Doolove:
Nairaland Has Finally Ruined My Relationship

I've been dating a staunch Nairalander for two years, and he also introduced me to the site. While I visit once in a while, he can't go a day without scrolling through the site and at times he draws my attention to some interesting topics and we would go through the comments together. I told him that I don't like the site due to the constant bashing of women that goes on here. To my uttermost dismay he has been so influenced by the red pill movement and it has left our relationship in tatters.

I can't remember the last time I felt pampered or got treated like a woman because he doesn't want to look like a simp. There is no love in the relationship anymore because he is always too hard on me and treats me like a man. My guy hardly ever apologizes to me, if he annoys me and I try to give him the cold shoulder he ignores me completely and moves about his business like I don't even exist. He calls my two exs simps because I gisted him about how they adored me and was always scared of losing me. It hurts me that the guy I am dating doesn't value me and is ready to move on immediately as I walk out the door.

He convinced me to come stay over at his place for a while because he wanted to train me for a remote job that he got for me which I am supposed to start next month. I objected because I know how he treats me each time that I am around but he insisted so I caved in. It's been one problem to the other since I came over. He faults every single thing that I do, I wore a cloth that a guy gifted me on our anniversary and I got the scolding of my life. I got moody and told him to avoid me when he tried talking to me later that day, he simply said okay and disappeared from the house till late in the night.

He sees everything as an insult to his person, he said it's disrespectful to pick calls from guys in his presence, he would still accuse me of cheating if I go outside to pick those calls. Just two days back I was angry at him because of something he did that I didn't like so I flung his hands away when he tried to touch my cheeks and play with me, Oga stood up and started ignoring me. I was just expecting him to apologize and pamper me but he just locked up and left the house to God knows where. When he returned, I dressed up to go out with a friend and he told me not to return to his house if I leave. He treats me like a piece of furniture and won't still let me go out with people that are ready to give me attention.

This issue is making me lose my feelings for him and he doesn't even care. We hardly have sex because his touch irritates me due to his attitude towards me. If I turn down his advance once he doesn't bother to try again for days. In my previous relationships the guys always comes crawling and begging at night to have sex but this one doesn't even send, he can lock up for two weeks which makes me wonder if he is gay sometimes. He came back home very late on Friday night because he was avoiding me, I hid the food in the house because I was angry at him and he went to bed hungry. He woke up late at night to boil potatoes and woke me up in the process, I told him where I kept the food and he told me to eat it alone.

He left home by 7am yesterday for his football training only to come back by 10pm leaving me all alone in the house. I had to go out with a friend only to come back and didn't still meet him at home. He came back, took his bath and left the house again. He came back one hour later and slept on the floor. I woke him up to eat because I cooked with the money he left at home and he rejected the food citing the previous incident of me hiding food from him so I should continue cooking and eating alone. I told him that the food would waste because I already enjoyed where I went to. He just said I was disturbing him and should have gone home with the guy instead. He keeps making me feel like I am not wanted, he would tell me that he has the right to do whatever he wants because it his house but I must abide by his rules because I am a woman. He can go out and come back anytime he likes but I can't do the same, if I try it he would ask me to leave as if I am an IDP. All my complaints about how bad he was treating me fell on deaf ears, he just ignored me and slept off. He woke up this morning and is keeping to himself.

Please is this what the red pill is all about? I keep craving attention and love from my man and it's not forthcoming, I would have broken up but I really need the job he promised me while I wait for service. Is there something that I can do to salvage this relationship?
Please I am sorry for the epistle and errors, I just needed to pour out my heart somewhere.

More like a story coined by a guy.
Abi you be gay?
Because this story sounds like that of a guy

Redpill is very dangerous to a man's brain if a man decides to follow everything the redpill teaches.... redpill is good but to an extent,atleast to know a little about the female nature bcus come rain come sun,men can never fully understand a woman....just take the little u know and pass,u cannot load all ur brain with redpill and still live like a normal human beign,u could go mad,I swear, believe me.
Women are angels naturally but they can be manipulative sometimes...we can't do without them,honour women and live a good life, God will bless u

Doolove:
Nairaland Has Finally Ruined My Relationship

I've been dating a staunch Nairalander for two years, and he also introduced me to the site. While I visit once in a while, he can't go a day without scrolling through the site and at times he draws my attention to some interesting topics and we would go through the comments together. I told him that I don't like the site due to the constant bashing of women that goes on here. To my uttermost dismay he has been so influenced by the red pill movement and it has left our relationship in tatters.

I can't remember the last time I felt pampered or got treated like a woman because he doesn't want to look like a simp. There is no love in the relationship anymore because he is always too hard on me and treats me like a man. My guy hardly ever apologizes to me, if he annoys me and I try to give him the cold shoulder he ignores me completely and moves about his business like I don't even exist. He calls my two exs simps because I gisted him about how they adored me and was always scared of losing me. It hurts me that the guy I am dating doesn't value me and is ready to move on immediately as I walk out the door.

He convinced me to come stay over at his place for a while because he wanted to train me for a remote job that he got for me which I am supposed to start next month. I objected because I know how he treats me each time that I am around but he insisted so I caved in. It's been one problem to the other since I came over. He faults every single thing that I do, I wore a cloth that a guy gifted me on our anniversary and I got the scolding of my life. I got moody and told him to avoid me when he tried talking to me later that day, he simply said okay and disappeared from the house till late in the night.

He sees everything as an insult to his person, he said it's disrespectful to pick calls from guys in his presence, he would still accuse me of cheating if I go outside to pick those calls. Just two days back I was angry at him because of something he did that I didn't like so I flung his hands away when he tried to touch my cheeks and play with me, Oga stood up and started ignoring me. I was just expecting him to apologize and pamper me but he just locked up and left the house to God knows where. When he returned, I dressed up to go out with a friend and he told me not to return to his house if I leave. He treats me like a piece of furniture and won't still let me go out with people that are ready to give me attention.

This issue is making me lose my feelings for him and he doesn't even care. We hardly have sex because his touch irritates me due to his attitude towards me. If I turn down his advance once he doesn't bother to try again for days. In my previous relationships the guys always comes crawling and begging at night to have sex but this one doesn't even send, he can lock up for two weeks which makes me wonder if he is gay sometimes. He came back home very late on Friday night because he was avoiding me, I hid the food in the house because I was angry at him and he went to bed hungry. He woke up late at night to boil potatoes and woke me up in the process, I told him where I kept the food and he told me to eat it alone.

He left home by 7am yesterday for his football training only to come back by 10pm leaving me all alone in the house. I had to go out with a friend only to come back and didn't still meet him at home. He came back, took his bath and left the house again. He came back one hour later and slept on the floor. I woke him up to eat because I cooked with the money he left at home and he rejected the food citing the previous incident of me hiding food from him so I should continue cooking and eating alone. I told him that the food would waste because I already enjoyed where I went to. He just said I was disturbing him and should have gone home with the guy instead. He keeps making me feel like I am not wanted, he would tell me that he has the right to do whatever he wants because it his house but I must abide by his rules because I am a woman. He can go out and come back anytime he likes but I can't do the same, if I try it he would ask me to leave as if I am an IDP. All my complaints about how bad he was treating me fell on deaf ears, he just ignored me and slept off. He woke up this morning and is keeping to himself.

Please is this what the red pill is all about? I keep craving attention and love from my man and it's not forthcoming, I would have broken up but I really need the job he promised me while I wait for service. Is there something that I can do to salvage this relationship?
Please I am sorry for the epistle and errors, I just needed to pour out my heart somewhere.

Wailing SUCCESSFUL

Doolove:

That's as good as kissing the relationship goodbye, I tried it once and he moved on like I didn't exist. I still had to call him to sort things out. I am a beautiful lady and guys are flocking around me but it doesn't faze him, if I try to make him jealous he would tell me to move on to the next guy if I feel he is not good enough for me.

Since you've bn in d relatnshp, wot is ur gain? Its like u r enjoyng d emotional torture from him and making him enslave u. If u make d mistake of marrying dis type of guy, u will live d rest of ur life in regret and torment. Dump his sorry ass, 1st week, 2nd week, he wud tink its a joke, 3rd or 1 month later he will come to apologise dat he has changed. Never, I repeat, never accept him back b'cos he will do anytin to tie u down cos he may neva find anoda mumu like u again and u will blame ursef for staying, let him perish with his yeye remote job he wants to get 4 u. I'M A MAN AND I KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING.

Doolove:

I wish I could, but he has a very strong hold over me, I always go back to him no matter what, I have guys rolling on the floor just to get my attention but I just crave his attention.

Can you guys see it

Those criticizing the red pill, can y'all now see

The guy now has a better grip on op both physically and mentally because of those red pill attributes he now displays!

Many of us never understood how the female minds works, hence we would go on our knees begging and petting our girls at any slightest show of anger by her. What did we get in return? We got our fingers burnt severely and hearts torn to shreds as we eventually got dumped.

Now, having learnt the red pill philosophy, this guy here has used it to keep op helplessly spellbound! So, why should any wise guy not strive to absorb as much red pill knowledge as possible

Red pill represents Freedom for the menfolk.

Doolove:
Nairaland Has Finally Ruined My Relationship

I've been dating a staunch Nairalander for two years, and he also introduced me to the site. While I visit once in a while, he can't go a day without scrolling through the site and at times he draws my attention to some interesting topics and we would go through the comments together. I told him that I don't like the site due to the constant bashing of women that goes on here. To my uttermost dismay he has been so influenced by the red pill movement and it has left our relationship in tatters.

I can't remember the last time I felt pampered or got treated like a woman because he doesn't want to look like a simp. There is no love in the relationship anymore because he is always too hard on me and treats me like a man. My guy hardly ever apologizes to me, if he annoys me and I try to give him the cold shoulder he ignores me completely and moves about his business like I don't even exist. He calls my two exs simps because I gisted him about how they adored me and was always scared of losing me. It hurts me that the guy I am dating doesn't value me and is ready to move on immediately as I walk out the door.

He convinced me to come stay over at his place for a while because he wanted to train me for a remote job that he got for me which I am supposed to start next month. I objected because I know how he treats me each time that I am around but he insisted so I caved in. It's been one problem to the other since I came over. He faults every single thing that I do, I wore a cloth that a guy gifted me on our anniversary and I got the scolding of my life. I got moody and told him to avoid me when he tried talking to me later that day, he simply said okay and disappeared from the house till late in the night.

He sees everything as an insult to his person, he said it's disrespectful to pick calls from guys in his presence, he would still accuse me of cheating if I go outside to pick those calls. Just two days back I was angry at him because of something he did that I didn't like so I flung his hands away when he tried to touch my cheeks and play with me, Oga stood up and started ignoring me. I was just expecting him to apologize and pamper me but he just locked up and left the house to God knows where. When he returned, I dressed up to go out with a friend and he told me not to return to his house if I leave. He treats me like a piece of furniture and won't still let me go out with people that are ready to give me attention.

This issue is making me lose my feelings for him and he doesn't even care. We hardly have sex because his touch irritates me due to his attitude towards me. If I turn down his advance once he doesn't bother to try again for days. In my previous relationships the guys always comes crawling and begging at night to have sex but this one doesn't even send, he can lock up for two weeks which makes me wonder if he is gay sometimes. He came back home very late on Friday night because he was avoiding me, I hid the food in the house because I was angry at him and he went to bed hungry. He woke up late at night to boil potatoes and woke me up in the process, I told him where I kept the food and he told me to eat it alone.

He left home by 7am yesterday for his football training only to come back by 10pm leaving me all alone in the house. I had to go out with a friend only to come back and didn't still meet him at home. He came back, took his bath and left the house again. He came back one hour later and slept on the floor. I woke him up to eat because I cooked with the money he left at home and he rejected the food citing the previous incident of me hiding food from him so I should continue cooking and eating alone. I told him that the food would waste because I already enjoyed where I went to. He just said I was disturbing him and should have gone home with the guy instead. He keeps making me feel like I am not wanted, he would tell me that he has the right to do whatever he wants because it his house but I must abide by his rules because I am a woman. He can go out and come back anytime he likes but I can't do the same, if I try it he would ask me to leave as if I am an IDP. All my complaints about how bad he was treating me fell on deaf ears, he just ignored me and slept off. He woke up this morning and is keeping to himself.

Please is this what the red pill is all about? I keep craving attention and love from my man and it's not forthcoming, I would have broken up but I really need the job he promised me while I wait for service. Is there something that I can do to salvage this relationship?
Please I am sorry for the epistle and errors, I just needed to pour out my heart somewhere.

What are you benefiting from this relationship. Bounce and find someone who will treat you right. There are 4 billion men in this world. How are you hung up on an Incel?

JessicaRabbit:


Your advice is not only unhelpful, it's downright harmful! Telling the woman to be "thankful" for this abuse and suggesting she needs to "win his commitment" through submission is perpetuating harmful stereotypes and victim-blaming.

A comment from typical not self aware woman.

Your type will always claim exception to your brutal nature until you find yourself In a situation where you will fvck badly and be blaming the devil after a simp guy have awaken your inactive poisons by not loving, treating and leading you right..

Let her break up since you believe the relationship is toxic

You don't treat a woman the way she wanted to be treated, you treat her the way she ought to be treated..

Ed12:



A comment from typical not self aware woman.

Your type will always claim exception to your brutal nature until you find yourself In a situation where you will fvck badly and be blaming the devil after a simp guy have awaken your inactive poisons by not loving, treating and leading you right..

Let her break up since you believe the relationship is toxic

You don't treat a woman the way she wanted to be treated, you treat her the she ought to be treated..

Your reply is a classic example of misogyny, gaslighting, and projection.

You don't treat a woman the way you want to treat her, you treat her the way she deserves to be treated - with respect, dignity, and equality. You don't get to decide what is best for her, or what she needs or wants. You don't get to impose your patriarchal and toxic views on her, or anyone else. You don't get to silence her voice, or invalidate her feelings. You don't get to abuse her, or justify your abuse.

Seriously, take a hard look at yourself, and realize how harmful and wrong your attitude and behavior are. You need to educate yourself on human rights, and healthy relationships, and you need to seek professional help, and work on your issues, or you might just end up alone and miserable with this toxic mentality.

Look at the ****** above me
Women will always support their own
The sisterhood so strongggg

Now let's get down to business.

The lady disrespecting him Is not abuse?
Or you didn't read the first part of what happened?
How on earth can't you deduce she's just a vile creature that wants to have things her way!!?
Ohh i know why!
Emotions!!!! The dominate feature of every woman
I don't expect You to understand what the gentle man meant by saying "she should be thankful for the bf"

I expect you to think " you're the exception to the rule"

Silentgroper:


You sound like the boyfriend

I no dey ever jam agbako like this one. I date people who I can benefit from.

Negroid001:


I no dey ever jam agbako like this one. I date people who I can benefit from.

cool..

DrFunmisticGlow:
What are you benefiting from this relationship. Bounce and find someone who will treat you right. There are 4 billion men in this world. How are you hung up on an Incel?

another misuse of the word INCEL ..


what's with Some folks with misuse of some words..


Na by force to sound woke...


😖😖😖

Silentgroper:
another misuse of the word INCEL ..


what's with Some folks with misuse of some words..


Na by force to sound woke...


😖😖😖

is there any good connotation to the word INCEL?

dhiqson:

Look at the ****** above me
Women will always support their own
The sisterhood so strongggg

Now let's get down to business.

The lady disrespecting him Is not abuse?
Or you didn't read the first part of what happened?
How on earth can't you deduce she's just a vile creature that wants to have things her way!!?
Ohh i know why!
Emotions!!!! The dominate feature of every woman
I don't expect You to understand what the gentle man meant by saying "she should be thankful for the bf"

I expect you to think " you're the exception to the rule"

you talk as if men don't have emotions too. Emotions are not a bad thing, they just are.

DrFunmisticGlow:
is there any good connotation to the word INCEL?

The dictionary I believe would best guide on the good connotation to the word INCEL ..


I can't stress myself tonight

My advise to you , calm down and learn that remote job stuff o, you don't lose on both ends and if you don't mind teaching me too I'm here o😁

Jeon:
This is why I have nothing to do with any NL male.
Because most of them have many monikers that's been used for chameleonic purposes.




No one should tell you that ur relationship with him is over.


You can never win him again, no matter what you do. Just move on and stop wasting your precious time.

VictorUSA aka ObamaMessi really did you strong thing 😂 Since your brawl with him for befriending you with ObamaMessi account but bully you with VictorUSA you have been cautious of NL men. Na WA.

dhiqson:

Look at the ****** above me
Women will always support their own
The sisterhood so strongggg

Now let's get down to business.

The lady disrespecting him Is not abuse?
Or you didn't read the first part of what happened?
How on earth can't you deduce she's just a vile creature that wants to have things her way!!?
Ohh i know why!
Emotions!!!! The dominate feature of every woman
I don't expect You to understand what the gentle man meant by saying "she should be thankful for the bf"

I expect you to think " you're the exception to the rule"

Subtlety isn't your strong suit, is it? Next time, try @-ing me so I can join the party 😉.

By the way, I'm actually impressed that you managed to fit more fallacies in one tiny rant than a circus tent can fit clowns. Your passionate little submission deserves a standing ovation, if I can peel myself off the floor from laughing at the logic holes.

Stating that all women will back each other up no matter what the truth is, is not only false, but also beside the point. The OP is looking for guidance based on her own situation, not on some fanciful "girl power" allegiance. You've also committed a red herring fallacy, referencing actions by the girl that you perceive to be disrespectful, but are ultimately irrelevant to the core issue. Whether OP donned a shirt from a male pal or stashed away some chow from her partner are trivial matters that do not excuse the abusive actions of her partner. You are attempting to sidetrack from the real problem here, which is the absence of regard and love in their relationship.

Furthermore, you are just setting up straw men and knocking them down by yourself. The OP didn't claim to be flawless or infallible. She just shared her feelings about how her partner treats her. You're acting like there are only two options: she's a "vile creature" or he's a saint. But life is not black and white, it's full of shades of gray. Maybe you should try to see things from a different perspective. You write off the poster's emotions as a sign of madness and prejudice, then insinuate that because she is a woman, she is unfit for rational thinking and fair judgment. This is not only sexist, but also nonsensical. Emotions are not evil or good, they are human. They can guide our choices, but they do not negate them. Besides, you are being two-faced, since you are obviously emotional yourself, as shown by your overuse of exclamation marks and emojis.

So you don't expect me to get Ed12's point when he says "she should be happy with the bf", huh? Please indulge me. What point are you making exactly? That women should kiss the feet of any guy who hires them, even if he's a jerk? Sorry, but that's not a point, that's a red pill delusion, a toxic and dubious worldview that you have swallowed without any proof or reason, and has produced an army of bitter dudes who hate women, facts, and logic. They live in a fantasy world where they are the oppressed heroes and women are the evil villains who want to ruin their lives. And they have no clue how to relate to other human beings, and they use their twisted ideology as a cover for being socially inept. I repeat that the OP should dump that loser who follows the red pill nonsense and treats her like dirt. She should find a partner who will treat her like a queen and who will appreciate her as a person, not as a prize. She should be happy, and she has the power to walk away from a relationship that is hurting her. And so should you, if you ever end up with a lady who makes you feel like you ain't worth shit.

I hope you'll snap out of your delusions and get some therapy if you have to. The red pill is a bitter placebo, and relationships are not a game of chess. They are about love, trust and compassion. And those are the things that truly matter.

JessicaRabbit:


Subtlety isn't your strong suit, is it? Next time, try @-ing me so I can join the party 😉.

By the way, I'm actually impressed that you managed to fit more fallacies in one tiny rant than a circus tent can fit clowns. Your passionate little submission deserves a standing ovation, if I can peel myself off the floor from laughing at the logic holes.

Stating that all women will back each other up no matter what the truth is, is not only false, but also beside the point. The OP is looking for guidance based on her own situation, not on some fanciful "girl power" allegiance. You've also committed a red herring fallacy, referencing actions by the girl that you perceive to be disrespectful, but are ultimately irrelevant to the core issue. Whether OP donned a shirt from a male pal or stashed away some chow from her partner are trivial matters that do not excuse the abusive actions of her partner. You are attempting to sidetrack from the real problem here, which is the absence of regard and love in their relationship.

Furthermore, you are just setting up straw men and knocking them down by yourself. The OP didn't claim to be flawless or infallible. She just shared her feelings about how her partner treats her. You're acting like there are only two options: she's a "vile creature" or he's a saint. But life is not black and white, it's full of shades of gray. Maybe you should try to see things from a different perspective. You write off the poster's emotions as a sign of madness and prejudice, then insinuate that because she is a woman, she is unfit for rational thinking and fair judgment. This is not only sexist, but also nonsensical. Emotions are not evil or good, they are human. They can guide our choices, but they do not negate them. Besides, you are being two-faced, since you are obviously emotional yourself, as shown by your overuse of exclamation marks and emojis.

So you don't expect me to get Ed12's point when he says "she should be happy with the bf", huh? Please indulge me. What point are you making exactly? That women should kiss the feet of any guy who hires them, even if he's a jerk? Sorry, but that's not a point, that's a red pill delusion, a toxic and dubious worldview that you have swallowed without any proof or reason, and has produced an army of bitter dudes who hate women, facts, and logic. They live in a fantasy world where they are the oppressed heroes and women are the evil villains who want to ruin their lives. And they have no clue how to relate to other human beings, and they use their twisted ideology as a cover for being socially inept. I repeat that the OP should dump that loser who follows the red pill nonsense and treats her like dirt. She should find a partner who will treat her like a queen and who will appreciate her as a person, not as a prize. She should be happy, and she has the power to walk away from a relationship that is hurting her. And so should you, if you ever end up with a lady who makes you feel like you ain't worth shit.

I hope you'll snap out of your delusions and get some therapy if you have to. The red pill is a bitter placebo, and relationships are not a game of chess. They are about love, trust and compassion. And those are the things that truly matter.

Sigh
Okay baby dragon

DrFunmisticGlow:
you talk as if men don't have emotions too. Emotions are not a bad thing, they just are.

We do
It just doesn't override our thought process


Can't say same for your gender

dhiqson:



Sigh
Okay baby dragon

No need to sigh! Unless you're just overwhelmed by the sheer brilliance of irrefutable logic and crushing facts.

dhiqson:


We do
It just doesn't override our thought process


Can't say same for your gender

emotions always have some degree of control and influence on thought process

When agberos fight on the street, when men rape women, when men cheat on their spouses and beat their wives because she can't beat him back. When a man calls a lady pretty, asks her out only for her to reject him then he proceeds to call her ugly and sexual slurs. When a man kiss and tells. When a man drinks and drives.. When a man picks a gun or a man commits suicide.

Do you think that those decisions are not influenced by emotions? Men are poorer at expressing and managing their emotions than women and proceeds to shame women for expressing and managing theirs better. Men are the true emotional gender and don't want to admit it.

JessicaRabbit:


Subtlety isn't your strong suit, is it? Next time, try @-ing me so I can join the party 😉.

By the way, I'm actually impressed that you managed to fit more fallacies in one tiny rant than a circus tent can fit clowns. Your passionate little submission deserves a standing ovation, if I can peel myself off the floor from laughing at the logic holes.

Stating that all women will back each other up no matter what the truth is, is not only false, but also beside the point. The OP is looking for guidance based on her own situation, not on some fanciful "girl power" allegiance. You've also committed a red herring fallacy, referencing actions by the girl that you perceive to be disrespectful, but are ultimately irrelevant to the core issue. Whether OP donned a shirt from a male pal or stashed away some chow from her partner are trivial matters that do not excuse the abusive actions of her partner. You are attempting to sidetrack from the real problem here, which is the absence of regard and love in their relationship.

Furthermore, you are just setting up straw men and knocking them down by yourself. The OP didn't claim to be flawless or infallible. She just shared her feelings about how her partner treats her. You're acting like there are only two options: she's a "vile creature" or he's a saint. But life is not black and white, it's full of shades of gray. Maybe you should try to see things from a different perspective. You write off the poster's emotions as a sign of madness and prejudice, then insinuate that because she is a woman, she is unfit for rational thinking and fair judgment. This is not only sexist, but also nonsensical. Emotions are not evil or good, they are human. They can guide our choices, but they do not negate them. Besides, you are being two-faced, since you are obviously emotional yourself, as shown by your overuse of exclamation marks and emojis.

So you don't expect me to get Ed12's point when he says "she should be happy with the bf", huh? Please indulge me. What point are you making exactly? That women should kiss the feet of any guy who hires them, even if he's a jerk? Sorry, but that's not a point, that's a red pill delusion, a toxic and dubious worldview that you have swallowed without any proof or reason, and has produced an army of bitter dudes who hate women, facts, and logic. They live in a fantasy world where they are the oppressed heroes and women are the evil villains who want to ruin their lives. And they have no clue how to relate to other human beings, and they use their twisted ideology as a cover for being socially inept. I repeat that the OP should dump that loser who follows the red pill nonsense and treats her like dirt. She should find a partner who will treat her like a queen and who will appreciate her as a person, not as a prize. She should be happy, and she has the power to walk away from a relationship that is hurting her. And so should you, if you ever end up with a lady who makes you feel like you ain't worth shit.

I hope you'll snap out of your delusions and get some therapy if you have to. The red pill is a bitter placebo, and relationships are not a game of chess. They are about love, trust and compassion. And those are the things that truly matter.

What's your take?

Negroid001:


What's your take?

Context, please!

Hmmm....my dear I feel for you over what you are currently experiencing emotionally but your story is one sided because you complained severally of him not apologising or feeling your cold shoulders. If I may ask, don't you offend him in anyway? Is there anytime you equally fail to apologise over sensitive issues?

My dear relationship is a two-sided situation. Learn to also give whatever you hope or anticipate to get.

Be it "RED PILL or SIMP" no man wants his ego to be messed with...please, try to build up on your expectations.

All the best...

Doolove:

I wish I could, but he has a very strong hold over me, I always go back to him no matter what, I have guys rolling on the floor just to get my attention but I just crave his attention.

At the bolded, that's a real alpha male right there!

Dear men,

Attention is the most powerful tool you have as a man, never give it out easily! Preserve and protect it very well. Let her beg and beg earnestly for it yet be extremely protective of it. Use your attention very well.

The girl has lots of simp crawling to get her attention but she's the one rolling on the floor to get the attention of the alpha male!

God bless all redpillers worldwide

Doolove:
Nairaland Has Finally Ruined My Relationship

I've been dating a staunch Nairalander for two years, and he also introduced me to the site. While I visit once in a while, he can't go a day without scrolling through the site and at times he draws my attention to some interesting topics and we would go through the comments together. I told him that I don't like the site due to the constant bashing of women that goes on here. To my uttermost dismay he has been so influenced by the red pill movement and it has left our relationship in tatters.

I can't remember the last time I felt pampered or got treated like a woman because he doesn't want to look like a simp. There is no love in the relationship anymore because he is always too hard on me and treats me like a man. My guy hardly ever apologizes to me, if he annoys me and I try to give him the cold shoulder he ignores me completely and moves about his business like I don't even exist. He calls my two exs simps because I gisted him about how they adored me and was always scared of losing me. It hurts me that the guy I am dating doesn't value me and is ready to move on immediately as I walk out the door.

He convinced me to come stay over at his place for a while because he wanted to train me for a remote job that he got for me which I am supposed to start next month. I objected because I know how he treats me each time that I am around but he insisted so I caved in. It's been one problem to the other since I came over. He faults every single thing that I do, I wore a cloth that a guy gifted me on our anniversary and I got the scolding of my life. I got moody and told him to avoid me when he tried talking to me later that day, he simply said okay and disappeared from the house till late in the night.

He sees everything as an insult to his person, he said it's disrespectful to pick calls from guys in his presence, he would still accuse me of cheating if I go outside to pick those calls. Just two days back I was angry at him because of something he did that I didn't like so I flung his hands away when he tried to touch my cheeks and play with me, Oga stood up and started ignoring me. I was just expecting him to apologize and pamper me but he just locked up and left the house to God knows where. When he returned, I dressed up to go out with a friend and he told me not to return to his house if I leave. He treats me like a piece of furniture and won't still let me go out with people that are ready to give me attention.

This issue is making me lose my feelings for him and he doesn't even care. We hardly have sex because his touch irritates me due to his attitude towards me. If I turn down his advance once he doesn't bother to try again for days. In my previous relationships the guys always comes crawling and begging at night to have sex but this one doesn't even send, he can lock up for two weeks which makes me wonder if he is gay sometimes. He came back home very late on Friday night because he was avoiding me, I hid the food in the house because I was angry at him and he went to bed hungry. He woke up late at night to boil potatoes and woke me up in the process, I told him where I kept the food and he told me to eat it alone.

He left home by 7am yesterday for his football training only to come back by 10pm leaving me all alone in the house. I had to go out with a friend only to come back and didn't still meet him at home. He came back, took his bath and left the house again. He came back one hour later and slept on the floor. I woke him up to eat because I cooked with the money he left at home and he rejected the food citing the previous incident of me hiding food from him so I should continue cooking and eating alone. I told him that the food would waste because I already enjoyed where I went to. He just said I was disturbing him and should have gone home with the guy instead. He keeps making me feel like I am not wanted, he would tell me that he has the right to do whatever he wants because it his house but I must abide by his rules because I am a woman. He can go out and come back anytime he likes but I can't do the same, if I try it he would ask me to leave as if I am an IDP. All my complaints about how bad he was treating me fell on deaf ears, he just ignored me and slept off. He woke up this morning and is keeping to himself.

Please is this what the red pill is all about? I keep craving attention and love from my man and it's not forthcoming, I would have broken up but I really need the job he promised me while I wait for service. Is there something that I can do to salvage this relationship?
Please I am sorry for the epistle and errors, I just needed to pour out my heart somewhere.

I have no advice for you, but all I see is a good writer and brilliant lady; why allow such subjugation? You seem to be too much for all these dishes he keeps serving you. You deserve better.