What are reasons that could possibly make a guy who you were or are friends with beg for a relationship as in make it official boyfriend and girlfriend and then needs space and wants to remain friends?

after he gets some azz he figures out that he really has nothing in common with you anymore or the relationship he was going on about was just his last ditch effort to get in your pants. or could just be he saw something that he didnt like when he finally got close to you

omega25red:

after he gets some azz he figures out that he really has nothing in common with you anymore or the relationship he was going on about was just his last ditch effort to get in your pants. or could just be he saw something that he didnt like when he finally got close to you

Nope we never slept together at all. It was just the pic incident which I finally asked him again and he said he just needs space but I reminded him he was the one who begged for a relationship which i told him to take it easy, that it was still new. Oh well

Deida:

Nope we never slept together at all. It was just the[b] pic incident[/b] which I finally asked him again and he said he just needs space but I reminded him he was the one who begged for a relationship which i told him to take it easy, that it was still new. Oh well

what "pic incident? i dont know what that is

hey count yourself lucky cause that dude seems bipolar Anyway it sound like he chased and chased and chased you and when he finally got you he didnt have anything to chase anymore which rendered him bored. Trust me its nothing to do with you but some guys just love the chase and when they finally catch, they would loose interest.

im surprised he is asking for space before he even tries to get you in bed? he must either have some thing going on that he cant discuss wif you or you must be an awful nag.

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Maybe you guys were getting too serious and he's not ready for commitment, at least until he knows that you're actually who he thought you were.

Or

You said "YES" way too soon that he thinks you're either cheap or desperate.

sexkillz:

It's just a case of misplaced priorities on the guy! Relationships based on established friendships usually turn out fine. In his own case though, he might have been smoking. . .

Smoking what? But I hate things like these. We were fine friends but each time he kept pressuring relationship which I told him to take it slowly and when I began opening up, he needs space. #Sighs

omega25red:

what "pic incident? i dont know what that is

hey count yourself lucky cause that dude seems bipolar   Anyway it sound like he chased and chased and chased you and when he finally got you he didnt have anything to chase anymore which rendered him bored. Trust me its nothing to do with you but some guys just love the chase and when they finally catch, they would loose interest.

im surprised he is asking for space before he even tries to get you in bed? he must either have some thing going on that he cant discuss wif you or you must be an awful nag.

Chase? How long? He didn't have to chase me. We have been friends even when he had issues with his past relationship and job wise etc.

Tingles:

Maybe you guys were getting too serious and he's not ready for commitment, at least until he knows that you're actually who he thought you were.

Or

You said "YES" way too soon that he thinks you're either cheap or desperate.

Please read again before commenting. I didn't say YES, I told him to take it slowly but we are in it and dating.

Deida:

Please read again before commenting. I didn't say YES, I told him to take it slowly but we are in it and dating.

contradiction.
either you or the bobo is confused

The guy does not know what to do with you. He wants to go back for tutorials

With a response like that, I would leave you too.

With a response like that, I would leave you too.

^^

Its either you have suddenly become too demanding than when you were just friends and he feels he can't put up with ur excessive demand

                               OR

His intention was to get punny and run but you are playing hard to get and looking for commitment while he's only after the kitty cat.

What BBm girl?

Tingles:

With a response like that, I would leave you too.

What response?

koolkamzzy:

Its either you have suddenly become too demanding than when you were just friends and he feels he can't put up with ur excessive demand

                               OR

His intention was to get punny and run but you are playing hard to get and looking for commitment while he's only after the kitty cat.

I didn;t demand anything from him. We were still the same, the only change started when the bbm pic incident where he said it was a picture I would have shown only him.

aguiyi:

contradiction.
either you or the bobo is confused

Okay let me make it straight. We have been friends, going out and talking and all. He now started asking for a relationship and said he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I now told him aren't the days gone when people say be my bf or gf that we are dating and it would naturally fall into place. That I do like you and we are dating and also getting to know ourselves and then the pic incident happened.

Mynd_44:

What BBm girl?

She said she put up a pix on her BBM and the dude said he didn't like it cos he feels it should be a private pix,she removed it and apologized but the dude was still giving her cold shoulders,she kept on asking if it was break up and begging,but the dude wasn't budging.


Seriously I think she's desperate to be with the guy and he's noticed she would not give him space and has decided to run for his dear life before she chokes him to death.

clear case of a guy who doesnt know what he wants,
besides you both are going all childish about it.
let it go and get over it already.
ugh!

freecocoa:

She said she put up a pix on her BBM and the dude said he didn't like it cos he feels it should be a private pix,she removed it and apologized but the dude was still giving her cold shoulders,she kept on asking if it was break up and begging,but the dude wasn't budging.


Seriously I think she's desperate to be with the guy and he's noticed she would not give him space and has decided to run for his dear life before she chokes him to death.

Now I remember her. The guy probablytook off when he realise you were loving up and he is not ready for a clingy babe

freecocoa:

She said she put up a pix on her BBM and the dude said he didn't like it cos he feels it should be a private pix,she removed it and apologized but the dude was still giving her cold shoulders,she kept on asking if it was break up and begging,but the dude wasn't budging.


Seriously I think she's desperate to be with the guy and he's noticed she would not give him space and has decided to run for his dear life before she chokes him to death.

Sorry to say but you sound like a bitter woman! In the name of advice or so, see the arrogance and anger you are using to reply. Please it is not compulsory to give an opinion. Thank u

Deida:

Sorry to say but you sound like a bitter woman! In the name of advice or so, see the arrogance and anger you are using to reply. Please it is not compulsory to give an opinion. Thank u

Firstly I'm not bitter as nothing concern me with you but from your previous posts I can deduce the type of girl you are and like you know the truth is often bitter and hurts.

Now you think a guy wants a lady who wouldn't give him breathing space?think again. You kept bugging the dude even when he told you all was well,you kept asking if you guys were over yet you say you didn't agree to being his girlfriend,wtf?.

I'm not angry but the way you go back and forth can be irritating and FYI this is a public forum so I have every right to give an opinion any time I desire,I won't be held responsible if you don't like my opinion cos I ain't here to please you,now if you don't want me to tell you what I think about you then don't create any more threads cos I'll sure drop my opinion on any thread if i want. Btw you are welcome@"thank you".

OP, this is what I feel -

He actually wants a relationship with you, however he wasnt too impressed when you use a dp that should be private from his own perspective. His reason for calling it off is he feels you are not really ready for commitment, your dp must have attracted other guys which he thought you purposely did and he doesnt want to waste his time with a girl that is displaying her market value there by advertising herself through bb display pic.

I will advise you not to bother yourself, just be yourself with time he will come back if he is meant for you.

The OP needs to move on and find a new gut

So the idiot has finally spoken out. . . .

Sorry for ever defending him

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People can be weird and confused. Just let the guy be.

Being pissed off about your display pic was just an excuse to break up with you. Wish you saw how silly and pathetic he was before you let yourself get this upset.


You will get over him; it's only a matter of time.

The display picture might be part of the problem but when you start bothering a guy you just started dating on BB, with calls and the rest, the guy might just get scared and run off

Mynd_44:

The display picture might be part of the problem but when you start bothering a guy you just started dating on BB, with calls and the rest, the guy might just get scared and run off

Bothering a guy I met on BB? How? I met in person not bb. BB was only mentioned because of the display pic I used which you saw and it wasn't that bad. He said he needs space that time will tell if it's meant to be and If i don;t jump into another man's arms, it will tell he was either meant for me or he was one of a kind.

kelz88:

People can be weird and confused. Just let the guy be.

Being pissed off about your display pic was just an excuse to break up with you. Wish you saw how silly and pathetic he was before you let yourself get this upset.


You will get over him; it's only a matter of time.

I tell you very strange. I'm giving him his space though he keeps messaging me and told me that time will tell if he is really the one meant for me and I should not jump into another man;s arms etc, I'm so confused.

kpolli:



So the has finally spoken out. . . .

Sorry for ever defending him

Who?

newmusic:

OP, this is what I feel -

He actually wants a relationship with you, however he wasnt too impressed when you use a dp that should be private from his own perspective. His reason for calling it off is he feels you are not really ready for commitment, your dp must have attracted other guys which he thought you purposely did and he doesnt want to waste his time with a girl that is displaying her market value there by advertising herself through bb display pic.

I will advise you not to bother yourself, just be yourself with time he will come back if he is meant for you.

I am already myself, if a picture could make him this mad, this early, oh well! And my picture was not displaying anything bad.

I meant you disturbing him with BUm. Why not just leave him and move on