Trustmea:
You should inquire from ur mum if that man is ur dad

LMAO! 🤣

I have sat down and thought about it and yet it remains that I do not have any favorite among mine.

Great0ne1:

Akpo no dey sawa. Bad guy

LOL HOW THEM GO 4UK WOMAN,BORN PLENTY PIKIN,SHE NOW LOVE C MORE THAN A ,______ MAYBE SHE NO REMEMBER HOW THEM 4UK HER TO GET THOSE BELLE_____ SHE NOW DECIDED TO LOVE ONE MORE THAN OTHERS, SHE GO PAY TIRE 😳

VinnyBaba:


Hmmm, na wa o.

How did you arrive @this?

A publication by a DNA test lab in Lagos published their findings earlier this year. Search NL for it.
It found that 26.2% of ALL kids belong to another man. These are results the lab had over many years.

But older findings were roughly 25% for all kids and up to 40% (average 35%) for firstborns. We have discussed such reports for over 10 years on NL here.

Reason is most women have multiple sugar daddies and boyfriends and don't usually know who is father of first preggy. They usually give it to who is most eligible or most likely to accept it. But some still continue sleeping around but a bit less than when single.

Women used to dispute it here until the latest result came this year.
Only a very foolish will just accept a baby without DNA test these days. Even if she's your wedded wife.

I know people whose 2 or 3 kids were not theirs at all.

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quiet, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Fixed

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

most times there is nothing a parent can do because the likeness is natural,out of my 6 children I loved my fourth child the most she is currently doing nursing science and she is the excat replica of my late mother,both in stature ,speech,behaviour,manners,will of character,infact what she is called is osodiemeaku or osodi which means a wife that helps her husband to make wealth ,which is my late mother's alias when she was alive.

Aaaaarghmed:
Your own better.i no need talk my own story.all the experience made me very strong emotionally.cold too and very independent.

Same canoe carry me and you bro! We stand by ourselves always!

Antai123:
Please friends I need your advice.
I already took a bad decision, I'm about to take another one, I just Pray that God helps me.
The story gos

I resigned from my former place of work because of hostility. I had to relocate to East, to take a bank Job, all I hoped for was to get reposted back to Abuja. After a while... But I have spent 3 months into the job already. And have this in mind, my accomodations is still existing in Abuja as I never wanted to leave the city.

Now coming to this part of the east, it happened that it's in the village, not really a town, and iam regretting already.

I want to go back to my base in Abuja, to make matter worse with my new job, I don't have time for myself, I can't even prepare for my ICAN exams. I want to resign and go back to Abuja.

The economy is hard now, I don't know how I will survive in Abuja now. Please, should I resign, what can I do to atleast survive till I get another job?

Please drop ur comment, please don't attack me.

Open your own thread & tag the mods. 🤷

It's very painful to be treated as second class by those you expect to love you unconditionally.Talkless of them saying it to your face.My mum did same for me with my younger brother.Though it can felt bad before now but now I am stronger, better and richer independence on anybody except God.
So just use it to motivate your self to be the best you can be and ensure you don't repeat same with your children.

Karlifate:


Open your own thread & tag the mods. 🤷

How do I do that please?

Beautifulvivy14:
In all I have learned and still learning I don't have a favourite Child among my kids..in fact is now a habit for me to always sound it to their hearing that I have equal love for every one.

👍

Don't rush critical decision of your life it can lead to a life time of regret.
Anyways,my advice is look really deep inside what do you really want, that connects you to your preferred destiny then decide to go for it.nontheless try to gather some change in your present work to register and write your Ican before resigning there with nothing to fall back on. That will help you leverage forward in case you decide to resign, when you start another job hunting.

Karlifate:


Open your own thread & tag the mods. 🤷

Antai123:
Please friends I need your advice.
I already took a bad decision, I'm about to take another one, I just Pray that God helps me.
The story gos

I resigned from my former place of work because of hostility. I had to relocate to East, to take a bank Job, all I hoped for was to get reposted back to Abuja. After a while... But I have spent 3 months into the job already. And have this in mind, my accomodations is still existing in Abuja as I never wanted to leave the city.

Now coming to this part of the east, it happened that it's in the village, not really a town, and iam regretting already.

I want to go back to my base in Abuja, to make matter worse with my new job, I don't have time for myself, I can't even prepare for my ICAN exams. I want to resign and go back to Abuja.

The economy is hard now, I don't know how I will survive in Abuja now. Please, should I resign, what can I do to atleast survive till I get another job?

Please drop ur comment, please don't attack me.

Create a thread

I am the carbon copy of my dad in looks. This made my mum really close to me. But, it was the other way round for my dad. He often felt disappointed in that the resemblance was only physical. He wanted me in his preferred career path of medicine, but I never liked nor fulfilled his desire. This often made him make such comments that I didn't inherit his cerebral capacity. Initially, I used to feel a certain resentment against this, but later on just became carefree towards this. My mom on the other was always quick to defend me.
Both are gone now, but I felt her departure more. I cried and was depressed for weeks.

phenylalanine:

God go help you, things go better

AMEN

Ignore, move on with your life! Don't allow hatred or envy get hold of you. You're the BEST!

dalitigator:



Your father never preferred your younger brother over you. You do not fix a machine that is working perfectly. You only fix a machine that has issues.

Your father simply discovered that you had the capacity to take his stead when he has gone home. His next step was to work on your kid brother to ensure there is double insurance. In case you go home anytime before you take your seat in the council of elders, another will be able to keep the family going. You must often see beyond your nose.

From your write-up, I wish to believe you don't have a wife and kids of yours yet. When you do, you will start thinking about transgenerational continuity and keeping the family name. Then you will see what your father saw. I have been in your shoes, and I understand perfectly.

Made sense

Affection fades with time, favouritism affects forever.
They are not the same.

Godada:


What's most important to note here is that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.

Moreover, what happens to you isn't important but how you respond to it.

Your dad has shown a weakness exhibited by lots of parents.

The child they lavish with love and depend on often times, fail them.

The boldest very true most times

Aonkuuse:
But it's common that mothers like last borns more... Like in Tiv tradition, last Borns are the ones who inherits the mothers property shall....

Anyways, the thing is parents are really funny, my father liked our second born very well.... Do you know why.... Because our second born took the resemblance of our mother... Not because he was well behaved, but because he loves our mother and our second born is just exactly like her...

Mothers always prefer their first son in igbo land

Westerhoffe:
Mmm… I won't want to comment on this.

But that thing can set siblings in array against one another.
Parents should be careful displaying favouritsm.

So right

You'll just know that your siblings are jealous of you even if they pretend to love you.

I'm writing from experience

Ahmed0336:

You can't. We've been there.

You can only hide it.

Hmmm

Even in he bible , God prefered a particular child, man, nation. So who are you mortal man?

veekid:
Cos e get money pass u

Lol dey play

RECTEM:
How does that affect you. It doesn't matter. Just aim to be the best and be there for your parents!

It doesn't affect me in anyway, this is just a notice out there for parents to do better

kokakola:
It's saddening when Men start thinking with their Emotion.
Whoever think like this is trying to use his own hands to destroy himself.
Men do not think this way. Men should be logical and think Forward.

I don't understand your point.
Be more straightforward.

don't be foolish. don't start trouble in the family

It's never a sin because even with Jesus Christ, what Peter could not ask Him John the Beloved can ask. Jacob nearly kill Joseph by displaying his favouritism on him to the rest of his siblings. In short, their may be special child due to circumstances of birth but never shall you as parent display it!





quote author=lecoeur post=126916680]While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.[/quote]

frog12:
don't be foolish. don't start trouble in the family

Some of you on this platform need to learn how to read and comprehend.

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

Focus on you, give the energy to your career. Success gat no enemy. Building your empire with zero inheritance is possible.

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

When I saw this post my mind was like, WTF!!
Adults shouldn't care about this at all. You don't give a damn about being preferred or liked by your parents. A grown man with responsibility shouldn't care about this . Only teenagers in their parents house should carw