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The question should not be about her changing.

But how you can put your differences aside and have something serious.

Just go with the flow and see how it goes.

Op, what she ask of you isn't much. Show her love.

Op how did you confirm her to be virgin

Typical behavior of virgins, they are mostly unstable and dramatic. 😂

Fryx:
I will think about how this can work.

She did something recently, and usualy I will call her to tell her how I feel, and how I want her to change. But from experience, it's useless asking her to change. She will make efforts and start watching her actions if I point out anything I don't like. But she will soon get tired of it and start accussing me of forcing her to be who she is not. She will start picking fight with me, will do exactly what I complained about and told me to accept her as she is. She is that stubborn, and I have learn to let her have her ways.

She is still young though (in her earliest twenty) maybe age will help her gain more control.

I am in my early 20 too. Maybe I will understand what you said with age. Because right now, I really don't know how to cope with this.

Hardest thing anyone can attempt is trying to change.

However, you shouldn't put so much pressure on her now.

It would kill the joy both of you could share.

While you are at it keep your options open.

Meet other girls too.

Expand your horizon.

If it didn't work with her, you move!

Fryx:
I'm very close with her, and we are sometimes alone together in my room. If she is not a virgin, she will respond differently to some of my advances. Whenever she give me a hug or peck self, she feels it's a very big deal.

virgin or none virgin can pretend just to fool and Made you believe in their mission

Fryx:
Interesting...

But how else am I supposed to do that. Look, we are not really created the same. I get clumsy when it comes to physically expressing my feelings. So I take actions instead, my actions should be enough... or am I missing something?

The only emotion I am capable of showing is anger (pure and dangerous anger)... Except you want me to sart acting up, I really can't be that free with my other feelings, I need to keep them in control to maintain my stability.

She should be able to understand that, I will lose my identity if I give myself freely to my emotions. Emotions that I can't even control because they are not my primary function.

I know. But you can start by calling her pet names like baby, sweetheart, my love and so on. Girls love those names.

Too long to read... But from the little I read she's either bi, lez or not ready for anything relationship. U say she's a friend a mother and a lover. How on God's green earth is she ur lover without serving u nunu? Anyway to ur tent oh brother.. good luck

Fryx:
I'm very close with her, and we are sometimes alone together in my room. If she is not a virgin, she will respond differently to some of my advances. Whenever she give me a hug or peck self, she feels it's a very big deal.

So this is ur confirmation? 🙆🏽‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Fryx:
She is not the type to pretend (at least not in this type of situation). I don't see why she would because she is equally doing well herself and from a well-to-do family.

chairman don't be fooled by pretence, human beings can do anything

Fryx:
Love is not all about sex. I have other girls I share bed with, they are not hook up girls, and I am not paying them for it. But i can't call them my lovers cause they can't do what she does for me.

Love to me goes beyond your body, or what you say. It's what you do, and how you treat me.

Uhuum... Tell me more 😴

Fryx:
Actually, it's not a big deal to me. I can lay her when the time is right, and it doesn't add or deduct anything from me if she is a virgin or not. Lying to me will even put her in a moe miserable position with me. So, I don't see any reason to care if she is lying or not. And she is not making it a big deal either. She doesn't even say it or give it as an excuse.

We are not getting intimate for other reasons, not because she is a virgin or not.

for her being virging that is her business, but the criteria you used in knowing that she is a virgin that is where I fault it .

Fryx:
Ok. I will try.

Alright.

Shalommy:
Op, what she ask of you isn't much. Show her love.

You can't understand OP's personality, that is why you think it is that simple. Go and look at those that had troubled childhood and their behavioral pattern, you will see that they subconscious senses have been manipulated such that they have little or no emotional faculty.

Fryx:
People love their mom more than their wife. Are those people having sex with their mom?

People love their dad more than their husband. Are they having sex with their dad?

People pray to their God, and believe the God love them without even seeing the God. Are those people having sex with their God?

Relationship is built more on selfish desires than love. Love should not be confused with any form of intimacy, people make love to anybody. Ashawo dey love?

I think something need to be done to how people lust after each other or get caught up in emotion and call it love. It is a basterdization of that term, How can you love someone, and later you said he/she is your ex. What where you thinking?

How can you love someone and stop loving the person cause they no longer meet up with your expectation? How is that love?

How is it love if their pain is not your pain, and their well-being is not your well being. How is it love if you both are looking for ways to take advantage of another.

When has sex or lust equate to love?

Well well well.. for u to not know the difference between:
Eros ( passionate love)
Storge (familial love) and
Agape (universal love)
Shows ur more dumber than I thought. And I even thought u had a little tiny bit of sense and maybe I could learn something new...Enjoy ur wtv ur doing with whomever. I don't engage with empty heads. Go and learn!

I just read the first few lines, the summary is that you're being manipulated.

Fryx:
I will think about how this can work.

She did something recently, and usualy I will call her to tell her how I feel, and how I want her to change. But from experience, it's useless asking her to change. She will make efforts and start watching her actions if I point out anything I don't like. But she will soon get tired of it and start accussing me of forcing her to be who she is not. She will start picking fight with me, will do exactly what I complained about and told me to accept her as she is. She is that stubborn, and I have learn to let her have her ways.

She is still young though (in her earliest twenty) maybe age will help her gain more control.

I am in my early 20 too. Maybe I will understand what you said with age. Because right now, I really don't know how to cope with this.

That woman is not for You, Any woman that love you will always want your happiness first

People don't change, hear it now. Current circumstances may affect their attitudes and reactions towards issues temporarily but if you expect them to change for good, you're in a long thing. Stop the wild goose chase right now.