Gbyte:

This is indeed a sad story, I am looking at this story from another point of view, let's not all put the blame on the lady, I am not putting the blame on the guy either but let's weigh this issue here, you had a job that took all of your time and all you were able to do was talk to your GF on phone (body no be wood), that's one, and I also want you to put yourself in her shoes, I don't know how much love you've shown to her but on the other hand we should also understand that she's a lady and she's not growing younger, what am thinking is that she might not be sure of her stand with you; like if you are eeing someone else or not, that you could be away from her that long even though you talk on phone, thats not enough from my own point of view.  it's not like she was so confident to hurt you, but she made it CLEAR to you that she has no feeling for you again, there is something I want you to know here, every human's heart is like a gas burner that needs a gas cylinder with gas in it and if the gas cylinder has no more gas in it then it need to be replaced. Don't get me wrong, your are the gas cylinder here and you have no gas in you; you've not been around and she needs you around, its not all about sex but presence at time can mean alot to ladies at times; ladies in the house should tell me am lying

I read almost everyone's comment here and not just one person' would view this from the ladies point of view.
OP, I want you to know you made the right decision but still I don't want you to see the lady as a devil or disgrace to women because the reverse is the case, her heart has moved with another man who has time for her (atleast at the moment), not all human can stand the test of time, everybody has their breaking point, the mistake you made was that you did not take your time to discover her breaking point, she's reached her breaking point and she broke, I'm happy you said she was reluctant about visiting you again and you persisted then the poor girl honoured, one thing that made the whole difference was that SHE DID NOT SLEEP WITH YOU, though she must have Were Intimate with you in the past, but the moment she moved on, she did not allow you touch her even when you were sleeping together, not all women can do that, if am lying ask the guys here to tell you if they've slept with their ex even when she has another BF ( We often call it once there, always there). But she did not allow you, that even gave me the impression that she did not cheat on you for the period she dated you. SHe broke up with you long ago but was not strong enough to say it to you, some guys do that too. I want you to see that she's done the right thing, honoured your last invitation and still did not sleep with you. 4stars for that to her.
On a final note, she's moved on and am sure you've moved on too and I wish you all the best,
I hope people would see this the way am seeing it

Mr. Chuks:

Flesh and blood did not reveal that to you. I understand your P.O.V. but the question I have for you is that wouldn't life be easier if people could just be straightforward about things? If she had told me all this I would have understood. But even when I kept asking if there was another guy in the picture, she said there was no one.

I've moved on. But I'm sorry for her because one thing ladies don't know is that if a guy is aware that you are in a serious relationship and still chooses to flirt with you, with no regard to your partner or respect for what you claim to have with someone else, then the chances that he will do same with another lady while dating you is almost 100%.

I've learnt my lesson. Had to finally break the sad news to my siblings this evening. I feel lighter now though  

Gbyte:

This is indeed a sad story, I am looking at this story from another point of view, let's not all put the blame on the lady, I am not putting the blame on the guy either but let's weigh this issue here, you had a job that took all of your time and all you were able to do was talk to your GF on phone (body no be wood), that's one, and I also want you to put yourself in her shoes, I don't know how much love you've shown to her but on the other hand we should also understand that she's a lady and she's not growing younger, what am thinking is that she might not be sure of her stand with you; like if you are eeing someone else or not, that you could be away from her that long even though you talk on phone, thats not enough from my own point of view.  it's not like she was so confident to hurt you, but she made it CLEAR to you that she has no feeling for you again, there is something I want you to know here, every human's heart is like a gas burner that needs a gas cylinder with gas in it and if the gas cylinder has no more gas in it then it need to be replaced. Don't get me wrong, your are the gas cylinder here and you have no gas in you; you've not been around and she needs you around, its not all about sex but presence at time can mean alot to ladies at times; ladies in the house should tell me am lying

I read almost everyone's comment here and not just one person' would view this from the ladies point of view.
OP, I want you to know you made the right decision but still I don't want you to see the lady as a devil or disgrace to women because the reverse is the case, her heart has moved with another man who has time for her (atleast at the moment), not all human can stand the test of time, everybody has their breaking point, the mistake you made was that you did not take your time to discover her breaking point, she's reached her breaking point and she broke, I'm happy you said she was reluctant about visiting you again and you persisted then the poor girl honoured, one thing that made the whole difference was that SHE DID NOT SLEEP WITH YOU, though she must have Were Intimate with you in the past, but the moment she moved on, she did not allow you touch her even when you were sleeping together, not all women can do that, if am lying ask the guys here to tell you if they've slept with their ex even when she has another BF ( We often call it once there, always there). But she did not allow you, that even gave me the impression that she did not cheat on you for the period she dated you. SHe broke up with you long ago but was not strong enough to say it to you, some guys do that too. I want you to see that she's done the right thing, honoured your last invitation and still did not sleep with you. 4stars for that to her.
On a final note, she's moved on and am sure you've moved on too and I wish you all the best,
I hope people would see this the way am seeing it

the mistake you made was that you did not take your time to discover her breaking point, she's reached her breaking point and she broke, I'm happy you said she was reluctant about visiting you again and you persisted then the poor girl honoured, one thing that made the whole difference was that SHE DID NOT SLEEP WITH YOU, though she must have Were Intimate with you in the past, but the moment she moved on, she did not allow you touch her even when you were sleeping together, not all women can do that, if am lying ask the guys here to tell you if they've slept with their ex even when she has another BF ( We often call it once there, always there). But she did not allow you, that even gave me the impression that she did not cheat on you for the period she dated you. SHe broke up with you long ago but was not strong enough to say it to you, some guys do that too. I want you to see that she's done the right thing, honoured your last invitation and still did not sleep with you. 4stars for that to her.
On a final note, she's moved on and am sure you've moved on too and I wish you all the best,
I hope people would see this the way am seeing it

ronkebp:

^^^^^Femostica!!!!!!! na today? the guy has dealt with her already, infact where ever she is right now, she won't be able to sleep, am telling you, she is thinking about her life right now!!!!! and would be making up her mind very soon, about the whole thing. Mr Chuks has punnished her by breaking up with her, which she did not expect at all, am sure she was waiting for him to prostrate and beg her, her life would never be the same.

coogar:

ronkebp, how exactly did you arrive at this conclusion?
if the other bloke ticks all her boxes, she won't remember the op for one second. until the other bloke starts messing up, the original poster is not on the mind of this sheisty chic.

Idowuogbo:

Ronke let's treat dis guy as family na, d babe came bck and pacccccck o.Gal we all women ordinary boyfriend sef I will b begging like oliver twist did,pleading dat he reconsider me and forget wot my stuupidity has caused d relationship.Infact I will pray my belongings don't move from his house because when u move out it takes a pope to move u back in . Please don't even bother say she's confused because no sane woman would do that if they were begging for forgiveness earlier.In my opinion jenny couldn't have said it any better any union without affection is unhealthy

Mr. Chuks:

Flesh and blood did not reveal that to you. I understand your P.O.V. but the question I have for you is that wouldn't life be easier if people could just be straightforward about things? If she had told me all this I would have understood. But even when I kept asking if there was another guy in the picture, she said there was no one.

I've moved on. But I'm sorry for her because one thing ladies don't know is that if a guy is aware that you are in a serious relationship and still chooses to flirt with you, with no regard to your partner or respect for what you claim to have with someone else, then the chances that he will do same with another lady while dating you is almost 100%.

I've learnt my lesson. Had to finally break the sad news to my siblings this evening. I feel lighter now though  

Idowuogbo:

Hmmm wot a write up Gbyte I c a wise man in u ,but can I put you on the spot plSssss

Would you take her back if it were your enemie, I jus wanna validate your comments

I await your reply

@ chuks
your doing well o , can't  believe you told your siblings already after all the pain u experienced today.Keep striving to put it all behind u we dey your back

http:

Are you for real, pls leave this analysis of Gas and cylinder, every relationship demand patient; what has she done to keep the relationship going? She want the guy to do everything while sitting her back doing nothing, relationship is a 2 way thing, what has she put into it and she expect to collect nough reward. You also talk of breaking point: i know she never experience love, if not she will never date another guy, she want to fill secure by chasing 2 rats, she has lost the most important one, in weeks ahead the second will go; am not this sure in my life before.

Same thing happen to me with my Ex, then i was crying like an everywhere,though i called it off myself but I thank God i did. Got to know she was having an extral affair with another and since am the good guy she knew, i was the extral tyre if the other failed. she was surprised i call it off, and God reward me with my wife who is more Beautiful, homely with goog home traing and more importantly someone who loved me to her own disadvantages, in her i found out that love is about giving.

@ Poster, pls for the sake of you parent and your future move on, and drop this in the ocean; learn from your mistake and fault too, pls remember that God knows best for us, he has a better things ahead for you. If i look back now, am way ahead where my ex can ever immagine, wish her all the best, but i thank God am not the one that wrong her, you don't either.

jennykadry:

Contrary to what you think gbyte, I am seeing it from the womans side but indirectly. Moving on is the best thing for them, since the mere sight of him irritates her, not only that, she also finds his touch and kisses nauseating, why should he stay with her? Staying with her is silly, stay with a woman you might never get to sleep with or kiss again because she,s got no more feelings for him? They both need to move on, staying with him is torture,remember the relationship has been loveless(from her side) for some time now. Even I will never be in a relationship if the sparks have gone on a journey of no return. It's unhealthy.

MAURI:

Nice analysis. All the same, the babe should have played open cards all the way though, instead of having the guy go through the additional agony of having to find out about the other guy the way he did.

uche92:

haha poster you are a fool, never trust a nigerian girl, just this summer i met one i really liked very much at first but my bro warned me bout her but i doubted hi at first, the very next day she told me she loved me then i knew she was too good to be true, haha me and my bro set the NaughtyWoman up and he bleeped her, but she ddnt know, i also bleeped her, chick was only after our cash, then we sent the NaughtyWoman packing without a dime, same thing you should do