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Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by BabaIbo: 12:14pm On Jan 08
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.


Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by positivevibez: 12:16pm On Jan 08
The sugar go sweet for two years after that e go sour

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by SmellySperm(m): 12:18pm On Jan 08
i no just wan talk wetin dey my mind now


Bros quit....I repeat quit!

instead of u to focus on ur business you're here talking love that doesn't even exist,love fireundecided

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by BabaIbo: 12:19pm On Jan 08
positivevibez:
The sugar go sweet for two years after that e go sour

What do you mean by that?

Please, interpret your adage

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Olunmercy56(f): 12:23pm On Jan 08
You know the best for you, having two kids is not a bad things, you have to love those kids as your own and be ready to be responsible financially and materially.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by GOFRONT(m): 12:24pm On Jan 08
Inside Life......

This is coming at a time when DNA and paternity fraud is rife....

Maybe her two kids were not from her first husband ( paternity fraud); hence the separation......

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by FalseProphet1(m): 12:26pm On Jan 08
She has two children n the owner of the children did not marry her instead left her to fend for them by herself, that means she is not wife material, leave her alone, have fun with her but don't go beyond fun and start talkin about marriage because u will regret it

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Bola146(f): 12:27pm On Jan 08
Go for her if you love her, just check yourself if you are financially okay to be responsible

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by EzegeNdiigbo: 12:40pm On Jan 08
Hmmm you're under a spell, go for a deliverance

how can a full grown man be thinking of settling down with a second-class-woman with a kids
Think twice.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by phelonrays: 12:45pm On Jan 08
Last I checked; there's no Universal (agreed) Law(s) that restrict men from getting married to single mum(s).

Marriage is a choice, people chooses what stroke their cord, some even got entangled with the least expected (e.g, the Lady with Her briefcase theory)...

So if she's that good to you (judging from "ticked the box" statement), is left for you ( Not the society ) to decide how it pans out...

Best of Luck..!

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by SavageResponse(m): 12:49pm On Jan 08
BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.


Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

Lalasticlala
Obynoscopy
Seun

You need to first find out why a guy got her pregnant twice and still refused to marry her

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Mivici: 12:51pm On Jan 08
Just be careful,
She might still be in love with her babies Daddy. Her man left to hustle, I promise you he will come back for his kids.

Just pray for a away out, no advise here will work because we can't read your new suger mind.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by soundOsonic: 12:56pm On Jan 08
All Ladies will tell you to go for her, this is because they are Ladies and can find themselves in that situation.
A single mother of not just one but two?
Baba reason am now. The game score na 2-0 already, sharp handicap match. If you play this kind match for bet9ja self the odd of winning is low. The odd of this working perfectly fine is low oga.
I am not a redpiller o or this Alpha male stuff people say. Common sense should dictate to you that the person that is meant to marry her is an old man of maybe 50 or 60 that already have kids.
Your business now should be your business you just startup. Truth be told the Lady doesn't love you, you are just an end to her means. Oh yes lest I forget, the guy up there said something when you lick sugar too much it go purge you, later after the purging you no go like sugar again, you go be like our elderly bros them wey no like sweet things

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by soundOsonic: 1:05pm On Jan 08
Oh yes do not take care of another's man children especially a man that is not related to you.
Ladies might say they can take care of another woman's children from their husband. I laugh. The maltreatment this children undergo no be here. Even if the woman is a good woman without any maltreatment, and she takes good care of them, it is no big deal. Yes it is no big deal. You can pay a maid to take care of children. Even most of our parents pay kindergarten schools to take care of their children. When a woman takes care of another woman's children it is no big deal anybody can be paid to take care of a child, just pay them well they will grow up fine.
For a man to take care of others people children, he only have to provide resources like finances which is the major thing needed. You can pay another man to finance a child lol. That role can not and never be substituted. That is the main reason it is not advisable to raise another man child as a man. Any woman can raise another woman's child it is as easy as ABC as long as money is available.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by BabaIbo: 1:07pm On Jan 08
GOFRONT:
Inside Life......

This is coming at a time when DNA and paternity fraud is rife....

Maybe her two kids were not from her first husband ( paternity fraud); hence the separation......
..

She has never been married
Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by paulolee(m): 1:09pm On Jan 08
my guy they are many fishes in the river, just call it off with her and allow her to because you are sounding more confused n like you dnt know what you want..
she's a single mother and may have gone through heartbreak and trauma, pls dnt go ahead and give her false hope just because you want to take her for a ride and leave her more with more trauma..

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Dreadlock69(m): 1:09pm On Jan 08
Olunmercy56:
You know the best for you, having two kids is not a bad things, you have to love those kids as your own and be ready to be responsible financially and materially.

grin shebi

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by BabaIbo: 1:10pm On Jan 08
SavageResponse:


You need to first find out why a guy got her pregnant twice and still refused to marry her

Not twice but a shot that resulted in 2 goals(twins)

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Fmghewzy: 1:13pm On Jan 08
FalseProphet1:
She has two children n the owner of the children did not marry her instead left her to fend for them by herself, that means she is not wife material, leave her alone, have fun with her but don't go beyond fun and start talkin about marriage because u will regret it

See useless advice,
Op no mind am oo.

Follow your heart,but make sure you truly love her not just sex

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by BabaIbo: 1:17pm On Jan 08
paulolee:
my guy they are many fishes in the river, just call it off with her and allow her to because you are sounding more confused n like you dnt know what you want..
she's a single mother and may have gone through heartbreak and trauma, pls dnt go ahead and give her false hope just because you want to take her for a ride and leave her more with more trauma..


My intentions are pure, as I am not the promiscuous type.
I'm only asking for advice from people.

Who start something without planning?

Bro, you are sounding like you a Pro or perfect human.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by BabaIbo: 1:22pm On Jan 08
soundOsonic:
All Ladies will tell you to go for her, this is because they are Ladies and can find themselves in that situation.
A single mother of not just one but two?
Baba reason am now. The game score na 2-0 already, sharp handicap match. If you play this kind match for bet9ja self the odd of winning is low. The odd of this working perfectly fine is low oga.
I am not a redpiller o or this Alpha male stuff people say. Common sense should dictate to you that the person that is meant to marry her is an old man of maybe 50 or 60 that already have kids.
Your business now should be your business you just startup. Truth be told the Lady doesn't love you, you are just an end to her means. Oh yes lest I forget, the guy up there said something when you lick sugar too much it go purge you, later after the purging you no go like sugar again, you go be like our elderly bros them wey no like sweet things


LOL, not two pregnancies but one that resulted in twins.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by paulolee(m): 1:26pm On Jan 08
BabaIbo:


My intentions are pure, as I am not the promiscuous type.
I'm only asking for advice from people.

Who start something without planning?

Bro, you are sounding like you a Pro or perfect human.
nope, am not perfect either....jus take ur time n make ur plans to suit ur intentions.....wish u well though

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by farady(m): 1:31pm On Jan 08
This is a brand new year. You don't need all the drama and rigors associated with single mothers. This is added to the fact that the fathers of the children are still alive. My friend, forget her and face forward.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by voyy: 1:45pm On Jan 08
BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.


Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.
is she a teacher?
Lalasticlala
Obynoscopy
Seun
Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Molahnelson(m): 2:46pm On Jan 08
What should I advise you now
If i give you the truth (Red pills), I believe you can't bear it
Bro's I have no advice for you,

Sorry!

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Zabiboy: 3:01pm On Jan 08

Why is it that some guys nor dey hear word...
Anyways, you'll either learn the hard way or the soft way...
Choose one

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by austine4real(m): 3:03pm On Jan 08
OMG u just a caretaker

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by baralatie(m): 3:04pm On Jan 08
positivevibez:
The sugar go sweet for two years after that e go sour
if the sugar na salt nko

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by Naijahops(m): 3:05pm On Jan 08
Olunmercy56:
You know the best for you, having two kids is not a bad things, you have to love those kids as your own and be ready to be responsible financially and materially.
see them special adviser to the OP set Awon they will lead me astray.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by janedonez(m): 3:05pm On Jan 08
Guy, Why not focus on growing your business for now and stop the information infatuation. what you are about putting your hand will burn you like sulphur.

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by idu1(m): 3:05pm On Jan 08
grin



single women don finish for your state abi?

continue bro...

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Re: Help, I Am In Love With A Single Mother Of Two. by IMASTEX: 3:06pm On Jan 08
You alone can advise yourself. You said "Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage."

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