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Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nicaty: 7:29pm On Dec 11, 2011
Borrowed a man i once dated money and he told me he would return it the following day. Lo and behold it took him 2 years to pay back , even after we broke up. Men are deceitful, so be careful.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Natasha2(f): 7:37pm On Dec 11, 2011
^how much was it that you had to take it back? just asking
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by emmatok(m): 9:13pm On Dec 11, 2011
chikis:

Choicegirl is realy a niece  girl. In all my imagination, I never believe there is a lady that can care so much for his guy like this. This actualy confirms the fact that choicegirl is realy in love with this his guy. Knowing that there is a girl out there who can love his guy so much with so much sincerity gladens my heart and make my joy knew no bound.
[b]This is what am searching for and I have not found it. I need a girl that will love me for me not because of what I have or who I am and here is a guy who have gotten this opportunity and still messing it up by his incessant demans. How  I wish you Choicegirl were my girl and see how I will reciprocate your love and care by treating you fine and not hurting you feeling. [/b]But like they said whishes are not horses, if it were a horse one would prefer to ride it.
Well Choicegirl, be careful with that your guy and know how you spend on him. Am not saying that you stop caring for his finacial needs but don't make it look as if you are his father, mother, e.t.c that sent him to school. The point is that let him no where your limits are; let you not go broke, put hand into bad thing e.g stealing, prositutusion, roberry, e.t.c or over burden your parents or whoever is sponsoring your education simply because you are caring for a guy whom you love so much. Goodluck with a lot of thanks!
LOL

Someone wants to get Laid.

How much has she spent on her BF before making noise.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by chikis(m): 11:39pm On Dec 11, 2011
emmatok:

LOL

Someone wants to get Laid.

How much has she spent on her BF before making noise.
And who is making noise here. Who want to get laid?
Do you want her to be quite untill when her boyfriend dries her pulse out before she will start looking for help?
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by oribi(m): 12:08am On Dec 12, 2011
i don't know what the big deal is, if ur relationship is built on a solid base and on honesty then it's not wrong to do dat for ur bf, but if d intend is only real from ur bf, then itz all good
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Tinkybabe(f): 3:15am On Dec 12, 2011
Just had to join nairaland after reading your post and going through all the comments.
To all the guys moaning about girls' demands from their boyfriends in a thread like this,is it really necessary?why don't you stop being sentimental and be objective!The op said she's never asked him for anything and he demanding  money for a pair of shoes and even volunteering to follow her to the bank?, I can picture how the conversation went
Choicegirl:aaww baby,I just misplaced my debit card
Boyfriend:That's no problem,I will accompany you to the bank to go get the money.

@choicegirl,I won't be too quick to judge,the practical advice I will give is that you call your boyfriend,tell him how things are with you(ie you're not financially buoyant  too )and explain to him why you won't be able to help him with the pair of shoes, you could offer to continue helping him with other necessities like feeding.His reaction then and afterwards will help you determine who he really is. Now, personally I don't think it's wrong for a guy to demand things from his girl though I feel it should be the last resort ie when friends or families can't help, but when it becomes too persistent and for frivolities like shoes(at least not with your financial status for now),it's a NO for me.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Kayyy: 3:38am On Dec 12, 2011
I had to reply the last post, talking about objectivity and the advice that was given above, in a reverse position would you agree that a girl should also put her burden on her parents, family and friends as well and her boyfriend should be her last resort

and if this should not be the case, if this is not true, can you explain why the opposite should be case

and i would love you to remove sentiments and be objective as well.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Tinkybabe(f): 3:54am On Dec 12, 2011
@Kayyy, I do not support girls that depend wholly on their boyfriends BUT if the guy is up to the task(ie he's got the money) and not complaining ,fine!My previous response about objectivity is in relation to the post.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Kayyy: 4:24am On Dec 12, 2011
i responded to your post about how you FEEL a guy should go about his problem (financial problems when he is broke), so i asked you as a lady, if you feel the girl friend should be a last resort, then dont you also feel the boyfriend should be a last resort, in other words if she doesnt ask or tell him , he wouldnt be in the know, he wouldnt be aware and if this is the case, dont you think your principle of what you FEEL should apply as well (in other words the lady should ask for help from her parents, family and friends, and keep whatever problem is from her relationship with her boyfriend that way he wouldnt be aware she has a financial need and he wouldnt have to carry her burden.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 6:07am On Dec 12, 2011
Is it right for a girl to ask a guy for money?
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by BCuZiMBlaCk(m): 6:26am On Dec 12, 2011
Reciprocate the individual
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 6:39am On Dec 12, 2011
Actually just read the Op's post.

That guy is not slick AT ALL. grin If you broke and you need to ask a girl money to buy shoe, then you can't just bounce and do it like that.
There are ways to do it where she would be the one to offer it and he be like "nah nah I feel like I'm taking advantage of you" and then she presses and he like "ok if you insist thaank you luv". cheesy
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 7:07am On Dec 12, 2011
What ?
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 9:09am On Dec 12, 2011
My sister, he is basking in the euphoria dat wateva he needs, u can provide. Maybe he knows ur dad is a Senator.

You cant be his bread winner buying shoes for him too. Since his sister is back, tell him you dont have money now and stand by it. Dont be shy with ur stand.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 9:15am On Dec 12, 2011
@Op, Help A Man In need and Your Days Gets Longer On Earth GIV 12 : 14 cool cool cool
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by ev1: 2:18pm On Dec 12, 2011
Well,u wuld agree wit dat love is all about sharing,ranging 4rm material things,affection, money,ideas or knowledge. If dat be d case nd if my girl undstands me nd I do too, I cn ask her 4 any within her power. There is nothing lik shyness here. In asking it is either u recieve or turned down.so is a two way traffic
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Tsun(f): 4:17pm On Dec 12, 2011
My sista just throw him away abeg.
What kind of rubbish is that.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by kaysy(m): 4:20pm On Dec 12, 2011
there's nothing wrong with giving ur boyfriend money, my girlfriend gave me the money i used for my internet subscription last week.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by sugardaddy1(m): 5:32pm On Dec 12, 2011
Natasha,,:

^how much was it that you had to take it back? just asking
Feeling same here. I mean, we are better of without certain things
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Dec 12, 2011
Tsun:

My sista just throw him away abeg.
What kind of rubbish is that.


Easy. U sound single and frustrated. cheesy
If a girl did it you will be saying "don't be stingy". But because it's a guy, he should be "thrown away".
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Loveaflame(m): 9:12pm On Dec 12, 2011
Their is nothing really bad in it as long as it does not become habitual on the part of the guy.You may end up loosing your self dignity and respect before the lady and her friends and her families if she is "CNN"
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 10:14pm On Dec 12, 2011
Thanks everyone for your advice. I decided to declare myself broke and refused to even use the ATM and he reciprocated everything I did 3 fold. It means he really meant no harm
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 10:25pm On Dec 12, 2011
^^ Exactly.Don't listen to all these single, frustrated women.
Mysery loves company.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by emmatok(m): 11:08pm On Dec 12, 2011
Choicegirl:

Thanks everyone for your advice. I decided to declare myself broke and refused to even use the ATM and he reciprocated everything I did 3 fold. It means he really meant no harm

HMM,

Do you mean he paid back all the money you spent on him?
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by MrsChima1(f): 11:18pm On Dec 12, 2011
2buff:

^^ Exactly.Don't listen to all these single, frustrated women.
Mysery loves company.
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Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 1:06am On Dec 13, 2011
OP so because ur boyfriend beg u for hundred naira to buy forty naira groundnut,with two cups of garri wey be forty naira and one five naira sugar and five naira pure water na im u no wan let us hear word again? undecided
Ehn no be this same guy u talk so dey spend money on u wen he dey loaded? na wich one come be ur own sef? undecided.A guy dey broke and hunger dey yammatu im belly and im come beg u make u borrow just hundred naira to chop and because of dat u dey come here dey fall im hand .Ok the time wen the bobo dey give u money for house rent,brazilian wig the bobo complain? ok what of tht time wey im half im school fees and come buy blackberry touch for u the bobo come here come complain? undecided.Na wah for u naija girls.So na sin to help una boyfriend or husband wen the guy dey financial difficulty angry.And yet when i say oyibo girls better pass una by far una go start to dey vex grin
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by samtoye(m): 2:45am On Dec 13, 2011
Lesson for all you guys out there, never ask your girlfriend for money cos you never can say, you might end up a topic on nairaland !!! If everytime a guy gives his girlfriend money he posts a topic on nairaland, i'm sure nairaland servers would have shut down by now due to congestion!

@ Poster

Do us all a favor, why don't you post his full name and house address plus his passport photo so that we can identify him to declare him bankcrupt and persona non grata !!! Women ! Kai!
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by kelz88(f): 2:50am On Dec 13, 2011
LOL@him needing the money for shoe.

He's obviously taking the piss. Tell him where you stand on this.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Ranoscky(m): 4:48am On Dec 13, 2011
OP, I have a question for u!

If your bf was D one doin D buyin and givin (without U mindin how he stuggles to get D money), would u have been here to bring up this topic? undecided

NONENSICAL NONSENSE!!
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Ranoscky(m): 5:03am On Dec 13, 2011
lefulefu:

OP so because your boyfriend beg u for hundred naira to buy forty naira groundnut,with two cups of garri wey be forty naira and one five naira sugar and five naira pure water na im u no wan let us hear word again? undecided
Ehn no be this same guy u talk so dey spend money on u wen he dey loaded? na wich one come be your own sef? undecided.A guy dey broke and hunger dey yammatu im belly and im come beg u make u borrow just hundred naira to chop and because of dat u dey come here dey fall im hand .Ok the time wen the bobo dey give u money for house rent,brazilian wig the bobo complain? ok what of tht time wey im half im school fees and come buy blackberry touch for u the bobo come here come complain? undecided.Na wah for u naija girls.So na sin to help una boyfriend or husband wen the guy dey financial difficulty angry.And yet when i say oyibo girls better pass una by far una go start to dey vex grin
I dey tel u! Yeye things.
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by sugardaddy1(m): 6:57am On Dec 13, 2011
samtoye:

Lesson for all you guys out there, never ask your girlfriend for money cos you never can say, you might end up a topic on nairaland !!! If everytime a guy gives his girlfriend money he posts a topic on nairaland, i'm sure nairaland servers would have shut down by now due to congestion!

@ Poster

Do us all a favor, why don't you post his full name and house address plus his passport photo so that we can identify him to declare him bankcrupt and persona non grata !!! Women ! Kai!
grin grin grin
Re: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money? by Nobody: 7:31am On Dec 13, 2011
Ranoscky:

I dey tel u! Yeye things.
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u mind dem grin
a white babe will help her guy wen the guy dey financial problem witout thinking about it but if a naija babe borrow u fifty kobo she go let the whole world know grin.Chai i jus dey feel sorry for the OP boyfriend seeing the way she dey fall the bobo hand for here.I know for a fact say na lie she dey talk when she say the guy ask am to gve am money to buy shoe.The only truth wey the OP yarn na the tory about borrowing the guy money wen im aunty no dey town.Bross u reason am na grin
SHAME go let u ask ur girfriend for money for shirt or shoe when u dey still owe her money? grin
nah wich naija guy go behave like that grin

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