Puss360:
Lol.... It's good he is seeing it and speaking from experience...

ezechi24:
It's his family ...he shouldn't generalize it.....besides if he is the richest in the family, what stops him from elevating the rest, there's a reason why you were wealthy and your wealth isn't meant for you alone, you have to help the rest to a certain level so they don't always come for help, when I say help I don't mean giving them 50 thousand and you'd think you've done the world for them, yes it's a thing of choice, but only one tree can not make a forest.

casualobserver:
I really dislike this guy. Are Nigerians the only footballers from poor backgrounds with family hanger-ons? Same thing happens with other African and South American footballers. They dont come on tv or radio selling out their own to please his white masters.

I don’t have a problem with what he said, I have a problem with him saying it to outsiders to get ratings.
O I has an inferiority complex with his stupid fake accent!

Jamie1000:
Entitlement aside, we only feel like we don't need family when we become rich and privileged. If you feel like you don't owe your family members expecially your blood help or assistance to get them in a better place in life, you're nut. Where's empathy? Tomorrow, your kids might the one needing help. Self centred generation.

okoroemeka:
for him to speak out like this shows that he has had enough,there are reasonable demands and quite frankly there are the ridiculous one, there was this my uncle that was a director in FIRs after Mr Fowler,he was very wealthy no contest,he gave me money once and I squandered it,since then I don't have the face or shame to ask again because I know many people will stand in life with such money,,and moreover there is a 90% probability that he will refuse,so why bother

maasoap:
And how many family members of his did he lift out of poverty? Enjoy your money and let's rest.

Princeyoungd2:


Na them be this, you are a complete goat.

gr8child:
The thing about Nigerians is that when they are shamed for having bad character they start fighting the person that gave true criticisms instead of looking inwards and looking for how to change their ways for the better. If you are ashamed of someone exposing your people for their entitlement mentality then you need to face the people who are behaving badly not the poor man who is suffering it.

DonBenny77:
Of course you belong to your family. They own you. And it's your responsibility to make your family smile before you consider strangers. Build your family I'm not saying you must grant every request but try for your family because when you die na still that family go reciprocate. Some wealthy men impress the streets and let the family suffer then when they fall off in the future they can't sustain because the didn't empower family.
Mikel particularly is a stingy guy, compare him to Mane from Senegal in terms of being charitable. Mikel would rather spend millions on a whip for model than support his family.
Don't downplay family, family is everything

grandstar:

If I earned half of what Mikel Obi was earning, I'll set up at least 20 of my relations. If any still fail, at least I know I did my best.

Angelfrost:


You are not being objective... Europeans are not more magnanimous than Africans. Abeg, kill that nonsense from your head.

Are you aware that Africans, especially Nigerians are regarded as the Begging Bowl of the Universe??! DO you know what that implies??!

Do you know what Entitlement Mindset means??! Do you know how many of our people refuse to wake up and do creative things just because they believe those older than they are and succeeding will bankroll their lives?!!

Most Nigerians beg a lot! Airport Staff, Police, Army, even Clergymen, young ladies, guys, etc... Corporate begging has taken off in Nigeria... Do you see such abroad??!

So, don't just attack those who work hard and succeed, and keep to themselves... What about the ones who think or believe wealthy people should compulsorily cater to their needs and even greed??!

This is the genesis of the nation's economic problems: SUBSIDY!

This same entitlement mentality made states do nothing creatively to attract investors and boost exports... Everyone demands cheap commodities and a tax-free existence.

The consequence of such handouts (Subsidies)??! Well... Look at your nation's debt profile.

I have relatives far wealthier than I am, and the only thing I ever tell them is Hi... I never begrudge them their money or resources no matter how infinite they seem. I have way too much dignity and self-respect to stoop that low.

DonBenny77:
Of course you belong to your family. They own you. And it's your responsibility to make your family smile before you consider strangers. Build your family I'm not saying you must grant every request but try for your family because when you die na still that family go reciprocate. Some wealthy men impress the streets and let the family suffer then when they fall off in the future they can't sustain because the didn't empower family.
Mikel particularly is a stingy guy, compare him to Mane from Senegal in terms of being charitable. Mikel would rather spend millions on a whip for model than support his family.
Don't downplay family, family is everything

DyshApp:
Former Chelsea star, Mikel Obi, has stirred reactions online following an attack against demanding family members that act entitled.

In an interview with fellow football player Rio Ferdinand, the former captain of the Super Eagles bemoaned the fact that, in Africa, families frequently have the right to inherit an individual’s wealth.

Video:https://twitter.com/rioferdy5/status/1725199091146096677?t=V8XwUnfMWuCSb-JMaBXMvw&s=19

According to him, when an African person gets money, many cousins and relatives start to make demands, and some of sisters married men who just wanted to related to him because of his status.

The football player said that he sometimes had to be tough and set aside his personal demands since these people have so many children and need him to take care of them.

Mikel Obi stated that these extended family members believe he owes them money and threaten to go to the press if he refuses. It is prevalent in Africa, according to the football player.

In his words;

“When you come from Africa, when you make money, it’s not your money. You have all these relatives, cousins, and your sisters go off and get married to some guy who just wants to get married into Mikel John Obi’s family because his life is sorted, and then you start looking after this guy, and before you know it, they keep having so many kids and you look at it like,

‘Okay, you’re having this many kids, who are going to look after them?’ It’s you! It’s the culture because, for them, you owe them that, so sometimes you have to be strong and say, ‘You know what, guys, enough is enough; I don’t care’. They give you this thing whereby ‘if you don’t do it, we’re going to go to the press’. After all, what have I done for you guys? But this happens a lot in Africa. Not everybody comes out and speaks about it.”

Is this true😂

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grandstar:


Oyinbo are not like this.

They are actually more "stingy" than us. Their stinginess originates not necessarily out of cruelty but borne out of ignorance.

I had a distant cousin who my dad took to America when she was 7. This was a girl who only spoke the Ondo dialect. She's now an army doctor and even served in Iraq. She'll soon be 50.

Though she is grateful, she has never sent a dime home to my dad as that is not the culture there. Her mum may send money to bring all her 3 siblings to the States but that's her mum's culture.

Look at Barack Obama. I doubt he helped any of his kin to America. I doubt he did anything for Kenya. I doubt if he helped any set up businesses. I would die of shock if he sends monthly remittances to up to $200 to two of his relations.

If I earned half of what Mikel Obi was earning, I'll set up at least 20 of my relations. If any still fail, at least I know I did my best.

My dad, despite a lean purse, assisted many people. He hoped as he helped one branch of the family, they would help their immediate sibling. It worked for some but failed woefully for others.

DonBenny77:
Of course you belong to your family. They own you. And it's your responsibility to make your family smile before you consider strangers. Build your family I'm not saying you must grant every request but try for your family because when you die na still that family go reciprocate. Some wealthy men impress the streets and let the family suffer then when they fall off in the future they can't sustain because the didn't empower family.
Mikel particularly is a stingy guy, compare him to Mane from Senegal in terms of being charitable. Mikel would rather spend millions on a whip for model than support his family.
Don't downplay family, family is everything

DonBenny77:

Learn to make use of your brain first

LordAdam16:


Mikel Obi did set up a number of his relations.

Furthermore, of all professionals, black tax impact athletes the most.
Their income does not last a lifetime.
You get stupendously paid for a decade, if that, of your life.

Notice the candor and distress in his statement.
He is not a corporate grunt who would earn more as he gets older.
He is not an accomplished entertainer receiving million-dollar royalty paychecks every month.

His best earning years are behind him.
And it is excruciatingly painful that the money he spent on his family including investments failed to yield fruits.

Financial discipline is essential, especially at the start.
Let them call you stingy. If you don't send money for naming ceremony, you can still pay for college tuition.
That 15 year interval is crucial. Between when you start having spare change and when good money start rolling in from various sources.
Billing no dey finish.
In fact, it is your responsibility to appropriate manage when to give and when to snake them.
That's why Lady Luck chose you.

Lastly, this all depends on family.
For every Mikel Obi and regular professional complaining about Black Tax, there are hundreds of families where most family members are industrious and have good heads on their shoulders.
A bad family is like a bad wife. They'd wreck you.
Whatever you expend will be like watering a stone.
You employ them, problem. You open a business for them, problem. You foot bills, problem.
When you're not Elon Musk.

We don't choose family like we don't choose our genes.
So you study your family and figure out how best to deal with them.
If they're assets, good for you. If they're liabilities, work out how to address the challenge.
If there are families where literally everyone in the immediate nuclear family is a white-collar professional, and yours isn't, common sense dictates that you acknowledge you're handicapped and act accordingly.

Other families dey do winter retreat for Northern Europe or a lake house in North America, you dey dodge bill for school fees or rent. And you still 1 do pass yourself. On top 69 years life expectancy. Continue. Na billing go kee you.

-Lord

Mindlog:


If you had an elder sibling who bought 10 brand new buses for your dad to manage a transport business, will you and your other siblings have any excuse to struggle financially, years later?

Mindlog:


I used that brain to learn how the brain works and after being certified, now assessing how other people's brain works, is how I earn my daily bread......so make another attempt to "insult" me.

On a lighter note, I have had numerous psychiatric patients who I have worked with tell me your exact words and I always jokingly replied them, working with you here in the psychiatric facility is me making use of my brain.

nedekid:
While he said is true talk no doubt, but he should also put himself in their shoes, what if he was the relative and his eg brother was the sucessful one?

ottersberger:


In other words, the man you replied is a certified madman since he is arguing with a certified brain examiner.

I get it

nedekid:
While he said is true talk no doubt, but he should also put himself in their shoes, what if he was the relative and his eg brother was the sucessful one?

Ishilove:

Is this an excuse to have more children than you can cater for?

ottersberger:


Please, do not waster your time with these people.they are set in their ways already

One is no longer talking to me because I vehemently refused to pay for his wife's hospital bills after childbirth, having done same previously.

How do you impregnate your wife without recourse to how you would manage the fallout?. And you have 8 odd months to plan.

And how do you proceed when she got released by me, still me, right?.

Africans can be terrible and unreasonable.

Mindlog:


Stop comparing Mikel to Mane and compare Mikel to yourself or are you not a man like him?

Tell us how you have bought fleet of brand new buses for your family to manage a transport company.

Tell us how you have pumped in millions in funding, to set up a music recording company for your brother.

Tell us how you have funded your siblings luxurious lifestyles.