babymine:

Follow your heart. If you really love him and you know he loves you then find out what plans he has for the future.

funkybaby:

Thanks alot for your advice @ ratio, yeepa, mide2 and rikkyjen and prettyH. The guy was actually in Naija on my birthday just as he promised and we spent two whole weeks together. We talked about alot of issues and i got to know that he even entertained more and worse fears than i do. Anyway, we talked about everything, our hopes,dreams,fears, etc for each other. I am in no doubt whatsoever right now that the guy loves me and the beautiful thing is that i am also massively in love with him. IWe have both realised that it is only God that can see us through it all, which is the more reason we need to keep talking to God about our relationship.

@ yeepa, you are right. Nairaland is not really the right place to seek for advice. Some people posted some opinions that were really unfair. They simply refused to understand my little problem. I don not know why they think a long distance relationship is all about money and an avenue for leaving Nigeria??

Anyway, i have followed my heart and i am quite convinced that things can work out perfectly well between us despite the distance.

D-reloaded:

^ wouldnt that make you trash since you dated a guy knowing fully well he had a girlfriend elsewhere?

funkybaby:
I am presently dating a young guy that is currently studying in the u.k. he was asking me out before he left nigeria but i refused to date him.he however came to my school to inform me that he will be travelling to the u.k, i wished him luck and i felt that he was going to forget all about me.To my suprise however, he kept calling and i finally agreed to date him (this is after a year and six months of knowing him). since july last year since we started dating, he calls me almost everyday and spends hours on the phone, he sends gifts, cards, money, clothes, i have also suprised him (so he says) because i call him frequently as well(i spend a fortune on phone calls just as he does), i send quality gifts, cards,etc as well to him from nigeria.the problem now is i am in my 5th and final year in the university, he is just in his second year(a three years programme), but i am scared that he might just change or stop loving me because i hear so many stories about the girls in u.k. i am worried because i will be graduating before me and there are alot of serious guys here in nigeria asking me for a committed realtionship but i refuse to give in.is the guy for real or should i just two time and have a stand-by boyfriend here in nigeria.pls advice