Wislet:

@sagamite, dearie wer u bin dey?

tenibaby:

There are several reasons why a man should get married
1) Cohabiting with several women is a sin, you are not to commit fornication by sleeping with so many women, for spiritual and health reasons
2) It is Gods plan for a man to leave his home and cleave unto a woman for companionship for them to build ideas together and nurture children in the way of the Lord
3)The role of men is very important in a home because most male children love to learn from their fathers and when they don't see their fathers at home they learn from outside
So, in a nutshell marriage is very important for health reasons, spiritual reasons and nation building because the man is the strong force that holds the family together and God the stronghold. We have been through hurt and pain, but we must learn something positive from all forms of hurt and pain and become better people.

Sky Rider:

Any sensible man would prefer a wife's tantrums, the children's murderous yells to the 25yrs olds.

Who will make sure he supplies them with all the vain things of this world. At the same time he is not the only one logging into their websites.

Only for him to wake up one day, even with all he has spent and find himself lonely, cause they will be so gone for greener pastures.

Wislet:

@ sagamite, I'll wipe ur behind if u dnt take time

Sagamite:

I think you meant whip.

If you will wipe it, I will put a ring on your finger now. Good wife.

Some of you will end up lonley old men
sleeping with your wads of money &
your pet cat on your bed with no one
to even ask you if your feet are warm

chaircover:


Yes there is a minority of women who feel that their husbands have to provide their every need but they are certainly the minority, just as we have a minority of lazy men who expect their wives to provide for their every need.

moremi2008:

Oga, I am a bit worried about you because you have outdated notions of marriage. Nobody is EVER going to get a marriage like their grandparents except they live in a remote village in Damaturu. The social insitution of marriage is dramatically different from what it used to be and cultural expectations are also vastly different.

First, we now have divorce and if you live in the West like I do, divorce is a life-changing and financially catastrophic event for the man. Typically she gets 50% of your net worth + alimony + child support. It's a devastating proposal and men are wise to tread cautiously. You will be a fool if some woman carts off with all the fruits of your hard-earned labor. Even your family members will look at you with pity and warn their children not to be like you. Yes, I have seen it happen many, MANY, times.

Second, women are now empowered and free. While this is a wonderful development for everybody, what it means in practical terms is that you might put 110% into your relationship but it won't make the woman stay because she is independent and can just up and out anyhow she likes. To the woman, you're just a living and breathing call option; she'll exercise that option only if your worth rises to meet her strike price. Otherwise, she is out. Today's marriage vows are for better and for better; these days "for worse" is confessing negative. Now, I am not advocating that women stay in unhappy marriages but the problem is that the woman can leave for WHATEVER reason she likes. She doesn't even have to give a convincing reason beyond the vague excuse of "irreconcilable differences." Her definition of "difference" could very well be, "I have found someone richer"

Your garden analogy is really cute but cuteness if for little children. Have you ever heard of infertile grounds? Or plants that are especially susceptible to disease? You might garden as much as you want and still fail miserably. That mistake will cost you half a million dollars minimum, please. And while you're making payments, please keep your hands away from any fruits and flowers because she has got custody! Now, fcking roger that!  

Successful young men in the West have EVERY incentive to wait and tread super-cautiously. Otherwise, they had better pony-up for a good lawyer and an iron-clad pre-nup. In the meanwhile, they can play in the garden of delight, sampling different flowers and squirrelling away assets in off-shore accounts where the future Mrs. can't touch it. At least, that's my plan.  

Oya! Kill me!  

Oga, I am a bit worried about you because you have outdated notions of marriage. Nobody is EVER going to get a marriage like their grandparents except they live in a remote village in Damaturu. The social insitution of marriage is dramatically different from what it used to be and cultural expectations are also vastly different.

First, we now have divorce and if you live in the West like I do, divorce is a life-changing and financially catastrophic event for the man. Typically she gets 50% of your net worth + alimony + child support. It's a devastating proposal and men are wise to tread cautiously. You will be a fool if some woman carts off with all the fruits of your hard-earned labor. Even your family members will look at you with pity and warn their children not to be like you. Yes, I have seen it happen many, MANY, times.

Second, women are now empowered and free. While this is a wonderful development for everybody, what it means in practical terms is that you might put 110% into your relationship but it won't make the woman stay because she is independent and can just up and out anyhow she likes. To the woman, you're just a living and breathing call option; she'll exercise that option only if your worth rises to meet her strike price. Otherwise, she is out. Today's marriage vows are for better and for better; these days "for worse" is confessing negative. Now, I am not advocating that women stay in unhappy marriages but the problem is that the woman can leave for WHATEVER reason she likes. She doesn't even have to give a convincing reason beyond the vague excuse of "irreconcilable differences." Her definition of "difference" could very well be, "I have found someone richer"

Your garden analogy is really cute but cuteness if for little children. Have you ever heard of infertile grounds? Or plants that are especially susceptible to disease? You might garden as much as you want and still fail miserably. That mistake will cost you half a million dollars minimum, please. And while you're making payments, please keep your hands away from any fruits and flowers because she has got custody! Now, fcking roger that!   

Successful young men in the West have EVERY incentive to wait and tread super-cautiously. Otherwise, they had better pony-up for a good lawyer and an iron-clad pre-nup. In the meanwhile, they can play in the garden of delight, sampling different flowers and squirrelling away assets in off-shore accounts where the future Mrs. can't touch it. At least, that's my plan.         
Oya! Kill me!   

Claus:

It's been tempting to turn this into a men vs women argument.

Taking a step back, I do see a trend of guys not wanting to get married. I have about 5 male cousins in their late 30's/early 40's who have never been married. That would have been unheard of a generation ago where all my uncles were married by their early 30's (most before 30).

So the sentiment the poster is sharing is real with many guys. I can see why a lot of ladies here have become defensive, but that defensiveness just smothers what many men consider to be a real issue.

emmalexabl:

WHY marry. . just to make ONE WOMAN HAPPY, when u can remain SINGLE and make LOTS of THEM(women) HAPPIER. .!!

pro01:

It is ludicrous how some ladies here (predictably) would have us believe that not having a wife is necessarily tantamount to loneliness. Maybe you need to realise that being alone is not necessarily the same thing as being lonely. Why some of you like simplifying everything into two extremes (black OR white) is something I would never understand. Certainly, life is more complex than that.

Hilarious isn't it? One would think that the above quote is actually entirely applicable to rich, single females who would eventually find out that their personal success is worthless without a husband or a Stedman kind of 'handbag' to validate them. But for a rich man? There is hardly such a thing as a 'lonely' old rich man. . .unless he has deep issues and despises female company.

No rich old man that loves women can ever be starved of beautiful female company - even without a wife. Ever heard of mistresses? Live-in-lovers? A million and one sweet women of all ages would be at a rich old man's beck and call ANYTIME he needs someone to ask him "if his feet [and 'third leg'] are warm". Not to mention countless beautiful maids, nurses, and female aides he can have around him attending to his every whim 24/7. He doesn't need to be officially married to any of his mistresses for him to get all the company he needs. Heck he could even have a harem for all he pleases. Let's not kid ourselves here.

'Loneliness' (especially for a successful man of ANY age) has NOTHING to do with lack of a wife. Only a psychologically or spiritually troubled man of that kind would be lonely (and that would even be his personal choice) - all the better for him 'cos he'd probably be dead anyway if he had a wife to nag the living-daylight out of him.

chaircover:

If you don’t want to marry, then fine but state the real reason, which is fear or commitment. 

Sagamite:

Which one be fear? You chose that word to make it be like our masculinity is challenged?