Aonkuuse:
But it's common that mothers like last borns more

No
Nigeria Mothers love the black sheep son. Mostly d second sons.

Parents will always have preference among their children.
Publicly expressing it, is where the probs is.
I noticed my father preferred me
Same for my mother
Even though, l though spend on them like my elder brother does.
But me as a parent
Love my first daughter so so dearly.
Even God got preference
Who are we not to.....

Nackzy:
My own naa because say my younger brother get money pass me

God go help you, things go better

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

it's natural phenomenon for parents to have a favourite among their kids. Saying it out to you wasn't the best though. But through actions you ought to know. Certain traits make the father or mother like a child more, this doesn't mean they don't like others, they do, but nature makes it that way. Even a teacher prefers one particular student than the rest. Jesus chose Peter, but that doesn't mean he doesn't like the rest.

I'm glad you lived above your Dad's statement.

Bros he loves you because you are doing the right thing, loving your brother means his not doing well, your parents don't want to show it...❤️

Aonkuuse:
But it's common that mothers like last borns more

nay, mothers love their first child more.

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Change that narrative by honouring him like never before buy him gifts suprise him.
Ask your Mummy what he likes and get it for him, I bet you with my life.
The way to a man's heart is through honour...

Please friends I need your advice.
I already took a bad decision, I'm about to take another one, I just Pray that God helps me.
The story gos

I resigned from my former place of work because of hostility. I had to relocate to East, to take a bank Job, all I hoped for was to get reposted back to Abuja. After a while... But I have spent 3 months into the job already. And have this in mind, my accomodations is still existing in Abuja as I never wanted to leave the city.

Now coming to this part of the east, it happened that it's in the village, not really a town, and iam regretting already.

I want to go back to my base in Abuja, to make matter worse with my new job, I don't have time for myself, I can't even prepare for my ICAN exams. I want to resign and go back to Abuja.

The economy is hard now, I don't know how I will survive in Abuja now. Please, should I resign, what can I do to atleast survive till I get another job?

Please drop ur comment, please don't attack me.

Aonkuuse:
But it's common that mothers like last borns more

not me anyways

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Your father never preferred your younger brother over you. You do not fix a machine that is working perfectly. You only fix a machine that has issues.

Your father simply discovered that you had the capacity to take his stead when he has gone home. His next step was to work on your kid brother to ensure there is double insurance. In case you go home anytime before you take your seat in the council of elders, another will be able to keep the family going. You must often see beyond your nose.

From your write-up, I wish to believe you don't have a wife and kids of yours yet. When you do, you will start thinking about transgenerational continuity and keeping the family name. Then you will see what your father saw. I have been in your shoes, and I understand perfectly.

myrates:
All my children are my favourites.

stop lying jor.

francotunsco:


You too prefer your mother, i did the same too.

Note: I didnt read the epistle

what's epistle about the story

Guy focus on life

It's not uncommon for a parent to like a child more than the other as long as he treats others right too. A child can naturally have a trait or attitude that just suits the soul of a parent. It's normal and moreover, u re an adult now, just move on.

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

It happens on the family so don't feel bad about it.

olisefom:


I do tell people that most of our parents had no idea what parenting was meant to be. This case of preference has been since time immemorial and I think its part of human nature.

Just like you said, parents can do better by hiding whatever preference they have

Tor at bolded.

Even biblical Jacob loved Joseph and Benjamin more. Because he loved Rachel their mom more.

Na human nature.
At times, a child may look or behave like your mom or dad you loved so much.
At times, a dad may wonder if a particular child is his because his looks or behaviour may be so different from his or family traits.

Remember by the way that about 35% of firstborn kids and 25% of all kids belong to another man outside.

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Is so bad my brother. Most parents totally kill the peace in there family

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Not possible, you can pretend but there is no way you will like your children equally.

My mom love her first child more than others, mostly because we were fair like my dad, and people attribute being fair with lazy and the fact that we were introverts. I mean it has some truth to it, I don't have strength for physical work, but throughout my school days, even a B is disappointing.

My point is you can try to ignore it, but you will always know when you are loved.

With God on your side why do you have to seat in expectation of your fathers wealth to validate how far you can go in life. Your Dad has achieved his own, strive to achieve yours and you can as well bequeath it to whomsoever you wish at whatever time. Sometimes your Dad showering special gift on your younger ones doesn't mean he loves them more than you at all.Sometimes it could as a result of their circumstances of birth or the special ability they possess which you have little or no information about. Have a self made success mindset, if you do, whatever your dad does with his wealth and will, matters nothing to you, it's their will. Like Joseph appreciate your dad and siblings and be in charge of your life.

Luke 12:13-15 (KJV) And one of the company said unto him, Master, speak to my brother, that he divide the inheritance with me.
And he said unto him, Man, who made me a judge or a divider over you?
And he said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth.

Chetas81:
MY MOTHER ALSO DO THE SAME THING WHEN I WAS SMALL, BUT I KEEP THE PRICE FOR HER TILL I DIE, today if I give my father 10k I will give my mother 4k, she can collect the rest from my younger brother SIMPLE AS ABC

Akpo no dey sawa. Bad guy

In all I have learned and still learning I don't have a favourite Child among my kids..in fact is now a habit for me to always sound it to their hearing that I have equal love for every one.

Children’s topic.

UnfairLife7:
but it is normal to have a preference?

yeah.however,let it exist in your heart without any form of showing it

sylve11:


The child that's most scolded is the child who is most loved.

Hmmm, how true is this? 🤔🤔

Your character might cause it

drimzsmoke:
Kill your younger brother!!!

veekid:
Cos e get money pass u

LMAO! 😂😂

Nackzy:
My own naa because say my younger brother get money pass me

🤣😂

Dancebreaker:

Tor at bolded.

Even biblical Jacob loved Joseph and Benjamin more. Because he loved Rachel their mom more.

Na human nature.
At times, a child may look or behave like your mom or dad you loved so much.
At times, a dad may wonder if a particular child is his because his looks or behaviour may be so different from his or family traits.

Remember by the way that about 35% of firstborn kids and 25% of all kids belong to another man outside.

Hmmm, na wa o.

How did you arrive @this?

Beautifulvivy14:
In all I have learned and still learning I don't have a favourite Child among my kids..in fact is now a habit for me to always sound it to their hearing that I have equal love for every one.

Great. This is sound parenting.

gigabyte13:
Parents will always have preference among their children.
Publicly expressing it, is where the probs is.
I noticed my father preferred me
Same for my mother
Even though, l though spend on them like my elder brother does.
But me as a parent
Love my first daughter so so dearly.
Even God got preference
Who are we not to.....

This is the CRUX of this unending Child Preference matter! 😒😌😌

dalitigator:



Your father never preferred your younger brother over you. You do not fix a machine that is working perfectly. You only fix a machine that has issues.

Your father simply discovered that you had the capacity to take his stead when he has gone home. His next step was to work on your kid brother to ensure there is double insurance. In case you go home anytime before you take your seat in the council of elders, another will be able to keep the family going. You must often see beyond your nose.

From your write-up, I wish to believe you don't have a wife and kids of yours yet. When you do, you will start thinking about transgenerational continuity and keeping the family name. Then you will see what your father saw. I have been in your shoes, and I understand perfectly.

Exactly my own observation too.

Na poor student dey do extra-lesson.

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

You quite correct. Favouritism doesn't help children's self esteem, in fact it can destroy it and send that child into a spiral of self destructive behaviour.