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Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by insidelife22(m): 10:26pm On Nov 07, 2023
Hi guys
Am a young man of 29 years, am single though,but I have an issue...every time I sleep with a lady, I always feel like going down on her, I fight it at times but on some occasions I just does it anyway. Most of the times, the ladies think am doing it to please them,but I always do it to please myself.

I was first exposed to porn in 2010,the next year being 2011,i started masturbation and I been doing it since then, it has been one of the most embarrassing enemy of my life, I love it when am doing but I always hate it later. It has affected the way I interact with ladies. I have seen girls I really love hurt coz I kind of think settling for one girl is not enough. Only this year I have slept with atleast 20 girls, Oloshos included. Each time I see a lady, the first thing that comes to my mind is sex. The styles and so on.
I need help Pls, how do i start living like a normal person again? I really wanna be a human again.

Seun lalasticlala Nlfpmod mind.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Infojames: 10:36pm On Nov 07, 2023
Oga you need God at this point not Nairaland

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Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Mhizzard(m): 10:52pm On Nov 07, 2023
Imagine having that thought for your sis/niece
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Olamotad: 12:16am On Nov 08, 2023
Be prayerful and make sure you are not alone. Let someone always be with you.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by HopeNeverDies: 12:21am On Nov 08, 2023
Lol .. Lol ... Lol

Find a Job ..... Damnnnn brother and stop Saying Pornography has ruined your life.

This shit is all bout your mindset and some. So indirectly, it's pornography that has made u sleep with 20 girls πŸ€”πŸ€”


Isn't that ridiculous to hear? Lol

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Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by slimjohn2k5: 1:01am On Nov 08, 2023
Olamotad:
Be prayerful and make sure you are not alone. Let someone always be with you.

Mk he rape?

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Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by sulakishop(m): 2:25am On Nov 08, 2023
At least you're better than Auntie Toyin
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by VinnyBaba: 5:38am On Nov 08, 2023
OP, You have natural High sexual Libido.πŸ˜’

Find a way to curtail or Control ur sexual Urges.πŸ™‚
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by SIXTEENTH(m): 5:48am On Nov 08, 2023
Sometimes I wonder πŸ€” how someone will say something is ruining his life yet but he/she can't stop.
To me since you already know what's your worse nightmares and can purposely say or write it down I think you can control or put a hault to it.

Just as the old adage says "since you know it's headache, then the cure is paracetamol" so why going for amphiclose.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Lovemeharder(f): 6:02am On Nov 08, 2023
You decided to start doing it. You can also decide to stop it. It all begins with you.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Starboytwo(m): 7:01am On Nov 08, 2023
Nothing do you my guy, it's your way of life, embrace it.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by fyzaila: 10:52am On Nov 08, 2023
Your change begins when you can actually differentiate between the use of "am and i am" when constructing a sentence. grin
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by insidelife22(m): 10:56am On Nov 08, 2023
fyzaila:
Your change begins when you can actually differentiate between the use of "am and i am" when constructing a sentence. grin

Shay na flyover ni?
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by fyzaila: 11:00am On Nov 08, 2023
insidelife22:


Shay na flyover ni?

Lol πŸ˜†
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Gboom: 11:42am On Nov 08, 2023
You need to determine within yourself that you will quit.
Your thought about this lustful habit must be replaced with another thought.
You need to do away with all material and videos in your custody and avoid visiting all these adult sites.
You need to find a hobby that can shift your mind from that lust.
Above all, give your life to Jesus Christ and go for deliverance in MFM or other deliverance church
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by insidelife22(m): 11:51am On Nov 08, 2023
Gboom:
You need to determine within yourself that you will quit.
Your thought about this lustful habit must be replaced with another thought.
You need to do away with all material and videos in your custody and avoid visiting all these adult sites.
You need to find a hobby that can shift your mind from that lust.
Above all, give your life to Jesus Christ and go for deliverance in MFM or other deliverance church
Thanks, I will try
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by b3llo(m): 12:03pm On Nov 08, 2023
You need to work on your mind first. It is not easy but you will overcome gradually by determination.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by tochez24(m): 1:36pm On Nov 08, 2023
insidelife22:
Hi guys
Am a young man of 29 years, am single though,but I have an issue...every time I sleep with a lady, I always feel like going down on her, I fight it at times but on some occasions I just does it anyway. Most of the times, the ladies think am doing it to please them,but I always do it to please myself.

I was first exposed to porn in 2010,the next year being 2011,i started masturbation and I been doing it since then, it has been one of the most embarrassing enemy of my life, I love it when am doing but I always hate it later. It has affected the way I interact with ladies. I have seen girls I really love hurt coz I kind of think settling for one girl is not enough. Only this year I have slept with atleast 20 girls, Oloshos included. Each time I see a lady, the first thing that comes to my mind is sex. The styles and so on.
I need help Pls, how do i start living like a normal person again? I really wanna be a human again.

Seun lalasticlala Nlfpmod mind.


African mentality lol πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

Oga nothing is wrong with you!!!! Pornography and masturbation has done you no wrong, it's all in our body chemistry ♂️

Sexual hormones in humans tends to fly at it's peak as from 25 years to 45 years for men, then from 16 years to 35 years or there about for women....

At this stage,most people tend to have a steady burning urge for SEX, this is the most fertile period of human beings too⚠️

Then depending on individual libidos, some with low sex drive can limit their sex adventures while those with high sex drive tend to be having more sex.

It's completely natural and nothing spiritual about it.... That's how our maker created us so we can be able to multiply like the most high wanted.

Everybody human on earth have the same experience!!!!
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by insidelife22(m): 1:46pm On Nov 08, 2023
tochez24:



African mentality lol πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

Oga nothing is wrong with you!!!! Pornography and masturbation has done you no wrong, it's all in our body chemistry ♂️

Sexual hormones in humans tends to fly at it's peak as from 25 years to 45 years for men, then from 16 years to 35 years or there about for women....

At this stage,most people tend to have a steady burning urge for SEX, this is the most fertile period of human beings too⚠️

Then depending on individual libidos, some with low sex drive can limit their sex adventures while those with high sex drive tend to be having more sex.

It's completely natural and nothing spiritual about it.... That's how our maker created us so we can be able to multiply like the most high wanted.

Everybody human on earth have the same experience!!!!
Thanks but am still bothered
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by WantsandMore: 2:53pm On Nov 08, 2023
insidelife22:

Thanks but am still bothered
if you're bothered, try intermittent fasting, fasting reduces testerone which in turn reduces sexual urges

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Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Flango: 8:40pm On Nov 08, 2023
In addition to all others suggested, I'd say you don't have to stop completely. Just try to give yourself a break. For example, you may decide to watch your favorite porn once in a week, say Saturday. What you'll do is abstain for one week then reward yourself on Saturday. After sometime, you may try once in two weeks.

As you get control little by little, you may realize that you don't want that reward again. In between, try leaving your stomach close to hungry by eating little or fasting as the case maybe. You can also embrace working out to build your body and mind. Just be patient with yourself. And a strong will is absolutely needed. Make no mistake about it, you can't drop a habit overnight. But if you're serious, you can be completely free in 3 months.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by insidelife22(m): 10:32pm On Nov 08, 2023
Flango:
In addition to all others suggested, I'd say you don't have to stop completely. Just try to give yourself a break. For example, you may decide to watch your favorite porn once in a week, say Saturday. What you'll do is abstain for one week then reward yourself on Saturday. After sometime, you may try once in two weeks.

As you get control little by little, you may realize that you don't want that reward again. In between, try leaving your stomach close to hungry by eating little or fasting as the case maybe. You can also embrace working out to build your body and mind. Just be patient with yourself. And a strong will is absolutely needed. Make no mistake about it, you can't drop a habit overnight. But if you're serious, you can be completely free in 3 months.
Thanks
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by ghettochild(m): 1:25am On Nov 09, 2023
Why u dey lie ontop innocent porn?
Na u dey think nonsense when u see woman
Abeg leave innocent porn alone oooo.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by insidelife22(m): 6:38am On Nov 09, 2023
ghettochild:
Why u dey lie ontop innocent porn?
Na u dey think nonsense when u see woman
Abeg leave innocent porn alone oooo.
Bros how porn come dey innocent,




I agree, it is my mindset.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by ghettochild(m): 10:59am On Nov 10, 2023
insidelife22:

Bros how porn come dey innocent,




I agree, it is my mindset.
Na porn call am say..Oya Bros come watch me oooo??
No be him type www.pornhub.com or www.xvideos.com
When he can go to other websites n have fun reading up research... paranormal stories...sciences...travels and tours.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by nokspos: 11:27am On Nov 10, 2023
accept it as part of your life, most men have the same level of testosterone that king Solom had, but bible wasn't against it at that time. Same human , different law
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Goodlyhrt(m): 11:53am On Nov 10, 2023
There's little anybody here can do for you. Maybe see a professional or something but the buck starts and stops with you bruh.

Maybe its not an issue as you will get tired when you have had enough. Your body will tell you bro. But if you think that you can get any help here then I wish you all the best πŸ‘
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Bliztzer: 12:04pm On Nov 10, 2023
insidelife22:
Hi guys
Am a young man of 29 years, am single though,but I have an issue...every time I sleep with a lady, I always feel like going down on her, I fight it at times but on some occasions I just does it anyway. Most of the times, the ladies think am doing it to please them,but I always do it to please myself.

I was first exposed to porn in 2010,the next year being 2011,i started masturbation and I been doing it since then, it has been one of the most embarrassing enemy of my life, I love it when am doing but I always hate it later. It has affected the way I interact with ladies. I have seen girls I really love hurt coz I kind of think settling for one girl is not enough. Only this year I have slept with atleast 20 girls, Oloshos included. Each time I see a lady, the first thing that comes to my mind is sex. The styles and so on.
I need help Pls, how do i start living like a normal person again? I really wanna be a human again.

Seun lalasticlala Nlfpmod mind.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=417OPV4P3qw?si=7YQsy8y3v_62Jrt_9


Na you by urself go fight to break free. No body fit help you oh.
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by Preservedfish: 1:52pm On Nov 10, 2023
Get a gf and practice with her except you're a chronic masturbator
Re: Help, Pls, Pornography Is Ruining My Life. by SPAMBOX7: 1:59pm On Nov 10, 2023
All I read is a man who can't control himself.
In life there have to be a balance for everything.

Some of una go just dey overdo

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