Lastly.

EreluRoz:
Women are created for enjoyment but modern men want to drag them into suffering.

Men don't get pregnant, don't experience monthly cramps, breast feed, care for the baby, sleepless night in taking care of the baby and still women don't drag men into these things. Just to provide ooo modern men have brought wahala inside.

First of all, if you are genuinely interested in understanding the intricacies behind the thoughts of a modern man as you put it, you would delve into the historical aspect of the modern man. 150 years ago, an ideal monogamous family consists of a wife and a husband with their children. The husband provides and the wife manages the household. Very simple. Move forward to the 1960s and 1970s during the sexual evolution; yes google that term if you don't get it. Women felt it was unfair for society to impress celibacy on them prior to marriage, whilst celibacy was lax for men. Ergo a revolution. It was granted my these modern men you're talking about, which even went on to produce contraceptives to make it safer to engage in premarital coitus. During the 1990s, women wanted equal rights as men, in schools, work place etc, it was granted. In the early 2000s, to the 2010s, women wanted equal pay because they said they did the same jobs as men. It was granted. Ergo, Both men and women became providers. Note this move was instigated by women, so my question is how then do you earn the same as a man. But you still want to not contribute a dime in a marriage? That's basically eating your cake and having it. Lastly, I would implore you to always try to research on the history human behaviours, and adaptations, if you're genuinely bothered about the human mind and how it process things. Thank you.

CaveAdullam:


It's either you deliberately choose to be dishonest, and are not interested in the truth, or not a student of the basics of History.

And if you can't mention any dead man who has died >50 years ago that has influenced human history it means you have a low retention memory ( I don't mean to be harsh and antagonistic here). It's simply what it is.

And if you're religious, you've simply caught yourself in your trap. Because you worship or praise religious prophets or messengers who existed thousands of years ago.

Nice having you here.

Good day.

Beautiful!! Something logical for a change.

DelilahMakinde:
At the end of the day all is vanity.

50 years after you're gone hardly anyone will remember your name.

It's a vain struggle.

this is a losers mentality and all is vanity is their anthem,if you use your life to make an impact mankind will remember your name for a thousand years,I remember in the beginning of the movie troy when Achilles was woken up by a boy for him to fight a gigantic warrior,the bot told Achilles that his opponent is so big that he will not fight him, Achilles told the boy that the world will not remember his name,for thousands of years names like Alexander,Julius Caesar,Achilles,hector, Odysseus, Leonidas and others has echoed in eternity

DelilahMakinde:


Sir,
If you are honest with yourself;
Apart from Seun the founder of this site, how many more of you hope to make any significant, notable impact outside your immediate space ?

Most of you are rat racers and hustlers, I'm not saying you guys are completely useless because you're only doing what needs to be done ...for yourselves...for families..

But how many of you will actually make the history books doing so ?
And if you don't does it mean your existence was completely worthless ?

History makers are called that for a reason. They stood out.
Sadly, not everyone will stand out but it doesn't mean they had a worthless existence.

If I ever have a son, the first thing I will teach him isn't to go out and make history, no matter the price.
I would teach to first of all to be useful.

Be useful.

At least Schwarzenegger agrees...

Man was not created for woman, women were created for men.

CaveAdullam:
Man's struggles:

Beneath his skin, he doesn't do these things for himself. The pains, the struggles, and the sacrifices.

He knows that without doing them he's practically useless. An evolutionary and cultural wiring that either makes or mars him.

The struggles of man are first for honor and ego. Successful men have their egos in check and can aggregate people to themselves.

Being able to run the game in his life without interference and fear makes him occupy the pedestal.

That's why men chose to go down the abyss.

An unsuccessful man is like a larvae. Won't be taken seriously until he metamorphoses into an object of complete life, strength, and beauty. Hence, the butterfly isn't limited to one position and can fly as it pleases.

Men understand this phenomenon deep down in their hearts.

Aesthetics doesn't bother men, unlike women.

For men, life is all about honor, bravery, resources, and respect.

The most beautiful man in the real, transcendental, and metaphorical sense is the man who occupies this terrain of value and material necessities to stand his ground.

The struggle is to establish a name, to not up as a failure, to protect his family and territory.

His inability will subject him to shaming tactics and ridicule. The rough road is his only remaining advantage. It is his path to hope and redemption.

These struggles shape men into different categories. Hence, everything around us comes under the influence of men. Whether good or evil. They are all products of men's struggles.

That's why the names of men are mostly pronounced in history and civilization.

Because men take the rough, turbulent road. The road less traveled, unlike women whose emotions wouldn't make them risk danger and darkness or get scared when challenged by the unknown.

Men know that it's only this unknown that can make them know the truth.

This desire for something tangible, for something great, for something that cuts across nations and generations, his posthumous remembrance, are the reasons men make a lot of sacrifices, bear harsh pains, and are willing to take risks to set themselves apart.

Many men don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. But wherever their journey ends, it has shaped their lives better than before. They aren't forgotten but become good lessons to those behind them. Ditto for men who eventually see the light.

It's a worthy struggle.

Here:https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1780964909313888450?s=19

Skiborobo:
Woman in no any way are meant to suffer.
Let that sink in your head

So na need to suffer so that you come enjoy. With money wey God give me I no dey share am with any woman because I realized all them na Gold digger with different flavours.

CaveAdullam:


Like you said, men bear the burden of performance.

Evolutionary speaking the essence of that burden is survival and reproduction. Also, to gain hold of his territory.

The suffering isn't because of a mate alone. The suffering is about dominance, power, and control. He's not only dealing with women. He's dealing with a society of men like him, above, and below him, women and children.

It's not a societal standard per se.

Like it or not, whether you choose to be a Buddhist monk, as a man, you will suffer for whatever reason you think your suffering is worthy of.

Even if you don't intend to get married, you desire a good life. To get a good life for yourself alone involves suffering. Suffering is an inevitable phase of men.

You work, you suffer but gain at the end.

You stay lazy, you suffer, and remain subjugated by others.

Woman and romance isn't part of this equation yet.

Of course, it's because men instinctually desire to make a claim of an expensive ovum that makes them struggle hard. Now the main aim is not to bag a woman but for reproductive and genetic reasons.

It's this struggle for the womanly - ovum - egg that has shaped men to be what they are today. It's underground biology going on.

In reality, a man shouldn't condole feminine nonsensical demands when she doesn't match his prerequisites. The woman must be fit and worthy of a mate.

Thanks.

Really appreciate your write ups, giving morale especially in a society filled with idiots, love the way you went deep into the burden of performance for men in this write up, my service year would soon end and I studied electrical engineering in campus but wasn't really skill minded, focused on academics, please you are always talking about the future in STEM, how youths are myopic with just social media content creation, please STEM is very broad, any IT related digital skills you are familiar with and platforms I can get trained by it, my company work is hardware related, would love to start practicing a valuable online skill from next month, I would love do part/ full time freelancing work or remote job

Thanks

DelilahMakinde:
At the end of the day all is vanity.

50 years after you're gone hardly anyone will remember your name.

It's a vain struggle.

just shut up. And search for clients so you can feed

Skiborobo:
Woman in no any way are meant to suffer.
Let that sink in your head

that's why it's only pussy women can bring to the table.

JESHAL007:


Really appreciate your write ups, giving morale especially in a society filled with idiots, love the way you went deep into the burden of performance for men in this write up, my service year would soon end and I studied electrical engineering in campus but wasn't really skill minded, focused on academics, please you are always talking about the future in STEM, how youths are myopic with just social media content creation, please STEM is very broad, any IT related digital skills you are familiar with and platforms I can get trained by it, my company work is hardware related, would love to start practicing a valuable online skill from next month, I would love do part/ full time freelancing work or remote job

Thanks

Being an electrical engineer is a good one. Kudos for reaching the beginning of a good career.

Electrical engineering is part of STEM. But you need think and do so that you won't end up frustrated like others due to the state of the nation.

If I were in your shoes, I will steer my wheels like this:

1. Stay with the company if they're willing to retain you.

Don't mind the small salary. Just keep managing it.

You can work with experienced electricians or certified experienced electricians or engineers to build your career.

Endeavor to see how you can use your skills and knowledge to help so that you can earn.

2. Tech field isn't saturated. It depends on the choice of tech stack you want to go with.

However, layoffs due to the high rise of inflation are affecting tech-related fields negatively. Also, the fast rise of AI.

Notwithstanding, if you're good in any tech field + have the opportunity to shine in the global North, you'll excel.

So, choosing a particular tech field depends on you. You need to do a hard research.

3. Any field you choose make sure it is one that you can leverage before getting a remote job or freelancing job.

That's, you can start using the knowledge to earn as you look forward to better opportunities.

You can do this by teaching, or creating an application to sell within your community. A case study is bootcamp.

4. You are an engineer. Make sure you know Mathematics. Learn Mathematics. Practice Mathematics.

Because Mathematics is a green field. If you can teach it very well you'll earn more. The Mathematical harvest is plentiful but the Mathematics laborers are few.

Learn Mathematics.

5. I'm not a fan of saving out of poverty. But saving out of abundance.

Investment more on knowledge if you're lacking instead of saving the money.

6. If you have someone who's genuine and earns with crypto or forex, beg that person to teach you. Be willing to make sacrifices though. That's if you have the mind + funds. Else, save it for a later date.

7. If you have space around your surroundings, raise a garden or do sack farming. It will cater for some vegetable foods and others.

8. Fúck stoicism.

You can't be poor and proud to be an introvert and not emotionally engaging.

Join a community. Be part of a group. It can be a church, mosque, social group, etc.

Listen: you're not trying to become like them. But you are trying to capitalize on them for possible opportunities. They will appreciate you more as you share your knowledge with them and interact more.

When you've got your money, you can decide to quit or continue with them. Now you can become an extreme introvert, and it's fine.

We don't know the outcome of the future.

We may try and fail.

But we can't succeed without trying.

My friend, don't be afraid. Take the risks for a better future.

After all, we will all die someday, so why not live life to the fullest without regrets?

Go into the world and multiply and bear good fruits.

Thanks.

Tunde835:
We have to blame simps

You can't actually blame the simps because Most of them grew up watching their fathers slave themselves for their mothers. Pussy worship aka love is cultural. Passed down to the next generations and reinforced through socialisation, music, the law, religious books, movies etc. Our songs in naija are basically worship songs for women and their pussies, Hollywood movies are filled with men going through hell to save women in the name of love, or fighting for love. In the movie extraction 2 you saw the soldier go through risk, killing hundreds of men to rescue one olosho who had a son for a criminal.
It's a psychological blinder like religion, nationality etc

pansophist:


Every man has the inalienable right to not adhere to these standards. To be an Ubermensch, in other words, to adopt your method of relating to the world.

If women ain't meant to suffer, it doesn't mean men are meant to suffer as well. I do not know about you, but I am not made to suffer. My bones do not yearn for suffering just because I am a man.

Where the catch is, is that a man should refuse, reject, and abandon any stupid responsibility to a woman who doesn't give him what he also needs from a woman.

Men have the burden of performance, and women have the burden of integration. If she can't integrate and make life soft for him, then let other men who are still under the full dictates of society carry her weight.

Society can go to hell. As a man, you matter. If marriage doesn't favor you, don't marry. If it favors you, then marry, but don't sacrifice your interest in the process.

Lots of women are abandoning traditional roles, that's exactly what feminism is all about. As a man, no one stops you from evolving. Life is a balance, and when the other side abandons their position, then its stupid to still carry yours.

suffering and labour is not limited to physical extortions,I saw a research paper that studied chess grandmasters in a tournament in Russia when they discovered that the players are losing thousands of calories daily by just sitting down and thinking the next move,so that means as a man you are also subjected to mental suffering by just thinking and shaping ideas how to be a high value man,your bones and muscles are not only at work as a man,your brain takes even more stress to be a man