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What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 9:24am On Feb 28, 2012 |
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Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 9:38am On Feb 28, 2012 |
Advice and observation needed. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by efedavies: 9:48am On Feb 28, 2012 |
Is a sign of some1 dat whants things to work but doesn't no hw to go abt it,buy her Good christain books about relationship and marriage. She is disturbed about smtin and afraid to tell u.find out. Take your place as a man.spend more time and be patient with her,d truth will surface sooner |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 9:55am On Feb 28, 2012 |
efedavies: Thank you, she has alot of books to read but no time to read, i know she's in a dilemma and really afraid of what the outcome is likely going to be, but i can't keep assuming, |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 11:59am On Feb 28, 2012 |
Re: What Does She Mean? by kpolli(m): 3:03pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
There is someone else. . . Maybe she is not cheating but there is someone maybe toasting, wyning her head, showering her wiv gifts that is confusing her. . . But I can assure u, there is someone else. . . . U need to act fast |
Re: What Does She Mean? by hisoccer(m): 3:18pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
sometimes in life we humans do feel dat way two, we wish to stay away from everybody even the ones we love most, but it takes more than words to show we care about people like di She going tru alot and feels u dnt undastand her anymore, i think she trying to make u learn the HARD WAY but u must strive to stop her else u both fall out of track and lost d grip of u Relationship, u knw dose tins she cheerish about you dat make her once proud of you i advice you go back to how u both started. Trust me she will cum back wit tears on her eyes telling u how much she is sorry for all she might hav cost you dose lenting periods, u must b a man to tell her u undastand how she feels so she can confind in u the more. Thanks |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 3:27pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
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Re: What Does She Mean? by 2goodbobo(m): 5:12pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
Poster, don't be too surefire that she aint cheating cos unstable is the emotion of women! There could be a very bad, sharp and fine guy running thinz behind your back! |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 5:52pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
2goodbobo: I am too "smart" to be played by her, she is the type that can't stand my curiosity, it's obvious she's going to break if she does anything funny, then pretend about it in my presence. i asked her if what was wrong had anything to do with the relationship and she said "No", so for now i think it's something else. (maybe her family?) hisoccer: There's nothing i was doing before that i still do not do except that i have reduced it (man dey grow, time to be serious with words). she once complained i was being too "bossy", serious when talking and have reduced how many times i smile, but i kinda adjusted to this because she hardly took me serious (my words) when i smile saying them. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by kpolli(m): 9:08pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
U keep underestimating girls. . . Error number 1 |
Re: What Does She Mean? by slimyem: 9:22pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
freshcvv:this scenario sounds all too familiar. op,she's gon keep saying nothing is wrong and bla bla but seriously,it s about time! be prepared! |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 9:48pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
^^^ Meaning? |
Re: What Does She Mean? by slimyem: 10:11pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
^the end is near! and btw,its a supposition! |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 11:45pm On Feb 28, 2012 |
^^^ just like every other thing. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by Mayflowa(m): 12:14am On Feb 29, 2012 |
^^^ Ok. now is a lady talking! now what? I just found out u have ego. Do you know there are guys that can really comfort this ur girlfriend so well that they will feel free and talk and bring someting to the relationship. You just believe u are doing to much bro. Many guys will handle this relationship better than u. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by Nobody: 12:20am On Feb 29, 2012 |
just throwing this out there to the poster, when u guys started dating she was 19 and you were 24. Don't you think that she might have changed in the sense that she's beginning to understand herself as a woman, what she wants from her man, and how she wants her future to look like. I found it really funny that you were so sure that no dude is toasting her, guy i beg don't be too sure! Besides, i'm not saying she's cheating, i'm just saying she's aware that you are not her only option. Just from reading your comment, i can totally understand why she thinks you are bossy. You said; "i told her i was not ready for a woman who wants to spend her youthful life chasing after 8am-9pm jobs (which she kinda cherish) and i gave her an assignment to check out people she knows doing such a job and how their home front look like. (relationship with their kids)". This statement gave me the impression that you love to make decisions alone in the relationship and her opinion about what you guys future should look like is not necessarily solicited. About her not instigating anything in the relationship, that might just be her personality, bearing in mind that you are her first and whatever she knows about relationships now, is what you taught her. If you want her to be more fun in the relationship, you teach her by letting her get involved in your planning process when trying to do something fun together, and gradually maybe she would be able to instigate something fun on her own. You shouldn't just take the backseat and tell her to start what she really has no experience doing. she probably always taught she could count on you for that. But bear in mind that i do not know u guys on a personal level, so this is just my opinion based on what you have written, it's not necessarily the truth! |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 7:52am On Feb 29, 2012 |
Mayflowa: Well you obviously don't know much about us, hence the reason for your comment, thanks for the comment, but i began sounding bossy a month ago when i saw that most of what i talk about (smiling and playfully) even though they are major issues are not taken seriously by her, i decided to change tactics, now she thinks i am bossy and that she likes it the playful way even though she never takes them serious. Ego? maybe but i like to be blunt and she knows that already so sometimes it sounds like i am being bossy (just a month now). |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 7:57am On Feb 29, 2012 |
Shollypopz: Thanks, she was 17 when we knew, 19 when we started dating, she has toasters which she tells me off (the ones she wants me to know), but i told her to stop telling me all the time except anyone harassing her. That statement you quoted came up during one of our serious chat, she was not taking the discussion serious and would just fold her arms listening without saying anything, at the end of the day, she still wants to do what's on her mind, knowing her to be such a person, i advised her to seek such experience outside on her own. We have been talking since i posted this thread and she promised to talk when she return so i am waiting to hear from her. I have 2 things in mind: 1: family and person issues might be the problem or 2: trying to play a prank as if something "major" is wrong because i use to punk her alot. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by Idowuogbo(f): 9:39am On Feb 29, 2012 |
Fresh she is not playing a prank,I think some1 out dere is saying all she needs to hear.I won't assume till you have a word with her,BUT! I don't think its family I think its emotions diverted.I await her response to you sha. Goodluck! |
Re: What Does She Mean? by kpolli(m): 9:43am On Feb 29, 2012 |
Beats me why he doesn't bliv me n he feels so sure of what her problem myt be. . . Shud I add the part of "I said it from personal experience"? |
Re: What Does She Mean? by newmusic: 11:09am On Feb 29, 2012 |
As someone already said, she is preparing for the day she will tell you its over. She is preparing her mind until it becomes so strong to withstand the pain of telling its over. I advise you become more caring and let her have a say in whatever you are doing. You need to open your mind and give her freedom and encourage her in what she really likes rather than telling her to agree to your own conditions or else, she will be gone. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 11:54am On Feb 29, 2012 |
@Idowuogbo Well she gave a tip about (parents not caring), so i think it's somewhat related to family and she also said it has nothing to do with the relationship. emotion diverted? yes, but i dont think it has to do with a man, i think she's overwhelmed. (lost her school credentials a while ago but just found them 2 days ago). @kpolli I have always told her to make it plain if she wants to go because i don't own her, so i am sure it has nothing to do with her wanting to go, something within me is saying she actually has confusion over her life, career and mental capacity. @newmusic If you read my post very well, you would have seen that one of the things she complained of was that i told her to have the driving seat, meaning she should have a major say in the relationship, yet she accuse me of wanting her to be the main driver of the relationship for this year, so not giving her freedom to talk or contribute in the relationship is not an issue here because she's the one even running from taking responsibilities. All the same, got a text already this morning about her activities, we both spoke 4 times yesterday (she called twice) and we gisted too, I don't really know why i think her issues has nothing to do with the relationship. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by stepo707: 12:57pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
Freshcvv bro hope you don mark register wella sha? Nah my own be that. Also man,I see you trust her so much which is the mistake you made.Watch out for the crash man Bro |
Re: What Does She Mean? by freshcvv(m): 7:08pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
^^^^^why am i in a relationship if i can't trust? My job is to trust, its left to her to misuse the trust. Whatever happens, nothing's new. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by Flashaldrin(m): 7:37pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
I always say, dont get more involved than your partner. If she suddenly begins to detach, then detach yourself too, so that when the breakup later comes up (if it does) it wont be hard, you saw it coming. I know you want to hear things like how to get her involved again, but believe me when a girl starts loosing interest in you, the last thing you would want to do is crowd her, there are only few things you can do to get her back. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by Idowuogbo(f): 7:41pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
freshcvv:Hmmmm Fresh d above statement deserves a tap on d back, u sure do U wiv a clear conscience.Listen up b its not U its her, don't start going "what ifs" wiv yourself,yes I no u telling ur ursef its not anoda man,but dude trust ME neva say neva.I don't no her but I stand my ground wen I say something(Man)is defo distracting her.Don't get worked up, have anoda 1 to 1 wiv her and if nothing seems to click anymore den am sorry Fresh she is not wot u desire LET GO! Peace |
Re: What Does She Mean? by udemzyudex(m): 7:57pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
@poster,gone 2ru all ya replies,nd it seems u knw her 2 well,u should av keep d post 2 urself nd wait 4 her reply b4 posting, no man can predict a womans mind |
Re: What Does She Mean? by rosefleurs: 8:03pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
OP, She is not cheating on you. Things were going great until you started being a TYRANT. Now she's wondering if she's going to be happy and fulfilled with a controlling guy for a husband. You caused it with your putting your foot down about how she needs to start initiating activities in the relationship. How do you expect a n introverted laid back person to all of a sudden change personality and switch roles with you? You better return to being the nice fiance you were or she'll panic and run away from from you. Who needs a bloody tyrant for a husband! |
Re: What Does She Mean? by pendo89(f): 8:04pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
freshcvv: Aha! Thank God she said it herself cz you would have accused me. I read through your post and felt soo uncomfortable with the the way you run the show. This is but a one man show and she's given up in her heart already. When she says you are bossy take that seriously cz it is all she must be thinking about everytime you open your mouth to talk. She has started interpreting everything you do into 'being bossy' and it's no wonder she isn't bothered and doesn't care cz she's a time bomb ticking. Am sure there's hot lava burning in that girls heart and when it explodes, I swear that volcano will engulf you in seconds. You know even volcanoes give out warning signs.These are hers. Run or open a fissure to let out steam. Note this: Never underestimate women.The most quiet and dormant mountains produce the worst volanoes. You are left wondering,what the heck was boiling in there. Bring luster into that relationship cz boredom has already kicked in and trust me if another exciting guy comes her way ? you are history. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by pendo89(f): 8:19pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
freshcvv: dude?? its true but again the way you say it matters. |
Re: What Does She Mean? by slimyem: 8:40pm On Feb 29, 2012 |
Flashaldrin:its swings both ways! |
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