but its not easy!

RonkeD, Play the same game he is playing (I mean the married guy), afterall, he is married and had another girlfriend in Naija. If he accused you of having an affair, accused him too of having a wife and two girlfriend(1 in Naija plus you). No doubt about it, you need to listen to what people are saying here, it is the truth. You have to leave both of them. Just like you said that it is not easy, you are also right. What you therefore need to do is to make up your mind that you are going to leave him, but not immediately. Play along with him, but make yourself available for another person, even if you have to do this discretly. There are men who will understand your plight and love you for who you are and take up your problem, until it is over. I wish you all the best.

ronke try and be patience, with that you can achieve alot in life!

so all of you just conspired together and ronkeD just dumped 2-guys.



eh - ya

@ kimba

I have no idea what your trying to say. Care to be explicit?

kimba, they didn't conspire, it was just an advice! assuming you are in my shoes what could you have done?

ronkeD, how are you coping with things generally? hope you have resolved the issues of your guyz! well just pray and fast serious about it.God bless you!

can i also join the queue

thanks i have dumped the married man now and the other one and i feel so empty! is this feeling real or may be am missing something? i have a urge in me to call the married guy but i keep hiding my number and call him and he doesn't know am the one. its not easy i feel lonely! i would be taking a break nextweek and i would come to Nigeria. chane of environment! may be that would help!

When you feel lonely, why not call a girl friend/sister/cousin instead? This is the feeling that ppl have when they've been dissapointed and/or have ended a relationship. It's natural and the feeling will pass.

Keep enduring it, it will only last a short while. From your actions now, you can now see you have taken a good decision. Take a look at from this angle, your ex-marired man, how is he doing too? Is he missing you as you are missing him? The answer is yes, he is missing you too, but he can endure your not being around because he has alternative to fall back on, he has his wife and some other women around him, while you don't have anyone else. It is a feeling that will go later on as time goes on, keep on enduring it, I wish you all the best.

believing that the best is yet to come

Look around u, The best might just be around the corner

or are you the best whitelexi?

or are you the best whitelexi?

I didnt say that, But the answer might just be looming in the air

ronke how far?

at least she said she left the two them!

@ ronkeD,

Pls hear the words of advise. Leave the married man alone. He is a bloody lier who will do the same thing to you wen he eventually get you. Men are so funny to the extend of crying in the presece of a lady just to lure her into what she wouldn't have done. Pls, beware of this. You are just 24 as u claimed, that means you are too young for polygamous war, Ile olorogun, ile ogun ni ooooooooo. (polygamous home is a war zone)

As for the second guy, I want to believe that you did not pick any interest in him cos of this married man in your life. But then, why did you enter into relationship with somebody you can't marry or have feeling for? You need to check yourself very well in this area. It is never too late.

In my candid opinion, send the married man packing and give the second man chance. You will be surprised at the rate the love will grow. However, if there is no improvement, then you can free yourself. I wish you best best in life.

poster give urself time, let go and heal ur wounds first.

u kind of man will come

Ronke,
It's good you are leaving Both but make sure you don't enter you next relationship out of pity or desperation.Keep your options open and don't overwork yourself with high expectations or unnecessary panic,Love will come when you least expect.

ronkeD
I think you need more options in your life trust me gone are the days that we ladies wait for Mr Right to come with his white horse and take us to his Palace because you know what Mr Right has a lot of ladies around him so you have to compete. Life is a competition and you have a head start because you are beautiful so use it while you are still young.