Same here, my parents and elder sister loved and preferred my younger brother more. They said that he is more intelligent academically and more bold and outspoken but me nothing good can come out of me. Guess what, I passed the same exam we wrote together and they told him to teach me and also got admission ahead of him. My parents were shocked and up till this moment, he has not been able to do something meaningful with his life.

Mandate1:
stop lying jor.

What's your own truth? If you love one more than others, you must have gotten results of their DNA.

myrates:
What's your own truth? If you love one more than others, you must have gotten results of their DNA.

even among your close friends you sure do have a preference. It's natural for parents to have a preferred child of choice from the rest, even Jesus had a special inclination for Peter. This by no means suppose he doesn't love others. They are all loved equally. The only challenge is making it obvious or spilling it out to the rest of the kids. A class teacher will have a preferred student among the rest. I was once a class teacher at both primary and secondary level, this is a fact no one can deny from.

Aonkuuse:
But it's common that mothers like last borns more... Like in Tiv tradition, last Borns are the ones who inherits the mothers property shall....

Anyways, the thing is parents are really funny, my father liked our second born very well.... Do you know why.... Because our second born took the resemblance of our mother... Not because he was well behaved, but because he loves our mother and our second born is just exactly like her...

Who told you that?

Mothers prefer their first sons to any other

Doom u zuan a we hen, mo ka Kunav sha Vandeikya

Immarocks:


Mnénà shin kutim

Evestar200:
Most Parents always love the ones that give them money.

Exactly my brother

Facing same shit it is highly depressing both mum and dad even make it obvious but I feel there are more to that.

Gajagojo:
not liked MORE
That is not the correct language
Often protected and pampered more does not mean liked MORE
There are so many variables e.g the age gap between first and last can be 6-7years or more than 15
I have even seen 20 where last born is same age as First child of first born

So a mother will have learned mothering skills over time and correct early mistakes made when she had her first child, there may be more money in the family over time and age also catching up

I totally agree with you. My first son is very close to me. The hustling had reduced before I got married. I already bought a house a car and some investments before he was born. If he had met me when I was younger and hustling in lagos, chances are high that he would have been scared of me. I was more aggressive, temperamental, unavailable, and injured inside. With time, all that just changes and the kids born in that period of your life will just know a different version of you from the ones that witnessed it all.

Ensa777:
I have sat down and thought about it and yet it remains that I do not have any favorite among mine.

How old are they, what are their genders

Dancebreaker:

A publication by a DNA test lab in Lagos published their findings earlier this year. Search NL for it.
It found that 26.2% of ALL kids belong to another man. These are results the lab had over many years.

But older findings were roughly 25% for all kids and up to 40% (average 35%) for firstborns. We have discussed such reports for over 10 years on NL here.

Reason is most women have multiple sugar daddies and boyfriends and don't usually know who is father of first preggy. They usually give it to who is most eligible or most likely to accept it. But some still continue sleeping around but a bit less than when single.

Women used to dispute it here until the latest result came this year.
Only a very foolish will just accept a baby without DNA test these days. Even if she's your wedded wife.

I know people whose 2 or 3 kids were not theirs at all.

Hmm.... that lagos!

Anyways... stop making blanket statements. In hausa land, you can count 6 million people before you count one bastard

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Weytin concerns us concerns you...?...

parent always have the prefered once but is better to keep it secrete, my dad like my twin brother more than me because he is his resemblance and i resemble my mum. but i dont know who my mum like most among all of us.

Mandate1:
even among your close friends you sure do have a preference. It's natural for parents to have a preferred child of choice from the rest, even Jesus had a special inclination for Peter. This by no means suppose he doesn't love others. They are all loved equally. The only challenge is making it obvious or spilling it out to the rest of the kids. A class teacher will have a preferred student among the rest. I was once a class teacher at both primary and secondary level, this is a fact no one can deny from.

Story!

Feggie3:
love you 😍

MY MOTHER DID NOT PARTICIPATE IN MY SECONDARY SCHOOL TIME BUT I HUSTLED FOR IT

Greenfaces:

Hmm.... that lagos!

Anyways... stop making blanket statements. In hausa land, you can count 6 million people before you count one bastard

How many of them do DNA test up North? Let science speak. Humans are naturally deceitful. Things happen a lot when people feel they will not be found out. How many men can satisfy their 3 or 4 wives, some nubile young ones among them?

The old man's senior sons may be helping their dad with the job on younger wives.

Remember, even the wives may be cousins or nieces of the elderly hubby.

Let's stop pretending. This belief that "women in my area/tribe/religion" are different is exactly what women exploit.

Social media has allowed us access to various people. You will be shocked what some ladies from that your area told me.

Aonkuuse:
Doom u zuan a we hen, mo ka Kunav sha Vandeikya

Mo ka ooo...Doom kpishi ...mgu Nongov sha tse utem hen tsav guma..

Yange yó gu zan dido ko

Kwagh mo er ga chii, ka haman jiir u lu Higan?

Immarocks:


Mo ka ooo...Doom kpishi ...mgu Nongov sha tse utem hen tsav guma..

Yange yó gu zan dido ko

Dancebreaker:

How many of them do DNA test up North? Let science speak. Humans are naturally deceitful. Things happen a lot when people feel they will not be found out. How many men can satisfy their 3 or 4 wives, some nubile young ones among them?

The old man's senior sons may be helping their dad with the job on younger wives.

Remember, even the wives may be cousins or nieces of the elderly hubby.

Let's stop pretending. This belief that "women in my area/tribe/religion" are different is exactly what women exploit.

Social media has allowed us access to various people. You will be shocked what some ladies from that your area told me.

The culture is totally different. It's not like the southern life style where the movement of women is unrestricted. Its very easy to track these acts just by the structure of the society. There is no free mixing of opposite genders, hotels, police, neighbours all collaborate to ensure a healthy society. A woman who is not married doesn't even live alone in a rented apartment. Do you know what it is to be called dan iska? That's bustard. It's a very serious thing here. That's even pregnancy before marriage not to talk of giving someone's child to another man. I have never even seen a case like that here my entire life except amongst people whom the society has ordinarily cast away as unfit to coexist with normal people. These are the people you know as yan dabas, drug dealers, bandits, boko haram, prostitutes. they are not the everyday normal dan arewa we know. Its still very very common to be married as a virgin both as a man and woman here that's to tell you that social media or wokeness has not broken even the most basic traditions talkless of introducing new dimension to shamelessness

We often hear and discuss the issue of promiscuity in the south and some of us think its over rated, some think it's too bad to be true, but from the news and statistics, yes it's true that the media is not hyping this sex matter in the south. Its actually a free for all and sign of the end time

Aonkuuse:
Kwagh mo er ga chii, ka haman jiir u lu Higan?

Toh..Wuese tér ...Mgu hen Jos...wegh er?

kwasoly:



Change that narrative by honouring him like never before buy him gifts suprise him.
Ask your Mummy what he likes and get it for him, I bet you with my life.
The way to a man's heart is through honour...

excuse me
Are you naturally stupid or it is intentional

M'gu sha Abuja

Immarocks:


Toh..Wuese tér ...Mgu hen Jos...wegh er?

Aonkuuse:
M'gu sha Abuja

Ok...nahan orla tinubu a nongu a pande nyare u kwayan mashi mkulem ma kwa nahan

toh zayol gu ga, me orun fa se je

Immarocks:


Ok...nahan orla tinubu a nongu a pande nyare u kwayan mashi mkulem ma kwa nahan

Aonkuuse:
toh zayol gu ga, me orun fa se je

Ka Shá Mee👏

crystalmoon:
excuse me
Are you naturally stupid or it is intentional

Go and ask your father because he didn't train you well?

Greenfaces:


The culture is totally different. It's not like the southern life style where the movement of women is unrestricted. Its very easy to track these acts just by the structure of the society. There is no free mixing of opposite genders, hotels, police, neighbours all collaborate to ensure a healthy society. A woman who is not married doesn't even live alone in a rented apartment. Do you know what it is to be called dan iska? That's bustard. It's a very serious thing here. That's even pregnancy before marriage not to talk of giving someone's child to another man. I have never even seen a case like that here my entire life except amongst people whom the society has ordinarily cast away as unfit to coexist with normal people. These are the people you know as yan dabas, drug dealers, bandits, boko haram, prostitutes. they are not the everyday normal dan arewa we know. Its still very very common to be married as a virgin both as a man and woman here that's to tell you that social media or wokeness has not broken even the most basic traditions talkless of introducing new dimension to shamelessness

We often hear and discuss the issue of promiscuity in the south and some of us think its over rated, some think it's too bad to be true, but from the news and statistics, yes it's true that the media is not hyping this sex matter in the south. Its actually a free for all and sign of the end time

Look, just because most girls marry very young before they even have the chance to date does not mean when married, things won't happen, For example, marrying your cousin in most of the South is incest. No such qualms in Core North. Therefore straffing cousins might be rampant.

Also, on paper, drug use should be low in the North, but we know it's not.

Premarital pregnancy will of course be rare when you marry soon after reaching puberty.

Look, all societies believe their structure is superb, until science speaks. Fact is we just don't have figures from the North.

Where awareness and suspicion are low, then reliable data would be rare. At least we have data for part of Lagos, none for any part of Kano.

Na you follow me dey live my life! You dey my house? Are you a member of family? Why you go tell me say I dey lie?

frog12:
fake story. the gap big oo. what is the age gap between you and your elder brother?
maybe you dey spend anyhow