franchasofficia:
Op you are right with some points and not entirely correct with some.


Men don't crave for honor, they want absolute respect from their wife. As a lady, respect your husband and he will cherish you, this can be called honor by some, but it all boils down to true and absolute respect.

If you want your husband to worship you and do whatever you ask, respect him, if possibly honor him if I am to borrow op's words. Stop dragging headship with your man, you are wonderfully made as a woman, you women are the flower of life, maintain your feminity, don't try to be a man.


As a man, whether you are living in Washington DC, London, Sydney, Cape Town, Seoul, Tokyo, Kingston or Casablanca, please if you want to enjoy your marriage and enjoy that natural respect from your wife, you must be ready to be the provider (financially, materially and otherwise). Don't copy western culture of sharing financial responsibilities 50-50 with your wife, if you do so, whatever you see in that marriage, take it and do not complain.


Women naturally are not created to provide, so in all your prayers as a man, always pray to God to keep you financially buoyant enough to take care of your family and manly responsibilities.


If your wife must come in, let it be partial contribution, don't mind all these small boys looking for a woman to cater for them, if you are a man, act like a man, provide for your family solely and let your wife assist when necessary and where necessary but don't ever share financial responsibilities equally with your wife if you want to enjoy your marriage. Take your eyes off from your wife's income.



Dear ladies, cheating is beyond every sexually active man's control. It is not as easy to control by men as it is for you ladies.

It is a natural fault. It is a natural flaw that only God understands. Don't divorce a good husband just because he cheated, don't judge a good man by his lack of sexual control, only the God that created him can judge him because he alone understands the battle he is facing in that aspect.

Kaido:
Men and women are different animals, not meant to live together.

Marriage is a charade, don't fall for it.

pocohantas:



Lol. It is no more respect, now honour.

Before it is was men crave RESPECT, not LOVE.

Soon it would be WORSHIP.

Then same men would complain that women don't marry who they LOVE.

DonDraper:


Chux Nnodim

bitbillionaire:


@ the bolded: No, it's not soon. Men need to be WORSHIPED by their wives and they need it now! Respect, honour, worship they are all different degrees of the same thing.

A woman who cannot worship and reverence her husband is not a wife material.

pocohantas:


That was a new one to me. But I am taking notes and updating my OS. Hahaha!

DonDraper:


Chux Nnodim

maureensylvia:


Nice points

11. Find something doing, don’t relax to answer Oga wife, do something, bring something to the table

12. I learnt to keep quiet during argument because I know if I talk and he talks back, I’ll feel more hurt…
It’s not every fight I should fight.
later on, I walk up to him and present my case, we resolve.

Marriage isn’t work, it’s commitment jare
Mine is 9 years in marriage

pocohantas:


That was a new one to me. But I am taking notes and updating my OS. Hahaha!

DonDraper:


Chux Nnodim

Greenfaces:

My wife talks back. Even when she's wrong. And she likes to resort to emotional blackmail because she never treats issues objectively. It's three years now and I miss the days when I was alone. I'm already considering living apart from her, I'm only looking at the kids for now.

safarifarms:

I think OS update is not necessary for you. You should just avoid marriage for your wellbeing. Marriage is not for everyone you know!

nams77:

The ecosystem is dynamic. I know you know!

Akalia:
Bro, I am faced with similar experience but recently I employed the strategy of not arguing with my wife and I also intentionally cut down on frequent playful chitchat and quality time spending together. Being too available and too caring to a woman breeds contempt or see finish.
Create time to hangout with the fellas often. Let her miss the closeness she used to enjoy with you, na she go used style they find you come.

Savedday2:
My brother, sorry to be honest with you. If you haven't divorce your wife, you didn't learn anything in that marriage.

Women aren't capable of love/marriage. They are manipulators, using love/marriage as a trap. Kindly, get sense and stay away from love/marriage.

If you are married, divorce her immediately. The fact that she hasn't show you pepper/shege now doesn't means she wouldn't show you pepper.

Women are very pretentious in nature. They can pretend for 20, 30 or even 40years. But one thing is certain, that shege they are cooking for you, you must eat it when the time is right.

I want to advise you with all humidity, kindly divorce your wife, no matter how hard it is or how emotional you are. It's for your own good. Later you will understand.

If you aren't married, God is on your side. Never, ever allow any girl or your emotion to deceive you into marriage. If you want children, have baby mama or better still, adopt or use IVF if you can afford it.

Peace!

A word is enough for the wise.

franchasofficia:

Dear ladies, cheating is beyond every sexually active man's control. It is not as easy to control by men as it is for you ladies.

It is a natural fault. It is a natural flaw that only God understands. Don't divorce a good husband just because he cheated, don't judge a good man by his lack of sexual control, only the God that created him can judge him because he alone understands the battle he is facing in that aspect.

SweetBuns:
Best post I've seen on this forum this morning
Too good!

pocohantas:


Cheating is not beyond any HUMAN'S control. It was planned, deliberate, executed and covered up. Definitely not beyond the control of the supposed logical gender.

pocohantas:


Okay Sir. We are taking note. Once once, we would also drop sacrifices at his doorstep.

benqo01:


Well we have heard cases where some said it was by accident 😂😂😂 and women make these excuses alots

pocohantas:


And we all know it is lies. It is never by accident. They only say that when they are caught. Better to just apologise and pray your partner forgives. Don't try to make him look stupid by claiming accident.



K

pocohantas:


Cheating is not beyond any HUMAN'S control. It was planned, deliberate, executed and covered up. Definitely not beyond the control of the supposed logical gender.

franchasofficia:
You are right, but then, you are a female, you will never understand the sexual pressure men experience when it comes to having multiple sex partners. Naturally, men have a default in that aspect but it can be controlled only through supernatural and divine intervention through strong adherence to spiritual guidelines and divine help, but if you think a man's desire to mate with more than one woman he finds sexually appealing can be controlled through self discipline and decision or for the love of the woman he is married to or dating, then you can go ahead and believe that.


I repeat, without spiritual/divine grace and strict adherence to spiritual guide and doctrines, no sexually active man can mate with just one woman for the rest of his lifetime, whether he loves the woman or not. Quote me anywhere, any time, any day

GanagiBitrus:
Stay off marriage if you are not ready to say "SORRY" even when you are right.

thesicilian:
Marriage is way overrated. As time goes on more and more men and women are going to stay away from getting married

okoroemeka:
what you say is your mind,in my area in imo state an unmarried man is looked on and regarded as a teenager ,no matter the level of your achievements,if you cannot manage a woman you are still a child in the eyes of everybody,infact it is almost impossible and unthinkable to be a man and reach 40yrs still single in my community ,the very essense of what a man needs the respect and dignity will not be given to you,even if you drive a rolls Royce Cullman.only by managing a woman can you prove you are worthy to be called a man