Hi All,

Due to the requests, this is Shortened Up!!!

So here's the situation, i'm hoping that I can get some help/responses on this because I'm driving myself crazy with this but even worse, I could possibly be driving my girlfriend crazy as well. In summary, we've been together for 1 year and 2 weeks, I almost immediately fell in love with her, but with my own doubts and having been in a couple bad relationships before, i bit my tongue and didn't say the "magic" words until 2 months after. By this point I could safely say I knew enough about her (actions, thoughts, ways...) to back up the "rational" side of love up with the emotional side that I had already been feeling. So, yes, I said the "magic" words and as you can guess for the Post Topic, she didn't say it back. I, oddly enough, was ok with that, I got married young prior to this relationship and know what its like to have someone say it without "knowing" what it really means, feels, or does to someone. I didn't want her to say it without meaning it. I wanted to hear a sincere "I Love You" in return and nothing else, if not sincere, then just a smile will do fine. Anyhow, our relationship has grown since those first two months, did I mention she has a daughter? We now all live together, her, her wonderful daughter who I have also grown to fall in love with and even a couple pets. You'd look at us and see a true family, young (under 30, over 25), but a family none the less.

Yes, she's got baggage, psycho ex (habitual prison guy), best friends with her ex's sister and other stuff... so im sure shes got some things preventing her to be able to say the words, but at this point in our relationship, should it really be that hard for her?

So, in summary, question is this. Is there a time in a relationship where you can say "if there isn't love by now, there probably won't be? Or being that I love her, should I just wait it out in hopes I get the same in return? I don't want to go through falling so in love with someone again just to get brought down. Now especially as I'm building the bond with her daughter to...

Any advice/help is much appreciated

Thank you all!

itz tongue tie

Long shiitte! Summary plz

Dayum!! See essay.

I didn't read all the text but i can contribute. Does her actions and behaviour towards you show love? If yes, then i don't think it's a huge problem because I believe that actions speak louder than voice. But if saying 'i love you' is important to you, then ask her why she's not saying it. Bear in mind that she might have some 'baggages' from previous relationships so pay attention to her and try to work out a solution. Goodluck

A fast n a gud reader sup plzzzz summarize.

In Summary,

He loves a woman with a daughter and he was married before. He said i love you to the girl but the girl no talk back i love you.

Is it a good summary enough.

Anyway pls, try and read it, then advice.

@OP, Just give her time she might say it.

But wait o, is she a white chick with daughter?

If yes, then you know the rest.

Vikin: In Summary,

He loves a woman with a daughter and he was married before. He said i love you to the girl but the girl no talk back i love you.

Is it a good summary enough.

Anyway pls, try and read it, then advice.

@OP, Just give her time she might say it.

But wait o, is she a white chick with daughter?

If yes, then you know the rest.

Yes, white chick with a daughter, she had her daughter young though so she seems a bit more mature than others ive met. and thx for reiterating the summary, don't really want advice from anyone who cant take a sec to read a few paragraphs anyway... this is kind of a serious bit. And i guess time is the only thing I have to count on, just don't want to end up falling/changing my life for someone who might never love me back. I guess I was raised wanting to be a family man. Have already dealt with a long and disturbing relationship that ended unhappy after too long, not looking for a repeat. So that's why I wonder, should I save us both the time or is that an immature response to a complicated situation?

c0325:

Yes, white chick with a daughter, she had her daughter young though so she seems a bit more mature than others ive met. and thx for reiterating the summary, don't really want advice from anyone who cant take a sec to read a few paragraphs anyway... this is kind of a serious bit. And i guess time is the only thing I have to count on, just don't want to end up falling/changing my life for someone who might never love me back. I guess I was raised wanting to be a family man. Have already dealt with a long and disturbing relationship that ended unhappy after too long, not looking for a repeat. So that's why I wonder, should I save us both the time or is that an immature response to a complicated situation?

Just give her time, she might be suspecting you as a naija guy(Are you one?).

Just keep being you, love her, there is no harm in this.
No rush!

@OP
- she may not "love" you. have you thought about that? or do you think that anyone in a r/ship MUST love within a certain time?
- she may be in love with someone else, while using you as a stepping (waiting) stone?
- she may not be as forwarding/open minded as you when it comes to voicing her feeling. does she ACT like she loves you? what are the signs that you used to prove to yourself that she loved you?

Vikin: In Summary,

He loves a woman with a daughter and he was married before. He said i love you to the girl but the girl no talk back i love you.

Is it a good summary enough.

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U try, thank u.

Wel, @op, me fink she's nt into u cos if she luv's u saying it out wil nt b difficult.
Wil advice u sit her dwn n ask her if she really luv's u.
She might jst b using u as her SOLACE, who knows!

my personal advice, run. . . do not end up like me

kpolli: my personal advice, run. . . do not end up like me

i didnt leave u

Very long tori

Simple she doesn't love you.

Dyt:

i didnt leave u

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