ahnie:
What if the man is drained financially?you re practically trying to break this woman's already shaken home.

The husband has rights to complain, he's human for God sake and cannot do pass his self.

Oga tell the lady to go get a job kawai,no sugar coating the bitter truth.

You Don't know how long the husband has bn telling her to get a job and help easing the burden.


The truth's the man is seeing someone else.
The lady should try get a job and mind her she deals with her husband shikina.

ahnie:
What if the man is drained financially?you re practically trying to break this woman's already shaken home.

The husband has rights to complain, he's human for God sake and cannot do pass his self.

Oga tell the lady to go get a job kawai,no sugar coating the bitter truth.

You Don't know how long the husband has bn telling her to get a job and help easing the burden.


The truth's the man is seeing someone else.
The lady should try get a job and mind her she deals with her husband shikina.

PedoBear:


Walk to any establishment and apply to be a cleaner


It's not that hard to do that considering you're in need of work

www-nairaland-com/7930422/office-cleaning-job-attractive-salary?iorg_service_id_internal=1646953538912597">https://https-www-nairaland-com/7930422/office-cleaning-job-attractive-salary?iorg_service_id_internal=1646953538912597%3BAfpkIW-2KKVEv45l

Or if you are a humble brag , make soap and distribute

ChybuzzDD:


This is pure rubbish and you'll end up creating more problems for this lady with this kind of utterance.

There's a huge financial pressure on lots of Nigerian families at the moment and many lone earners are getting frustrated day by day.

If you're married and living in Nigeria, you should understand.

Acidosis:



No, I won't do that. A job cannot fix a wicked man.

MsJackson:
Thanks

madscientist88:
you are welcome please also take note, everything i said here is just my own perceptions,my allegations of him cheating could be wrong but i am just stating the obvious.

MsJackson:
I've been through a lot to agree with the 'wicked' part. I know what I've seen, even while pregnant with my only child, I've been acting all calm and submissive because of peace, but he's not changing.
Truth is, I tried my hands in about 3 businesses and they all failed, with me losing money that hubby refused to give. It was friends that gave money to me.
But when I was working, he was always so calm enough to collect from me, now that situation has turned, I became trash to him.
Where he's working presently, it was my slot from a friend that I gave to him, because they didn't require female workers then, only male. And I gave that slot to him. He too was jobless before, so he understands what I'm going through. Be patient till January, he said no, and left the house.

StPete:


You're one very nasty b.itch and I am happy I struck a nerve because I am very sure you are like the OP if not worse. You sit all day at home pressing phone and waiting for one hardworking man to come feed you. You will learn and learn in a very terrible way soonest

Acidosis:



I completely understand your plight. In fact, you don't need to explain anything else for me to conclude that he's indeed wicked and needs to change. I can never understand how a man would walk out of his home, his wife, and their only child just because his wife is temporarily out of a job in a country where the majority are either jobless or grossly underpaid.
Thank you soooo much. I'll try talk to someone he will listen to, and hope for the best.

This is the best time to work on fixing your marriage. Perhaps you could find someone to talk some sense into him. A job can come later, once he's in a better place mentally and is sensible enough to be responsible.

Acidosis:



I completely understand your plight. In fact, you don't need to explain anything else for me to conclude that he's indeed wicked and needs to change. I can never understand how a man would walk out of his home, his wife, and their only child just because his wife is temporarily out of a job in a country where the majority are either jobless or grossly underpaid.

This is the best time to work on fixing your marriage. Perhaps you could find someone to talk some sense into him. A job can come later, once he's in a better place mentally and is sensible enough to be responsible.

Fountainofyouth:


Afofugbemu Asinwin omo ale tsinnanu that is what I and my husband are.

Acidosis:



No, I won't do that. A job cannot fix a wicked man.

Foodqueen:
I wish Eddy had left my cousin like this, she would av still be here.

She practically push/nag her to her death.

henrimoto:
Oga!, Do you know the OP in person before now ..that you are writing "Almost Certain" ?

You are an Adult, a man of your Age shouldn't address a family matter the way you just did.

If any woman had hurt you before, you don't carry that grudges around like a child.

You no be am jare.

Intergrated:
the way you comment shows you are one from the 80's. Where morals are instilled in you

We4all:
OP, what is the financial capacity of your husband? Isn't he the head of family and expected to provide the basic needs for you and your kid?

If he actually walked away knowing full well you had nothing to fall back on, then you don't have a husband. That dude is tired of the marriage and is using your joblessness as an excuse.

You mentioned that you studied Chemical Engineering. How have you not been able to utilize what you studied in school? There are so many prospects for people like you, did you explore any?

I implore you to get your acts together and go search for a viable means of income. Then divorce the thing you call husband. Stooping so low to call him shows how dependent you are on him. It is making him feel important. Any man that doesn't prioritize the welfare of his family is a dog and you are better off without him.

Curiouscity:
I find it hard to believe that a man will leave his family because his wife is not working or earning any income. Sounds absurd.
I believe one of these 3 scenarios is likely going on:

A. The man is in the hands (call it laps) of another woman. He is using the silly excuse of the wife not working to leave.

B. There is another reason why the man left. But the OP is being economical with the truth. I have seen enough in my personal experience and those of friends, to know most of what we hear from ladies when relationships/marriages hit the rocks are not true. Most ladies like playing the victim cards. They tell the stories that will gain them more pity.

C. Could be related to how she handles the little money the man brings in, or her attitude towards looking for the job.

But if it is true that he left because the wife has no job, then the man still needs some growing up to do. And I will join others to advise OP to be very serious in looking for a job, to develop a new mindset of a new life without such a guy.

StPete:


You're one very nasty b.itch and I am happy I struck a nerve because I am very sure you are like the OP if not worse. You sit all day at home pressing phone and waiting for one hardworking man to come feed you. You will learn and learn in a very terrible way soonest

LadyRosa2:


You're ab idiot!
A man that can't take care of one child is no man at all.Even aboki who sells sweet and chewing gum still take care of 8 children

MsJackson:
Don't mind him. Some people just take their personal issues and pain and pour it into someone's post. When I was working, feeding him and even convinced my mum to help buy a car for high purchase deal, were you there? Acting as if you know me from anywhere

MsJackson:
I've been through a lot to agree with the 'wicked' part. I know what I've seen, even while pregnant with my only child, I've been acting all calm and submissive because of peace, but he's not changing.
Truth is, I tried my hands in about 3 businesses and they all failed, with me losing money that hubby refused to give. It was friends that gave money to me.
But when I was working, he was always so calm enough to collect from me, now that situation has turned, I became trash to him.

Where he's working presently, it was my slot from a friend that I gave to him, because they didn't require female workers then, only male. And I gave that slot to him. He too was jobless before, so he understands what I'm going through. Be patient till January, he said no, and left the house.

Kobojunkie:
You better not plan to have a second child with your husband until after you have secured a job for yourself and saved up a substantial amount. You have only been married 2 minutes, and he has already shown you the person he can be. So you have no excuses.

MsJackson:


Read your previous story, did you visit the cele church

Suggestions
1. Go on Facebook search for the due process advocates, register with them, monthly or annually after 3-4 months bring up your issue, the will make sure he pays for child welfare yours and accommodation.

For your child Counseling and spiritual growth
Peace to you and family
.

MsJackson:
He has thrown my things and my child's things out finally and another woman has moved in. Thank you guys.

Sirqt5:
Na cheating things. Man got another woman or whole family somewhere