cococandy:

Okay I guess

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3659904/

You should have read further. I already highlighted that PCOS leads to obesity in women which is what increases the risk of miscarriage not the PCOS itself. You should have read your link further

Kukutenla:

You should have read further. I already highlighted that PCOS leads to obesity in women which is what increases the risk of miscarriage not the PCOS itself. You should have read your link further

See goal shifting.
I did read further and that is directly related to PCOS. So in your deductive ability, it wasn’t caused by PCOS?
Do all obese women have miscarriages or is it worse in obese women who have PCOS?
ATP you’re just arguing to argue.

Her age is not a barrier, if you love her, then marry her, it's God that gives children.

Jeyun:
first wife for what?

loyalty

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me..
She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

The important thing in life is getting a partner that understands situations and supports progressive moves.
Flee if she's still unwise or trying to trap you with guilt.
If you don't know how to leave her then start getting younger side chick to impregnate and marry either her head go correct or your lineage future will be corrected from fertility issues. If everything is ok with you as a man, you have no business worrying about one lady. Based on your family's situation both you and your brother should even be taking polygamy abi na polyamory very seriously.

Forget virgin anything. All of them na virgin and u na mumu.
Na u dey pressure yourself.
Church and counseling is deceiving both of you.
Marry her traditionally.
Propose, move in together, get pregnant (even have kids), complete marriage rites as time goes by or at once after first pregnancy/childbirth.
An Igbo adage says "Dem no dey marry woman finish."

beekind:

The bolded is my concern, my only other sibling has been trying to conceive for years now, imagine how devastating it would be if we both are in this same shoe.

If she can agree with you that you can do sperm insemination with another woman after 2 years of trial with her, then - you can marry her if both of you love and understand yourself.

Kobojunkie:
That is a terrible question to ask. You don't shackle a partner because you fear the next person may not be able to satisfy you. That is not marriage but prison camp.

Fortunately & unfortunately, what you said is true but still doesn't guarantee anything.

MissJoy29:
■ Fortunately & unfortunately, what you said is true but still doesn't guarantee anything.

When you are dealing with human relationships, expect absolutely no guarantees. That way you can more reasonably sort out the various issues you encounter along the way.

Kobojunkie:
When you are dealing with human relationships, expect absolutely no guarantees. That way you can more reasonably sort out the various issues you encounter along the way.

You are right again.

Kukutenla:

This your story touch me sha.
But (if true and not just cruise), are you really sure she's a virgin?
You need to be careful and sure of who and what you're dating because PCOS does not just spring up out of the blue.
Part of the causative factors of PCOS are use of contraceptives and abortion.
Another one is poor hygiene and diet especially obesity and diabetes so if any of this is the cause then that means you have specific work to do on her before you marry her.

I wonder where you got this information from. It is very wrong and I suggest you read properly rather than propagate false information

cococandy:


This is false information.

PCOS can lead to spontaneous abortions AKA miscarriages. PCOS itself is a syndrome. Not caused by anything we know of…yet. There’s a possible genetic link.

The syndrome CAN lead to other conditions like insulin resistance, diabetes, infertility, miscarriages, obesity etc.
Abortions do not cause PCOS. It’s the other way around.

I know a lot of you enjoy guilt and sex shaming women. That’s why you look for any opportunity to blame anything a woman is going through on the sex she had with someone that wasn’t you. Because all women owe you some idealized state of purity. I understand.
But you are not entitled to your own set of facts.

Coco still has some bangers left for 2023

Ishilove:

I wonder where you got this information from. It is very wrong and I suggest you read properly rather than propagate false information

I have my facts.
You have none
But you want to argue

GloriousGbola:


Coco still has some bangers left for 2023

merry Christmas

Kukutenla:

I have my facts.
You have none
But you want to argue

All the 'facts' you have presented so far have been interpreted through your own warped, unlearned lenses. Even a medical professional (coco candy) has pointed you to researched articles that describe the symptoms of PCOS and have made it clear that the main causes of the condition remains largely unknown, but Kukutena knows more than scientists and doctors.

Carry on, but please don't propagate falsehood.

Kobojunkie:
Please set the girl free and go find yourself the fertility goddess you need instead.

She is still 27 so before her youth leaves her, set her free. Let her find her own love who will have her as priority above everything else. Stop holding her hostage in a relationship which you already know ain't going to go anywhere for her.

Chuckling at the bold.

At the end of the day, everyone knows the difference between fantasy and reality

Compliments of the season Kobo ☺️

Adanambra1:



Goodmorning OP. if i tell you i n have an advice to give you. i am a big Liar. one thing i will say, do not marry by human calculation., just take a 7 days fast, ask the holy spirit for a clear direction,
ask him to give you a sign of peace, or he should speak to you through dreams or revelation. tell him, God is this woman or man is not your will for me, let the marriage plan scatter. my husband prayed this prayers before we got married. i married into a family. where some siblings of my husband had delays and fertility issues. it discouraged my husband from married, He was almost 40. afraid of marriage. his younger sibling already married. story plenty... i no fit type.... all you need now is partnership with the holy not prophets.... my eye see something. infact during one marriage counselling session. one of their family pastor said... Nnne you know childbirth can delay in marriage.

hope you will happily stay married to your husband... because the pastor knows my husband family antecedence with infertility struggle. omor eeh i gently, respectfully but firmly but interrupted the man of God sharp sharp.... ( i was just 29... this their family pastor is in his 50s....


i tell the pastor am say no be like this dey do marriage counselling. my fiancée now husband was shocked, ( i remember when pastor Paul Enenche said do not keep quite when matters challenging your destiny are discussed) which kind counsel of Ahithophel be this, i said in my mind, i had goose pimples that day...
We got married. i was 29years , my husband clocked 40years


hahaha, you don't want to experience Ndi womb watchers.

at the end God showed us Mercy. I got pregnant after 2 months of marriage to the glory of God
God had mercy on me and my husband.

God can favour a 40 years old woman and she gets pregnant easily and born within the first year of marriage .
while 21 year old virgin fit dey wait ooo for 5 years or more

there are no parameters. no formulars ( hey mind you my husband was my first sexual partner)
so i am pro chastity.
what am i am saying in essence, this are hard matters. you need to partner with the Holy ghost, not pastors, prophets or Naira landers. May the lord himself give you an answer of peace, Amen

Well said

bukatyne:
Chuckling at the bold.

At the end of the day, everyone knows the difference between fantasy and reality

Compliments of the season Kobo ☺️

Happy holidays to you too!

Adanambra1:


Not true ma. i married as a Virgin at 29years as a lady. my husband also was a virgin at 40years, he was born 1982 ....
after wedding we could not achieve penetrative sex for almost 3 weeks. my husband didnt even know where the vagina was located. he mistook it for the pee hole. each time he had a strong erection, its went flat as soon as he tried to insert the kings Rod, no entrace, i felt pains like hell. thank God for youtube videos, we even watched the messy irritating porn videos...it didnt help . until we jammed one doctor on youtube channel first time sex tutorial. my hubby started with one finger, graduate to two fingers...
we continue to mumu until week 3... the rest is history...
i got pregnant after 2 months of wedding.
sex still feels a little painful once in a while. as i am nursing a newborn


yeah i know some ladies are liars and manipulators. but not all
his fiancee might be or not
only GOD knows shall

I can relate

Mumu till it was done lol

Ishilove:

All the 'facts' you have presented so far have been interpreted through your own warped, unlearned lenses. Even a medical professional (coco candy) has pointed you to researched articles that describe the symptoms of PCOS and have made it clear that the main causes of the condition remains largely unknown, but Kukutena knows more than scientists and doctors.

Carry on, but please don't propagate falsehood.

I know what I know
And I have my facts to back it up
I am not propagating any falsehood
What I don't get is why you all are fixated on only one particular aspect of my facts
Truth hurts

Kukutenla:

I know what I know
And I have my facts to back it up
I am not propagating any falsehood
What I don't get is why you all are fixated on only one particular aspect of my facts
Truth hurts

Truth according to Kukutenla.

Whatever you do, please confine this your 'truth' to Nairaland so that you don't embarrass yourself outside

Ishilove:

Truth according to Kukutenla.

Whatever you do, please confine this your 'truth' to Nairaland so that you don't embarrass yourself outside

Is this supposed to be life saving advice or what

I stand by what I wrote

It is based on cogent verifiable facts

Kukutenla:

Is this supposed to be life saving advice or what

I stand by what I wrote

It is based on cogent verifiable facts

Please post these sources where it is clearly stated that birth control pills are one of the causes of PCOS. I'm very interested in reading them

Ishilove:

Please post these sources where it is clearly stated that birth control pills are one of the causes of PCOS. I'm very interested in reading them

I already posted them
Go through the thread

Kukutenla:

I already posted them
Go through the thread

I have done that, but none of what you posted said anything about birth control pills being a causative factor of polycystic ovarian syndrome. Absolutely none at all, so where are these supposed 'verifiable facts'??

Ishilove:

I have done that, but none of what you posted said anything about birth control pills being a causative factor of polycystic ovarian syndrome. Absolutely none at all, so where are these supposed 'verifiable facts'??

Go back and read them
Read them till the light comes on

Kukutenla:

Keep quiet and stop arguing.
Abortion can lead to hormonal imbalance
Contraceptives can lead to hormonal imbalance
Psychological issues can lead to hormonal imbalance
Hygiene issues can lead to hormonal imbalance
Overwieght and underweight can lead to hormonal imbalance
PCOS is hormonal imbalance

Christ. I didn't even see this one. I have read crap on this forum, but this one takes the medal

Ishilove:

Christ. I didn't even see this one. I have read crap on this forum, but this one takes the medal

E shock you abi

Na soo

Kukutenla:

Go back and read them
Read them till the light comes on

Nah, I'll pass. I can see that you are a very very unintelligent individual and arguing with you will be akin to arguing with a mentally retärded child, so no, I won't read your posts any further, lest my IQ takes a dangerous plunge into the murky waters of gross ignorance and defiant doltishness. No offence.

You have yourself a goodnight

Kukutenla:

E shock you abi

Na soo

I swear. I weak

Ishilove:

Nah, I'll pass. I can see that you are a very very unintelligent individual and arguing with you will be akin to arguing with a mentally retärded child, so no, I won't read your posts lest my IQ takes a dangerous plunge into the murky waters of gross ignorance and defiant doltishness. No offence.

You have yourself a goodnight

But you already did.

I hope you can find your lil iq in the dirty waters where it's plunged into. Godspeed in your ultimate search

Iree oo