maasoap:


Stop deceiving yourself, it is mostly about money. Rich people in Nigeria hardly think about japa. Even their children return to Nigeria as soon as they finish their education abroad.

MimiSheWrote:
Not like it matters, but I live outside which doesn't limit my understanding of the situation in my home country(Nigeria)
You don't need to experience a bone fracture to know what it feels like.

jiggar:


God bless for what you wrote.

A lot of guys don't voice out their opinions anymore on Nairaland, because of these penchant knack to abuse others, for any contrary opinion.

The OP voiced her opinion, and it's not as if she said, people shouldn't leave the country, but just to be careful of your expectations when you finally travel out.

Well, like you said ... Prepare for more attacks OP

maestro299:
Hmmmm.... Ok.

At the bolded; if you've never experienced a bone fracture, I doubt you can ever know what it feels like. You can imagine how it might feel to the best of your ability but you can't truly comprehend it.

I get the point of your writeup though...

bittertongue:
rich kid one of the lucky ones,it’s good to be you your daddy is my mentor

Ishilove:

Not in this case, Mimi.

I urge you to come and live in Nigeria for a year and then afterwards, you are free to rewrite this article

Mindlog:


I finished my postgraduate studies in Clinical Child Psychology here in the UK, are you expecting me to come back to Nigeria to work in a government hospital that most likely do not even have much blood in their blood bank not to talk of facilities such as sensory rooms, QB Testing etc, I need to conduct Neurodevelopment assessments (NDAs)?

I am not interested in the Nigerian system wasting this one life that I have.

IbeOkehie:


And how many Nigerians are rich? How many Nigerians own a private car, enjoy constant electricity or have a working flush toilet...which implies running water in the home? Oga only 0.5% of Nigerian adults earn over N200K per month. That's RICH in Nigeria But cheap sex is always available for N200.

Good Luck to Nigerians!

DaddyGngeess:
What you are saying is not really bad but where i disagree is the 3% making it at off 100% that one is a lie, i have been to almost all the European countries both the good ones and the bad ones one thing i will tell you is life is easy over there even if you didn't make it to become rich everyone will not make it in life, they have poor peope in Europe too but living standard is top notch and that what is really push us to japa, every Nigerian mind set of travelling is to make it, if we wanna live a normal, perfect and average life there wouldn't be any issues at all western world is very sweet.

xandy84:
I absolutely agreed with all you said but having lived abroad for 10 years, I still believed some people are not good candidates to Japa. First, people who are established in Nigeria. Why would someone who have a career, stable job and a house sell everything and move abroad? They are right about quadrupling their income but when you factor tax and bills, they will end up at ground zero at the end of the month. The second type of people that should NEVER try Japa are people who are advance in age. Why should a retired person take his gratitude, sell his house and move to US thinking miracles who somehow happen? I know a very distant cousin who sell his property, add his pension and moved to US in his late 60's. He has stroke and dementia and still has to work cos he has not work long enough to qualify for social security income and neither is he a citizen. Older people, don't try it. You will definitely regret it.
Younger, unemployed, underemployed should by all means leave Niaja for real. The situation is hopeless back home and it can't get worse as long as you do not Japa to countries that are worse off compare to Nigeria. Do your research, invest time and plan before you move is always my advice.

Lonestar124:
Stop defending what you wrote above, it is totally gibberish if you're not living in Nigeria or Africa.....Even here in Liberia the people doing everything possible relocate out from Africa..

Mindlog:


I prefer my life here in Cambridge to anywhere in Nigeria, except my village when I am home on vacation.

maestro299:
Insightful piece. But quick question: Are you currently based in Nigeria or outside the country?

Emiron:
People are so evil and wicked Japa an b best option I hope you know say for white man land people can five You things for for free them to give you tv, fan bed imagine without collecting money for here who go five You…… maybe he don't know what his talking about

Basicend:
Hard Truth.

Bitter thou. . Many a stuck out there. . So many. . Better find God's path for urself.

pansophist:
Na wa o. You just want to kill people hope of japaing.

Your target as an immigrant should be first, permanent residency, then everything becomes way way easier.

The people that are suffering are mostly those with temporary permit (eg students, illegal immigrants, asylums etc), not those that the system considers them their own.

As a new immigrant (except you're lucky to come as maybe a wife of a citizen), things will be very hard. But if you have a road map of your destination, those first difficult years do get better.

Please japa o. Don't let post like you deter you. Leave my friend. At least while dealing with your problems, you'll have safety, good roads, and live with people that are civil.

And most importantly, you'll have hope. HOPE

MimiSheWrote:
Hello Everyone, first of all I apologize in advance for the long note and also about my English, not actually my first language.

My name is Mimi, I was born in Nigeria... But cos of the nature of my dad's profession i have spent around 75% of my life in different countries outside Nigeria... Mostly in EU.

Well enough said about myself, cos this topic is not about me but about Nigerians... Our general mentality and perception of abroad.

Guys listen up... All that glitters is not really gold. Out there is not entirely what people think it is. And you might think just because I have spent so much time outside Nigeria i do not understand the struggle in Nigeria and therefore not qualified to tell you all this "nonsense"..... I completely get it.. trust me.

But even a random 3 years old kid knows that the country is messed up and nothing to write home about, we all know about the Suffering, depression and "starvation level of poverty" in Nigeria yeah.... That's why everyone is desperatly looking for a way out, no doubt... but trust me, JAPA is not 'always' your ticket out of poverty... Well 'sometimes' it is... but most times it's just your direct ticket to being subjected to racism,more depression,more struggles,several mental disorder,homelessness, modern day slavery and the list goes on and on.

Trust me... when it comes to hustling field, success is much more louder than failure. cos our mind was designed to constantly search for hope. which means you would quickly hear about the lucky 3% that made it big through JAPA, but hardly hear about the remaining unlucky 97% that found themselves in worse possible condition after the same JAPA. There's no money tree out here... there's no diamond river out here...
Is there more opportunities? Well yes, But there are millions of people that already done and still doing whatever you intend to come do over here and yet they are still in the worse condition than you are in right now.

You would literally cry when you see what most of our African brothers and sisters go through around the world in the name of Japa. And as a Nigerian?? Trust me it gets worse.. and your chances gets even much smaller. Cos no one trust Nigerians anymore any where around the world and I believe we all know why.

Sorry but I'm not trying to burst anyone's bubble, kill anyone's vibe or being a negative biitch! Naaaah I'm only trying to be realistic! I'm only trying to tell you something no travel agent would ever tell you and something people abroad hardly tell you, and even when they eventually do tell you...? You don't believe them.. instead you result to asking them questions like "why are they still there if it's that bad"? .....

Well.... You wanna know why most of them are still there? Let me tell you why... there is a psychological reason for that... First They are still in DENIAL. Imagine dreaming your entire life to travel abroad and finally have a good life, you probably invested almost everything or everything you have got to make it happen (your money, your time, your last hope)
But then you finally got there and then meet a reality that is entirely different from your life long dreams and perception of these faraway green lands?
I don't know if you know... but our brain is defensive in nature, it will automatically switch straight to denial mode... Leaving you with atleast enough 'hope and wait for a magic or should i say a miracle' (afterall this is abroad where magic happens?)
This is just one of the reasons why most of these people continue sticking around instead of returning home.

Another reason is that they are worried about what people back home would say or think... Because the people back home also got this general fvcked up mentality and very high expectation of people coming back from Japa (y'all need to stop it! Y'all need to get rid of that mentality, seriously ) cos like I said earlier... there is no bleeping money tree over there! I don't know where Nigerians got that idea from in the first place...
It needs to stop, yall driving the youth nuts with such mentality, it's doing more harm than good. That high expectation/ pressure back home is mostly the reason our people are more likely to result to crime out here (so just stop it! )

I have met alot of other African nationalities abroad... and amazingly they don't share the same mentality we have about Abroad. They treat abroad as just another hustling ground and not a direct ticket to success... Therefore they are more relaxed and less pressured than Nigerians out here.

Moving Abroad is not such a bad idea though, it worked and still works for few lucky ones (including my Family) it would be wrong and biased of me if I fail to mention that..
There are plenty of and more opportunities over out here not doubt...
But what I'm just saying is that... it's not always that easily reached.. as most people automatically believe.
Look... Somehow all these countries are intelligently designed In such a way that it take back almost entirely everything you make out here from you one way or the other... Through tax, through mind blowing bills or random expenses around every corner.

And at the end of the day you realize you are nothing but a modern day slave building someone's country for free... And without freedom.

Most people screaming Japa in Nigeria are far in better living condition and more stable mentally ,more happy than majority of people in the so called abroad without even knowing it. Sometimes Instead of gambling and betting your hard earned million of naira on Japa, it's more advisable to chill out... relax and invest that Millions in Nigeria. I'm just saying... You would probably end up living a life most people over there can only envy and dream of.

Thanks for reading my long note... I hope this helps someone in making a life decision out there. #ItsYourGurlMimi

MimiSheWrote:
Hello Everyone, first of all I apologize in advance for the long note and also about my English, not actually my first language.

My name is Mimi, I was born in Nigeria... But cos of the nature of my dad's profession i have spent around 75% of my life in different countries outside Nigeria... Mostly in EU.

Well enough said is not about me but about Nigerians... Our general mentality and perception of abroad.

Guys listen up... All that glitters is not really gold. Out there is not entirely what people think it is. And you might think just because I have spent so much time outside Nigeria i do not understand the struggle in Nigeria and therefore not qualified to tell you all this "nonsense"..... I completely get it.. trust me.

But even a random 3 years old kid knows that the country is messed up and nothing to write home about, we all know about the Suffering, depression and "starvation level of poverty" in Nigeria yeah.... That's why everyone is desperatly looking for a way out, no doubt... but trust me, JAPA is not 'always' your ticket out of poverty... Well 'sometimes' it is... but most times it's just your direct ticket to being subjected to racism,more depression,more struggles,several mental disorder,homelessness, modern day slavery and the list goes on and on.

Trust me... when it comes to hustling field, success is much more louder than failure. cos our mind was designed to constantly search for hope. which means you would quickly hear about the lucky 3% that made it big through JAPA, but hardly hear about the remaining unlucky 97% that found themselves in worse possible condition after the same JAPA. There's no money tree out here... there's no diamond river out here...
Is there more opportunities? Well yes, But there are millions of people that already done and still doing whatever you intend to come do over here and yet they are still in the worse condition than you are in right now.

You would literally cry when you see what most of our African brothers and sisters go through around the world in the name of Japa. And as a Nigerian?? Trust me it gets worse.. and your chances gets even much smaller. Cos no one trust Nigerians anymore any where around the world and I believe we all know why.

Sorry but I'm not trying to burst anyone's bubble, kill anyone's vibe or being a negative biitch! Naaaah I'm only trying to be realistic! I'm only trying to tell you something no travel agent would ever tell you and something people abroad hardly tell you, and even when they eventually do tell you...? You don't believe them.. instead you result to asking them questions like "why are they still there if it's that bad"? .....

Well.... You wanna know why most of them are still there? Let me tell you why... there is a psychological reason for that... First They are still in DENIAL. Imagine dreaming your entire life to travel abroad and finally have a good life, you probably invested almost everything or everything you have got to make it happen (your money, your time, your last hope)
But then you finally got there and then meet a reality that is entirely different from your life long dreams and perception of these faraway green lands?
I don't know if you know... but our brain is defensive in nature, it will automatically switch straight to denial mode... Leaving you with atleast enough 'hope and wait for a magic or should i say a miracle' (afterall this is abroad where magic happens?)
This is just one of the reasons why most of these people continue sticking around instead of returning home.

Another reason is that they are worried about what people back home would say or think... Because the people back home also got this general fvcked up mentality and very high expectation of people coming back from Japa (y'all need to stop it! Y'all need to get rid of that mentality, seriously ) cos like I said earlier... there is no bleeping money tree over there! I don't know where Nigerians got that idea from in the first place...
It needs to stop, yall driving the youth nuts with such mentality, it's doing more harm than good. That high expectation/ pressure back home is mostly the reason our people are more likely to result to crime out here (so just stop it! )

I have met alot of other African nationalities abroad... and amazingly they don't share the same mentality we have about Abroad. They treat abroad as just another hustling ground and not a direct ticket to success... Therefore they are more relaxed and less pressured than Nigerians out here.

Moving Abroad is not such a bad idea though, it worked and still works for few lucky ones (including my Family) it would be wrong and biased of me if I fail to mention that..
There are plenty of and more opportunities over out here not doubt...
But what I'm just saying is that... it's not always that easily reached.. as most people automatically believe.
Look... Somehow all these countries are intelligently designed In such a way that it take back almost entirely everything you make out here from you one way or the other... Through tax, through mind blowing bills or random expenses around every corner.

And at the end of the day you realize you are nothing but a modern day slave building someone's country for free... And without freedom.

Most people screaming Japa in Nigeria are far in better living condition and more stable mentally ,more happy than majority of people in the so called abroad without even knowing it. Sometimes Instead of gambling and betting your hard earned million of naira on Japa, it's more advisable to chill out... relax and invest that Millions in Nigeria. I'm just saying... You would probably end up living a life most people over there can only envy and dream of.

Thanks for reading my long note... I hope this helps someone in making a life decision out there. #ItsYourGurlMimi















Them no they tell man

IbeOkehie:


The only advantage to living in Nigeria FOR MEN is the availability of cheap sex provided by impoverished and terrorized females. NOTHING ELSE. Which means there's nothing for a woman to gain from choosing Nigeria over migration to the Anglo-West.



You have no idea the of the WIDE DISPARITY in earnings potential between the Anglo-West and Nigeria, or maybe you're doing the usual Nigeria thing of sticking to a stubborn argument out of pride.

Do you know how much it costs to provide childcare or daycare in Nigeria? Many old men and women here in the USA earn over $400 per week watching 3 or 4 little kids while the parents are at work. I've used such a person for my own kids. I myself used to babysit kids FOR FREE in my earlier days in America, I didn't even charge.

My mother just sent out $5K = ₦4.5 million to some relatives and friends in Nigeria. Just one person got ₦1 million. How many people in Nigeria have ever or will ever have ₦1 million in their back account? When I read Nigerians denigrating US & UK na laugh I go de laugh Actually I think the chasm is just beyond their ability digest without going insane with jealousy.

Don't blame the Nigerian diaspora, blame Buhari...you voted for him.

Good Luck to Nigerians!

Ishilove:

Not in this case, Mimi.

I urge you to come and live in Nigeria for a year and then afterwards, you are free to rewrite this article

jesmond3945:
the dark side of the moon in abroad is far better than the bright side of the moon in naija

ogascomax:


Never seen such a rubbish statement for a long time as this. I prefer Nigeria a thousand times than any country in the world. They are people that are ashamed of coming back and I have seen people who took bold step just to come back and today they are big. They were fooled into travelling. This particular guy got to Canada and he saw what Nigerians are going through with most pushing drugs. The money he had left with him, he took it to China to buy some goods. Today he is back in Nigeria doing so much for himself.

chelsea1116:


Very wicked people. I ve lived and still live in Rome since 2019, i got the first document i could use to work in 2021, between 2021 till today, i look at the money in my account and i want to curse Nigeria for trying to ruin my life, An Elect Elect Engr, A Masters in telecommunications holder but i begged for 45k job a month in Nigeria, not even up to what i make daily here.
Anyone abroad that makes this type of rubbish post is a lazy human being. Very wicked people and some people will take her advice.

maasoap:

You are one of the people who normally said that living in USA prison is better than living in Nigeria's VI.

Fearyourcreator:

You talking as if people don't die there

Heffalump:
I'll prefer to work in a country where I return my substantial earnings to keep a viable system working and at the same time, gives me comfort, security, and social wellbeing.

How many years do I have to live on earth that you want me to perish in a directionless shithole of a country.

MimiSheWrote:
Hello Everyone, first of all I apologize in advance for the long note and also about my English, not actually my first language.

My name is Mimi, I was born in Nigeria... But cos of the nature of my dad's profession i have spent around 75% of my life in different countries outside Nigeria... Mostly in EU.

Well enough said about myself, cos this topic is not about me but about Nigerians... Our general mentality and perception of abroad.

Guys listen up... All that glitters is not really gold. Out there is not entirely what people think it is. And you might think just because I have spent so much time outside Nigeria i do not understand the struggle in Nigeria and therefore not qualified to tell you all this "nonsense"..... I completely get it.. trust me.

But even a random 3 years old kid knows that the country is messed up and nothing to write home about, we all know about the Suffering, depression and "starvation level of poverty" in Nigeria yeah.... That's why everyone is desperatly looking for a way out, no doubt... but trust me, JAPA is not 'always' your ticket out of poverty... Well 'sometimes' it is... but most times it's just your direct ticket to being subjected to racism,more depression,more struggles,several mental disorder,homelessness, modern day slavery and the list goes on and on.

Trust me... when it comes to hustling field, success is much more louder than failure. cos our mind was designed to constantly search for hope. which means you would quickly hear about the lucky 3% that made it big through JAPA, but hardly hear about the remaining unlucky 97% that found themselves in worse possible condition after the same JAPA. There's no money tree out here... there's no diamond river out here...
Is there more opportunities? Well yes, But there are millions of people that already done and still doing whatever you intend to come do over here and yet they are still in the worse condition than you are in right now.

You would literally cry when you see what most of our African brothers and sisters go through around the world in the name of Japa. And as a Nigerian?? Trust me it gets worse.. and your chances gets even much smaller. Cos no one trust Nigerians anymore any where around the world and I believe we all know why.

Sorry but I'm not trying to burst anyone's bubble, kill anyone's vibe or being a negative biitch! Naaaah I'm only trying to be realistic! I'm only trying to tell you something no travel agent would ever tell you and something people abroad hardly tell you, and even when they eventually do tell you...? You don't believe them.. instead you result to asking them questions like "why are they still there if it's that bad"? .....

Well.... You wanna know why most of them are still there? Let me tell you why... there is a psychological reason for that... First They are still in DENIAL. Imagine dreaming your entire life to travel abroad and finally have a good life, you probably invested almost everything or everything you have got to make it happen (your money, your time, your last hope)
But then you finally got there and then meet a reality that is entirely different from your life long dreams and perception of these faraway green lands?
I don't know if you know... but our brain is defensive in nature, it will automatically switch straight to denial mode... Leaving you with atleast enough 'hope and wait for a magic or should i say a miracle' (afterall this is abroad where magic happens?)
This is just one of the reasons why most of these people continue sticking around instead of returning home.

Another reason is that they are worried about what people back home would say or think... Because the people back home also got this general fvcked up mentality and very high expectation of people coming back from Japa (y'all need to stop it! Y'all need to get rid of that mentality, seriously ) cos like I said earlier... there is no bleeping money tree over there! I don't know where Nigerians got that idea from in the first place...
It needs to stop, yall driving the youth nuts with such mentality, it's doing more harm than good. That high expectation/ pressure back home is mostly the reason our people are more likely to result to crime out here (so just stop it! )

I have met alot of other African nationalities abroad... and amazingly they don't share the same mentality we have about Abroad. They treat abroad as just another hustling ground and not a direct ticket to success... Therefore they are more relaxed and less pressured than Nigerians out here.

Moving Abroad is not such a bad idea though, it worked and still works for few lucky ones (including my Family) it would be wrong and biased of me if I fail to mention that..
There are plenty of and more opportunities over out here not doubt...
But what I'm just saying is that... it's not always that easily reached.. as most people automatically believe.
Look... Somehow all these countries are intelligently designed In such a way that it take back almost entirely everything you make out here from you one way or the other... Through tax, through mind blowing bills or random expenses around every corner.

And at the end of the day you realize you are nothing but a modern day slave building someone's country for free... And without freedom.

Most people screaming Japa in Nigeria are far in better living condition and more stable mentally ,more happy than majority of people in the so called abroad without even knowing it. Sometimes Instead of gambling and betting your hard earned million of naira on Japa, it's more advisable to chill out... relax and invest that Millions in Nigeria. I'm just saying... You would probably end up living a life most people over there can only envy and dream of.

Thanks for reading my long note... I hope this helps someone in making a life decision out there. #ItsYourGurlMimi