Mindlog:


Wife respect your husband, a parent's honour can never be transferred to a spouse....a husband is the head of his home, while the wife's father will always be her father, her root.

DonDraper:


Chux Nnodim

pocohantas:


Aren't you old enough to realise this is a forum and when you create a thread, COMMON SENSE would tell you that people would comment? I bet you are old enough to know this. The common sense part is the deficit.

Give yourself a break and acquire what you lack.

Albertone:


Trolls have affected your Nairaland mental health. You think everyone that counters you is out to exchange words.

I don't do e-fights.
If you wan fight me, make we pick location

Aren't you old enough to realize that to each his or her own? That's his view!
If another man comes and says it's not honor, it's now long suffering, that's his own view.

Give us a break!

SweetBuns:
Best post I've seen on this forum this morning
Too good!

pocohantas:


It is how you guys draw first blood and try to hide your hands.


The above was your post and you think I don't see you for WHAT you are? Boy move!

femi4:
It's transferable

Give to everyone what you owe them: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.
Romans 13:7

pocohantas:



Lol. It is no more respect, now honour.

Before it is was men crave RESPECT, not LOVE.

Soon it would be WORSHIP.

Then same men would complain that women don't marry who they LOVE.

franchasofficia:
Like I said earlier you are right with your line of reasoning about the issue but then it is beyond your understanding because you are a woman and not a man.

You are talking about who gets more approached here but I am talking about natural instincts, natural phenomenon.


You think it is by women's discipline that even though they get more approached by different men for romance, still more women reject such approaches more than men?

It is by discipline that men chase women more than women chase men all over the world?


You think it's by discipline that a boy of 12 years starts liking girls and getting erection and start looking for a girl to hump while girls of his age are running away from boys?

You think it's by discipline or coincidence that Presidents, kings, Prime Ministers, male billionaires, male CEOs, Bishops, Pastors, Imams, etc spend so much just to entice girls to sleep with them but the female ones control themselves or do theirs in a more limited way?

It is by discipline that Queen Elizabeth remained faithful to her husband but her husband could not despite their status in the world?


It is by discipline that Hillary Clinton remained faithful to Bill Clinton but bill Clinton being US President with so much attention on him couldn't exercise same discipline?


No wahala

Oshokhai69:


So the point of marriage is then what?

Elzazzi:


Especially one that seeks to give them advantage

pocohantas:


Too many apples and oranges plus analogies in your post.

Men chase more women == Women getting more approached by men. The difference is both know the consequences of being caught.

12yrs old girls also start experiencing puberty and the zeal to explore. Why do you think we have teenage pregnancy?

Please quit the exaggerations. Faithful men (and women) would stay faithful. Cheats would cheat. We all know the difference between the two groups.

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Cheating is deliberate and planned. There is no rocket science to it - MAN or WOMAN.

Jeferious:
You were making some sense till you started your "You think it is by" rhymes.

My brother, anything wey dey man body, dey woman body too. Show me a male sex-maniac, and I'd tell you that there's a nymphomaniac somewhere who would put his seemingly high libido to shame if she's allowed to express herself fully and without judgement. And again, don't vouch for these famous women. Women can be very discreet when it comes to sexual affairs. Men, on the other hand, are very lousy

DonDraper:


Chux Nnodim

Savedday2:
My brother, sorry to be honest with you. If you haven't divorce your wife, you didn't learn anything in that marriage.

Women aren't capable of love/marriage. They are manipulators, using love/marriage as a trap. Kindly, get sense and stay away from love/marriage.

If you are married, divorce her immediately. The fact that she hasn't show you pepper/shege now doesn't means she wouldn't show you pepper.

Women are very pretentious in nature. They can pretend for 20, 30 or even 40years. But one thing is certain, that shege they are cooking for you, you must eat it when the time is right.

I want to advise you with all humidity, kindly divorce your wife, no matter how hard it is or how emotional you are. It's for your own good. Later you will understand.

If you aren't married, God is on your side. Never, ever allow any girl or your emotion to deceive you into marriage. If you want children, have baby mama or better still, adopt or use IVF if you can afford it.

Peace!

A word is enough for the wise.

pocohantas:



Lol. It is no more respect, now honour.

Before it is was men crave RESPECT, not LOVE.

Soon it would be WORSHIP.

Then same men would complain that women don't marry who they LOVE.

pocohantas:


Give this advice to your sisters and the men that would marry them. They are people you see and know. You should have more thoughts for them.




And everyone would be fine. To each his own.

safarifarms:

Why are you angry. I thought I was supporting you? I thought you don't like men and engaging yourself in marriage would be a sad experience for you?

ThatFairGuy1:
These points are from experienced married woman.

Get married before we take your point seriously too

franchasofficia:
Op you are right with some points and not entirely correct with some.


Men don't crave for honor, they want absolute respect from their wife. As a lady, respect your husband and he will cherish you, this can be called honor by some, but it all boils down to true and absolute respect.

If you want your husband to worship you and do whatever you ask, respect him, if possibly honor him if I am to borrow op's words. Stop dragging headship with your man, you are wonderfully made as a woman, you women are the flower of life, maintain your feminity, don't try to be a man.


As a man, whether you are living in Washington DC, London, Sydney, Cape Town, Seoul, Tokyo, Kingston or Casablanca, please if you want to enjoy your marriage and enjoy that natural respect from your wife, you must be ready to be the provider (financially, materially and otherwise). Don't copy western culture of sharing financial responsibilities 50-50 with your wife, if you do so, whatever you see in that marriage, take it and do not complain.


Women naturally are not created to provide, so in all your prayers as a man, always pray to God to keep you financially buoyant enough to take care of your family and manly responsibilities.


If your wife must come in, let it be partial contribution, don't mind all these small boys looking for a woman to cater for them, if you are a man, act like a man, provide for your family solely and let your wife assist when necessary and where necessary but don't ever share financial responsibilities equally with your wife if you want to enjoy your marriage. Take your eyes off from your wife's income.



Dear ladies, cheating is beyond every sexually active man's control. It is not as easy to control by men as it is for you ladies.

It is a natural fault. It is a natural flaw that only God understands. Don't divorce a good husband just because he cheated, don't judge a good man by his lack of sexual control, only the God that created him can judge him because he alone understands the battle he is facing in that aspect.

Savedday2:
My brother, sorry to be honest with you. If you haven't divorce your wife, you didn't learn anything in that marriage.

Women aren't capable of love/marriage. They are manipulators, using love/marriage as a trap. Kindly, get sense and stay away from love/marriage.

If you are married, divorce her immediately. The fact that she hasn't show you pepper/shege now doesn't means she wouldn't show you pepper.

Women are very pretentious in nature. They can pretend for 20, 30 or even 40years. But one thing is certain, that shege they are cooking for you, you must eat it when the time is right.

I want to advise you with all humidity, kindly divorce your wife, no matter how hard it is or how emotional you are. It's for your own good. Later you will understand.

If you aren't married, God is on your side. Never, ever allow any girl or your emotion to deceive you into marriage. If you want children, have baby mama or better still, adopt or use IVF if you can afford it.

Peace!

A word is enough for the wise.

Oshokhai69:


This comment has a lot of wisdom. But if I may ask, what if your wife ends up like Mrs Alakija and hits big time wealth. Will you continue to be the provider, especially when her tastes and those of the kids change as a result of her new found wealth? 🤔

franchasofficia:
and why will my wife become a dollar billionaire while I remain a pauper? Only a foolish, lazy, uncreative man will be in such shoe.


As a man, always pray to have enough to take care of your family's needs. If they then desire excess luxury because they can afford it, that is their own cup of tea. But I will make sure I take care of the basic family needs; shelter and more. We must live in the house I built or bought, we can't live in the house she built or bought, that can be our second hole, but our primary family house must be built or bought by me.

pocohantas:


Na by force to like you? You no get woman wey like you for house? Are you thirsty for my love or the so-called good women in your lives are not enough? Face her and stop looking for love online.



I don't need you to take me serious. Stop overrating yourself, please.

safarifarms:


Lol. Who wants a frustrated man hater to like him?

God forbid.

By the way Nairaland is not a dating site to accuse someone of looking for love online. If someone is looking for love online do you think they'd chose you above all the reasonable ladies online?

Stop thinking too highly of yourself.

Oshokhai69:


Please how old are you? Be truthful abeg..

pocohantas:


You no want me, you come dey cry say I no like you? Ngwanu, choose the reasonable ladies na. I get man and you don't see me complaining that you and your kind do not like me. Wetin I dey use your likeness do? Women wey you like/chose, them chop life reach me? Reasonable ladies indeed. One babe would see it and feel special to be picked by your kind on here.

Abeg move.

safarifarms:

pocohantas:


E pain am...
One would think they have anything special to offer that one should aspire to be their definition of reasonable. I jump and pass.