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Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by BALLOSKI: 5:41am On Jan 24 |
Mercylike:Pay him a visit and continue to send him monthly stipend and prove to him that being who he is, God still brought a better man out of him. Love your mom and don't let any girl who didn't know how you made it here to become in between you and her in the name of marriage or relationship |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by November24(f): 6:16am On Jan 24 |
Mercylike: U still talk like a child. It will remain so forever until u let go. Life na seed,it doesn't matter who wrong or right. Hin do e papa,u do am too,better break the evil circle |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by frozen70(f): 6:30am On Jan 24 |
Mercylike: So far you are still giving him allowance, no matter how small I t is, you don't need to feel guilt about your relationship with him He was not there for you when you needed him most so let him deal with it You can't cheat nature, karma is real |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by edward1106(m): 7:35am On Jan 24 |
Mercylike: That's why I said sometimes. Some men may not love their wives because they were forced on them by parents (arranged marriage) or circumstances(pregnancy). Hence, not their intended choice and for men who can't control their emotion, they end up transferring this hatred to the children. There is always a reason, genuine or not. That's why I said get to talk with him politely. And let him know you want to be a better man in that aspect, hence he has to let you know what went wrong. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Akhaz024: 8:20am On Jan 24 |
edward1106: Exactly that is what I said earlier that what steps has he taken so far, it is not all about sending money to him, has he sat his father down or invited him to his place and talk one on one like father and son. My own case for example my father spend little on me while schooling I was very angry. I sat and reason I realized my dad lost his father at the age of four and his life was all about struggling, he went to the university with nothing and it affected his mentallity it affected the way he treated us. There was a time we were discussing and he said you better thank God you have a father that is sending little that during his time no father to support him, I have to tell his that it was so because his own father was dead but mine is not dead and it is responsibility for him to provide as long as he his alive. Sometimes one background play alot in once life. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by iamsomatil: 10:12am On Jan 24 |
Bruh...I have been in your exact same shoe....only difference is the other wife had only one child..but our dad was a destitute,never cared for any of us...our mum saw us through school..Thank God she was well off, she used to work in a bank back then...when we grew up, he came to beg us..my elder siblings forgave him (i am the last born) i did not forgive him till he died....you don't want to imagine the guilt i hav been living with since then..i wish i had forgiven him regardless of everything.....believe me, the best thing you can do for yourself is to forgive him wholeheartedly....Free yourself from the shackles of the past |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by treatise: 10:14am On Jan 24 |
Kobojunkie:Mother and father relative to the discourse are same irrespective of your improvised doctrine. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by patorial(m): 10:25am On Jan 24 |
Kobojunkie: Keep shooting yourself in the leg. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by patorial(m): 10:26am On Jan 24 |
Mercylike: Like I said, that's the only thing I can tell you. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by tochez24(m): 10:27am On Jan 24 |
FFIA: Nah your papa be beadbeat if at all you have one.... idiot⚠️ Did you hear me say my dad was one abi Ogun won kill you and your generations throw way😡😡 |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by GGIA: 10:45am On Jan 24 |
FFIA: tochez24 |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 11:52am On Jan 24 |
tochez24: |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 11:52am On Jan 24 |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 11:53am On Jan 24 |
patorial: I can tell. U dt u r a dreamer |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 11:54am On Jan 24 |
iamsomatil: I have notin against him.. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by GGIA: 12:02pm On Jan 24 |
Mercylike:no make make dem ban me again oh! Na laugh I laugh, I no kill person make tochez24 father rest in peace |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Fearcom(m): 5:13am On Jan 25 |
Justkatty: It's not me you will tell to go back and read. Instead, use your brain to reason where it says in scripture that children are free to dishonour their parents should their parents fall short of bringing up their children in the way of the Lord. The shortcomings of the parent doesn't give the children ANY grounds to DISHONOUR their parents. Why do you think the scriptures talk about forgiveness or you think God is dumb? So you can't be telling me to read scripture when it's ýou that needs healing and to walk in forgiveness. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Fearcom(m): 5:54am On Jan 25 |
DrFunmisticGlow: YOU have ERRED GREATLY! If God had the same mindset about you, you'll be long dead. Do you think it's by your righteousness that you live and breathe or it's by HIS mercy, long-suffering and goodness toward you? 1. FIRSTLY, WE ALL DON'T DESERVE GOD'S LOVE and FORGIVENESS. WHY? BECAUSE WE ARE all FILTHY The Bible says all our righteousness are like filthy rags (Isa 64:6) So there's NONE RIGHTEOUS. Rom 3:10 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all. Isaiah 53:6 KJV 2. INSPITE OF OURSELVES, GOD STILL LOVED US What is man, that thou art mindful of him? Psalm 8:4 KJV But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 KJV For God so loved the world.... John 3:16 KJV God loved us while we were yet unlovely! sinners! ungodly! filthy! Now God commands ALL his children to walk in love. We are to love people the SAME WAY and with the SAME KIND OF LOVE that he loved us. And that love includes FORGIVENESS.It is by walking in love toward one another that people will know By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. John 13:35 KJV If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; And if he be thirsty, give him water to drink: Proverbs 25:21 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, LOVE your enemies, BLESS THEM that curse you, DO GOOD to them that hate you, and PRAY for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; Matthew 5:43-44 KJV. I can give you more than enough scriptures, but I don't have the time. But the message I'm passing across is CLEAR. THE OP HAS NO JUSTIFICATION WHATSOEVER TO HATE HIS FATHER. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:59am On Jan 25 |
Fearcom:what kind of gaslighting, offpoint bullsh!t is this. You typed an essay without saying anything in relation to the topic. The scripture is clear. Actions have consequences. I used 2 scriptures to back up my point. You only used one.I Fvck around and find out season is here for many deadbeat, narcissistic and abusive parents. Winter is here for a lot of you and SHEGE PRO MAX will be unleashed. OP has every right to hate her deadbeat dad. Hate, disinterest and dislike are valid emotions. Children of nowadays are no longer gullible to be deceived by your tithe extorting pastors. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Fearcom(m): 9:59am On Jan 25 |
DrFunmisticGlow: Why are you deceiving yourself SINCE YOUR ATTENTION AND COMPREHENSION SPAN IS SHORT, THE 2 SCRIPTURES YOU QUOTED DOES NOT GIVE YOU A PASS TO UNLEASH "SHEGE PRO MAX" ON YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE TO FORGIVE YOUR PARENTS AND HONOUR THEM. (I have already given you scriptures for this) God won't force you, but YOU'RE ON YOUR OWN. Why are you triggered and angry at what the Bible says And your use of foul language plainly reveals worlds of information to me. You had better repent and rid yourself of all anger, unforgiveness and resentment so you don't end up in hell |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:31am On Jan 25 |
Fearcom:yinmu. Your |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Fearcom(m): 11:20am On Jan 25 |
[quote author=DrFunmisticGlow post=128116509]yinmu. Your retirement insurances children are wising up. If you be a deadbeat parent. A word of caution is enough. The Bible never said we should act like mother Theresa to deadbeat parents. Honoring someone doesn't mean they should step on your head and make inappropiate demands,nor act entitled to their children's wealth |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Fearcom(m): 12:59pm On Jan 25 |
DrFunmisticGlow: You can do whatsoever you like. LEAVE GOD AND HIS WORD OUT OF IT |
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