condition bend no be for here) and poverty may push her to accept because if she is very okay in terms of finance, she will take your proposal as an insult and won't even need time to consider it. |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by ramonchang(m): 9:12am On Aug 30, 2023 |
You are going about this matter from a purely logical point of view. You shouldn't, cos practically, nothing is purely logical. What you are asking of her is that she sees you as her palliative. A means in which she gets to move forward in life. Ask yourself what kind of life you want to have. Do you want to be a tool for others (of course you get what you want too) or you want to have real relationships with you partner ( and still get what you want!) |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by binswoli: 9:19am On Aug 30, 2023 |
beekind: Hmmm. . . I like this guy, the reason was that he came with pure and clear intention, nothing to hide, he said he might not marry her, of course because something might occur in the future, remember 2moro is pregnant. I like you bro...surely she will give you a positive feedback. |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by WonderMan76: 9:34am On Aug 30, 2023 |
Beosten: Okay. What can you cure? |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Powersurge: 9:59am On Aug 30, 2023 |
beekind: I think you did the right thing. But this is just and oral discussion. "You go explain tire for court ". And apart from the promise of "your children" having dual citizen, ensure she has good life. I am personally weary of single mothers. But the useless girl wey full street now worse |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by neyobills: 10:04am On Aug 30, 2023 |
AlphaHakimi: The mentality of your likes about single mothers is surprising to me,single mothers are people with flesh and blood like you,they might have made mistakes,everyone does,however their kids are also blessings in the disguise if properly nurtured,that single mother you are saying is equivalent to a lunatic yen yen yen might be the mother of a Nobel prize winner or a billionaire tomorrow,there are lots of single mothers I know doing very well financially that they might not even care to get married again afterall they have kids already just get a toy boy to play and enjoy life. 2 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by AlphaHakimi: 11:18am On Aug 30, 2023 |
neyobills: Children should be birthed within the confines of marriage. Stop advocating for rubbish. I'm not attacking the single mothers themselves. I'm only against the act of birthing children outside marriage. ERROR HAS NO RIGHT, BUT THE MAN/WOMAN IN ERROR HAS SOME RIGHT. With this your mentality, young girls will feel that birthing children outside marriage is good. Stop premarital sex. Stop accepting money or financial aid from men. Stay stay chaste until you get married. A large majority of the dysfunctional people you see today lack the presence of either parents while growing up. If you like, encourage your sister's or daughters to become single mothers and then tell them that the kids may likely become noble prize winners tomorrow. 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by bankwana(m): 12:04pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
so with all the years that you've spent in ur "first world country" you don't find one girl/lady to make such deal with? if u say that u really and truly love her, why did u dump her in the first place? why make such outrageous deal with her if it's true that u love her? how does having a dual citizenship guarantee a better life or future for an individual? what will you do if the father of ur "would be adopted kid" later come for him/her? 2 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by neyobills: 12:12pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
AlphaHakimi: Single mothers are also victims of irresponsible men but your bias has only laid the blame on the single mothers Children should be birthed in the confines of marriage agreed guys should either abstain or use protection same goes for ladies as well. My mentality is not to encourage single mothers and not stigmatize them either,do u realize there are single mothers who deliberately want to be single mothers,they canโt stand the rigors of marriage but just want to have kids then play around,personally I donโt like it however itโs their choice and life,only feel for the kids involved. However there are also some ladies that are victims of irresponsible men who took advantage of their emotions or naivety so the blame goes to both partners.single fathers too should share part of the blame,you kept ranting about single mothers in your first post without going hard on the irresponsible guys too. If u like encourage your sons to stigmatize single mothers without teaching them to be responsible men and see if winning a Nobel prize would ever come into fruition. 2 Likes |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by donjazzet: 1:06pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Ibime: The very perfect response to that. Psychotic malignant narcissism. I pity any lady around that guy. Just like seankafor. 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Loisemm2(f): 3:01pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
beekind , you have to be careful with your conditions so you don't end up a single man at 50/60 desperately looking for a lady who will be willing to marry him. It happens. I know someone who this happened to because of this same seeking for fertility/ children matter. Nothing is guaranteed. Your best bet is to keep seeking for a girl of good character and marry her. Leave all these conditions of fertility test or getting pregnant with two kids aside. Sometimes, even virgins may have delay in child bearing. If you re finding it hard to find a girl of good character, ask your family or friends to recommend a virtuous lady they know and can vouch for. There are still good girls out there. Search well. Stop with the conditions. True love is not so conditional. What if she births two kids for you, you marry her and She becomes a thorn in the flesh to you and your family as payback? Marry her if you want to and if she's good before She births more kids which isn't even guaranteed. 1 Like |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Henrypraise: 6:18pm On Aug 30, 2023 |
Westerhoffe: As proud as he sounds, that's the taught process of many Nigerian females, just because a man is saying it out loud is the reason you are bringing his sister's into it. I am sure his sisters are not single mothers also. Single mother's made choices just as everyone of us and we must continually live with the consequences of our choices... The single mom has a choice to make... I am sure she also have a guy down her street asking her out but he probably is a bolt driver, and she will weigh her choices and make a decision base on what suits her present and her future. . |
Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Beosten(m): 3:54am On Aug 31, 2023 |
WonderMan76: Any sickness or disease which resulted from spiritual attacks. But when a sickness or disease is from a natural cause, the gods can still tell the sufferer what to do to be healed or manage it with ease. |
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