MRbrownJAY: your actions are the problem here, you should have communicated with them all , instead of going ahead with marriage WHICH YOU BLOODY WELL KNEW WAS AGAINST HER WISHES. what did you expect? that she would change her mind? since you have decided that this love was more important than your mother's wish, go on and live your new life with your new man....... and hope that it will last forever!

this is/was the only possible outcome, knowing how your mother felt...... now you've made your bed, you better sleep in it.

hey, you lost your mum's love and care but gained a husband, thats a great deal, isnt it!

MRbrownJAY: ^^^and because you couldnt get through to them, you decided to go against their wishes.fair enough....... so why are you surprised of your mum's reaction?!
you knew fully well that this is what was going to happen. dont you? or what were you thinking would happen?!

Jenams: ^guy stop chastasin †ЂΞ OP, M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ dear american friend, U̶̲̥̅̊ did †ЂΞ best thing! Soon, Ūя̲̅ family will Ƈϑ♍Ə τ̅☺ accept Ūя̲̅ marriage FƠ̴̴̴̴͡я̲̅ wat it is. Ur whole energy shud be towards makin ur marriage work. Do not bother abt ur family too much for now so as not τ̅☺ strain Ūя̲̅ marriage, dnt giv Ūя̲̅ hubby †ЂΞ impression ∂α† U r nt a happy woman in marriage. Love him more & more because †ЂΞ both of U̶̲̥̅̊ must prove τ̅☺ them ∂α† u made †ЂΞ right decision. Get closer τ̅☺ God now as well.

neyostica: Op, ur mum is selfish, is she gonna live with u in ur husband's house Whats ha problem After its ur life. Anyway, u've already taken d step, forget her, focus on ur mariage, she will comeback for you oneday, nonsense!

ennkey: My bf and i started dating in 2005. He was an undergraduate when we met and i was yet to be admitted into a higher institution. I was not from a well to do home same as my bf too.I had lost my dad in 1998 and my mum did all she could to raise my siblings and i.she hawked through rain and shine jst to put food on the table. To cut d story short in 2008, fortune smiled on us.My aunt in the states showed a colleague of her's (An American) my mum's picture and he fell in love with her instantly. He came down to Africa to see her, he fell in love with her and was moved to tears at the story of how we suffered after we lost my dad. They got married and after 10 months we all moved down to the united states and have been living there since 2009. It wasnt easy for me and my guy as we were soooo much in love,we both cried our eyes out for a whole week before i travelled because we couldnt bear the thought of being seperated from each other. We made promises to each other that we would wait and distance would not be a barrier to what we both shared. It wasnt easy being apart but we did all we could to make sure it worked and it did. We decided to formalize our union last year and i informed my mother of our intention but to my shock! she said over her dead body would i marry him. she said i have moved out of Nigeria for good and there's no looking back that i should look for someone else here in the states and settle down with. My mum and my aunt had tried matchmaking me with people they deemed fit for me to marry but i made them know that my heart belongs to someone else back in Nigeria. My mum turned the whole family against me and they all would not even give me a listening ear, they say my mum has suffered too much in the past for my siblings and i, and that now i have to make her happy by marrying who she wills. I did what i deemed the best thing at dat moment i travelled down to naija in january this year without notifying any of my family members xcept for my sis who is also my best friend. my bf nd i went down to marriage registry to consolidate our relationship with the hope that my mum would change her mind soon so we can have a white wedding. I returned back to d states after 4weeks only to find out dat my mum had found out frm a friend of her's who saw me @d registry on d day of the marriage. Right now as i write my entire family does not talk to me, my mum had called nd left voice messages saying dat i should neva call her fone or d house fone, nd dat i should nt even attend her funeral should incase she dies. I dont know what to do right now, i mean where or wat did i do wrong by loving a man who loves me equally or even more! i have begged nd sent piple to beg her on my behalf bt all to no avail. plssssssssssssss wat do i do nxt?