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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by sterlingD(m): 10:59am On Jan 08, 2025

omoredia:
A woman is like a snake they are only dangerous if u get to trust them and love them too much

This is deep really deep.............very deep

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by chiboycue: 11:00am On Jan 08, 2025*

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

Are members of your nuclear family supporting your relationship with her ?
Is she older than you ?

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by lexyman(m): 11:00am On Jan 08, 2025

what kind of advice do you want ? you already made up your mind . i hope your decisions are not based on your financial status ... i can see where you preferred her to other ladies you ve dated in the past .... sometimes you attract what comes to you ... A mother of 3 will not leave her home because of ethnicity or tribal differences . dig deeper and use your head

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Nobody: 11:00am On Jan 08, 2025

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

Gerrarahia man

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by iamoyindamola(m): 11:00am On Jan 08, 2025

Abi you are enjoying her money undecided

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by friendl: 11:01am On Jan 08, 2025

You no know wetin GOD do for you huh

Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by GOFRONT(m): 11:01am On Jan 08, 2025

Brother wey mumu

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by travelzcruix: 11:01am On Jan 08, 2025

Why should one think of that when you know you will never have peace of mind. That woman is another person's project. Oga excersise small patience and look for your own missing rib. A 19 year old girl, marry her, let her born, collect your kids and find ways to feed them during this period of great tribulations. If the lady wants temporary love, care and attention. Make it crystal clear that it will not go beyond that.
Finally agree on the duration for the relationship.
Elders for here no get Joy when it comes to matters like this.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Sirianese: 11:02am On Jan 08, 2025

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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Are you sure you're not marrying her for her money?

Just being candid here, no offense intended

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Fryx: 11:02am On Jan 08, 2025*

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by chidi2003(m): 11:04am On Jan 08, 2025

Wickedfacts:
By the time she gets into your house, you will see the reason why the father of her kids ran away.

Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by illuminutty: 11:05am On Jan 08, 2025

Finished man. Tueh

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Okortor: 11:06am On Jan 08, 2025

Toxic set of women......... God forbid!

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by alizma: 11:07am On Jan 08, 2025

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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Nothing is wrong in dating or marrying a single mother, just make your findings to be sure they have truly part ways and learn the necessary things you need to learn about single parents and prepare yourself to manage the situations ahead

Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by SINisSIN(m): 11:07am On Jan 08, 2025*

You're carried away because of her financial capacity now and because she is spending on you.

Dating life is different from marriage life.

She already has a family that will always comes first in everything before you. She will always need to be more there for her three children. Can you cope with that?

And what makes you think she told you the truth about her ex? Three children and cultural differences? Lol...dig more.

You will end up crying. It's better you don't discuss any marriage with her and make sure you always use protection when making out expect of course you're mentally ready for anything you see later.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Nobody: 11:08am On Jan 08, 2025

lailo:
I'm already weeping for you in advance
Suicide mission

You forgot to add Abort! Abort! Abort!

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by nonny1212: 11:08am On Jan 08, 2025

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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Anything single mom, run ooo

I drop my mic in peace

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Stevenbright(m): 11:08am On Jan 08, 2025

Just make sure she is being real and not pretending to be good. Most are like that during dating but becomes something else once they have gotten the needed assurance.

Also know that her baby daddy can be a source of distraction in the future and that she could also starts disrespecting you too as times goes on.

Ask her what she wants and be sure she answered you directly. If she said she wants marriage, tell her what your redlines are:

1. You won't tolerate any serious thing between her and her baby daddy except on the occasion of the children and you must be well carried along.

2. You won't tolerate any form of cheating because they are easily prone to it.

Finally, find out and be sure that she is not being financially sponsored by any sugar daddy because that will be a big problem for you.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by SilentEmma: 11:09am On Jan 08, 2025

She will never love you more than she love her kids, as a matter of facts... the love you give to her, she will reciprocate it to her children and not you... undecided

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Lovelydaisies: 11:09am On Jan 08, 2025

Hmm. And you will want her to have kids for you too. Maybe two or three. I don't know if she'll want to go through it again, and that many times. She'll always be involved with her ex, since kids are involved too. Cam you handle all that?

Well, let those who have experience come and advise you on the challenges. Some you already see, some not yet.

But anything you have to think through so much and ask for advice like this, despite knowing some of the disadvantages might not be worth it.

Good luck!

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Philip4564(m): 11:10am On Jan 08, 2025

BareFacedLies:
Are you with her for love or are you with her for the money because we all know no single Nigerian guy would willingly marry a single mother with 3 children if there is no potential financial benefit at play?

This is a fallacy of hasty generalization.

Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by histemple: 11:11am On Jan 08, 2025

She told you it was because of tribalism that the ex avoided marrying her after 3 kids and you believed?

This tells how sound you are.

And you believe she was that kind, supportive and angelic as you have described her, yet the ex and his family unanimously avoided her?

Please go ahead and marry her but please don't expect that you will come first before ALL her kids.

Please marry her but please understand that she loves her ex and they are still good friends. Don't stop her whenever she wants to visit her kids with her ex.

Please marry her but don't try to prevent her from visiting her ex to discuss about their kids.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by SilentEmma: 11:11am On Jan 08, 2025

Stevenbright:
Just make sure she is being real and not pretending to be good. Most are like that during dating but becomes something else once they have gotten the needed assurance.

Also know that her baby daddy can be a source of distraction in the future and that she could also starts disrespecting you too as times goes on.

Ask her what she wants and be sure she answered you directly. If she said she wants marriage, tell her what your redlines are:

1. You won't tolerate any serious thing between her and her baby daddy except on the occasion of the children and you must be well carried along.

2. You won't tolerate any form of cheating because they are easily prone to it.

Finally, find out and be sure that she is not being financially sponsored by any sugar daddy because that will be a big problem for you.

you see those bolded lines, they will eventually happen, if at any times the ex comes into the picture again...

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Philip4564(m): 11:12am On Jan 08, 2025

nonny1212:
Anything single mom, run ooo

I drop my mic in peace

are they not human??

Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Coolbadguy: 11:13am On Jan 08, 2025

My guy there is nothing wrong getting married to a single mother as long as she gives you respect and she loves you, she is also doing well, absolutely wrong in loving her back.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by BABANGBALI: 11:14am On Jan 08, 2025

It's obvious that you're in love with her money and in lust with her. You better don't start what you'll regret in the future.

Seun please monetize nairaland and let's start paying for membership

Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Elzazzi: 11:15am On Jan 08, 2025

Lalami3232:
What do you want us to do about it?
Oga try to take a glass of clean water and rest

He has already made up his mind sef... Lol

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Dshocker(m): 11:15am On Jan 08, 2025

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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You are funny broo...

Every single mothers are always loyal, due to their condition, just wait till you marry her.

Then secondly, my guy use your head for once naaaa, so you believe that shit that it was tribe difference that made her quit, wake up man..... So she didn't know tribe was a barrier and she birthed 1,2 & 3 dey play.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by Coolbadguy: 11:17am On Jan 08, 2025

Stevenbright:
Just make sure she is being real and not pretending to be good. Most are like that during dating but becomes something else once they have gotten the needed assurance.

Also know that her baby daddy can be a source of distraction in the future and that she could also starts disrespecting you too as times goes on.

Ask her what she wants and be sure she answered you directly. If she said she wants marriage, tell her what your redlines are:

1. You won't tolerate any serious thing between her and her baby daddy except on the occasion of the children and you must be well carried along.

2. You won't tolerate any form of cheating because they are easily prone to it.

Finally, find out and be sure that she is not being financially sponsored by any sugar daddy because that will be a big problem for you.

Not a bad one bro, you highlighted some valid points here.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by IamHonourable1: 11:17am On Jan 08, 2025

You go suffer eh, she's just being nice for you to see her as a good woman so you can erase any doubts about her from your mind, but the end justifies the means.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by MrHighSea: 11:18am On Jan 08, 2025

It's the men that will give you insights. Been there, thought that, now married to another.

Because of space and time.

Cancel any marriage thoughts wrt a single Mom (no hating or stereotyping). Not that the individual is bad. Possiblity of complexities to creep-in is enormous.

It'll be easier marrying three typical single ladies same day, staying married for long with your blood pressure intact than marrying one single mother with kids and a living ex.

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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mother Of Three by UTEWUOJO: 11:18am On Jan 08, 2025

What ye seek, ye shall find! Birthed 3 kids for an ex and didn't end up with him because of tribalism; is the story even adding up to you? if I may ask what type of tribalism?

Oga kiku tell us say na because of money you wan marry her, but you go hear am later.

Dog wey wan lost no dey hear whistle sha.

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