Ololade4:



Reasonable answer so far..

According to what I have observed so far with her, your input seems to be accurate with the whole thing..

folake4u:


Tell him "Wrap it up niggâ".

Persephone1:
I do hope you intend to make your point tonight. Tomorrow is Monday, I may not be chanced for Nl engagements.

Persephone1:


No time to be typing in foreign language, he should make his point clear and brief.

Lol Layi! One of my favorite TikToker . Crazy dude with long legs.

doggedfighter:




Trouble maker !

ZIMDRILL:
the only thing a registered marriage would stop is marrying before divorcing She has no future plans with you and having a registered marriage with you will stop her marrying someone else

pocohantas:


Hahahahaha! My wife this, my wife that.
His brothers will na be like

"Bro, una done marry the good ones leave olosho for us."
"Does your wife have a sister?"
"Marry woman wey love you pass as you love her"

---

Werey!!! Marry that one wey you done hook for almost 7 years first. Useless padlock boyfriend!!

pocohantas:
I love that girl.



I hope other ladies can read and learn. The reason some men claim they don't want marriage or they have more to lose is because women carry it for head. Always fighting tooth and nail for (registry) marriage. So they sit back and allow you do all the work while acting like they did you a favour marrying you. Have you ever considered the fact that you would be the one needing to escape from an evil man in record time? Breaking head over a man's property even at the expense of your life.

This OP claims it favours women more but he is restless because he met a woman who has mastered her emotions. He wishes she were chasing him upandan for a legal wedding and flying to catch ring. He is bothered because he doesn't hold all the ACES.

Isn't this the kinda arrangement they claim to want online? #TEAMBABYMAMA? Why is OP worried and why the responses from his fellow men above?

Men want this marriage as much as you do if not more. If they hated marriage so much, they wouldn't be open to polygamy or rushing to marry another wife after a divorce or death of the first wife. No man keeps two (polygamy), even four of what he doesn't benefit from. They benefit heavily from marriage. In fact, after tasting marriage, they find it hard to stay alone again. Unlike women who would rather enjoy companionship without commitment.

Stop fighting these men over registry. Tell him you don't want. Let him be the one to create thread and beg you to sign those lines. Stop begging them to see the usefulness in marriage. Stop answering stupid NL questions like "what can you offer a man?" He has the option of remaining single or marrying a fellow man or new yam.

You are the prize.
If he isn't giving you same energy, disembark.

pocohantas:


He doesn't want to be favoured.
E done see FAVOUR come dey run.

Mindlog:


Bragging about being the cause of your fiancée's emotional trauma is a waving red flag and a clear sign of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

You just reminded me of an undergraduate topic in my Marriage and Family Therapy course: Dating a Narcissist.

Rooneyboy:


I used to think u were smart, but what u just typed now proves otherwise.

A man going into court marriage has more to gain than a lady

Marriage GENERALLY is pure scam, the man has nothing to benefit from it other than having kids which he can easily get outside from random people.

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

pocohantas:


Normal na. Even for Bible, David killed Uriah just because e wan collect Bathsheba. Trojan war was fought because of woman. Men have destroyed nations for woman.

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

izonborn098:
Not necessary' na una day... Op no evidence' how i wish they increase the vawulence more than this... I don't know what make u forcing urself on a single mom with few years to menopause.. Even single mom dey reject u. Sorry bro.......

cococandy:
How coincidental. This was the sermon in church today.

By the way I dey suspect my pastor. That guy is a low key feminist

pocohantas:
I love that girl.



I hope other ladies can read and learn. The reason some men claim they don't want marriage or they have more to lose is because women carry it for head. Always fighting tooth and nail for (registry) marriage. So they sit back and allow you do all the work while acting like they did you a favour marrying you. Have you ever considered the fact that you would be the one needing to escape from an evil man in record time? Breaking head over a man's property even at the expense of your life.

This OP claims it favours women more but he is restless because he met a woman who has mastered her emotions. He wishes she were chasing him upandan for a legal wedding and flying to catch ring. He is bothered because he doesn't hold all the ACES.

Isn't this the kinda arrangement they claim to want online? #TEAMBABYMAMA? Why is OP worried and why the responses from his fellow men above?

Men want this marriage as much as you do if not more. If they hated marriage so much, they wouldn't be open to polygamy or rushing to marry another wife after a divorce or death of the first wife. No man keeps two (polygamy), even four of what he doesn't benefit from. They benefit heavily from marriage. In fact, after tasting marriage, they find it hard to stay alone again. Unlike women who would rather enjoy companionship without commitment.

Stop fighting these men over registry. Tell him you don't want. Let him be the one to create thread and beg you to sign those lines. Stop begging them to see the usefulness in marriage. Stop answering stupid NL questions like "what can you offer a man?" He has the option of remaining single or marrying a fellow man or new yam.

You are the prize.
If he isn't giving you same energy, disembark.

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

pocohantas:
I love that girl.



I hope other ladies can read and learn. The reason some men claim they don't want marriage or they have more to lose is because women carry it for head. Always fighting tooth and nail for (registry) marriage. So they sit back and allow you do all the work while acting like they did you a favour marrying you. Have you ever considered the fact that you would be the one needing to escape from an evil man in record time? Breaking head over a man's property even at the expense of your life.

This OP claims it favours women more but he is restless because he met a woman who has mastered her emotions. He wishes she were chasing him upandan for a legal wedding and flying to catch ring. He is bothered because he doesn't hold all the ACES.

Isn't this the kinda arrangement they claim to want online? #TEAMBABYMAMA? Why is OP worried and why the responses from his fellow men above?

Men want this marriage as much as you do if not more. If they hated marriage so much, they wouldn't be open to polygamy or rushing to marry another wife after a divorce or death of the first wife. No man keeps two (polygamy), even four of what he doesn't benefit from. They benefit heavily from marriage. In fact, after tasting marriage, they find it hard to stay alone again. Unlike women who would rather enjoy companionship without commitment.

Stop fighting these men over registry. Tell him you don't want. Let him be the one to create thread and beg you to sign those lines. Stop begging them to see the usefulness in marriage. Stop answering stupid NL questions like "what can you offer a man?" He has the option of remaining single or marrying a fellow man or new yam.

You are the prize.
If he isn't giving you same energy, disembark.

Mindlog:


Bragging about being the cause of your fiancée's emotional trauma is a waving red flag and a clear sign of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

You just reminded me of an undergraduate topic in my Marriage and Family Therapy course: Dating a Narcissist.

Ombudsman1:


INSTEAD OF RENDERING MUCH NEEDED ADVICE TO THE OP IN HIS DILEMMA, YOU SUCCEEDED IN TALKING A BUNCH OF BS THAT IS NOT NEEDED.

ANYWAY ITS EITHER YOU YOURSELF YOU BE SINGLE MOTHER, OR YOU SIMPLY CANT COMPREHEND THE FACT THAT SINGLE MOTHER'S NO GET LEVEL.

EXPECTING YOUR RESPONSE

Mindlog:


When has being a single mother become a mental health disorder?

ASK MUM. SHE WILL EXPLAIN MORE TO YOU

CHECK THIS OUT
https://www.nairaland.com/2912248/15-reasons-why-real-men

SINGLE MOTHER'S HAVE LITTLE OR NO CHOICE WHEN IT COMES TO SETTLING DOWN. I DIDN'T MAKE THE RULES, THE SOCIETY DID.

EVEN SINGLE LADIES WITH NO BAGGAGE HAVE IT HARD FINDING A SUITOR THEN RELATE IT TO A SINGLE MUM WITH ONE OR TWO KIDS AS BAGGAGE.

NO SANE MOTHER WILL ADVICE HER SON(S) TO GO FOR SUCH. EVEN YOUR OWN MAMA.
HOME AND ABROAD

ITS A GENERAL THING. IN LIFE, NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLES AND PAINS. YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE BUT TO BE SUCCESSFUL. THATS WHEN PEOPLE WANNA HEAR YOUR STORIES.

AS A YOUNG LADY, IF YOU BECOME CARELESS AND FRIVOLOUS AND END UP GIVING BIRTH TO KIDS OUTTA WEDLOCK, WELCOME TO SINGLE MOTHERHOOD. E DON BE FOR YOU. JUST DEY PLAY

NO ONE CARES IF THE MAN ABANDONED YOU, BUT ARE CONCERNED WITH THE FACT THAT YOU'RE NOW A SINGLE MOTHER AND YOUR VALUE DON REDUCE. NOBODY FORCED YOU TO GO HAVE BARE.BACK SEX. NA YOUR ADVENTURE AND INQUISITIVENESS PUT YOU FOR WHERE YOU DEY

Fountainofyouth:



This guy and connecting everything to psychology 🤣🤣🤣

folake4u:


Tell him "Wrap it up niggâ".

Teespice:


Ewoooo

This woman has killed me with laugh.