Offpointng:


Is that why Jessica moved to Nigeria??

I was surprised my guy's wife moved from the US to Nigeria with her two kids (both whites) I pray she's not making the wrong choice tho

Lotusflowerbomb:
Stop discouraging people because it didn’t work for you. Sit down and compile a list of the reasons why you haven’t been able to Japa and what strategies you can use in making it a success this time around. Goodluck.

Obyino:
If you voted 🗳 for this government and you want to JAPA your plane go crash 💥 in Jesus name!!!!!

Astar007:


US process dey much different and complicated than EU...expect to stay for naija like two years more

wunmi590:


You are 💯 right, one of my friend that her mum is a citizen took her and her brother to Canada, for the past 12years we have graduated, the lady never marry until now, even despite the fact that she has even finished nursing school self...

Her brother that they went there together don marry marry and even divorce self, the guy is now currently single...

Another class mate just went there like 3years ago, when she finished from India, she just came home last month to marry and took her guy there...

Akano5:
@ Mikekan30 was talking about Venturing into Tech...
does everybody has passion for tech, I'm in the same shoes like the OP, I have tried my best to ventures into it but I don't have money to pay for tutorials and get a good Laptop.... you see as bad as it is.

Finding a way to survive everyday in this country

We as humans doesn't have the same destiny neither did we have the same Luck nor did we have the same opportunities -- the list is endless

Some came from a well to do family and that authmatically gives them an edge over the poor ones...


Nobody can tell me I can't survive anywhere in the World I know i will survive

Ge0grapher:
Mehnn guys, I know it's probably only me that feels this way.. I don't consider myself a happy person, I wan commot this country like mad!!
Do you know in the mid night I go on TikTok scrolling through of videos of Nigerians way dey japa (TikTokers in the house would know what I am talking about, when they hear that sound SIKEEE!! Japa japa)

I used to love reading through nairaland Japa threads also but nowadays una way dey commot no dey post am for here again (not cool ).. e get one kan joy way e dey give seeing those pictures of y'all in the plane with your food and sweaters, airports, plane wings, air hostesses, the landing view.. the background.. I don't know if it's weird but I totally love it.

But unfortunately I am coming to terms with reality that I might be stuck in this hell for a long time, cos I no get the facilities to commot at all. In the mean time, Abeg una way dey ball out, try to dey create threads with pictures, make we dey here dey do vivid imagination..
The God way help una go help me too 🙌😀
Japa!!

abba190:
i have a white gf she lives in scotland, she loves me so much but i am not interested about the japa issues i hv seen where she lives its not the kind of place that i can live in, and also i cant go there nd get killed by cold. nigeria is a very nice place to live forget about this japa hokum.

Nbv1:
And who told you people are not depressed abroad. Lots of people here in canada are battling depression. A lot can happen where you are, either their is no much commitment from your end or your time hasn’t just come yet.

I wish I was happier than I thought here in canada , you won’t understand until you come in here.

Astar007:


It's not working for you doesn't mean I'm not telling you the truth...It's Facebook....I've made a fortune from Facebook...Life na luck bro...just continue

gfon:
damn, which kind wahala. Is that after the marriage and everything?

mizz2posh:


I'm also here In Canada, and I'm alot happier and enjoying my life here, don't use your situation to judge how other people's reality will be.

Astar007:


Saving 1m per month for me is a SUCCESSS...

Astar007:


It will be best for you if you try and apply for US Fiance K1 visa if you haven't gotten married already but if you have then you just need to wait for alteast two years or more for processing, thats US way...

Joshvent:


Really, pray, tell, how did you arrive at this conclusion? The fact that l have "turned out" of Nigeria doesn't mean that l am not working and earning. I work with a multinational by day and I have a side gig as a remote restoration estimator with a US company at night. Double stream of income aside my wife's Business.

Disabuse your mind that depression is a poor man's ailment. The bible says that expectation postponed in making the heart sick--proverbs 13:12

Or did you not read the part where I stated that I'm waiting my Australian assessment outcome? Its cost me 962 Australian dollars. Or how else did you imagine l will proceed with the PR visa eventually for a family of 5 that cost 10k Australian dollar?

I simply stopped attending gatherings and engaging in public conversations, restricting myself to wifey and my lil angels.

gfon:
no wahala, come back Boss.

Obierika:


So you can go abi?

Lotusflowerbomb:
Tell us first how you were able to gather funds and japa to America?

Offpointng:


Is that why Jessica moved to Nigeria??

I was surprised my guy's wife moved from the US to Nigeria with her two kids (both whites) I pray she's not making the wrong choice tho

Astar007:



Ur time go come, na so I been dey feel before too, naija really make me hopeless but now I dey Sweden legally

Astar007:


No, came through my white wife

Yaks02:

Abeg
Give me her sister or cousin na
I be good Nigerian

pansophist:


Nigerians still see Canada and the UK and also the US as it was like twenty years ago. They still see the UK like James Bond movies, and the US like nollywood potrays.

France also has joined their league. If you land Paris Central bus station Bercy) for example, the kind of smell and urine, and people sleeping on benches will shock you.

If you walk there at night and act like a JJC, you'll be robbed or maybe stabbed if you prove stubborn. When people point to the decline of the West, things like this are what they saw.

Canada own disappoint me pass because it's a really huge country, with uncountable resources and little population, but the citizens are living like beggars. Na wa

HRtechnique:


I can’t remember when I started following you .
It’s because your posts are often interesting.
Just wanted you to know that.

My question is: In your opinion, how does one acclimatize better and get headway if one immigrates to the UK?

Second, which English speaking European country is the better in your opinion.

HRtechnique:


I can’t remember when I started following you .
It’s because your posts are often interesting.
Just wanted you to know that.

My question is: In your opinion, how does one acclimatize better and get headway if one immigrates to the UK?

Second, which English speaking European country is the better in your opinion.

pansophist:


I have not lived in the UK, so I can't tell you specifically about it. But I'll write generally on succeeding in your new host country, which can equally be applicable to the UK. So here you go.

1. Integration. This is number one. Generally in the UK, it would be easy since you don't need to learn a new language, but linguistic integration is just one slice of the pie.

You also need social integration, so you must understand what your host society considers a good citizen and also, a classy citizen. Then be that person.

Speak the language very well. And if you already speak English, polish it to speak succinctly. Eloquence is the mark of an educated person.

2. Then for social integration, find your taste in the local cuisine, and act like a local. Know politics like who is the city mayor, and have an opinion about something, although avoid controversy. If you're still young, join the gym. It's a perfect place to meet cool guys. Lift weight together, and join a sports club.

For example, I'm in an Adidas running club, and in my city, I'm one of the top runners. You need to see the kind of esteem I get when we meet, because my dedication shines.

3. Then professionally, rise to the top of your career, since this will single handedly make life easy for you. Dating becomes easier, buying a house and establishing oneself becomes easy also.

Doing all these will bring respect to you, you will respect yourself, and you'll feel like home. Racism won't bother you much because even the so called racist can see that you're living a fabulous life.

The inability or unwillingness of lots of African men to integrate is the reason why they suffer abroad. They are stuck with low skill jobs that are muscle-based, that an illiterate deaf and dumb can do.

The top always feels better than the bottom. When one is at the bottom, no matter where you are, life will be miserable. So because many of these brothers can't rise up the social hierarchy, they alleviate their disenfranchisement by, for example, importing a wife.

And that project carries another problem that won't happen to them if they try to integrate. So after he imports a wife, she will come to see that he is a loser in that society, and the "abroad privilege" he had when she was still in Nigeria will be ineffective.

When she starts studying, upgrading herself while the brother carries her responsibility with those low skill jobs, then she becomes established and concludes that he is not good enough for her. Which if he is honest with himself, she is right.

You don't let yourself rot at the expense of lifting someone up. You build yourself as well. Also, you can not tell if she sees you as a ticket out of Naija, or loves you genuinely. Whichever the case, the best strategy is to avoid such risk.

Because even is she loves you genuinely, the new society will change her, and the love for you deactivates later on, and you'll have more to loose, compare to for example, a local you married.

I strongly believe that we have the power to prevent many of the evils that befalls us, if we understand the role we play in it. Because at the end of the day, no woman wants to feel like she is saddled with a loser.

So if you upgrade yourself and integrate properly, you'll go higher and mingle with the upper class of your host country. No point going backward by importing a wife and attempting to live a life you left in your new country.

Not saying some men ain't lucky, but many I have seen are not. I'm referring to men that refuse to upgrade and stuck with low skil jobs. Even if the marriage didn't break, he will be thoroughly emasculated.

In a nutshell, you must do three things. Linguistic integration, social integration, and professional integration. Then it shall be well with you.

About your second question, I don't know. There are only three English speaking countries in Europe. UK, Ireland, and Malta. I haven't lived in any and can't comment.

But if I'll pick from the above, then I'll choose Ireland. Because it's in the EU, and they have this agreement with the UK called the "Good Friday agreement".

It means that as an Irish (which you'll become later on), you can live in the UK unlimitedly like a Brit, and also, you're an EU citizen and live and work and establish anywhere in your EU.

I hope I helped.

pansophist:


I have not lived in the UK, so I can't tell you specifically about it. But I'll write generally on succeeding in your new host country, which can equally be applicable to the UK. So here you go.

1. Integration. This is number one. Generally in the UK, it would be easy since you don't need to learn a new language, but linguistic integration is just one slice of the pie.

You also need social integration, so you must understand what your host society considers a good citizen and also, a classy citizen. Then be that person.

Speak the language very well. And if you already speak English, polish it to speak succinctly. Eloquence is the mark of an educated person.

2. Then for social integration, find your taste in the local cuisine, and act like a local. Know politics like who is the city mayor, and have an opinion about something, although avoid controversy. If you're still young, join the gym. It's a perfect place to meet cool guys. Lift weight together, and join a sports club.

For example, I'm in an Adidas running club, and in my city, I'm one of the top runners. You need to see the kind of esteem I get when we meet, because my dedication shines.

3. Then professionally, rise to the top of your career, since this will single handedly make life easy for you. Dating becomes easier, buying a house and establishing oneself becomes easy also.

Doing all these will bring respect to you, you will respect yourself, and you'll feel like home. Racism won't bother you much because even the so called racist can see that you're living a fabulous life.

The inability or unwillingness of lots of African men to integrate is the reason why they suffer abroad. They are stuck with low skill jobs that are muscle-based, that an illiterate deaf and dumb can do.

The top always feels better than the bottom. When one is at the bottom, no matter where you are, life will be miserable. So because many of these brothers can't rise up the social hierarchy, they alleviate their disenfranchisement by, for example, importing a wife.

And that project carries another problem that won't happen to them if they try to integrate. So after he imports a wife, she will come to see that he is a loser in that society, and the "abroad privilege" he had when she was still in Nigeria will be ineffective.

When she starts studying, upgrading herself while the brother carries her responsibility with those low skill jobs, then she becomes established and concludes that he is not good enough for her. Which if he is honest with himself, she is right.

You don't let yourself rot at the expense of lifting someone up. You build yourself as well. Also, you can not tell if she sees you as a ticket out of Naija, or loves you genuinely. Whichever the case, the best strategy is to avoid such risk.

Because even is she loves you genuinely, the new society will change her, and the love for you deactivates later on, and you'll have more to loose, compare to for example, a local you married.

I strongly believe that we have the power to prevent many of the evils that befalls us, if we understand the role we play in it. Because at the end of the day, no woman wants to feel like she is saddled with a loser.

So if you upgrade yourself and integrate properly, you'll go higher and mingle with the upper class of your host country. No point going backward by importing a wife and attempting to live a life you left in your new country.

Not saying some men ain't lucky, but many I have seen are not. I'm referring to men that refuse to upgrade and stuck with low skil jobs. Even if the marriage didn't break, he will be thoroughly emasculated.

In a nutshell, you must do three things. Linguistic integration, social integration, and professional integration. Then it shall be well with you.

About your second question, I don't know. There are only three English speaking countries in Europe. UK, Ireland, and Malta. I haven't lived in any and can't comment.

But if I'll pick from the above, then I'll choose Ireland. Because it's in the EU, and they have this agreement with the UK called the "Good Friday agreement".

It means that as an Irish (which you'll become later on), you can live in the UK unlimitedly like a Brit, and also, you're an EU citizen and live and work and establish anywhere in your EU.

I hope I helped.

abba190:
i have a white gf she lives in scotland, she loves me so much but i am not interested about the japa issues i hv seen where she lives its not the kind of place that i can live in, and also i cant go there nd get killed by cold. nigeria is a very nice place to live forget about this japa hokum.

pansophist:


I have not lived in the UK, so I can't tell you specifically about it. But I'll write generally on succeeding in your new host country, which can equally be applicable to the UK. So here you go.

1. Integration. This is number one. Generally in the UK, it would be easy since you don't need to learn a new language, but linguistic integration is just one slice of the pie.

You are amazing.

You also need social integration, so you must understand what your host society considers a good citizen and also, a classy citizen. Then be that person.

Speak the language very well. And if you already speak English, polish it to speak succinctly. Eloquence is the mark of an educated person.

2. Then for social integration, find your taste in the local cuisine, and act like a local. Know politics like who is the city mayor, and have an opinion about something, although avoid controversy. If you're still young, join the gym. It's a perfect place to meet cool guys. Lift weight together, and join a sports club.

For example, I'm in an Adidas running club, and in my city, I'm one of the top runners. You need to see the kind of esteem I get when we meet, because my dedication shines.

3. Then professionally, rise to the top of your career, since this will single handedly make life easy for you. Dating becomes easier, buying a house and establishing oneself becomes easy also.

Doing all these will bring respect to you, you will respect yourself, and you'll feel like home. Racism won't bother you much because even the so called racist can see that you're living a fabulous life.

The inability or unwillingness of lots of African men to integrate is the reason why they suffer abroad. They are stuck with low skill jobs that are muscle-based, that an illiterate deaf and dumb can do.

The top always feels better than the bottom. When one is at the bottom, no matter where you are, life will be miserable. So because many of these brothers can't rise up the social hierarchy, they alleviate their disenfranchisement by, for example, importing a wife.

And that project carries another problem that won't happen to them if they try to integrate. So after he imports a wife, she will come to see that he is a loser in that society, and the "abroad privilege" he had when she was still in Nigeria will be ineffective.

When she starts studying, upgrading herself while the brother carries her responsibility with those low skill jobs, then she becomes established and concludes that he is not good enough for her. Which if he is honest with himself, she is right.

You don't let yourself rot at the expense of lifting someone up. You build yourself as well. Also, you can not tell if she sees you as a ticket out of Naija, or loves you genuinely. Whichever the case, the best strategy is to avoid such risk.

Because even is she loves you genuinely, the new society will change her, and the love for you deactivates later on, and you'll have more to loose, compare to for example, a local you married.

I strongly believe that we have the power to prevent many of the evils that befalls us, if we understand the role we play in it. Because at the end of the day, no woman wants to feel like she is saddled with a loser.

So if you upgrade yourself and integrate properly, you'll go higher and mingle with the upper class of your host country. No point going backward by importing a wife and attempting to live a life you left in your new country.

Not saying some men ain't lucky, but many I have seen are not. I'm referring to men that refuse to upgrade and stuck with low skil jobs. Even if the marriage didn't break, he will be thoroughly emasculated.

In a nutshell, you must do three things. Linguistic integration, social integration, and professional integration. Then it shall be well with you.

About your second question, I don't know. There are only three English speaking countries in Europe. UK, Ireland, and Malta. I haven't lived in any and can't comment.

But if I'll pick from the above, then I'll choose Ireland. Because it's in the EU, and they have this agreement with the UK called the "Good Friday agreement".

It means that as an Irish (which you'll become later on), you can live in the UK unlimitedly like a Brit, and also, you're an EU citizen and live and work and establish anywhere in your EU.

I hope I helped.