paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

Oga wait till you see what's on the phone before you come and bug us.. But don't ignore your instinct

IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD PROBLEM NO THEY FINISH, BASED ON OUR MENTALITY

7 months old relationship and you're already feeling as if she is now your wife. Guy that babe is still on the shelf, so she is a public property, our wife. Get that into your head before you give yourself an unnecessary eye blood pressure.




Mynd44 why I no see you for church today?

use tricks to chat about the new phone

Maybe she's playing games on the small phone (sudoku,bounce,doodle jump,tetra)

She is cheating or likely a runs girl... most girls nowadays are into runs or escort or whatever name they choose to call it.

When you see a girl having multiple sims, two or more whatsapp lines, two or more phones like OP said, just know her way no pure.

@OP Ask her bluntly if she is cheating, if she says no, ask to see her phone chats and text msgs to be sure you're safe.. If she declines, you have your answer.

What is the way forward now?

Run with your toes

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

Learn to trust your instincts. If she appears suspicious, she’s most likely suspicious.

Checking her phone isn’t going to help you: it’ll merely confirm your fears; or if she’s clever, she may destroy evidence and deceive you into trusting her at your own peril.

Bad news is, it is not unlikely that the next girl you meet will be different.

My advice is, if you love her just close your eyes and continue with her. You may grow to some point where such behaviors will not move you any more.

We all went through it.

Good luck.

Obviously you are closer to the end of this relationship than you are to the beginning of it

No man owns a woman.
Know this and be free from headache.

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

Let me check, a babe was charting with me using only messages, she claim she doesn't have android phone that I should buy for her iphone XR. Maybe na your babe, me I don block her oh, where can I get money to buy iphone XR from?

Op!

Go listen to "I don't wanna know" - Mario Winans feat. Enya & Puff Daddy

Obviously you aren't comfortable with this new trend. Instead of torturing yourself with this feelings why not ask her. Assumption can be harmful.

Ask her about it,and hear her first

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

If she put security on that small phone...that's her trap phone. Trust me. You're not the only dick

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

The first mistake you made is making someone your Fiancée after only dating them for 7 months 🤨 that’s not how life works nobody becomes branch manager in any bank after working for 1 year . One great philosopher called Epicurus postulated that
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““SENSE IS NEVER DECEIVED THEREFORE EVERY SENSATION OR PERCEPTION OF AN APPEARANCE IS TRUE “”

personally I have tested this and my brother it has proven to be true for me so if you are sensing something is wrong, then something is Definitely Wrong 🤷🏾‍♂️ bro trust your instincts. Sit down smoke some weed and ask your spirit the best course of action you will definitely get an answer don’t rush

You guys clearly have a communication vacuum in that relationship.

Deco7:
Tell her this. Your continous texting and smiling is making you insecure. And you are messing with my head. Just say this and she will do the rest

i donr know why some of una no fit get sense

Just ask her who she's texting if it bothers you so much

Have you given her a ring? Do her people know you? You people use the word fiance loosely.

Most people carry public property on their head and expect fidelity.

If indeed she's your fiance and she messes up, take the matter to her family and friends and not faceless people on a forum.

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

don’t appeal to flirts, do the same and they will be the one calling for truce.

You've only known someone for 7 months and she's already your "fiance". Make I just keep quiet dey read comments as usual.

Major7:
Maybe she's playing games on the small phone (sudoku,bounce,doodle jump,tetra)

Eh, comrade!

Tallesty1:
Just 7 months and he proudly calls her My Lady

doesn't matter...

doesn't have to be 100 yrs

If you ask her to open the phone that you wanna see who she's texting, she might be reluctant and not open the phone

The best is to act ignorant and check her phone when she's sleeping.

Please brace up your mind/heart against any shock when going through her phone

Remember, curiousity kills the big cat

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

Wait to find out who she is texting before discussing it with her.

Because if she suspects you know.... She would wipe the phone clean.

DND069:
Omo una wey dey relationship dey try. How will I be monitoring adults? 😅

All these things are pure stress.

There's nothing wrong doing a little digging on the lady or guy you intend settling down with.

It's only a careless fellow that would go into a marriage with someone without making their own findings first.

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

your fears shows something is fishy. If she is cheating you would definitely find out. Dont worry. Just make sure you are not doing same.

Kobojunkie:
Lack of communication is the root of many marital issues. You came here to tell us your fears but you forgot to communicate the exact same to the one who is right beside you. We have no way of reading her mind for you on this so if you want to get answers to either allay or lend support to your fears, the best person to approach for just that is your partner.

You people need to think about both sides before dropping solutions.

Assume she isn’t cheating. it would then be a good idea to do as you have said. But if you think with both sides of the @&($(& and assume she is cheating do you think she will willingly admit it and ask for forgiveness so they can move on?